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By *teelybloom OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Exeter

Hey all, struggling to have success on here, any advice?

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
2 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

Welcome to the forums

Are you asking for profile advice or advice in general?

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By *teelybloom OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Exeter

Both!! It’s not my first time here but this is a new profile. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

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By *oiluvfunMan
2 weeks ago

Penrith


"Hey all, struggling to have success on here, any advice?"

Welcome to Fab mate! You’re only 4 weeks in, so I’ll give you the two best options for ‘success’ in here;

1) Grow some tits. Your inbox will be overflowing. There’s a single female in my local updates currently moaning she has over 500 unread messages she can’t answer every one. Bless her….

2) list yourself as bi/bi curious. Your inbox will be almost as overflowing…..

Good luck out there

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By *evonrobMan
2 weeks ago

Kingsbridge


"Hey all, struggling to have success on here, any advice?

Welcome to Fab mate! You’re only 4 weeks in, so I’ll give you the two best options for ‘success’ in here;

1) Grow some tits. Your inbox will be overflowing. There’s a single female in my local updates currently moaning she has over 500 unread messages she can’t answer every one. Bless her….

2) list yourself as bi/bi curious. Your inbox will be almost as overflowing…..

Good luck out there "

He’s right you know! Young and old the random chances of getting a meet mean you have to have patience, resilience and the ability to act fast when an opportunity arises. If you can’t do those 3 things I wouldn’t bother!

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
2 weeks ago

land of overweight munters


"Both!! It’s not my first time here but this is a new profile. Any help would be greatly appreciated."

If you've been here before then you know how it works.

If you used the forums before you know there's 100s of advice threads and know how to use the search function

If not.....

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
2 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

Just be yourself, post a thread or 2 on whatever you like. People mainly use the lounge for general topics. the swingers chat for more sexual stuff, help and feedback section for....(self explanitory)

Stay clear of virus section unless you want stupidity

There's a forum search function at the top when you first click the 'forums' use that to see if there's topics already started that you could post in

Also, click to start a thread and at the top read the forum rules.....you can get timeouts from posting or banned if you break the rules

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
2 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

people won't just go on a smile and a body or cock shot.

Add something about you, hobbies, interests can be cinema or walking etc, don't base it all sexual.

This place is for encounters but sometimes mutual interests can help with conversations.

But the gals won't look at bland/blank profiles, and you wouldn't look at blank profiles either. You've a good bio but it's nothing that others haven't wrote before.

Would you meet a 99year old?

Have a laugh with your status, change it daily so your in the newsfeed frequently

Change your pics frequently so your in the newsfeed

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
2 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

Have a look at the tick boxes for interests and think...are you really into all that at the same time. Blindfolds for me are about trust, so as much as that's ticked to converse about, it wouldn't be in messages.

Are you really into the things you ticked?

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
2 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

I'm done

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By *eroLondonMan
2 weeks ago

Mayfair

She did rather magnanimously ⬆️ and encapsulated every useful advice that should be heeded by a returning newbie.

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By *neeyedwillieMan
2 weeks ago

Darlington

Best advice I can give any man is...

Don't waste your time on fab! It's a tool at the end of the day for connecting people but if only it was so simple.

Like it or not, women have all the options on here. Many women might not like those options but they have them.

They're the ones getting messaged by who knows how many men each day. Most men on here..yeah they're not getting messaged at all! Only a few.

And that sadly is just the reality of it. The site is 75% single guys I would guess so the majority are just not going to get meets. It;s not all that dissimilar to dating apps when you think about it...and they've nose dived recently.

Best thing you can do is go to social events or throw yourself into clubs and acctually talk to women!

I do fine for meets but I've barely had any through Fab over the years...and even the ones I did came because of a social event.

just get out there and do your thing OR sit behind a screen hoping one day you'll get a response!

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By *ippingDeeplyMan
2 weeks ago

Bath / Reading / Yeovil

Rule 1 of Fabclub: Be needy

Rule 2 of Fabclub: Have a vagina

Rule 3 of Fabclub: Fake it

Bosh!

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By *en_Dover79Man
2 weeks ago

Oswaldtwistle


"Best advice I can give any man is...

Don't waste your time on fab! It's a tool at the end of the day for connecting people but if only it was so simple.

Like it or not, women have all the options on here. Many women might not like those options but they have them.

They're the ones getting messaged by who knows how many men each day. Most men on here..yeah they're not getting messaged at all! Only a few.

And that sadly is just the reality of it. The site is 75% single guys I would guess so the majority are just not going to get meets. It;s not all that dissimilar to dating apps when you think about it...and they've nose dived recently.

Best thing you can do is go to social events or throw yourself into clubs and acctually talk to women!

I do fine for meets but I've barely had any through Fab over the years...and even the ones I did came because of a social event.

just get out there and do your thing OR sit behind a screen hoping one day you'll get a response!

"

Exactly what advice I always give.

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By *heDevilsinthedetailMan
2 weeks ago

liverpool

Persevere and be patient. Talk in forums. Read profiles and write thoughtful messages relating to snippets of their profile so it strikes a chord. Eventually you’ll message someone and you’ll click. Fab isn’t the fastest place to get a meet but if you’re patient and make friends some will want to play

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By *teelybloom OP   Man
2 weeks ago

Exeter

Thank you all for your help! I will make changes to my account and profile when I get more time. In the meantime I’ll be staying patient

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By *each_BananaCouple
2 weeks ago

China

Also try posting regularly to the forum.

This presents your character and demeanor to others.

It may help if you present yourself in a way thay is appealing to someone.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
2 weeks ago

Central

You've been here for just 4 weeks, so need to adjust your expectations to be realistic. It takes single men months to get established and requires a lot of hard graft.

As most people are not mutually compatible, almost all of the contact made will lead to a dead end for all here.

Target those looking for your age. Yesr attitude seems right . Use your profile to the best, including having fantastic, clear photos, so people can decide whether they find you attractive. Get to socials and clubs - Exeter isn't the swinging centre here but you can look around

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By *oiluvfunMan
2 weeks ago

Penrith


"Hey all, struggling to have success on here, any advice?"

To be fair mate, 25 is a bit on the young side to be in here, or the swinger side of life on the whole. I didn't struggle to meet women when I was playing rugby, and neither of my sons do now. It's even easier I would say these days, now the ladies' game is so popular!

You can use Fab completely free of charge, to peruse whenever you're bored, swap some banter in the forum, keep an eye on your local updates, and yes; message those profiles who catch your eye, and you feel a genuine potential match for.

You can visit swinger clubs too, as others have commented above. But be prepared to travel, do check when single guys are 'allowed' entry, and take the financial hit (entry fee) on the chin like a high tackle. And be aware; there's usually more women on the touchline watching the second team play, than there is in clubs lol....

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By *atador...Man
2 weeks ago

Aylesbury

Drive to a club and talk to everyone

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By *irty130Couple
2 weeks ago

Bristol Area

Another profile written by AI/ChatGPT?!

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By *inchestersBitchWoman
2 weeks ago

land of overweight munters

There are some changes been made which is good, to how it was before

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1 week ago

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By *aGaGagging for itCouple
1 week ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

You've been on 5 weeks! - you're in the majority looking for the minority. Dig in for the long haul. Change your expectations. Read the numerous other threads on this. Good luck.

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By *umagain58Man
1 week ago

London


"You've been on 5 weeks! - you're in the majority looking for the minority. Dig in for the long haul. Change your expectations. Read the numerous other threads on this. Good luck."

Agree as I had the same experience when new on here. I was naive in thinking like OP. All I can say OP is it’s possible to have fun on here. It took me over a year for first meet but was worth the wait and chats. Still going and like more. Good luck

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