FabSwingers.com forum: Shower fresh

By *un couple 38 OP Couple
39 weeks ago

hornchurch

We have had several meets with bi guys lately and insist they like us be shower fresh and our pref is fully shaved or trimmed short .

They turn up and as soon as play starts, evidently they are not shower fresh, showering 10 hours before is not shower fresh. Would we be wrong if we ask someone who comes over to freshen up in our shower before play starts. Would it offend?

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By *ual12001Man
39 weeks ago

Worcester

Not at all! I have been asked to shower, even though I had showered before I left home. I have equally asked people to shower and no one has even taken offence

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
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39 weeks ago

Central

It's something I've noticed and recognised that there are widely different interpretations of what being clean means.

It's almost as if being bathed by their mum, when younger, could be enough to classify as hygienically clean

I think it's perfectly reasonable to specify exactly what you're expecting and to question them about their recent showering.

People who expect to come immediately after work, when it's many hours since they - may- have showered, are a typical example.

I have even mentioned sports centres that could be used for showering..

I don't want to provide shower facilities on arrival, because their bodies are dirty. Arrive clean.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

"We have had several meets with bi guys lately and insist they like us be shower fresh and our pref is fully shaved or trimmed short .

Can never be to clean but if you're worried about offending maybe start play in the shower? Foreplay and sex is great in the shower anyway so win win.

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By *acky RacersCouple
39 weeks ago

Lincoln

If people dont meet our standards of cleanliness, we dont play...

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By *w funwifeWoman
39 weeks ago

near taunton

"If people dont meet our standards of cleanliness, we dont play..."

this 100% and ive meet as many woman who have not showered as men i will not play if they have not showered just vefore leaving for the meet but then some do shower but strangely are not clean ... tell tell sign alot of the time is lots of aftershave /perfume/deoderent and its not just private meets so club goers need teaching how to shower/bath//

itss a total no no from me same for too much aftershave/perfume

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By *ristol HellfireMan
39 weeks ago

Bristol

Completely unacceptable.

Accept the rules of the house or get turned away.

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By *cottish guy 555Man
39 weeks ago

London

A shared shower after the getting to know each other chat would be an excellent way to start the fun.

I'd much prefer to shower on arrival, particularly at this time of year, as no matter what you just aren't as fresh after travelling.

I don't think you are asking too much at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

I offer to shower (always has been declined) as you’re right - people are bastards and don’t shower before a meet!!

For clarity - I always shower. Comprehensively

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By *ndyman 201Man
39 weeks ago

hereford

" Not at all! I have been asked to shower, even though I had showered before I left home. I have equally asked people to shower and no one has even taken offence"

I wouldn't dream of meeting with out showering and shaving,and looking my best, I expect the same,,,what is wrong with some people 🤔 ..

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By *illxxMan
39 weeks ago

motherwell

Totally unacceptable to turn up for a meeting not freshly showered and shaved and not smelling nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

We offer all folks who we host the shower to freshen up before we play. But if they say no and then it turns out they arent fresh then play ends and they are promptly shown the door.

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By *artorialMan
39 weeks ago

weymouth

Nope, I prefer to get travel off me so a shower for me is always a plan

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By *estinysswingersCouple
39 weeks ago

Worsley

Shower fresh means exactly that.

You’re no longer shower fresh if you’ve been travelling.

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By *entfootloverMan
39 weeks ago

Sevenoaks

"Shower fresh means exactly that.

You’re no longer shower fresh if you’ve been travelling. "

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By *ellinever70Woman
39 weeks ago

Ayrshire

I wouldn't share a shower with someone just before sex, besides, me in a shower cap isn't my best look.

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By *un couple 38 OP Couple
39 weeks ago

hornchurch

Great ideas . Yes we think we will offer / insist they shower when they arrive after a bit of a chat x

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Always shower fresh for a meet,. If I’m asked if I’d like to take a shower when I arrive, then I would. It’s respect for those you are about to have fun with.

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By *starfuckMan
39 weeks ago

herefordshire

Im a lorry and will always have a shower before i pull up and will not play unless i have showered i cant relax properly if i havent and expect the same in return

(No shower no play simple)

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
39 weeks ago

Telford

I have never understood how someone could turn up without being shower fresh.

I really could never, I would feel so uncomfortable and not be able to relax.

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By *rasshopper201Man
39 weeks ago

kendal

I used to go to a group meet about an hours drive away and the host always allowed his guests the option of a shower which I always took up on it’s showing respect to others even though I’d showered before I left

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By *hristianGray2005Man
39 weeks ago

Galway Mayo Clare Roscommon

I’d have thought it was basic common sense hygiene - have a shower before a meet. Best foot forward,and all that.

The only exception I made was meeting someone after a gym / exercise session.

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By *shford_5Man
39 weeks ago

Ashford

Within reason I like a man to smell like a man,not necessarily straight from the shower, but after work maybe

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By *rafter69Man
39 weeks ago

upminster

If thats your preference and they have agreed to meet then yeah I would say they should be

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By *cnugatugMan
39 weeks ago

Chatham

I always ask if I could pinch a quick shower when turn up being fresh and clean is vital

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
38 weeks ago

Coventry

You really would assume people turn up shower fresh. If your shower is big enough you could always suggest you shower together first? Not only does this save face and not make the guy feel singled out, it could make for some really hot and slippery foreplay as you wash eachother down.

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By *actilenorfolkgentMan
38 weeks ago

Norwich

Would always be straight out of shower when going for a meet, why wouldn't you?

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By *ohn 66Man
38 weeks ago

South Birmingham

" Would we be wrong if we ask someone who comes over to freshen up in our shower before play starts. Would it offend? "

Seems like a really good 'filter question' to me.

Decent people wouldn't mind. And if you have a decent sized shower...

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By (user no longer on site)
38 weeks ago

All shower just before a meet. Also would be happy to shower again at meet. Especially if having to travel.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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38 weeks ago

East Sussex

If I arrived at a meet and was asked to shower I'd probably leave. I would have showered anyway and the assumption that I hadn't wouldn't be welcome. I would have spent a long time styling my hair, the steam would ruin it and I would have make up on which would run in the shower.

If I arrived filthy and smelly that would be different.

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By *randmrs 1st timeCouple
38 weeks ago

bolton

"If I arrived at a meet and was asked to shower I'd probably leave. I would have showered anyway and the assumption that I hadn't wouldn't be welcome. I would have spent a long time styling my hair, the steam would ruin it and I would have make up on which would run in the shower.

If I arrived filthy and smelly that would be different. "

We would definitely not meet anyone that can’t be bothered to shower and smell nice for a meet if they can’t make a effort then forget it

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By *urvyMilf4BlackMenWoman
38 weeks ago

Norwich

I've never had anybody turn up that isn't clean but quite often we might start with a shower anyway. Showers are fun. You can leave them a few minutes to clean up and then join them or just both get in.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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38 weeks ago

East Sussex

If I arrived filthy and smelly that would be different.

We would definitely not meet anyone that can’t be bothered to shower and smell nice for a meet if they can’t make a effort then forget it "

I go to a lot of bother, that's mainly the reason I don't want to hop in the shower as soon as I arrive somewhere.

If I have nice lingerie on including stockings with a six strap suspender I don't want to take the darn stuff off as soon as I walk in only to put it back on. The whole point of my effort is lost. If anyone wants me to shower they're best letting me know before I get there so I can dress accordingly

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By *un couple 38 OP Couple
32 weeks ago

hornchurch

Obvs we didnt intend to offend anyone x

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By *artorialMan
32 weeks ago

weymouth

Tbh id prefer to have a quick shower first, I'd be more than happy to shower at yours (play could even be introduced)

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By *WB85Man
32 weeks ago

Staffordshire

It amazes me that this even has to be a question.

All my hotel meets, I arrive first and shower again just before arrival, Im always very conscious of being fresh.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
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32 weeks ago

Central

I discuss hygiene requirements and state that nothing will occur if they're not recently showered.

I'm happy to provide directions to local swimming facilities etc, where they can visit.

Having once had some form of ablutions at some part of their life, doesn't fit having taken a shower within an hour or so. If you've taken a shit, you need another shower!

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By *entmike76Man
32 weeks ago

bury

Wouldn't dream of of not being shower fresh for a meet.

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By *herryEatersCouple
32 weeks ago

East Cheshire

"We have had several meets with bi guys lately and insist they like us be shower fresh and our pref is fully shaved or trimmed short .

Lol no not much to ask at all, we're always shower fresh and demand the same. A while back we agreed to a spur of the moment social with a guy who clearly wanted to play, yet straight from a building site in his soiled work wear too

. Didn't give off the right 'aura' shall we say

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

Love to get soaped up in the shower with someone

Great way to start a fun meet

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By *ray_BTWMan
32 weeks ago

Worcester

The last thing I do before leaving the house for a meet is shower, so I'm as fresh as possible.

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By *heelerMan
32 weeks ago

Northants

It wouldn't offend me but I would always shave and shower prior to any meet.

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By *ideshaft1971Man
32 weeks ago

Midlands

Shower every time, why wouldn’t you!

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By *ananabrumMan
32 weeks ago

castle bromwich

I often ask before going ro someones if can freshen up at thwirs. Failing that i tend to fo early morning meets so im very recently shiwered. Best option is clubs or saunas where everyone is shower fresh

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By *hisismeXXXMan
32 weeks ago

Welsh Wales

I’m a little unsure about the definition of shower fresh and what is being asked for so it would be great if someone could expand a little.

I’m always freshly showered before setting off for any kind of meet - social, play date, club etc, and in clean, fresh clothes. The reality is once I leave the house I’m no longer ‘shower fresh’ when I meet - be that a 5 minute walk for a pub meet, an hour drive or a couple of hours in a club.

I’ve never been told I’m not fresh and clean and don’t smell good. It’s never been suggested I need a shower before play.

Are we really talking about ’shower fresh’ or are we talking about people who don’t meet basic standards of hygiene/freshness?

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"We have had several meets with bi guys lately and insist they like us be shower fresh and our pref is fully shaved or trimmed short .

I always shower before I leave for a meet. I insist the people I'm meeting do the same. If they haven't or don't want too, I get dressed and leave. I have done before and I'll continue to do so. If they don't like it,tough!. Harsh I know but I know what j want and won't compromise.

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By *onny PetersonMan
32 weeks ago

Harrogate

An absolute deal-breaker for me.

Taking a shower as close to a meet as is practical/feasible is basically courtesy.

One guy i was due to meet flatly refused saying he'd showered that morning- 12 hours earlier- and wouldn't being having another. Meet cancelled & him blocked.

Others may disagree and think im vain & picky. So be it.

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By *ir-spunk-alotMan
32 weeks ago

Southern England

"We have had several meets with bi guys lately and insist they like us be shower fresh and our pref is fully shaved or trimmed short .

Nope I wouldn't be offended and would find it reassuring that you value personal hygiene., A recent hotel meet to took a shower and so did my partner. We didn't shower together at the beginning, but we did at the end. I w

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By (user no longer on site)
32 weeks ago

"We have had several meets with bi guys lately and insist they like us be shower fresh and our pref is fully shaved or trimmed short .

We abandoned one play date because our playmate stunk! Once smelled you couldn’t un-smell it. Total lack of respect!

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By *layfullsamMan
32 weeks ago

Solihull

"We have had several meets with bi guys lately and insist they like us be shower fresh and our pref is fully shaved or trimmed short .

I’d prefer to shower so squeaky clean

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