FabSwingers.com forum: Fwb or fb advise

By *otshot14 OP Woman
39 weeks ago

tunbridge wells

Hi I'm just asking a questions out there to you lovely people who have either had a fwb/fb.

I've had fwb in the past and that one I could handle easy,I'm now found I'm in one.

There a few things I'm more confused this time.

1 he message me everyday which I do like,he says he likes me,fancy me,"otherwise he wouldn't be texting or chatting to me"

2 I've said I would like a relationship with him,but he has said no as the spark isn't there for him.

3 im not sure if he wants one or is just scared,as he had a bad breakup and has trust issues.

4 ive tried asking how he feels but I kind of get the feeling that he won't talk about it,even when I've the question in 2.

5 i just don't know if he really wants me,and just sees me as an easy fwb/fb.

6 i maybe overthinking to much on this,but I do like the fun we are having.

7 if I walk away,it's going to be a hard one to.he does know he has got under my skin,maybe he likes that.?

Any advice would b good thanks.

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By *dinburghWomanWoman
39 weeks ago

Edinburgh

Personally on here as soon as I start liking someone (happened twice). I’ve said to them that I didn’t want to meet them again

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

Hes been pretty clear.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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39 weeks ago

East Sussex

He has said very clearly that he doesn't want a relationship. It is just sex with someone he quite likes. If you want more you're barking up the wrong tree.

I'm sorry to put it so bluntly but you're going to get hurt if you continue hoping

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By *ustBoWoman
39 weeks ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

It sounds more like he wants a FB than anything else. He had been clear in what he wants by the sounds of it,and it seems you want more but that probably won't happen .You are better off either drawing away from the situation before you end up getting hurt when it doesn't go any farther,or accept him as a FB who will not have any interest in pursuing anymore than just that.

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By *otshot14 OP Woman
39 weeks ago

tunbridge wells

Thanks for all your advice.

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By *dinburghWomanWoman
39 weeks ago

Edinburgh

"Personally on here as soon as I start liking someone (happened twice). I’ve said to them that I didn’t want to meet them again "

To clarify I’m talking as in liking enough to want a relationship with. I don’t see anyone I don’t like.

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By *otshot14 OP Woman
39 weeks ago

tunbridge wells

I've had fwb/fb in the past I always get feelings,my last fb I had over 3 yrs,so it's not like I don't know.

This one just confused me,to start off with.once I get it in my head I can normally calm down,it's that lust thing and connection.but thanks for all the advice.

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By *orgetmeKnotCouple
39 weeks ago

Rainham, Kent

Hi, husband of the account here. Speaking from a males perspective I can tell you that us men long for women that we can have relationships with, and the way dating is these days it can be very tough for men to find someone they like, that likes them back. Most men would jump at the opportunity to be with a woman. If they don't, and they want to be just a fwb, then it could come down to one of 2 reasons...either he doesn't have the feelings for you to be his partner or he already has a partner you're not aware of. It's a hard truth you have to face, but fwb arrangements aren't really made for the long term...they either become more than that or simply fade away.

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By *om WxmMan
39 weeks ago

Wrexham

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By *om WxmMan
39 weeks ago

Wrexham

I've had one FB for many years, we communicate regularly but both know that that's it, no real relationship as we are quite different and know it wouldn't work out, but we both enjoy the sex so much, it's utterly fantastic with her.

I've also had/have other FB's and a couple of FWB's. None that I would consider having a full time relationship with, as that's not what I'm looking for.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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39 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I've had fwb/fb in the past I always get feelings,my last fb I had over 3 yrs,so it's not like I don't know.

This one just confused me,to start off with.once I get it in my head I can normally calm down,it's that lust thing and connection.but thanks for all the advice."

You're confused because you're getting mixed messages from him to an extent. He like you enough to have sex with you and text every day but not enough for a relationship. While that is clear to *me* looking in from the outside, *you're* actually in the relationship and you're experiencing confusion at the apparent contradiction in his words and actions.

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By *esparate danMan
39 weeks ago

glasgow

Do you feel like you are punching above your weight having him as a fb

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By *lueDressWoman
39 weeks ago

Bath Somerset

Have never entered into a FWB. Reason for that was any "potentials" became very involved, and very possessive and jealous about anyone else I meet.

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By *issmorganWoman
39 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Sorry op to be blunt, he's getting his fun and that's all it is to him.

If you've got feelings for him, I'd quit whilst the goings good, he's told you he doesn't see himself in a relationship with you. You'll only hurt yourself otherwise.

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By *obert 323Man
39 weeks ago

Romford

He's made his feelings clear, he just wants sex with you, you clearly want something different! I think you're on a hiding to nothing and should move on, before he does!

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