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By *xplorer112 OP   Man
2 days ago

Birmingham

Is it me or does this piss anyone else off? I completely understand you need to chat 5/10 even 15 messages to see if the person gels or is your type.

But needing essays or learning more about the person. I mean are people looking for a penpal?

Why not arrange a social or just say you’re not interested in the first place?

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By *lue NotebooksCouple
2 days ago

Merseyside

100% agree, we’re here to meet not write love letters don’t mind the odd chat with people we’ve met before but yeah would rather people just say if they’re not interested and move on

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
2 days ago

East Sussex

Make it clear in your first message.

We get a fair few men asking if we'd like to chat but they're never clear what they want to chat about (although I can hazard a pretty good guess ).

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By *ucka39Man
2 days ago

Newcastle

I prefer the endless chit chat as you are learning more about them which adds to the connection/chemistry

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By *edditchCouple8077Couple
2 days ago

Redditch


"100% agree, we’re here to meet not write love letters don’t mind the odd chat with people we’ve met before but yeah would rather people just say if they’re not interested and move on"

We are the same,few messages then meet(where we can chat and see if we fit all together),not in to pen buddies or stories tellers

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By *outhernC0mfortMan
2 days ago

Cumbria

ChatGPT (gentlemanly penis treatment)

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
2 days ago

your head

Funnily enough, its okay for people to like different things. Some people like longer conversations and some don't. Just look for people that like the same things as you.

Personally I'd rather spend longer talking to someone and getting to know them and that's okay too.

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By *arialoueWoman
2 days ago

Doncaster

I prefer to chat for a reasonable amount of time ,then make a decision weather to meet or not

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
2 days ago

Coventry

It can often take a bit of time to arrange a meet and we can't really judge chemistry till we've met in person. So we don't actually want to chat too long online before we meet. We tend to like just enough to gauge if we think there's compatibility and then simply ask can we save futher chat to when we meet in person (bar sorting the practical arrangements). To be fair most most people seem perfectly happy with this plan too. There's absolutely no point in chatting endlessly untill you've met in person.

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
2 days ago

Cambridgeshire

So it seems that generally couples want to exchange a few messages, and then meet. Single women generally want to chat for longer.

And single men want to meet after one message.

Is that fair?

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
2 days ago

Chester

Just bear in mind where the power/danger balance lies; it shouldn’t be a surprise that, in general, solo women want to be a bit more certain about the other person/people before meeting.

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By *rMrsBiCardiffCouple
24 hours ago

Roath

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By *rMrsBiCardiffCouple
24 hours ago

Roath

For us, not only is it essential to have a nice bit of back and forth to see if there is chemistry and mutual interests, but it also exposes a lot of pushy people.

It doesn't usually take long before they start losing patience and becoming pushy.

And then we know we aren't compatible.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
23 hours ago

Coventry


"For us, not only is it essential to have a nice bit of back and forth to see if there is chemistry and mutual interests, but it also exposes a lot of pushy people.

It doesn't usually take long before they start losing patience and becoming pushy.

And then we know we aren't compatible."

That for us I a big bonner killer. We struggle with the flexibility to arrange something. So it can take some time and we explain this. Pressure and being pushy is big no from us. Good things will happen when they're at everones speed. After all there's always other fish in the sea in the mean time for them any way.

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
21 hours ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge

Piss us off? Nah far from it.

Given our vanilla life meets can be hard to arrangr and we tell people that from the off.

The ones that stick around and actually form a rapport will get to skip the social and come straight over for the fun.

But that's not to everyones taste and that is fair enough.

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By *Mclovin.Man
20 hours ago

East Yorkshire

I prefer to chat and get to know people first, bit of chemistry/connection kinda feels better..

But that said, if someone just wanted to meet, id go with the flow.

The ones ive gotten to know by chatting, I actually see regularly

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By *herrybakewellCouple
20 hours ago

Staffordshire

We like to chat, but also like that first meet ASAP.

There's no point chatting for weeks on end, to then meet and find they arent as you expected.

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By *otandHung1981Man
20 hours ago

Bucks

Too much chat usually never leads to a meet.

So many talkers on here and couples are the worst offenders.

The serious ones will ask for a phone call usually.

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By *randMrsLPCouple
3 hours ago

london

it all depends on what the "10-15" messages contain.

Don't get p'd off just ignore them and save them and yourself wasted time

Why keep on chatting if you feel like that is what i would say - just saying.

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By *artorialMan
3 hours ago

weymouth

I don't mind long runs of exchanging messages, what gets my goat is the lack of effort to respond to the last message I sent, kinda looks like they haven't bothered to read it 😡

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By *morousCouple8Couple
2 hours ago

Cumbria

Love long message exchanges! It’s definitely makes me likely to move up the meet too and I’m so wet just meeting them knowing all the things we’ve discussed and makes the sex epic because we each know what makes the other tick 🥵

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By *issmorganWoman
2 hours ago

Calderdale innit


"I prefer the endless chit chat as you are learning more about them which adds to the connection/chemistry "
. Agree and people often give themselves away, when you've chatted a while.

If you expect meets after only a short while, be upfront about that, but don't expect that everyone will be happy doing that op.

Many will say on their bios if they want to meet relatively fast or expect a connection.

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By *ikeC81Man
21 minutes ago

harrow

I never know when to ask people to play!!! I think that’s the problem I end up chatting and never really just ask

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