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"Firstly OP, if you use the “reply + quote” button, makes it easier when responding to posts. Secondly, I echo what’s been said above about getting yourself out there to socials and clubs. Hands down that’s the best way to make connections. As a single man, you’re a dime a dozen so it’s difficult (but not impossible) to stand out online. Thirdly, whoever you message is going to firstly going to look at your profile before contemplating if it’s worth responding. I’d lose the dick pics, get some more flattering and tasteful photos of yourself. Also, calling yourself a “bull” isn’t doing you any favours either. Maybe a more mature username than that would be better. Mention in your bio a bit who you are as a person; hobbies & interests etc, what you have to offer and what you’re looking for. Think of your profile as a shop window to potential buyers. " Ok appreciate the help I’ll change a few things up so | |||
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"FAB isn't a publicly traded entity. We tend to ignore any messages from people who post this. " oh I just saw a lot of people had it so I just put it there | |||
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"Which thread are you focusing on? You've asked this four times. https://m.fabswingers.com/forum-poster/youngbull888" all I guess just wanted as much help as possible I didn’t know you had to focus on one | |||
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"Which thread are you focusing on? You've asked this four times. https://m.fabswingers.com/forum-poster/youngbull888 all I guess just wanted as much help as possible I didn’t know you had to focus on one" ㅤㅤ You need to •focus• on the •advice• that you're getting, which has been somewhat consistent across all those other threads. | |||
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"Which thread are you focusing on? You've asked this four times. https://m.fabswingers.com/forum-poster/youngbull888 all I guess just wanted as much help as possible I didn’t know you had to focus on one ㅤㅤ You need to •focus• on the •advice• that you're getting, which has been somewhat consistent across all those other threads." 👍 | |||
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"Change your photos. Your only public photo has been heavily blackened. Get rid of the dicks. " ye I just want to keep very private until I get to know people, what sort of photos should I post | |||
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"Change your photos. Your only public photo has been heavily blackened. Get rid of the dicks. ye I just want to keep very private until I get to know people, what sort of photos should I post " Photos that aren’t heavily edited and don’t focus just on your cock. | |||
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"Change your photos. Your only public photo has been heavily blackened. Get rid of the dicks. ye I just want to keep very private until I get to know people, what sort of photos should I post Photos that aren’t heavily edited and don’t focus just on your cock. " they aren’t edited I just covered my surroundings and what should I focus on then | |||
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"Change your photos. Your only public photo has been heavily blackened. Get rid of the dicks. ye I just want to keep very private until I get to know people, what sort of photos should I post Photos that aren’t heavily edited and don’t focus just on your cock. they aren’t edited I just covered my surroundings and what should I focus on then " Well, so long as you’re happy | |||
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"Patience is the key." can only wait so long tho | |||
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"Patience is the key. can only wait so long tho " Why can you only wait so long? Joining this site doesn’t automatically get you sex, there are guys that have been on for years and have never met anyone. It’s all about compatibility, attraction and connection Mrs | |||
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"Patience is the key. can only wait so long tho " Mate, as everyone has said, go to socials or club events and also be patient. Always polite and respectful with your msg's dont multi-msg a profile ladies and couples get inundated so you really need to stand out or be exceptional (or just lucky) 😉 There are a lot of fantasy guys on here and blokes upto no good so people need to know you are genuine and decent initially hence why the social/club thing isn't a bad way to start.... | |||
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"Change your photos. Your only public photo has been heavily blackened. Get rid of the dicks. " This! If I was interested in you the blacked pic would put me off completely. | |||
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"Change your photos. Your only public photo has been heavily blackened. Get rid of the dicks. This! If I was interested in you the blacked pic would put me off completely. " really I just wanted to keep private as it’s not my house, should I just get rid of it then ? | |||
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"Change your photos. Your only public photo has been heavily blackened. Get rid of the dicks. This! If I was interested in you the blacked pic would put me off completely. really I just wanted to keep private as it’s not my house, should I just get rid of it then ?" You asked for advice, entirely up you whether you take it or not. | |||
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"Just had a look at your profile, and I'll be honest, we would likely not reply to it upon first impressions. You need to first understand that us couples and singles ladies get a lot of messages. This profile can get a hundred or so messages a week and our single lady profile was getting upwards of a thousand messages a week. So you really have to stand out. First thing we see in the inbox is your profile pic and the beginning of the message. So make that profile picture epic, not just good...EPIC!!! It has to catch the eye of the recipient. Then the opening message has to build some curiosity to continue reading. If you manage to win on these factors, then next thing we'll do is look at your profile...this is your shop front! Make it shine...you should have only photos that you are extremely proud of and have a good level of class and allure. You should definitely rewrite your bio...at the moment it's...well...shite lol. It reads like 99.9%of other profiles. You don't need to tell people that you can offer them the opportunity to spice their life up, most couples you'll approach on here already have spiced it up, and are likely vastly more experienced that yourself. So don't sell yourself a guy that can offer an experience you may not be able to deliver on, trust me...we've seen it first hand and had the guys run away on our ring doorbell to prove it 🤣. Sell yourself as a good, respectful and down to earth guy, that people can trust not to overstep boundaries. Give us something good to read, tell us of your experiences, likes and dislikes. And dont say you're not interested in meeting men! If you want to meet couples, you have to meet men...doesn't mean you have to be sexual with them but respect the fact that they make up 50% if a couple and if you can't impress them, then you likely won't impressions the Mrs either. Sit down, spend some good time on your profile, a couple weeks at least. And come back with something worth looking at, and don't be disappointed when you don't get laid in the first year. This is a swingers site after all, and although we love sex, were not always an easy shag, and our kinks and dynamics are all different. Good luck 👍 " appreciate the reply can we dm | |||
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"Change your photos. Your only public photo has been heavily blackened. Get rid of the dicks. This! If I was interested in you the blacked pic would put me off completely. really I just wanted to keep private as it’s not my house, should I just get rid of it then ?" So why not take photos in your own house? | |||
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"Just had a look at your profile, and I'll be honest, we would likely not reply to it upon first impressions. You need to first understand that us couples and singles ladies get a lot of messages. This profile can get a hundred or so messages a week and our single lady profile was getting upwards of a thousand messages a week. So you really have to stand out. First thing we see in the inbox is your profile pic and the beginning of the message. So make that profile picture epic, not just good...EPIC!!! It has to catch the eye of the recipient. Then the opening message has to build some curiosity to continue reading. If you manage to win on these factors, then next thing we'll do is look at your profile...this is your shop front! Make it shine...you should have only photos that you are extremely proud of and have a good level of class and allure. You should definitely rewrite your bio...at the moment it's...well...shite lol. It reads like 99.9%of other profiles. You don't need to tell people that you can offer them the opportunity to spice their life up, most couples you'll approach on here already have spiced it up, and are likely vastly more experienced that yourself. So don't sell yourself a guy that can offer an experience you may not be able to deliver on, trust me...we've seen it first hand and had the guys run away on our ring doorbell to prove it 🤣. Sell yourself as a good, respectful and down to earth guy, that people can trust not to overstep boundaries. Give us something good to read, tell us of your experiences, likes and dislikes. And dont say you're not interested in meeting men! If you want to meet couples, you have to meet men...doesn't mean you have to be sexual with them but respect the fact that they make up 50% if a couple and if you can't impress them, then you likely won't impressions the Mrs either. Sit down, spend some good time on your profile, a couple weeks at least. And come back with something worth looking at, and don't be disappointed when you don't get laid in the first year. This is a swingers site after all, and although we love sex, were not always an easy shag, and our kinks and dynamics are all different. Good luck 👍 appreciate the reply can we dm" Sure no problem x | |||
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"Just had a look at your profile, and I'll be honest, we would likely not reply to it upon first impressions. You need to first understand that us couples and singles ladies get a lot of messages. This profile can get a hundred or so messages a week and our single lady profile was getting upwards of a thousand messages a week. So you really have to stand out. First thing we see in the inbox is your profile pic and the beginning of the message. So make that profile picture epic, not just good...EPIC!!! It has to catch the eye of the recipient. Then the opening message has to build some curiosity to continue reading. If you manage to win on these factors, then next thing we'll do is look at your profile...this is your shop front! Make it shine...you should have only photos that you are extremely proud of and have a good level of class and allure. You should definitely rewrite your bio...at the moment it's...well...shite lol. It reads like 99.9%of other profiles. You don't need to tell people that you can offer them the opportunity to spice their life up, most couples you'll approach on here already have spiced it up, and are likely vastly more experienced that yourself. So don't sell yourself a guy that can offer an experience you may not be able to deliver on, trust me...we've seen it first hand and had the guys run away on our ring doorbell to prove it 🤣. Sell yourself as a good, respectful and down to earth guy, that people can trust not to overstep boundaries. Give us something good to read, tell us of your experiences, likes and dislikes. And dont say you're not interested in meeting men! If you want to meet couples, you have to meet men...doesn't mean you have to be sexual with them but respect the fact that they make up 50% if a couple and if you can't impress them, then you likely won't impressions the Mrs either. Sit down, spend some good time on your profile, a couple weeks at least. And come back with something worth looking at, and don't be disappointed when you don't get laid in the first year. This is a swingers site after all, and although we love sex, were not always an easy shag, and our kinks and dynamics are all different. Good luck 👍 appreciate the reply can we dm Sure no problem x" I can’t dm you because of the age you have can you message me first please | |||
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"Just had a look at your profile, and I'll be honest, we would likely not reply to it upon first impressions. You need to first understand that us couples and singles ladies get a lot of messages. This profile can get a hundred or so messages a week and our single lady profile was getting upwards of a thousand messages a week. So you really have to stand out. First thing we see in the inbox is your profile pic and the beginning of the message. So make that profile picture epic, not just good...EPIC!!! It has to catch the eye of the recipient. Then the opening message has to build some curiosity to continue reading. If you manage to win on these factors, then next thing we'll do is look at your profile...this is your shop front! Make it shine...you should have only photos that you are extremely proud of and have a good level of class and allure. You should definitely rewrite your bio...at the moment it's...well...shite lol. It reads like 99.9%of other profiles. You don't need to tell people that you can offer them the opportunity to spice their life up, most couples you'll approach on here already have spiced it up, and are likely vastly more experienced that yourself. So don't sell yourself a guy that can offer an experience you may not be able to deliver on, trust me...we've seen it first hand and had the guys run away on our ring doorbell to prove it 🤣. Sell yourself as a good, respectful and down to earth guy, that people can trust not to overstep boundaries. Give us something good to read, tell us of your experiences, likes and dislikes. And dont say you're not interested in meeting men! If you want to meet couples, you have to meet men...doesn't mean you have to be sexual with them but respect the fact that they make up 50% if a couple and if you can't impress them, then you likely won't impressions the Mrs either. Sit down, spend some good time on your profile, a couple weeks at least. And come back with something worth looking at, and don't be disappointed when you don't get laid in the first year. This is a swingers site after all, and although we love sex, were not always an easy shag, and our kinks and dynamics are all different. Good luck 👍 " Probably the best response to a thread like this I've ever seen. Definitely read it, OP - several times haha Also maybe browse some single men's profiles and see which have good amounts of meet verifications. What's the differences between their profile and yours? | |||
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"Just had a look at your profile, and I'll be honest, we would likely not reply to it upon first impressions. You need to first understand that us couples and singles ladies get a lot of messages. This profile can get a hundred or so messages a week and our single lady profile was getting upwards of a thousand messages a week. So you really have to stand out. First thing we see in the inbox is your profile pic and the beginning of the message. So make that profile picture epic, not just good...EPIC!!! It has to catch the eye of the recipient. Then the opening message has to build some curiosity to continue reading. If you manage to win on these factors, then next thing we'll do is look at your profile...this is your shop front! Make it shine...you should have only photos that you are extremely proud of and have a good level of class and allure. You should definitely rewrite your bio...at the moment it's...well...shite lol. It reads like 99.9%of other profiles. You don't need to tell people that you can offer them the opportunity to spice their life up, most couples you'll approach on here already have spiced it up, and are likely vastly more experienced that yourself. So don't sell yourself a guy that can offer an experience you may not be able to deliver on, trust me...we've seen it first hand and had the guys run away on our ring doorbell to prove it 🤣. Sell yourself as a good, respectful and down to earth guy, that people can trust not to overstep boundaries. Give us something good to read, tell us of your experiences, likes and dislikes. And dont say you're not interested in meeting men! If you want to meet couples, you have to meet men...doesn't mean you have to be sexual with them but respect the fact that they make up 50% if a couple and if you can't impress them, then you likely won't impressions the Mrs either. Sit down, spend some good time on your profile, a couple weeks at least. And come back with something worth looking at, and don't be disappointed when you don't get laid in the first year. This is a swingers site after all, and although we love sex, were not always an easy shag, and our kinks and dynamics are all different. Good luck 👍 Probably the best response to a thread like this I've ever seen. Definitely read it, OP - several times haha Also maybe browse some single men's profiles and see which have good amounts of meet verifications. What's the differences between their profile and yours? " yeah I think that’s what I’ll do but the thing is I’m an even smaller minority as I’ve no experience in a good amount of stuff unfortunately so it’s pretty hard for me to think of stuff to put in my bio | |||
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"Just had a look at your profile, and I'll be honest, we would likely not reply to it upon first impressions. You need to first understand that us couples and singles ladies get a lot of messages. This profile can get a hundred or so messages a week and our single lady profile was getting upwards of a thousand messages a week. So you really have to stand out. First thing we see in the inbox is your profile pic and the beginning of the message. So make that profile picture epic, not just good...EPIC!!! It has to catch the eye of the recipient. Then the opening message has to build some curiosity to continue reading. If you manage to win on these factors, then next thing we'll do is look at your profile...this is your shop front! Make it shine...you should have only photos that you are extremely proud of and have a good level of class and allure. You should definitely rewrite your bio...at the moment it's...well...shite lol. It reads like 99.9%of other profiles. You don't need to tell people that you can offer them the opportunity to spice their life up, most couples you'll approach on here already have spiced it up, and are likely vastly more experienced that yourself. So don't sell yourself a guy that can offer an experience you may not be able to deliver on, trust me...we've seen it first hand and had the guys run away on our ring doorbell to prove it 🤣. Sell yourself as a good, respectful and down to earth guy, that people can trust not to overstep boundaries. Give us something good to read, tell us of your experiences, likes and dislikes. And dont say you're not interested in meeting men! If you want to meet couples, you have to meet men...doesn't mean you have to be sexual with them but respect the fact that they make up 50% if a couple and if you can't impress them, then you likely won't impressions the Mrs either. Sit down, spend some good time on your profile, a couple weeks at least. And come back with something worth looking at, and don't be disappointed when you don't get laid in the first year. This is a swingers site after all, and although we love sex, were not always an easy shag, and our kinks and dynamics are all different. Good luck 👍 " Exceptional advice here 👌 It's the best that I've seen!! 🫡 | |||
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"FAB isn't a publicly traded entity. We tend to ignore any messages from people who post this. oh I just saw a lot of people had it so I just put it there" So you just copy others?? | |||
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"You're a single guy in a sea of other single guys." cheers mate👍 | |||
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"You're a single guy in a sea of other single guys.cheers mate👍" I’ll add to my husbands take above…. More pictures, particularly face pics will help. Invest a bit more info about you on your page and make sure you get to socials clubs to meet people. Also don’t send dick pics immediately, we’ve seen enough dick haha. Mostly I’m interested in face pics and info on the person. Mrs. X | |||
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"You're a single guy in a sea of other single guys.cheers mate👍 I’ll add to my husbands take above…. More pictures, particularly face pics will help. Invest a bit more info about you on your page and make sure you get to socials clubs to meet people. Also don’t send dick pics immediately, we’ve seen enough dick haha. Mostly I’m interested in face pics and info on the person. Mrs. X" I would only send face pics in messages for privacy and I don’t send dick pics unless asked and I’m comfortable with doing so. Appreciate the rest but I’m not sure what else to add to my bio because I’m trying to be private as possible on my profile. | |||
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"You're a single guy in a sea of other single guys.cheers mate👍 I’ll add to my husbands take above…. More pictures, particularly face pics will help. Invest a bit more info about you on your page and make sure you get to socials clubs to meet people. Also don’t send dick pics immediately, we’ve seen enough dick haha. Mostly I’m interested in face pics and info on the person. Mrs. XI would only send face pics in messages for privacy and I don’t send dick pics unless asked and I’m comfortable with doing so. Appreciate the rest but I’m not sure what else to add to my bio because I’m trying to be private as possible on my profile." Were you really a young bull?? | |||
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"You're a single guy in a sea of other single guys.cheers mate👍 I’ll add to my husbands take above…. More pictures, particularly face pics will help. Invest a bit more info about you on your page and make sure you get to socials clubs to meet people. Also don’t send dick pics immediately, we’ve seen enough dick haha. Mostly I’m interested in face pics and info on the person. Mrs. XI would only send face pics in messages for privacy and I don’t send dick pics unless asked and I’m comfortable with doing so. Appreciate the rest but I’m not sure what else to add to my bio because I’m trying to be private as possible on my profile." Yeah, you're 21 so unless you're a member of the royal family you've got no reason to be so obsessed about privacy. Nobody gives a shit that you're on here. If you're not prepared to be as open and up front as possible. Expect to stay lonely. In the absence of face pics or decent body pics, your bio is where you'd need to shine, but unfortunately that's also a big load of nothing. Ask yourself what women want in a man. It's not difficult. Most stuff is the standard clichés: tall dark and handsome, charming, funny, confident, capable. The wild cards are interesting, distinctive, intelligent. Decide which of those you can offer and play to those strengths. | |||
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"What's against you, your age, expectations and I'll be honest here, looking like you've spent some time in Auschwitz (at your age you'll probably have to Google that)." nice one mate👍 | |||
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