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High Standards in the lifestyle

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By *he_Dominant_Masseur OP   Man
3 days ago

newcastle

Is it bad of me to have high standards in the lifestyle? As I feel I have to have that connection and attraction to put my all into something sexually.

For me hygiene is a massive part of the package. Smelling good, well groomed, good teeth and generally looks after themselves. (And I don’t necessarily mean gym bod either) it doesn’t harm to make a little effort on socials or meets.

I know this probably limits my meets but I feel like it’s worth it to get the right experiences with the right people. As I’ve had some pretty terrible socials with singles and couples. Not all bad though.

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By *ogandher1962Couple
3 days ago

Reading


"Is it bad of me to have high standards in the lifestyle? As I feel I have to have that connection and attraction to put my all into something sexually.

For me hygiene is a massive part of the package. Smelling good, well groomed, good teeth and generally looks after themselves. (And I don’t necessarily mean gym bod either) it doesn’t harm to make a little effort on socials or meets.

I know this probably limits my meets but I feel like it’s worth it to get the right experiences with the right people. As I’ve had some pretty terrible socials with singles and couples. Not all bad though. "

Your profile, your choice.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
3 days ago

East Sussex

Why on earth would you compromise on the type of person you're attracted to? You like what you like but that doesn't mean the people you're not attracted to are any the worse.

I would hate it if someone met me and felt they were lowering their standards to do so. I'd feel insulted.

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
3 days ago

Gloucester

No. I have extremely high standards myself. Probably why I’ve not had a meet on this profile that wasn’t a social.

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By *he_Dominant_Masseur OP   Man
3 days ago

newcastle

Good to know. As I was questioning whether I was cut out for the lifestyle by limiting who I meet. As I like to put my all into socials and meets. Just some have gone Pete tong because the attraction wasnt there and didn’t want to waste someone’s time. That’s why I prefer a social before anything more.

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By *opping_candyWoman
3 days ago

Huddersfield

Not at all. What puts me off is when it seems like someone has little or no standards.

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By *umagain58Man
3 days ago

London


"Good to know. As I was questioning whether I was cut out for the lifestyle by limiting who I meet. As I like to put my all into socials and meets. Just some have gone Pete tong because the attraction wasnt there and didn’t want to waste someone’s time. That’s why I prefer a social before anything more."

It’s far more fun if you have a connection with other people. We all have different things we like or not. Don’t compromise on whatever your standards are and what others might enjoy. It’s far better to have one really good meet than lots you don’t enjoy or regret. I like the variety on here myself

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
3 days ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge

Your life, your rules OP.

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By *enelope2UWoman
3 days ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

I think it's only rare in the UK because the true version of a lifestyle doesn't exist yet here...

Sex is still deemed sneaky dirty taboo shameful so unfortunately most here aren't into caring about the other person or themselves enough to care about putting for any effort... Just look at the forum comments of the standard of messages people get or send..

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
3 days ago

Chester

I agree with everyone; completely fine to have preferences of any sort in this arena. For what it’s worth, I also think you express it well in your profile. And surely narrowing the field to bring forward those that are (or believe themselves to be) compatible is the name of the game, no?

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By *itter78Couple
3 days ago

Durham


"Not at all. What puts me off is when it seems like someone has little or no standards. "

Agree with this!

Had some pretty grim messages from men who clearly don't have any standards and just see women on here as a hole they're entitled to enter. There needs to be some kind of connection, even if it's just physical attraction, for everyone involved

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By *he Silver FuxMan
3 days ago

Uttoxeter


"Is it bad of me to have high standards in the lifestyle? As I feel I have to have that connection and attraction to put my all into something sexually.

For me hygiene is a massive part of the package. Smelling good, well groomed, good teeth and generally looks after themselves. (And I don’t necessarily mean gym bod either) it doesn’t harm to make a little effort on socials or meets.

I know this probably limits my meets but I feel like it’s worth it to get the right experiences with the right people. As I’ve had some pretty terrible socials with singles and couples. Not all bad though. "

That’s the absolute minimum for life generally 🫤

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By *esigned_For_FunWoman
3 days ago

wherever I am. ;)

I too have high standards. Have had plenty of socials, but not actually played lately.

However, I play by my rules that suit me. 😀

People need to do what suits them, not what others want.

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By *ap-scarCouple
3 days ago

Sleaford

I wouldn't say we have high standards but we definately have to have good chat, mental and physical connection aswell with people. Hygiene a massive plus to us and isn't it only right to turn up to a social well presented? We may look like we have lots of veris but those are from social parties and lots of repeat meets or socials.

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By *luttynutterCouple
3 days ago

Peterborough

Honestly, I don’t think it’s bad at all to have high standards. At the end of the day, it’s about finding people you genuinely click with, not just ticking boxes. That connection and mutual attraction really do matter as it makes everything so much more enjoyable and meaningful. I’d rather fewer better experiences than lots of disappointing ones! X

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By *issmorganWoman
3 days ago

Calderdale innit

Not at all op.

I'd rather not bother, rather than meet someone I didn't like or fancy.

It's rare I find someone who ticks all my boxes these days, but I'm ok with that.

Don't lower your standards,it makes it harder, but there are people out there who will be for you.

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By *Clem-Fandango-Woman
2 days ago

Yarm

I totally get this OP. I'm not shallow, attraction isn't just physical. I'm Demi Sexual so I really struggle with the lifestyle and NSA.

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
2 days ago

Cambridgeshire

A different perspective. Swinging gives you the chance to have sex with people you wouldn't normally consider as a life partner. If you have a type, and just rigidly stick to it, then what's the point?

And if the most important thing is giving pleasure to the person you're with, then surely it's how attractive they find you that matters, not how attractive you find them? When I see someone saying that they have "high standards" I tend to interpret it as a sign that they only care about their own pleasure.

Totally agree with you about the hygiene stuff, though!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
2 days ago

East Sussex

It's interesting that we apply standards in terms of attractiveness to humans at all.

I understand standards as far as behaviour, cleanliness and general grooming is concerned.

But just because you don't find a certain type person attractive doesn't mean you have high standards. It just means they aren't your type. 🤷‍♀️

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By *ucka39Man
2 days ago

Newcastle

Have id say just the standard standards like my limits which also isn't for everyone but I'm happy

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