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By *eadmaster96 OP   Man
1 week ago

London

Hi everyone, I hope you’re all well! I am new to this community and was looking for some feedback on why I am not getting many/ any replies.

I’m just wondering what could be causing this? I feel like my profile is strong, and I attach recent face pics to my messages which seems to be the norm request.

I would consider myself decent looking, and irl I have no issues with attracting woman.

Is it because my profile is relatively new and I only have one verification? I feel like if this is the case, I’m kinda stuck because people don’t message me back because lack of verifications, and I can’t get verifications because I don’t have verifications.

Or is it because F and MF are inundated with messages from M and they don’t reply?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
1 week ago

your head

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By *ittle Miss TinkerbellWoman
1 week ago

your head

Sorry, there was a typo on the first post

It could be because its a new profile OP, it could also be your age 🤷‍♀️ Focus on making your profile the best it can be and making sure the messages you send are personal and not copy and paste. Fab takes time, it isn't instashag.

You'd probably get more replies if you posted in a different part of the forum too. Maybe try the lounge or swingers chat.

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By *ucka39Man
1 week ago

Newcastle

Hiya op

Firstly age bracket

Photos smarty dressed

Bio

Let your personality shine and what you can offer for your audience

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By *eadmaster96 OP   Man
1 week ago

London

Thanks for the reply I appreciate it, will try implement the advice you have given! Generally, are people not looking for people mg age (28)?

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By *en_Dover79Man
1 week ago

Oswaldtwistle

Just read the other 5000 posts on this section asking the same thing. surely there is a universal solution to the question

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By *ndymac888Man
1 week ago

Dumbarton

Want some tough love ?

As in want an honest opinion ?

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By *ucka39Man
1 week ago

Newcastle


"Thanks for the reply I appreciate it, will try implement the advice you have given! Generally, are people not looking for people mg age (28)?"

Are people on this site around your age as well as those who prefer someone around your age many have preferences who prefer younger than them it's finding your audience

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By *eadmaster96 OP   Man
1 week ago

London

If it’s relevant and informative yeah go ahead, if it’s just vindictive then no thanks.

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By *ndymac888Man
1 week ago

Dumbarton


"If it’s relevant and informative yeah go ahead, if it’s just vindictive then no thanks."

Your pictures aren’t good, I don’t mean that you personally aren’t attractive but there isn’t really anything to see

Woman hate dick picks unless they ask, it’s a good dick but keep it private until they ask to see it.

You look athletic so concentrate on maybe a torso pic or maybe full body in nice underwear, if showing your face is no no then have a neck down.

Also the bathroom selfies tend to be a big no and believe it or not most woman will actually complain about how untidy it looks (yup madness I know)

It might seem counter productive but do a search of single male profiles and you will spot the ones with effort and those ones without, steal good ideas and also see what’s shit.

Lastly I promise, woman on Fab are here to fulfil their own fantasy, they can get sex by walking into any bar any night of the week. If your profile looks like and sounds like you can deliver it they will find you.

Good luck pal

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By *eadmaster96 OP   Man
1 week ago

London

Thank you mate that is solid advice, will try making a few of these changes, appreciate it!

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By *enerationfornicationMan
1 week ago

somewhere in...


"Hi everyone, I hope you’re all well! I am new to this community and was looking for some feedback on why I am not getting many/ any replies.

I’m just wondering what could be causing this? I feel like my profile is strong, and I attach recent face pics to my messages which seems to be the norm request.

I would consider myself decent looking, and irl I have no issues with attracting woman.

Is it because my profile is relatively new and I only have one verification? I feel like if this is the case, I’m kinda stuck because people don’t message me back because lack of verifications, and I can’t get verifications because I don’t have verifications.

Or is it because F and MF are inundated with messages from M and they don’t reply?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated"

My thoughts,

Your going to be damned if you do and damned if you don't.

There is a huge pop. of M compared to F.

As someone else said, it's not #instashag. I've only just rejoined myself after being away. I have a nice social meet recently where all we did was chat.

Some people prefer that, others don't, it really goes down to choice.

Personally, I wouldn't take all of this to heart (although what is seen as rejection is hard no matter what - focus on building your own resilience)

Sire that are plenty who will think, he's a right muppet, perhaps I am but being able to admit your own faults to make a positive change is something very few of us can do

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
1 week ago

Chester

Re bathroom selfies - I’m sorry to say, but yours is a standout in the genre (in a not great way) for actually focussing on the clutter and blurring the bit we’re supposed to be interested in! Get it the other way round and it’d be way better!

The other thing I’d maybe rethink is the phone call or verifications thing - I’d never do a phone call, so I’d rule myself out at that point, but I’m also confused by your reasoning - a phone call is a vibe check, I guess - I’m not sure relying on other peoples’ verifications gives you the same thing.

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By *ndymac888Man
1 week ago

Dumbarton


"Thank you mate that is solid advice, will try making a few of these changes, appreciate it!"

I takes time to get your head around this place mate, the theory I’ve settled on is that Fab isn’t the place to come to meet a lot of woman, it’s more the place you come to find a specific woman, one who’s kinks match your kinks, you can get hookups if you play your cards right but you can get those anywhere.

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By *he beard and the bumCouple
1 week ago

Lancashire

I’d immediately be put off by the dick pics.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
1 week ago

Central

Being here for 2 week s is nothing, as it typically takes men months to get established and it takes huge investment of effort. Typically, single men need to adjust their expectations away from unrealistic to realistic.

They typically go to socials and clubs, to get known too.

Firstly - most people are not mutually compatible with most other people. So almost all messages won't get a reply and will reach dead ends. 🚧. ⛔

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By *eroLondonMan
1 week ago

Mayfair

Some invaluable advice already given, OP. In addition — take a few photographs that will entice your target audience, making them focus on you, as opposed to being distracted by anything in the background — the three toothbrushes, the clutter... Best of luck dear chap.

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