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"I'm not good at approaching couples but I'd love to meet some and play does anyone have a good starting message idea I start with "Hey you two " I know that sucks but I just want tips " There is no right or wrong, everyone is different on how they want to be approached Mrs | |||
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"Thank you both Yeah I mention the things in their profiles sometimes and the worst part is the names making sure i haven't made spelling errors so have to keep going back to re do it all lol and I really appreciate it "Look at their photos, comment on them, comment on their bio, don’t make it about sex, think how you would approach someone in the real world Mrs | |||
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"Thank you both Yeah I mention the things in their profiles sometimes and the worst part is the names making sure i haven't made spelling errors so have to keep going back to re do it all lol and I really appreciate it
Look at their photos, comment on them, comment on their bio, don’t make it about sex, think how you would approach someone in the real world
Mrs"Thank you ill post if I get any responses I mean it in really di appreciate it see I'm an in person kind of guy and need this help I hope you all have amazing summer and if anyone is up for a big social drink up I'd love to arrange one for everyone | |||
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"Thank you both Yeah I mention the things in their profiles sometimes and the worst part is the names making sure i haven't made spelling errors so have to keep going back to re do it all lol and I really appreciate it
Look at their photos, comment on them, comment on their bio, don’t make it about sex, think how you would approach someone in the real world
Mrs"Good advice here. It’s difficult to ignore a well worded, genuinely meant compliment. Or at least we find it is. | |||
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"Thank you both Yeah I mention the things in their profiles sometimes and the worst part is the names making sure i haven't made spelling errors so have to keep going back to re do it all lol and I really appreciate it
Look at their photos, comment on them, comment on their bio, don’t make it about sex, think how you would approach someone in the real world
Mrs
Good advice here. It’s difficult to ignore a well worded, genuinely meant compliment. Or at least we find it is."I try to do that but some profiles have like 30 photos and a 6 word bio it's not alot to go off and I do wish I was better with words | |||
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"Thank you both Yeah I mention the things in their profiles sometimes and the worst part is the names making sure i haven't made spelling errors so have to keep going back to re do it all lol and I really appreciate it
Look at their photos, comment on them, comment on their bio, don’t make it about sex, think how you would approach someone in the real world
Mrs
Good advice here. It’s difficult to ignore a well worded, genuinely meant compliment. Or at least we find it is.
I try to do that but some profiles have like 30 photos and a 6 word bio it's not alot to go off and I do wish I was better with words"Yes I think most of us could be better with words. But don’t overthink it. this message got a reply from us: “Wow! She is stunning. Compliments.” | |||
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"I'm not good at approaching couples but I'd love to meet some and play does anyone have a good starting message idea I start with "Hey you two " I know that sucks but I just want tips " Do you mind if we comment on your profile? Mrs | |||
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"I'm not good at approaching couples but I'd love to meet some and play does anyone have a good starting message idea I start with "Hey you two " I know that sucks but I just want tips Do you mind if we comment on your profile? Mrs" Please do i haven't done any work on it in ages and would love some criticism | |||
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"I'm not good at approaching couples but I'd love to meet some and play does anyone have a good starting message idea I start with "Hey you two " I know that sucks but I just want tips Do you mind if we comment on your profile? Mrs Please do i haven't done any work on it in ages and would love some criticism " Your bio is ok but your photos could do with being better, I think you have too many cock pics on display, leave something to the imagination or just have 1 on display, move the rest to friends only or to private, concentrate on getting a tasteful photo for your profile pic. Hope this helps Mrs | |||
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"I'm not good at approaching couples but I'd love to meet some and play does anyone have a good starting message idea I start with "Hey you two " I know that sucks but I just want tips Do you mind if we comment on your profile? Mrs Please do i haven't done any work on it in ages and would love some criticism Your bio is ok but your photos could do with being better, I think you have too many cock pics on display, leave something to the imagination or just have 1 on display, move the rest to friends only or to private, concentrate on getting a tasteful photo for your profile pic. Hope this helps Mrs" As easy as that sounds its hard getting good photos of me i wish I did have some but it's hard looking like this and awkward | |||
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"I'm not good at approaching couples but I'd love to meet some and play does anyone have a good starting message idea I start with "Hey you two " I know that sucks but I just want tips Do you mind if we comment on your profile? Mrs Please do i haven't done any work on it in ages and would love some criticism Your bio is ok but your photos could do with being better, I think you have too many cock pics on display, leave something to the imagination or just have 1 on display, move the rest to friends only or to private, concentrate on getting a tasteful photo for your profile pic. Hope this helps Mrs As easy as that sounds its hard getting good photos of me i wish I did have some but it's hard looking like this and awkward " Use your most recent pic in your photos as your profile photo, 26th dec I think it was Mrs | |||
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"Ok moved a bunch and changed pp anything else like bio wise ? You can dm for all things you suggest" I think your bio write up is ok Mrs | |||
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"I usually start by addressing them both Not just the female of the couple (if you are straight of course).. Send a picture of myself and ask them if they'd take a look at my profile and drop a message if fancy chatting or go for a social meet to break the ice.. Im chatting with 4 couples on here at mo, but my last profile i had 7 meets with couples.. Just be you, be polite and fingers crossed.. " Thank you I always greet both partners it would be so rude to just message the lady or whoever singularly and I'm so jealous | |||
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"Ok moved a bunch and changed pp anything else like bio wise ? You can dm for all things you suggest I think your bio write up is ok Mrs" Thank you any other tips please say | |||
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"I usually start by addressing them both Not just the female of the couple (if you are straight of course).. Send a picture of myself and ask them if they'd take a look at my profile and drop a message if fancy chatting or go for a social meet to break the ice.. Im chatting with 4 couples on here at mo, but my last profile i had 7 meets with couples.. Just be you, be polite and fingers crossed.. " This is great advice. On our couples profile, it's amazing the amount of men who send an obscene message to my partner only, totally bypassing the fact, there is another person on the profile. By addressing both politely, you are showing respect and stand a MUCH higher chance of making contact.  | |||
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"Thank you both Yeah I mention the things in their profiles sometimes and the worst part is the names making sure i haven't made spelling errors so have to keep going back to re do it all lol and I really appreciate it
Look at their photos, comment on them, comment on their bio, don’t make it about sex, think how you would approach someone in the real world
Mrs
Good advice here. It’s difficult to ignore a well worded, genuinely meant compliment. Or at least we find it is.
I try to do that but some profiles have like 30 photos and a 6 word bio it's not alot to go off and I do wish I was better with words"You say that's not a lot to go off, yet it's enough for you to want to join them for sex so there must be something there that's turned you on. Focus on that. | |||
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"Thank you both Yeah I mention the things in their profiles sometimes and the worst part is the names making sure i haven't made spelling errors so have to keep going back to re do it all lol and I really appreciate it
Look at their photos, comment on them, comment on their bio, don’t make it about sex, think how you would approach someone in the real world
Mrs
Good advice here. It’s difficult to ignore a well worded, genuinely meant compliment. Or at least we find it is.
I try to do that but some profiles have like 30 photos and a 6 word bio it's not alot to go off and I do wish I was better with words"Only message those that genuinely interest you op. If it's just a few words on their bio, you're going purely from pics, so wouldn't know if they're compatible with you, so ask questions, but nothing crude. Introduce yourself, be polite, as others said refer to both people. Always read profiles and only message those who you think you'd be a good fit for. | |||
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"We will always reply to polite and non presumtuous/creepy messages. We may not be looking for guys but we will definitely engage! Some tips from our experience: 1 - address us both. Mr doesn't care that people only ever address me but I do. It really bugs me, it's super rude and a sure way of getting ignored or blocked. 2 - actually read the profile. Crazy how many people just don't. Most profiles will give you some sort of insight into the people you want to message. Try to work something around that in. 3 - don't go with expectations. Paying polite compliments without it seeming to expect to go somewhere and just being nice/polite for the sake of it goes a long way Ultimately we do feel for single guys on here, it must be tough to stand out but ultimately that's what you're dealing with. We get a lot of messages though and they vary wildly. Which leads to our last tip - try not to send mid wank messages 😂. The horn does things to us all and it tends to bring out the inner creep in us. So pop a message whilst sober, be polite, utilise the profile to touch on something relevant and address both people! " I’ve always tried to do 1, 2 and 3 (been here before). Never works - too many erm, deficiencies- but at least I haven’t pissed anyone off (I think?). | |||
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"We get so many messages from single guys on here. I am pretty certain the vast majority don't read our profile. This leeds to us getting pissed off by the utterly crass messages. They are bit like cold callers from India, in most cases we just ignore and delete the message. Occasionally the message is so appalling that we bite back. Like the guy who recently wanted to pay to play. Occasionally we will chat a bit. " Can completely identify! We're really limited with who we add as friends. We won't add people we don't really intend to meet and only have a handful as we're not interested in making a porno Facebook. I'm saying that, we actually sent a friend request to one guy simply because he was genuinely nice, funny and down to earth. There was no sleeze at all on his part and whilst we certainly don't think we're special, we feel that sending a friend request to a single guy is something we have no intention of doing so it shows in some way that just being normal can get you to connect with people. | |||
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"I'm not good at approaching couples but I'd love to meet some and play does anyone have a good starting message idea I start with "Hey you two " I know that sucks but I just want tips " I don’t think there is a one size fits all approach, as everyone is different. I think these points below will make a huge difference if messaging a couple but even if you write the best message in the world it still might not get a response, or even be read. 1) acknowledge that you’re talking to a couple, not just speak to the female. 2) don’t send a cut and paste generic message that you’ve posted to 100 other couples that day, personalise it if you do. 3) show that you have actually read their profile, don’t ask them if they want to come to yours for a meet if it clearly states they only meet in clubs or something similar. 4) I can’t be arsed to read war and peace, so don’t send a huge message at first but also don’t send “ hey, how are you” either 5) don’t be to vulgar or crude in your initial contact and also say a bit about yourself. 6) always add a face pic and not necessarily a pic or a dozen pics of your cock, it’s not as impressive as you imagine it is. 7) not related to the message itsself but make sure you have a good profile, with decent information about you. What you’re looking for, with good pics, not just of your cock. 8) another profile point, make sure you have good and recent verifications, from profiles that are still viewable. | |||
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