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By *orestHardWood OP   Man
43 weeks ago

Lymington

My (rather hot!) wife and I have been thinking about this for a while - it forms an increasing part of our fantasies etc.

I know she is bi but has always repressed these feelings but I know she is also turned on by introducing another man, perhaps in a cuck situation. Sh is however not a fan of giving head and anal is a definite no no so I have to make sure she is always comfortable about expectations.

I feel we are ready to move to the next steps in real life - what advise would you give to taking those first little steps?

I have a feeling that if we set up a new couple profile, we would just get bombarded with cock pics etc and that would put her off.

Love to hear from you.

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

"bombarded with ,,,pictures."

i just ignore, block the ones imo are wasting my time and block them and this cuts back that type of stuff over time

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By *ellinever70Woman
43 weeks ago

Ayrshire

You might feel ready, but does she?

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By *ustus5555Woman
43 weeks ago

Nottingham

Baby steps. Try taking her to a club & just treat it as a naughty night out just for you 2 alone. You'll get a good idea of what she thinks about taking it any further from that

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By *eachbums40Couple
43 weeks ago

Midlands

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
43 weeks ago

Scotland

I would think about starting s couples profile as I machine it will be difficult to get people to arrange to meet a single male profile . Im sure anybody meeting you as a couple would like to see your wife.

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By *orestHardWood OP   Man
43 weeks ago

Lymington


"Baby steps. Try taking her to a club & just treat it as a naughty night out just for you 2 alone. You'll get a good idea of what she thinks about taking it any further from that "

I think clubs would be too far too quick for her. However on holiday we both enjoyed having sensual massages side by side - we both loved that perhaps something like that in the UK if it exists.....

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
43 weeks ago

East Sussex

Start a couples profile and put all the mail filters on. She can browse to her heart's content with no fear of loads of messages .

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By *ovetoedgeMan
43 weeks ago

Dunstable


"Baby steps. Try taking her to a club & just treat it as a naughty night out just for you 2 alone. You'll get a good idea of what she thinks about taking it any further from that

I think clubs would be too far too quick for her. However on holiday we both enjoyed having sensual massages side by side - we both loved that perhaps something like that in the UK if it exists....."

Do you go to nudist beaches?

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By *aomilatteCouple
43 weeks ago

Midlands


"Baby steps. Try taking her to a club & just treat it as a naughty night out just for you 2 alone. You'll get a good idea of what she thinks about taking it any further from that

I think clubs would be too far too quick for her. However on holiday we both enjoyed having sensual massages side by side - we both loved that perhaps something like that in the UK if it exists....."

You can get massages at many Spa Retreats. If you're interested in swinging then a club night is a better idea. Clubs aren't mass orgies when you walk in the door as some seem to think. You can go and just observe if you like, go in a lockable playroom and have fun with each other.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
43 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

Second nudist beaches especially some remote ones with a few people. Look for events/clubs/parties for couples only or LGBTQIA focused. Less bombardment in those places.

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By *ast_jjMan
43 weeks ago

Dublin

I would say, set up the profile, make it really clear in your bio that you are at the very early stages and just exploring at the minute.

Block single guys from contacting you, use the forums, and search and contact the people you find interesting and who meet your requirements.

Also maybe attend a social, it can be a good way of easing yourselves in.

Hopefully it goes well for you both.

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By *bi HaiveMan
43 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"I would say, set up the profile, make it really clear in your bio that you are at the very early stages and just exploring at the minute.

Block single guys from contacting you, use the forums, and search and contact the people you find interesting and who meet your requirements.

Also maybe attend a social, it can be a good way of easing yourselves in.

Hopefully it goes well for you both.

"

This 100%

You're always in control of who can message you. Block everyone giant the message filters should you feel the need and then only anyone you wink know message will be able to contact you.

If youre serious about this and she's genuinely interested, then a couple profile is the only way to proceed.

Nobody pays attention to, or believes a single male profile that says there's a wife in the background who doesn't want to be on the site. Plus you're unable to post any photos of her which will be needed if you’re looking to generate interest.

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By *orestHardWood OP   Man
43 weeks ago

Lymington

Thanks you - yes we are planning to set up a couple profile in next day or two.

Actually I thinking doing this together and ticking/not ticking all the boxes will be useful to us as we find it hard to open up to each other about desires and fantasies.

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By *orestHardWood OP   Man
43 weeks ago

Lymington


" Clubs aren't mass orgies when you walk in the door as some seem to think. You can go and just observe if you like, go in a lockable playroom and have fun with each other. "

I think we both think its just full of non stop sex which is offputting to us anyway

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By *aomilatteCouple
43 weeks ago

Midlands


" Clubs aren't mass orgies when you walk in the door as some seem to think. You can go and just observe if you like, go in a lockable playroom and have fun with each other.

I think we both think its just full of non stop sex which is offputting to us anyway"

We spend more time on the dance floor than in the playrooms 💃🏾🕺.On our first club night we just played with each other, we're not the only ones.

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By *issmorganWoman
43 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Set up a couple account.

Use your filters to block all single men & let her look round and see if anyone takes her fancy.

Message anyone she likes the look of.

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By *ustus5555Woman
43 weeks ago

Nottingham


" Clubs aren't mass orgies when you walk in the door as some seem to think. You can go and just observe if you like, go in a lockable playroom and have fun with each other.

I think we both think its just full of non stop sex which is offputting to us anyway

We spend more time on the dance floor than in the playrooms 💃🏾🕺.On our first club night we just played with each other, we're not the only ones."

This. 💯👍

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