FabSwingers.com forum: "Can accommodate" but can't

By (user no longer on site) OP
41 weeks ago

Do you get ticked off like I do when you are chatting to someone and then when talking about approx where they live and when free they come up with excuses of why they can't host?

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By *eekySweetheartWoman
41 weeks ago

Hampshire

I understand people not wanting to accommodate a stranger immediately.

However I'm finding a lot of the profiles that say they can accommodate immediately suggest meeting outside so to me it's obvious that they can't and that annoys me (just be truthful on the profile) xx

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By *host63Man
41 weeks ago

Bedfont Feltham

"I understand people not wanting to accommodate a stranger immediately.

While I can accommodate I always say I will meet in a neutral public place so that I can see if thag person is genuine. I am reluctant to allow someone.on my home I have never met

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
41 weeks ago

West Suffolk

We only accommodate and won’t travel due to a couple of bad meets when we went to a guys place. Mrs feels a lot more comfortable in our own house.

The profiles that make us laugh are ones that say…can’t accom and can’t travel 🙄

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
41 weeks ago

Thanks all, very interesting

Whilst I can appricate a couple who can host at their place, intially meeting outside, we are a couple, older people, I'm a Cuck - we only want to meet men.

It is very frustrating but I guess their change of stance ie not being able to accommodate sends us a clearly signal they can't be trusted by us, so it ends there rather than going out and not answering the door/etc.

So, if you are a single female, I get it, or male meeting male but if you cant accommo, then make it clear in your profile

EG - something like "i can only do hotels or first meet will not be at my place" etc

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By *aomilatteCouple
41 weeks ago

Midlands

Some will say they can accommodate to make it seem they're single, when actually they're not.

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By *arvest84Man
41 weeks ago

brigg

thankfully i can and do accom. x

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By *issmorganWoman
41 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

It used to annoy me when I was single & could accom. Some would say on their profiles they could accom, when it came to it, they couldn't and had just lied.

There was an excuse like family is visiting (when it was never mentioned) or I'm renovating etc.

Funnily enough, they always expected me to accom & they often didn't even want a social first.

If you can't accom, don't write you can. If it's only in a hotel you accom, make that clear.

Otherwise it wastes time, it the other person can't accom.

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
41 weeks ago

Gloucester

See this is where things get tricky for me (and my partner on our couples profile)

Accommodate to me means “put up for the night”

We are happy to hoist (once getting to know people well) but as we only have one bedroom we can’t have people spend the night.

So we have “can accommodate” on our but we make sure that people understand this means “host”.

First meet no matter whether it’s me or both is us is always done in a neutral location.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
41 weeks ago

West Suffolk

"See this is where things get tricky for me (and my partner on our couples profile)

Accommodate to me means “put up for the night”

We are happy to hoist (once getting to know people well) but as we only have one bedroom we can’t have people spend the night.

So we have “can accommodate” on our but we make sure that people understand this means “host”.

First meet no matter whether it’s me or both is us is always done in a neutral location."

We would never ever let anyone stay the night

Mrs

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By *manteeCouple
41 weeks ago

Manchester

There are people on here that say on their profiles that they accomodate and then when asked, say they can't. We can accomodate but reluctant to let complete strangers into our home for a first meet. We have had our fingers burnt on a couple of occasions and have learned from our mistakes

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By *ullsfan77Man
41 weeks ago

Torquay

I give an honest picture of my situation on my profile-even if it does probably cost me replies. However, even if my wife and I did play together, our home is also home to our children. Would we really want to be bringing in people who we have only just met? I would be going for clubs instead.

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By *iraelWoman
41 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

"We only accommodate and won’t travel due to a couple of bad meets when we went to a guys place. Mrs feels a lot more comfortable in our own house.

The profiles that make us laugh are ones that say…can’t accom and can’t travel 🙄

Mrs"

That’s my profile, because I only meet at a club and make that very obvious in the first line.

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
41 weeks ago

West Suffolk

"We only accommodate and won’t travel due to a couple of bad meets when we went to a guys place. Mrs feels a lot more comfortable in our own house.

The profiles that make us laugh are ones that say…can’t accom and can’t travel 🙄

Mrs

That’s my profile, because I only meet at a club and make that very obvious in the first line."

And I totally understand that when it’s been made obvious in your bio

Mrs

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By *iraelWoman
41 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

"We only accommodate and won’t travel due to a couple of bad meets when we went to a guys place. Mrs feels a lot more comfortable in our own house.

The profiles that make us laugh are ones that say…can’t accom and can’t travel 🙄

Mrs

That’s my profile, because I only meet at a club and make that very obvious in the first line.

And I totally understand that when it’s been made obvious in your bio

Mrs "

It is amazing how many men just can’t read that first line

(Your profile is fantastic btw).

I have a child, and about 2 hours a week on a Saturday morning when I’m at home and they’re not. So therefore no home meets.

I also don’t have a car, so my transport is limited and I prefer to spend my taxi budget on getting home at 3am.

I know when I was a young single woman in a house share I would bring guys home, but that’s not the way my life works these days.

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By *ature male OldhamMan
41 weeks ago

Royton nr Oldham

"I understand people not wanting to accommodate a stranger immediately.

While I can accommodate I always say I will meet in a neutral public place so that I can see if thag person is genuine. I am reluctant to allow someone.on my home I have never met "

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
41 weeks ago

West Suffolk

"We only accommodate and won’t travel due to a couple of bad meets when we went to a guys place. Mrs feels a lot more comfortable in our own house.

The profiles that make us laugh are ones that say…can’t accom and can’t travel 🙄

Mrs

That’s my profile, because I only meet at a club and make that very obvious in the first line.

And I totally understand that when it’s been made obvious in your bio

Mrs

It is amazing how many men just can’t read that first line

(Your profile is fantastic btw).

I have a child, and about 2 hours a week on a Saturday morning when I’m at home and they’re not. So therefore no home meets.

I also don’t have a car, so my transport is limited and I prefer to spend my taxi budget on getting home at 3am.

I know when I was a young single woman in a house share I would bring guys home, but that’s not the way my life works these days."

Thankyou yours is great too.

We all know how hard it can be on here and it makes it even harder when guys can’t take 5 mins out of their day to read profiles instead of messaging for hours on end asking questions that are actually answered on the profile lol

Mrs

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By *eekySweetheartWoman
41 weeks ago

Hampshire

"I understand people not wanting to accommodate a stranger immediately.

While I can accommodate I always say I will meet in a neutral public place so that I can see if thag person is genuine. I am reluctant to allow someone.on my home I have never met "

I completely understand that. But meeting for a public social first is very different to suggesting outside sex with a stranger in a not so public place as a first meet instead of hosting at their home (which they said they can do).

Like I said I completely understand not having strangers at your home immediately but those men who message suggesting outside sex as an alternative make me think its not about the 'stranger' thing - they just can't accommodate.

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By *arleycplWoman
41 weeks ago

Frodsham

I can and will accomodate, but never for a first meet, but I will only meet those who can.

Marie x

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

No OP we don't because just because they say they can accom doesn't mean they are going to.

Our example, we will accom singles but not couples.

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By *nightsoftheCoffeeTableCouple
41 weeks ago

Leeds

No, I assume they aren't that comfortable enough to allow some strangers into their house for sex and respect that.

Mrs

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By *FallenAngel-Woman
41 weeks ago

Kings Langley

I find that when most men's profiles say they can accommodate it usually means I'm hotels

My profile states I can't accommodate and I can't due to son still loving at home, but even if I could I would be very picky about who I let into my house

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
41 weeks ago

North Wessex Downs and London

If it's guys it's probably either because 1) they're married, or 2) they have children at home. Mostly (1) i imagine, but also sometimes (2)....

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By *olden_Road_to_SamarkandMan
41 weeks ago

North Wessex Downs and London

"No, I assume they aren't that comfortable enough to allow some strangers into their house for sex and respect that.

Mrs "

Hotels are fine - lots of couples prefer hotel rooms, as threir bedroom at home is 'a sacred space'. Same can apply to single guys too!

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By *osh_PawsMan
41 weeks ago

Uttoxeter

I am single and can accom BUT prefer not to on a 1st meet, I'm just reluctant to give my address away to someone I've never met. Am happy to accom on a 2nd meet provided meet #1 goes well

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By *ucka39Man
41 weeks ago

Newcastle

Nope not ticked off as it's about what we are both comfortable with

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By *r AppleMan
41 weeks ago

Greenwich

I can accommodate when my daughter who is 19 is out or at her Mums.

So if she decides to not tell me she is popping in. I don’t wish for to be exposed to any ‘awkward’ encounters!

So teenagers tend not to be good at advertising their last minute plans or of she wants to spend a night in London closer to her pals at the drop of a hat.. I would hate for her to see this lifestyle

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
41 weeks ago

West Suffolk

"No, I assume they aren't that comfortable enough to allow some strangers into their house for sex and respect that.

Mrs

Hotels are fine - lots of couples prefer hotel rooms, as threir bedroom at home is 'a sacred space'. Same can apply to single guys too!"

We play downstairs and don’t use our bed for meets, that’s just for us

Mrs

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
41 weeks ago

Central

I understand meeting publicly for safety and that first meetings may differ from later. Plus there are options not including home, such as clubs and hotels

But we should expect not to match preferences, options and availability with most people and this started chats reach dead ends ⛔

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

I used to get irritated by ‘sometimes I can but in reality that’s once in a blue moon.’ It’s not really being able to accommodate. And often actually turned out to be if my wife is out 😒

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By (user no longer on site)
41 weeks ago

We can accommodate - at a hotel - which we don't mind paying for. We'd never invite a stranger from here into our home.

We usually meet first in clubs so this doesn't really impact us, but have met privately before (with a social beforehand) and have been clear any meet will be in a hotel.

We don't see a problem with that. If people have a problem with it then that would suggest they want to know where we live, which would be a big red flag for us. What's wrong with a hotel?

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By *imply_SensualMan
41 weeks ago

Cheshire

I can accommodate and have done, but I always prefer a social in a public place first. Thats so we can make sure we like each other and get on, but also, if its a single woman, to make her feel safe and secure when meeting a stranger from online. I know thats not 100% fool proof but it does go some way to give them some assurance.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
41 weeks ago

Norwich

We live on a boat amidst a very small community of liveaboards so we don't accommodate and always look for people who can. It's very frustrating when after a social meet all the signs to go ahead are there but they suddenly say they can't host.

That, to us, is timewasting.

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By *un and Games 2016Couple
41 weeks ago

Darlington

I don't understand why a single man wanting to take precautions for his own personal safety is seen as time wasting or however you want to label it.

If a single male who says they can accommodate asks for a social meeting first in a public place i wouldn't have an issue with it.

People's homes are their safe space, and if they don't want to give you their address without meeting and ensuring you are who you say you are, then the problem lies with you for being offended.... in my opinion.

Single men are not on fab as a lower class of human that single women and couples. Were all equal.

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By *elaxed CoupleCouple
41 weeks ago

Cheshire

Maybe FAB needs to offer another option?

Host yes / no

It'd redefine the term accommodate.

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By *ellinever70Woman
41 weeks ago

Ayrshire

"Maybe FAB needs to offer another option?

Host yes / no

It'd redefine the term accommodate. "

Or people could always just have a chat to iron out the details if they plan on meeting

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By (user no longer on site) OP
41 weeks ago

"Maybe FAB needs to offer another option?

Host yes / no

It'd redefine the term accommodate. "

This was what I was thinking when I posted

Just makes things easier.

An alternative which can be done now is you mention it in your profile at the top - so an interested couple can easily see if it is worth pursing or not

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By *elaxed CoupleCouple
41 weeks ago

Cheshire

A very good point. It'd be easier for users to identify what's implied if on a yes / no box though, surely?

Adding text about definitions of a word isn't very sexy. And the free type area is where we actually get fo say a bit about ourselves. Clogging it up with definitions would be a shame to have to do.

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By *evlishduncMan
41 weeks ago

north suffolk south norfolk

I can accommodate but am now very cautious. Had a couple come visit and now Incant find a couple of things from downstairs. Maybe I mislaid them - don’t think so. Now very cautious, sorry.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
41 weeks ago

Norwich

"I don't understand why a single man wanting to take precautions for his own personal safety is seen as time wasting or however you want to label it.

If a single male who says they can accommodate asks for a social meeting first in a public place i wouldn't have an issue with it.

Single men are not on fab as a lower class of human that single women and couples. Were all equal.

I think you need to read my post again, I don't think I can put "after a social meet" in a way that's any easier to understand.

You also seem to see a bit that says single men"

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By *moothGrooveWoman
41 weeks ago

"I don't understand why a single man wanting to take precautions for his own personal safety is seen as time wasting or however you want to label it.

If a single male who says they can accommodate asks for a social meeting first in a public place i wouldn't have an issue with it.

Single men are not on fab as a lower class of human that single women and couples. Were all equal.

I think you need to read my post again, I don't think I can put "after a social meet" in a way that's any easier to understand.

You also seem to see a bit that says single men""

My post not a reply to your comment, but the original post.

Have a great day.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
41 weeks ago

"I can accommodate but am now very cautious. Had a couple come visit and now Incant find a couple of things from downstairs. Maybe I mislaid them - don’t think so. Now very cautious, sorry. "

That can happen to anyone at any time inc builders you have around the home and even at times, some friends whos children may bw tempted to steal.

when allowing a stranger/s into your home, put out of site any tempation for the feeble minded.

This is one other reason we check a properly check a guy out before a home invote the last one, hone invite was a year ago - we were always in the same rooms

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By *herrybakewellCouple
41 weeks ago

Staffordshire

We never host, wont even consider it.

We will however cover hotel costs.

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By *orthAngelTV/TS
41 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Maybe people stating that can accommodate fine, but want to meet outside first so they don't let an obvious whack job into their home?

I say this because as a single Transwoman it is far too dangerous to just invite god knows who into my home...something I learned the VERY worst sort of way. I therefore insist on a social so I can judge someone in a public place first...and then if they are okay, I will invite them back.

I guess I am just saying that maybe people have reasons for that approach...although I am sure you are right that there are a lot of liars and fantastists who seem to enjoy leading people on !

S x

"I understand people not wanting to accommodate a stranger immediately.

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By *eekySweetheartWoman
41 weeks ago

Hampshire

"Maybe people stating that can accommodate fine, but want to meet outside first so they don't let an obvious whack job into their home?

I guess I am just saying that maybe people have reasons for that approach...although I am sure you are right that there are a lot of liars and fantastists who seem to enjoy leading people on !

S x

I understand people not wanting to accommodate a stranger immediately.

I get that completely! I was more meaning the men who don't want a social but jump straight into meeting outside for sex with a stranger! Meeting socially before hosting is very understandable!

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By *orthAngelTV/TS
41 weeks ago

Aberdeen

Okay! I understand your point now. Eeek!

"Maybe people stating that can accommodate fine, but want to meet outside first so they don't let an obvious whack job into their home?

I guess I am just saying that maybe people have reasons for that approach...although I am sure you are right that there are a lot of liars and fantastists who seem to enjoy leading people on !

S x

I understand people not wanting to accommodate a stranger immediately.

I get that completely! I was more meaning the men who don't want a social but jump straight into meeting outside for sex with a stranger! Meeting socially before hosting is very understandable!"

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By *teveanddebsCouple
41 weeks ago

Norwich

"I don't understand why a single man wanting to take precautions for his own personal safety is seen as time wasting or however you want to label it.

If a single male who says they can accommodate asks for a social meeting first in a public place i wouldn't have an issue with it.

Single men are not on fab as a lower class of human that single women and couples. Were all equal.

I think you need to read my post again, I don't think I can put "after a social meet" in a way that's any easier to understand.

You also seem to see a bit that says single men"

My post not a reply to your comment, but the original post.

Have a great day. "

Yet the OP doesn't mention tinewasters.

And where are single men mentioned?

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By *oobaaMan
41 weeks ago

Sth Tyne

its quite simple really..its my house, I choose who can come and when. Not the other way round.

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By *entakuruMan
41 weeks ago

First off I prefer to only accommodate people I've established a proper rapport and and level of trust with, secondly, I have lodgers and an elderly parent also living here, so if I am gonna be entertaining someone discreetly and without risk of disturbing/being disturbed by the others, then there's absolutely certain times of day/night that are best for that.

If we've met a few times and it's looking like a regular thing then we can be a bit more flexible with the scheduling, but in the early stages I prefer to stick to the times that aren't gonna lead to awkward interactions, or make arrangements to meet elsewhere.

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By *yguy64Man
34 weeks ago

Potter Heigham ish

I was very much the same about not wanting my then teenage daughter to find out about my lifestyle.

Turns out I needn't have worried. Turns out, although she's older now, that she embraces the lifestyle too.

At least now I know she won't visit without warning me first, as she still doesn't want to catch me in the act. Don't have to make silly excuses either, just say no I'm having fun.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

Hiya

I've noted at least one post here who say

"i can accommodate, but only hotels."

Fair enough but it is confusing

IMO, if a person can only host in a hotel - they need to make that clear at the head of their profile write up

OMO, if we were to meet a host at a hotel on the basis they booked it for the event - we dont trust them - if they are working away and have said that themselves, that is different

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By (user no longer on site) OP
34 weeks ago

"We only accommodate and won’t travel due to a couple of bad meets when we went to a guys place. Mrs feels a lot more comfortable in our own house.

The profiles that make us laugh are ones that say…can’t accom and can’t travel 🙄

Mrs

That’s my profile, because I only meet at a club and make that very obvious in the first line."

Great and that is how it should be

Mrs now sleeps in a seperate room, easier as i often listen to the raido - the funny thing is she will not get a massage in her bed from a stranger but only mine, ie which was our joint bed - i am not worried as its a turn on for me.

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By *eroLondonMan
34 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Hiya

I've noted at least one post here who say

"i can accommodate, but only hotels."

Fair enough but it is confusing

IMO, if a person can only host in a hotel - they need to make that clear at the head of their profile write up"

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I don't agree. Where is it mandated within Fab that "Can accommodate" means within one's abode? It can also mean a hotel, Airbnb™, dayroom or whatever.

I accommodate but I wouldn't accommodate in my house because it's my last bastion of safety and security.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
34 weeks ago

Coventry

We won't accommodate (bar close and trusted fab freinds) and on the whole we prefer a neutral location rather than someone's house as a general rule. So hotels, clubs, outdoor meets work best for us. Which to be honest is fair enough and something most people understand I think.

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By *inky_RagnarCouple
34 weeks ago

Peterborough

We can accommodate, on occasion. Fab doesnt have a drop down option to clarify

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By *manteeCouple
34 weeks ago

Manchester

We do accomodate but have chatted with loads of people that say they do on their profile but when it gets down to it they make excuses as to why they are not able to accom

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
34 weeks ago

Scotland

We would never accommodate in our home. That is our family space and in my opinion it would be disrespectful to our children even if they weren’t at home. We also like to keep our “fab life” and home life separate. We meet at hotels and are happy to cover costs

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By (user no longer on site) OP
33 weeks ago

"We do accomodate but have chatted with loads of people that say they do on their profile but when it gets down to it they make excuses as to why they are not able to accom"

Hence my thread - it will always result in a block - but i do at times find it amusing to play them along why they can't on day x etc but it turns out they can't - we all know why

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By *herryEatersCouple
33 weeks ago

East Cheshire

"Do you get ticked off like I do when you are chatting to someone and then when talking about approx where they live and when free they come up with excuses of why they can't host?

Lol we can't accomodate but can !. Just not initially as need trust and to see things are developing over several meets (nosy neighbours you see).

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By (user no longer on site) OP
33 weeks ago

"Hiya

I've noted at least one post here who say

"i can accommodate, but only hotels."

Fair enough but it is confusing

IMO, if a person can only host in a hotel - they need to make that clear at the head of their profile write up

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I don't agree. Where is it mandated within Fab that "Can accommodate" means within one's abode? It can also mean a hotel, Airbnb™, dayroom or whatever.

I accommodate but I wouldn't accommodate in my house because it's my last bastion of safety and security."

Read my post again, nowhere does it say "mandate," etc.

What most agree with and do - they make it clear they can only accomdate at a hotel

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By *eroLondonMan
33 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Hiya

I've noted at least one post here who say

"i can accommodate, but only hotels."

Fair enough but it is confusing

IMO, if a person can only host in a hotel - they need to make that clear at the head of their profile write up

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I don't agree. Where is it mandated within Fab that "Can accommodate" means within one's abode? It can also mean a hotel, Airbnb™, dayroom or whatever.

I accommodate but I wouldn't accommodate in my house because it's my last bastion of safety and security.

Read my post again, nowhere does it say "mandate," etc.

What most agree with and do - they make it clear they can only accomdate at a hotel"

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"mandate", "infer", "stipulate", "mention", it's all semantics. I wasn't referencing you verbatim. I also mentioned the word "abode", amongst many others, but you didn't seem to pick up on that. 🩶

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By *tlanshiaWoman
33 weeks ago

Chatham

I can accommodate, but I meet outside first. And only accommodate if I feel comfortable

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By *andybitches1Couple
33 weeks ago

Aberdeenshire

It's probably the biggest reason we end up blocking folk on here.

First thing we check if someone communicates with us is if they can accommodate and at least we know where to start if meeting is a chance.

Can honestly say probably 90% of those conversations end when we ask when can they accommodate and the replies range from can do a car one or will need to be at ours.Excuses range far and wide with some absolute beautiful stories but the banhammer gets dropped.If folk can't be trusted on their profiles then we wouldn't trust them full stop.

Have had 2 hotel meets at other folks rooms and a couple with guys who did accommodate and went well.

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By *en_Dover79Man
33 weeks ago

Oswaldtwistle

Only ever had one fabber round my house..i'm single and can accommodate... just that I prefer going out and clubs... I dont see anyone during the week so its an escape

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By *WB85Man
33 weeks ago

Staffordshire

I find it weird that people are stupid enough to welcome others they have met on a swingers site to their house.

There's a reason that most wont.

Keep yourself safe!!

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
33 weeks ago

Scotland

"I find it weird that people are stupid enough to welcome others they have met on a swingers site to their house.

There's a reason that most wont.

Keep yourself safe!!"

I know I’ve heard people inviting others to meet at theirs and they have had kids in the house 😱 Our house is off limits as our family home it’s our kids safe space and no way would we disrespect that by inviting strangers over for sex

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By *ananabrumMan
33 weeks ago

castle bromwich

I get ticked of with the opposite its very clear on my profile that i cant accom and i still get message after message asking if accom. The worst are the ones who after being called out say i'd thought id try anyway. If you being this sneaky before a meet why the hell would i even want to meet you.

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By *eautifully TwistedWoman
33 weeks ago

Telford

No I don't, people can accommodate but might not want to accom straight away.

Homes are private intimate spaces and lots of people have children etc.

I accomodate for the right people not just everyone.

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By *sm265Woman
33 weeks ago

Perthshire

No, I dont. There are many reasons why someone may not want to accommodate, even if they can. I certainly wouldnt get annoyed over it.

I never accommodate so I'd be a hypocrite to judge others for doing the same.

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By *r SensualMan
33 weeks ago

London

"Do you get ticked off like I do when you are chatting to someone and then when talking about approx where they live and when free they come up with excuses of why they can't host?

I get more ticked off with people who “can’t” or won’t accommodate, yet expect others too & cannot fathom or respect why people would like to keep the personal spaces that are their homes exactly that, personal.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
33 weeks ago

"We can accommodate, on occasion. Fab doesnt have a drop down option to clarify "

To be clear, its nothing to do with that. I'm chatting about poeople advert as can host at home but never can. Thanks

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By *sm265Woman
33 weeks ago

Perthshire

"We can accommodate, on occasion. Fab doesnt have a drop down option to clarify

To be clear, its nothing to do with that. I'm chatting about poeople advert as can host at home but never can. Thanks"

Maybe the just dont want to?

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By *sm265Woman
33 weeks ago

Perthshire

"We can accommodate, on occasion. Fab doesnt have a drop down option to clarify

To be clear, its nothing to do with that. I'm chatting about poeople advert as can host at home but never can. Thanks

Maybe the just dont want to?"

By that I mean maybe they're using the not being able to accommodate as an excuse not to meet. Only the people in question can explain why they do what they do. The rest of us can merely speculate.

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

I’ve been to meets in the past where the person or couple are not as nice/respectable as their profile portrays and have been inebriated with drink or drugs where I’ve just left and walked away, so I won’t accommodate until I’ve met someone beforehand. I’ve heard stories of people having to call the Police to get people out of their homes. Unfortunately some people on here are not all the ticket.

So I think it can be a bit harsh to jump to conclusions about single guys pretending to be single, but I think if you are communicating properly and put your safety before the fun then a clear convo outlining your stance before any meets should be respected by both parties. Safe sex isn’t just about contraception haha

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By *959femxCouple
33 weeks ago

Weston super mare

"I can accommodate and have done, but I always prefer a social in a public place first. Thats so we can make sure we like each other and get on, but also, if it’s a single woman, to make her feel safe and secure when meeting a stranger from online. I know thats not 100% fool proof but it does go some way to give them some assurance."
Exactly this .

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By *eenALongTime.....Man
33 weeks ago

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I got slack for not being able to accommodate and called a fake but my kids stay at my house so will need a few meets at least before I let anyone into my home!

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By *iss SinWoman
33 weeks ago

Portchester

I can accommodate but choose not to the first time meeting someone

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

I always had people at my place but when I had things removed without my knowledge,(can't put it another way or i can't post this), that was it for me.I got the police involved but couldn't be arsed so since then I dont care how lovely the messages are or how many time they're going to make me cum,I will never ever accommodate again. Be careful people, there are scum who infest this site.

Peace and love.

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By *ackformore100Man
33 weeks ago

Tin town

"Do you get ticked off like I do when you are chatting to someone and then when talking about approx where they live and when free they come up with excuses of why they can't host?

Well if they can't accommodate maybe it's for the same reasons that you can't? But no it's not a disaster. There are hotels. Of all the things that might prevent a wonderful assignation, finding a place is the most easily solved....if you want to.

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By *ananabrumMan
33 weeks ago

castle bromwich

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By *ananabrumMan
33 weeks ago

castle bromwich

Surely can accommadate doesnt equal can accomadate at anytime all the time. People do have lives

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By (user no longer on site) OP
33 weeks ago

"Surely can accommadate doesnt equal can accomadate at anytime all the time. People do have lives"

did you read my post?

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By *rhugesMan
33 weeks ago

Cardiff

For me may daughter works in London but comes home a few times a week , as she's saving up for a deposit .

The problem I have is never quite sure when she'll be here.

If I put I can't accommodate people assume that I'm married.

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By *herryEatersCouple
33 weeks ago

East Cheshire

"I know I’ve heard people inviting others to meet at theirs and they have had kids in the house 😱 Our house is off limits as our family home it’s our kids safe space and no way would we disrespect that by inviting strangers over for sex"

Yes we were invited by a couple to their home a few years back. When I asked if I could use the loo they replied "yes but be quiet so you don't wake our daughter" !!

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By (user no longer on site)
33 weeks ago

Probably married

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By *eroLondonMan
33 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Probably married "

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Precisely. You won't believe how many brazen women are dabbling in clandestine encounters. 😉

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By *sterix893Man
33 weeks ago

Liverpool

We hosted for the first time last night, xxx

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By *ackformore100Man
33 weeks ago

Tin town

"Probably married

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Precisely. You won't believe how many brazen women are dabbling in clandestine encounters. 😉"

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By *ctionSandwichCouple
33 weeks ago

Newcastle under Lyme

We can accommodate but only folk we've met before a few times or if we've been to their home. Having kids isn't an excuse for not hosting. Weekend Scout camps at Kibblestone are a thing you know.

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By *sleWightCoupleCouple
33 weeks ago

Ryde

We put "can accommodate", but it becomes a case of when everything lines up.

We can't be the only ones who've copped shit from someone who assumes that just because you have to arrange things and can't immediately put the "welcome" mat, you are lying about being able to accommodate.

Real life tends to get in the way of things.

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By *ananabrumMan
33 weeks ago

castle bromwich

"Surely can accommadate doesnt equal can accomadate at anytime all the time. People do have lives

did you read my post?

Everyone knows everyone has a choice and that is obvious - my post was and many understood it - some joker advertises they can accommo - but then always bang on aboyut hotels, meeting our place, x/y/z coming around etc etc - its good in a way ie the person cant be trusted so get a block"
well i cant see your profile to see if you specify if you accom so i 'll ask the question if you have on your profile that you do and someome asks to meet at yours or a hotel for a first meet even if they say they accom why does it give you the ick?

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By *olds CoupleCouple
32 weeks ago

Louth Lincolnshire

"Some will say they can accommodate to make it seem they're single, when actually they're not."

Yep....married "single" guys.

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By *eroLondonMan
32 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Some will say they can accommodate to make it seem they're single, when actually they're not.

Yep....married "single" guys. "

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Equally so, married 'single' women.

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By *avina64TV/TS
32 weeks ago

Grimsby

I always ask for a phone before I give my address lots won't give you a phone number so it's a no for me

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By *iddle ManMan
32 weeks ago

Walsall

I do not want a stranger in my house, simple as that. If we have met previously or are friends, then yes, you can share my home for fun.

It is that simple.

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By *nigmatic PeachTV/TS
32 weeks ago

Huddersfield

I only accom as Peach is a behind closed doors/private thing. Additionally it means my time is never wasted really as I’m not going out of my way and I feel safer and in control of everything.

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By *oiluvfunMan
31 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Do you get ticked off like I do when you are chatting to someone and then when talking about approx where they live and when free they come up with excuses of why they can't host?

It took me 18 months to finally shake off a psycho nutter bitch I met in here, who tracked down my home address through Google earth, and Facebook. I learned a lot from that particular experience, it was months of stalker Hell……

Once bitten, twice shy. Trust is earned now…..

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By *ries AngelWoman
31 weeks ago

Southampton

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By *our_Best_Kept_SecretMan
31 weeks ago

Telford

I can accommodate, but not at home. Happy to pay for a hotel. It's more private and secure for both of us I find.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
31 weeks ago

wow - some interesting meeets - all helpful

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By *ouplexxx99Couple
31 weeks ago

ely

"Some will say they can accommodate to make it seem they're single, when actually they're not."

Exactly this.

We choose not to play with guys that are in a relationship and seeking around as we just dont want the trouble. However, each to there own though.

100% appreciation for those guys that are honest about their situation from the off.

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