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By *heMoanRanger OP   Man
41 weeks ago

Nelson

Hey,

So we’ve talked about trying as a couple and recently my wife said that she would like the try to invite a third to test out, any ideas how to start slowly with this? Don’t want to scare her off lol

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
41 weeks ago

Scotland

I’m not sure what you mean by “test out” my main advice would be to set up a couples profile and allow her to be in control of interactions

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41 weeks ago

Set up a couples profile if you’re looking to “try out” a third from here.

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41 weeks ago

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
41 weeks ago

East Sussex

Do you mean so she can see if she likes it?

I'd suggest setting up a couples profile, immediately block all mail so she can look for people she'd like to join you.

You don't say if you'd like a man or woman.

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By *andb69Couple
41 weeks ago

leeds

Best way to break into the scene gently is to join a club. It's safe, you can watch and be watched, and don't have to do anything you don't want to do. It's also social, so you can chat to people about swinging without making any commitment to play.

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By *ornycouple70Couple
41 weeks ago

Hampshire

Definitely set up a couples profile and let her take charge of it.

Filter out messages from males, for 2 reasons, if you are going down the couple route or if just looking for a guy she can look and wink etc and take charge of messages without a pile of messages / pics to sift through.

Also, if after a couple or a man, it can sometimes be a bit off putting if the man is controlling the narrative, if you don’t see the woman being actively involved in the chats then makes you wonder if she really wants to do this. Not saying you are pushing this but can seem like that 😊

Good luck 😊

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
41 weeks ago

Chester

The other thing with going to a club (as opposed to arranging a private meet) is that if either of you decide it’s not for you after all - nobody’s really wasted any time. It’s an easy way to ‘dip your toe in’ that’s pretty low risk.

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By *issmorganWoman
41 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

If you're using fab as a couple, you deffo need a joint profile.

Set one up with pics of you both and use your filters to block men, so she can have a good look round and get used to here. Without being swamped with mail,that means she can see who she likes the look of herself.

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By *ase4122Man
41 weeks ago

Lancashire

Need to make a cpls profile, cause all that screams out to me and many others is that it's just 'you'

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
41 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne


"I’m not sure what you mean by “test out” my main advice would be to set up a couples profile and allow her to be in control of interactions "

Exactly this. Allow her to take the lead and start off where she's comfortable. Each step should be one that tou can recover from without issue, if it turns out it was a step too far.

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By *heMoanRanger OP   Man
41 weeks ago

Nelson


"Best way to break into the scene gently is to join a club. It's safe, you can watch and be watched, and don't have to do anything you don't want to do. It's also social, so you can chat to people about swinging without making any commitment to play. "

Ahh now this seems more like what we are looking for! Thank you x

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
41 weeks ago

Central

It's quite easy 6pop in to a club as a couple and get a feeling for options, including talking with others, such as couples. That might spark your ideas to get built up. You don't need to expect any sex, just use it as a fact finding exploration.

Single men here struggle but couples, less so. But, as others say - block contact from everyone and just let her find anyone who might be of interest.

Chatting gives no obligation to continue or even meet.

Don't pressure or rush yourselves.

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