FabSwingers.com forum: Another profile review

By *art457 OP Man
40 weeks ago

North

Hi all, wanted some insight please. Seem to attract a lot of male attention, I assume this is the case of numbers on this site - I am bi, but it seems quite onesided, and I don't have the experience with guys that seems to be sought by them!

Is there anything you think is missing or needed on my profile to balance the books a little and make it more friendly and stand out a little to couples/females?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
40 weeks ago

Leeds

You are looking for "like minded people" but your profile doesn't tell me anything about your likes or dislikes.

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By *iking_on_a_bikeMan
40 weeks ago

marlborough

Irrespective of what you put on your profile, it’s an absolute sausage fest on fab and you’ll get a load of male views

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By *itter78Couple
40 weeks ago

Spennymoor

We wouldn't have read past the second paragraph... your profile screams anonymity more than discretion and that is much more attractive to men than women or couples where attraction and safety is paramount. Some specifics:

We wouldn't have made it to the part where you say you can sometimes accommodate and your settings state you "can't accommodate", so you should change that while keeping the clarification

Can't share a face photo on here because of your job? What special secret role to do have? The mrs in our paid has a very, very public facing, professional role and we are sensible with sharing pics. Saying you will share friends pics or on another app screams that you're just pic collecting or scamming

That wouldn't put everyone off, but I can see why men like you - and agree with pp that it's a sausage fest on here!!

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By *art457 OP Man
40 weeks ago

North

Thanks very much for the feedback, looks like I can make some adjustments to clarify what I mean, very useful to get another pair of eyes on , to see whats off-putting and what isn't!

(I work as a teacher, it's more about the safeguarding and the separation from the site than it is an expensive client lists thing! I'd never live it down in class if a leak happened!)

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By *art457 OP Man
40 weeks ago

North

Thanks Sally, that's a very valid point... Updates to follow to pull back the curtain

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By *allySlinkyWoman
40 weeks ago

Leeds

(I work as a teacher ...I'd never live it down in class if a leak happened!)"

Therefore I suggest making your penis pic "friends only"

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
40 weeks ago

Gloucester

"We wouldn't have read past the second paragraph... your profile screams anonymity more than discretion and that is much more attractive to men than women or couples where attraction and safety is paramount. Some specifics:

We wouldn't have made it to the part where you say you can sometimes accommodate and your settings state you "can't accommodate", so you should change that while keeping the clarification

That wouldn't put everyone off, but I can see why men like you - and agree with pp that it's a sausage fest on here!!"

This was what I was going to say too, The no face pic thing would mean if I was looking for a guy I’d move on,

Whenever I see the “I can’t share face pics due to my job” it’s an automatic no for me. Especially as if people are looking on here it’s probably because they are here for the same reason.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
40 weeks ago

Leeds

Is there anything you think is missing or needed on my profile to balance the books a litte"

All your pics are of your chest

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By *allySlinkyWoman
40 weeks ago

Leeds

"I work as a teacher"

Your profile text says "descrobed"

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By *ex MexicoMan
40 weeks ago

North West

Obviously I'm not saying this is the case, but a number of women have told me that they interpret lots of "must be discreet" and "no face pics" to mean "I'm married and my wife doesn't know".

It's up to you what you do and don't show, you don't need to explain it.

By and large your profile is fine but unremarkable. That's a problem when you want it to stand out from the gazillion other men on here, some of whom have lots of great face pics and funny and distinctive bios.

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By *art457 OP Man
39 weeks ago

North

That's a fair comment, I can see the difficulty - I think it comes from a rather not leak with the rest of the photos point of view! Otherwise just desperately single unfortunately... Will figure it out

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By *art457 OP Man
39 weeks ago

North

Thankyou for all your help with this Sally, very thorough! I need to get out there and take some more adventurous clothed shots!

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
39 weeks ago

Gloucester

"That's a fair comment, I can see the difficulty - I think it comes from a rather not leak with the rest of the photos point of view! Otherwise just desperately single unfortunately... Will figure it out"

Little forum tip if you press reply + quote people can see who you are replying to. Took me a while to figure it out so wanted to share

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By *allySlinkyWoman
39 weeks ago

Leeds

Your profile says you will share your facepic on a separate platform. Many people (myself included) choose to only use Fab for chatting to people on here.

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By *eepsafariCouple
39 weeks ago

rushden

Would highly recommend using AI to write your profile for a polished profile.

We always used to struggle to write a good one, gave AI some basic information about us, told it what we were looking for, now we are happy with ours

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By *art457 OP Man
39 weeks ago

North

Little forum tip if you press reply + quote people can see who you are replying to. Took me a while to figure it out so wanted to share "

...ahhhhhhh that's so much better... Why isn't that default on the left!!! Thankyou

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By *art457 OP Man
39 weeks ago

North

"Would highly recommend using AI to write your profile for a polished profile.

We always used to struggle to write a good one, gave AI some basic information about us, told it what we were looking for, now we are happy with ours "

Now this is technology in action - AI sex enhancement, is this what big brother was all about? I will give it a go!

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
39 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

(I work as a teacher, it's more about the safeguarding and the separation from the site than it is an expensive client lists thing! I'd never live it down in class if a leak happened!)"

There is absolutely no safeguarding requirement or risk as long as you have no children in your photos, there’s no discussion of children and you’re not using the site at work/on the school networks.

From a recognition standpoint, if another parent recognises you, they are on for the same thing. Don’t put explicit photos up. Just share if asked, even then do it at your own judgement.

I say this as a googleable, in the press professor at at a top 10 university. I am very recognisable if you’re in my field.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
39 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

"Would highly recommend using AI to write your profile for a polished profile.

We always used to struggle to write a good one, gave AI some basic information about us, told it what we were looking for, now we are happy with ours "

It’s super obvious when people use AI alone. It is worth rewriting it to ensure it reads like a natural person, as many who use it are fake profiles/lacking in literacy which puts some off. Have a look at the profile requests posts and people immediately spot AI use and are critical of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
39 weeks ago

"Would highly recommend using AI to write your profile for a polished profile.

We always used to struggle to write a good one, gave AI some basic information about us, told it what we were looking for, now we are happy with ours

I used AI to write my father of the brides speech, it was total bollox, but ga e me some ideas

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By *an SummersMan
39 weeks ago

Huddersfield

"Irrespective of what you put on your profile, it’s an absolute sausage fest on fab and you’ll get a load of male views"

This. I could write NO MEN a thousand times on my profile and my inbox would be flooded if single men and MM couples weren’t blocked

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
39 weeks ago

Stoke

Write what you want, majority of people just look at pictures and then decide if they fancy you or not.

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By *art457 OP Man
39 weeks ago

North

"Write what you want, majority of people just look at pictures and then decide if they fancy you or not. "

Thankyou? I think?

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