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Hello or straight to the point

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By *cl1912 OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Swinton

Here's one for the ladies mainly but guys opinions welcome too do you prefer recieving a polite hello message or a message that's straight to the point?

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
2 weeks ago

honeysuckle lane

A hello or something like that will do me a straight to the point message instantly dries me up

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By *issmorganWoman
2 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Polite please

Any graphic or crude first messages are an instant delete.

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By *ollysgonelookingWoman
2 weeks ago

bangor

Definitely a polite hello. Also with a bit of info off my bio to let me know it has been read.

Anything graphic crude or weird is a total turn off

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By *andy1234Man
2 weeks ago

Goole

Hi I always start with a hey or hello and am polite and respectful but always get ignored any advice ladies it would be greatly appreciated

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By *eyeYCouple
2 weeks ago

Nr Leicester

Straight to the point?

What point and how does it work in real life?

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By *iscombobulated1523Couple
2 weeks ago

Worcestershire

A polite personal hello will get you a reply a straight to the point gets deleted

Straight to the point with a dick picture attached gets blocked and deleted

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By *atador...Man
2 weeks ago

Aylesbury

I'd say a polite first message, including something you like about their profile, if it's a couple address both of them.

That will at least get them to look at your profile only, so make it as interesting as possible, if they like you they will reply, if they don't, it is what it is, don't feel bad if they don't reply or worse delete without even looking, ghosting is normal in 2025 good thing about it is it works both ways

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
2 weeks ago

Coventry

It's your profile really. Regardless what someone says (unless it's instantly off putting) the first thing people do is look at your profile. Chances are whether they chose to reply or not depends on if they like the look of your profile. So in terms of an opening you're better off keeping it to a simple hello (and maybe a complement).

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By *atador...Man
2 weeks ago

Aylesbury


"It's your profile really. Regardless what someone says (unless it's instantly off putting) the first thing people do is look at your profile. Chances are whether they chose to reply or not depends on if they like the look of your profile. So in terms of an opening you're better off keeping it to a simple hello (and maybe a complement)."

See this

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By *ndymac888Man
2 weeks ago

Dumbarton

😂😂

There is no right answer to this as it’s going to be a preference. The only rule you need to follow is don’t be a dick in any message you send.

It also won’t matter in most cases, nice messages or not if they don’t like your profile they ain’t replying.

I get why and I’m not complaining, rejecting nice people that send a nice message can feel worse than being rejected yourself. No one can do that 50 times a day and have a positive experience on Fab.

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By *rinceless PrincessWoman
2 weeks ago

Gloucester

A polite hello after you’ve read my profile

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By *rdere OpusCouple
1 week ago

Brum - ish

I always want to talk first to gauge compatibility.

Getting straight to the point gets you an instant delete.

Dont make it just ‘hello’ though. That’s nonsensical and not a conversation starter.

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By *os19Man
1 week ago

Edmonton

I believe sending a polite message will get you further than a straight to the point message.

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By *ightofdesireMan
1 week ago

Northwest

Literally impossible to know unless stated very clearly on their profile.

Even then they might have 200 polite messages waiting for them.

Some like straight to the point no chitchat

Some like a slow burn get to know you.

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
1 week ago

Alphabet Mafia HQ, Dudleyish.

A hello after the profile has been read.

It doesnt even have to be polite 😂

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By *cottish guy 555Man
1 week ago

London

If it's not something that you would say in person to a stranger then why send it as a message?

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By *ualityNotQuantityUKCouple
1 week ago

Leicester

Although we are not currently looking for meets we do try to reply to messages as it's only polite, but for us, messages will be instantly deleted without even a profile view if they are any of the below:-

A cut and paste "trawl", (just sent out).

From a silhouette profile pic.

Minimum effort, eg "hey", "hi" "what you looking for" etc

Vulgar/crude etc, just not how you start a conversation.

Text chat, we don't want to spend ten minutes trying to decipher what you've said just because you couldn't be arsed to use proper words.

And most important of all, a message which doesn't show that you've read and understood our profile. Why should we read your profile if you can't be arsed to read ours?

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