FabSwingers.com forum: How to let someone down

By (user no longer on site) OP
40 weeks ago

How to tell someone you don't fancy them without being nasty?

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
40 weeks ago

West Suffolk

"How to tell someone you don't fancy them without being nasty? "

Just say “sorry I don’t think we are compatible”

Mrs

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
40 weeks ago

Scotland

We just say thank you but you’re not for us. Happy fabbing

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By *icecouple561Couple
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40 weeks ago

East Sussex

"How to tell someone you don't fancy them without being nasty?

Just say “sorry I don’t think we are compatible”

Mrs"

You don't need to tell them directly that you don't fancy them. The suggestion above is a good one I think.

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By *eroLondonMan
40 weeks ago

Mayfair

"We just say thank you but you’re not for us. Happy fabbing

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Agreed, but without the "Happy Fabbing" part. I'm not sure why the salutation "Happy Fabbing" has become de rigueur on here. To me, personally, it comes across as disingenuous. 🩶

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

Just tell them "You aren't what we are looking for and don't think we are compatable"

We usually follow up telling them to have a lovely rest of the day.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
40 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I think we want different things.

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By *iGuyForCouplesMan
40 weeks ago

"How to tell someone you don't fancy them without being nasty? "

" I'm sorry but you are not what I am looking for "

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By *aomilatteCouple
40 weeks ago

Midlands

Don't tell them in the first place that you fancy them, they shouldn't assume you do if you don't give the signals.

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
40 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Sorry, we don't think that you are quite what we are looking for. Good luck in your search. x

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By *oobaaMan
40 weeks ago

Sth Tyne

I got told that being BI made me the work of the devil and I shouldnt be on a swingers site...I just presumed she didnt fancy me after that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

"I got told that being BI made me the work of the devil and I shouldnt be on a swingers site...I just presumed she didnt fancy me after that lol"

I mean preferences are fine but that was a bit harsh

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By *lexi_and_MattCouple
40 weeks ago

Glasgow

"I got told that being BI made me the work of the devil and I shouldnt be on a swingers site...I just presumed she didnt fancy me after that lol"

Maybe she was concerned you're better at sucking cock than she is.

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By *enlikesbothMan
40 weeks ago

york or visiting

I use a variety from

A polite hi, not what I’m looking for at the moment sorry happy fabbing

To I read your profile and had a look around and you’re not what I’m looking for.

I don’t think you ever have to be mean; there’s someone for everyone out here.

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By *N MFCoupleCouple
40 weeks ago

Lincoln

To quote Homer Simpson

“Welcome to Dumpsville…population - you”

Too harsh?

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By *WANDTGCouple
40 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

Sorry not for us. Good luck

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By *oobaaMan
40 weeks ago

Sth Tyne

"I got told that being BI made me the work of the devil and I shouldnt be on a swingers site...I just presumed she didnt fancy me after that lol

Maybe she was concerned you're better at sucking cock than she is.

Been told I am pretty good mind lol

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By *ntelligent_tall69Man
40 weeks ago

mums cellar

Just politely say sorry not for me, or I don't think we'd click is what I say

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By *ussycat777Woman
40 weeks ago

A backalley in Fabtown

On here?

I find it's best to be blunt..If you're anything else than 100% crystal clear then folk can be left hanging on in hope.

Just say "sorry but you're not my type" or "I don't find you attractive."

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By *viatrixWoman
40 weeks ago

Gatwick

"On here?

I find it's best to be blunt..If you're anything else than 100% crystal clear then folk can be left hanging on in hope.

Just say "sorry but you're not my type" or "I don't find you attractive.""

Yep. I do say “I am not attracted to you”.

Then I am being told I am fat, old, ugly and they never wanted to meet me anyway hahahaha

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By *ussycat777Woman
40 weeks ago

A backalley in Fabtown

"On here?

I find it's best to be blunt..If you're anything else than 100% crystal clear then folk can be left hanging on in hope.

Just say "sorry but you're not my type" or "I don't find you attractive."

Yep. I do say “I am not attracted to you”.

Then I am being told I am fat, old, ugly and they never wanted to meet me anyway hahahaha

Arseholes will be arseholes!

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
40 weeks ago

Manchester(ish).

I say "you're not for me thanks".

It means there's no judgement on them, I just don't want to have any further interaction with them.

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
40 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire

I just try and be really, really boring - something I'm told I have a natural talent for. After swapping a few messages like that, they decide that I'm not for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

I just say sorry not interested and delete the message

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By *enelope2UWoman
40 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

"We just say thank you but you’re not for us. Happy fabbing

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Agreed, but without the "Happy Fabbing" part. I'm not sure why the salutation "Happy Fabbing" has become de rigueur on here. To me, personally, it comes across as disingenuous. 🩶"

As disingenuous as the UK standard of..kind regards..but that's the standard

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By *enelope2UWoman
40 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

Sorry we're not compatible then a full block..

TO BE NOTED...I always say exactly what I'm into AND ASK WHAT they are seeking..first warning is to remind them to read the profile because most don't..then if they continue towards things I've already pointed out, I'd say that's not my type/style etc..after that's it's a simple we're not compatible and they are blocked...

otherwise they'll say why not?

then rewind words to try to fit.

or create other excuses.

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By *ook321Man
40 weeks ago

Essex

When she says are you in me and really your balls deep

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By *he MinionMan
40 weeks ago

Surrey

I was due to go to a club with someone i considered an old friend this weekend. She has completely blocked me and ghosted me.

So i'll take that as either she doesnt want to know me anymore OR she has lost her phone 🤣

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By *ink vixenCouple
40 weeks ago

Medway

Following a recent STD test a Doctor has told me to abstain from any sexual contact for at least 6 months.

I’d still love to meet for a coffee though as you seem really nice.

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By *enlikesbothMan
40 weeks ago

york or visiting

"Following a recent STD test a Doctor has told me to abstain from any sexual contact for at least 6 months.

I’d still love to meet for a coffee though as you seem really nice. "

Mic drop; I actually like this one…

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By (user no longer on site)
40 weeks ago

is this F2F meets or messaging here or dating apps/chat groups?

the messaging bit is easy - just say - thank you for your time, I hope you find some lovely.

Same F2F

They should get the emssage

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By *ex MexicoMan
40 weeks ago

North West

On here, if I contact somebody and they're not interested it's really fine by me if they just delete the message. If anything it's worse if I see they've replied but then it's just "thanks but no thanks".

So if someone contacts me... Nah who am I kidding. I have a solo guy profile, nobody's contacting me. 😆

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