FabSwingers.com forum: Intimacy in a relationship

By *achUK OP Man
41 weeks ago

Billericay

A question to couples and single ladies (sorry not interested in single men replies)...

How important is intimacy between a couple in the lifestyle, not so much sexual but the basics like kissing, hugging and holding hands? Can you have a strong relation without those components?

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By *N MFCoupleCouple
41 weeks ago

Lincoln

I think that would depend on how important that is to the people in the relationship - no two people are the same. For me it is upmost important to feel connected through those things above and far beyond all sexual dynamics.

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By *achUK OP Man
41 weeks ago

Billericay

Thank you for your answer greatly appreciated

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
41 weeks ago

Gloucester

"I think that would depend on how important that is to the people in the relationship - no two people are the same. For me it is upmost important to feel connected through those things above and far beyond all sexual dynamics. "

I was about to say exactly the same. Intimacy between me and my fella is extremely important, if there was no intimacy between us I wouldn’t be in a relationship with him

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By *ackson 501Man
41 weeks ago

Chesterfield

Wife and myself still hold hands when out even after 54 years together

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By *izandpaulCouple
41 weeks ago

merseyside

"A question to couples and single ladies (sorry not interested in single men replies)...

How important is intimacy between a couple in the lifestyle, not so much sexual but the basics like kissing, hugging and holding hands? Can you have a strong relation without those components?"

No, not for us.

Friendliness, respect, laughter but no real intimacy. Kissing OK but holding hands, can't see where this would happen. Never going out on walks etc.

For us, intimacy is what happens in our very secure relationship.

Swinging is about recreational sex.

Vanilla friends and swinging friends are always kept miles from each other.

I would seriously love to know how you would introduce a swinging friend to a vanilla friend without secrets slipping out.

I would also worry if any real intimacy was shown in swinging meets this would send out misleading signals.

My thoughts may come over as a bit cold but we always start from an honest standpoint. I'm happily married and don't want, not looking for, a new husband.

To be fair most couples and single guys understand this.

I've had the odd single guy ask if I want to meet for a coffee etc when Paul works away. It receives a laugh in the face and no more meets.

But I suppose some folks may be looking for something more than recreational sex.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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41 weeks ago

East Sussex

Intimacy means different things to different people. I do think it's important though.

Touch starvation is a very real thing

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
41 weeks ago

West Suffolk

"A question to couples and single ladies (sorry not interested in single men replies)...

How important is intimacy between a couple in the lifestyle, not so much sexual but the basics like kissing, hugging and holding hands? Can you have a strong relation without those components?"

Slightly different for us as we are not your traditional swingers, our meets that we have will adhere to our boundaries in the sense that Mr will only do with guys what we can’t do together, we kiss, mr fucks me, we hold hands, I suck his cock, the only things we can’t do together are to do with cock so mr only sucks cock and receives anal, that works for us 😊

Mrs

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By *achUK OP Man
41 weeks ago

Billericay

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By *achUK OP Man
41 weeks ago

Billericay

"Wife and myself still hold hands when out even after 54 years together "

That's amazing... Keep going

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By *andb69Couple
41 weeks ago

leeds

We have all the intimacy we need with each other, and only with each other. We swing to satisfy our sexual fantasies - threesomes, foursomes, moresomes etc - not to build any more than casual relationships or closeness with others.

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By *uttercupWoman
41 weeks ago

Borders

Its extremely important. I love it when my fella bear hugs me in public. Snuggled in to each other, holding hands, we always have good morning & good night kisses. Its beautiful and keeps the fire burning

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By *cunthorpe123Couple
41 weeks ago

scunthorpe

I think the kisses, cuddles, bum pinches etc are far more important than sex.

I can happily go a while without sex but I would be upset if Sean didn’t show affection in other ways

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By *ee And MikeCouple
41 weeks ago

Cannock

Being a cuckold couple we have a slightly different dynamic than most, but hold hands when we are out, kiss and hug a lot, basically a typical loving couple apart from the fact that she enjoys cuckolding me with other guys.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
41 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry

Intimacy and aftercare can sometimes be conflated. We have intimacy (snuggling, kissing, holding hands, body worshiping on a morning etc) between each other.

It’s very different from the holding, stroking and carefully bringing down a third/couple after a heavy play session. We want to ensure that they come down softly so that there is no/minimal crash a couple of days later.

While it could be seen/considered to be intimacy it is very different from what is meaningful to each other, and only for each other within our relationship.

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By *achUK OP Man
41 weeks ago

Billericay

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By *achUK OP Man
41 weeks ago

Billericay

"Its extremely important. I love it when my fella bear hugs me in public. Snuggled in to each other, holding hands, we always have good morning & good night kisses. Its beautiful and keeps the fire burning "

Totally agree with you on that. it's the little things that count

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By *achUK OP Man
41 weeks ago

Billericay

"Intimacy means different things to different people. I do think it's important though.

Touch starvation is a very real thing "

Yeap that is a reality... I have seen it at clubs where there is no bond.

Did speak to a couple where the woman wouldn't kiss her partner but would kiss strangers. I felt sorry for the man as you can see on his face he wants that.

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