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By (user no longer on site) OP   
1 week ago

Is it just me that thinks it's a bit rude when you're getting on with someone then they just ghost or block you I mean if they ain't interested fair enough but an explanation would be nice

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By *issmorganWoman
1 week ago

Calderdale innit

Hi op, I get what you mean, but many ladies and couples can get abuse if they say theyve changed their minds etc. So blocking is easier.

I'd only call it ghosting when you've met someone in rl. On here people change their minds, they don't like something that was said or life gets busy.

Ideally they'd tell you before blocking, but try not to dwell on it op.

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By *ensual_SamMan
1 week ago

Bracknell

Yea it's pretty rude and has happened to me before but given the sheer amount of messages women/couples recieve on this platform it's to be expected.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
1 week ago


"Hi op, I get what you mean, but many ladies and couples can get abuse if they say theyve changed their minds etc. So blocking is easier.

I'd only call it ghosting when you've met someone in rl. On here people change their minds, they don't like something that was said or life gets busy.

Ideally they'd tell you before blocking, but try not to dwell on it op. "

I respect and get people may change their minds or it's their choose witch is true of course but if I don't know why then how do I know I'm not putting other possible meets off ect even tho I'm not intending to and I'm afraid respectful when messaging x

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By *issmorganWoman
1 week ago

Calderdale innit


"Hi op, I get what you mean, but many ladies and couples can get abuse if they say theyve changed their minds etc. So blocking is easier.

I'd only call it ghosting when you've met someone in rl. On here people change their minds, they don't like something that was said or life gets busy.

Ideally they'd tell you before blocking, but try not to dwell on it op.

I respect and get people may change their minds or it's their choose witch is true of course but if I don't know why then how do I know I'm not putting other possible meets off ect even tho I'm not intending to and I'm afraid respectful when messaging x"

It may not be that you say anything to put them off op, I sometimes stop chatting if I don't feel it's going anywhere. Or I think we're not gelling etc.

It's tough for single men on here, because there's so many.

People get busy, people are fickle. Try not to take it personally op.

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By *ihimbiherCouple
1 week ago

lightwater

I think it’s rude when a single guy messages you out of the blue to say he wants to ruin my pussy!

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By *ellhungvweMan
1 week ago

Cheltenham

It’s harsh OP but that is where I would draw the line.

If someone blocks you then you clearly weren’t getting on with them as well as you think you were.

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By *rad670Man
1 week ago

South Lakes

It's fairly normal and I get that some may just want to avoid a nasty message if they were polite and said changed my mind or it's not going well etc but I would prefer that to just going quiet on you. At least you can draw a line and move on, that said I would prefer ghosting to what happened today when I sent a requested face pic then was insulted and blocked, just blocked would have been the nicer thing to do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
1 week ago


"It's fairly normal and I get that some may just want to avoid a nasty message if they were polite and said changed my mind or it's not going well etc but I would prefer that to just going quiet on you. At least you can draw a line and move on, that said I would prefer ghosting to what happened today when I sent a requested face pic then was insulted and blocked, just blocked would have been the nicer thing to do."

Yeah I've had some insults too witch doesn't help confidence wise

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By *eviant-DesiresMan
1 week ago

Mid Cornwall


"I think it’s rude when a single guy messages you out of the blue to say he wants to ruin my pussy!"

But it would be fine if he wasn't single 🤔

Makes sense lol

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By *eviant-DesiresMan
1 week ago

Mid Cornwall


"Is it just me that thinks it's a bit rude when you're getting on with someone then they just ghost or block you I mean if they ain't interested fair enough but an explanation would be nice "

It's definitely rude but to be expected on this site.

It's tough on here op but you seem nice and respectful so just be yourself try not to take it to heart.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
1 week ago

Staffordshire

I get that you find it rude.

But it doesn't compare to the rude comment people recieve when you say no to them.

We would always end things with people if it didn't feel right, and often got shit for it. Its not worth the hassle.

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By *inkyCouple2468Couple
1 week ago

Peterborough


"I get that you find it rude.

But it doesn't compare to the rude comment people recieve when you say no to them.

We would always end things with people if it didn't feel right, and often got shit for it. Its not worth the hassle. "

This is the truth!!!

So many times we respectfully or politely say no for a legitimate reason after a few messages and you either then get pestered or rudeness back so we exit the chat.

Same old story a few idiots ruin it for everyone else

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By *ogandher1962Couple
1 week ago

Reading


"Is it just me that thinks it's a bit rude when you're getting on with someone then they just ghost or block you I mean if they ain't interested fair enough but an explanation would be nice "

No one owes you an explanation

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
1 week ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge

Hey OP. Sometimes when you get enough abuse back from being polite, you just have to end the conversation dead.

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
1 week ago

Gloucester


"Hey OP. Sometimes when you get enough abuse back from being polite, you just have to end the conversation dead.

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This! I used to be polite turning people down or saying i dont think we are compatible but there are only so many times I can get told I’m “fat and ugly anyways” so now if I feel it’s not going anywhere I say happy fabbing and block

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By *uttercupWoman
7 days ago

Borders

Total waste of everyone's time. Its rude

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
5 days ago


"Total waste of everyone's time. Its rude"

Exactly

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By *randMrsLPCouple
2 days ago

london

It's not "rudeness" it just that they have not liked and/or interested in taking it any further. Namely, freedom of choice.

People are entitled to changed their minds when chatting. It's better than agreeing to a meet and then no show.

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
2 days ago

Cambridgeshire


" if I feel it’s not going anywhere I say happy fabbing and block "

Which isn't what the OP was actually complaining about.

"Message then block" is much more polite than "block".

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