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Fantasies within a relationship

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By *lightxxx OP   Man
47 weeks ago

somewhere near you

Me and my girlfriend have recently opened up about our fantasies.

We are wondering what other couples experiences were when they first involved another couple or person?

One thing she's certain of is that she wants to have sex in the same room as another couple but not swap.

And she fantasises about sharing me with another girl, she's not bi. And full swap and being shared by me and another guy.

Has anyone else ever regretted opening up the relationship because of a horny fantasy?

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By *lik and PaulCouple
47 weeks ago

cahoots

Never regretted anything but always have plenty of conversation before moving forward so that you are both as sure as you can be. Our swinging life was a year in the making.

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By *lightxxx OP   Man
47 weeks ago

somewhere near you

If not regrets, then any advice or ways to help with potential jealousy afterwards

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By *uriousCpl91Couple
47 weeks ago

Stockport

My advice would be make sure your communication as a couple is good discuss it fully.

swinging can be a great experience and addition to your relationship. but it can also be a proverbial landmine that could destroy your relationship.once its gone boom.

If there are any issues in the relationship like past cheating. make sure you have both come to terms with it before heading out on the journey togeather. as swinging will dial all your issues up to 11.as it takes complete and utter trust in your partner.i dont mean to sound doom and gloom but ive seen couples have full blown arguments in a club because they didnt do the above. or one person was there more so just to keep there partner happy.

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By *otfunx1Man
47 weeks ago

Edinburgh

We have fantasized for while lots of chatting. Be natural she takes next step when she meets a guy she likes

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By *issmorganWoman
47 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Why don't you make a joint profile, put all your filters on and then she can have a look round fab.

There are couples who just want to have sex in the same room as others, you could try a club for that too.

I'm not sure about you finding another girl to join you, especially if she's straight.I'm straight and wouldn't join a couple alone.

It's hard enough for any couple looking for an extra fem at the best of times on here.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
47 weeks ago

East Sussex


"If not regrets, then any advice or ways to help with potential jealousy afterwards "

Who is likely to be the potentially jealous person?

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By *una_RaineCouple
43 weeks ago

worcester

Have lots and lots of chats about the fantasies, I’m not a massively jealous person at all and one of my fantasies was seeing my man be pleased by another women, we started off slow with playing together with talk as if it’s happen in that moment when it’s just us, lots and lots of dirty talk to see how we both react

Then eventually I said I wanna go to a swingers club, we had many conversations about it and made up rule (these have changed since then) but I made it clear that I can’t promise how I’d react afterwards, I don’t know if I’ll get upset or jealous but if that happens we will take some time to be alone together and talk about whether it’s something we can continue

In our case everything was great! Didn’t get jealous or upset so it worked out great!

On the other hand my partner has got jealous once with me and another man but we stop and we talk about the concerns and see if we can move past it or not, we have rules with males more so because of that, now we don’t play with males unless he’s happy with them and we stop when he’s uncomfortable

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By *omRachCouple
43 weeks ago

Wirral

Not regretted it for one moment personally.

It took Rach a fair bit of time to understand that men other than me really would find her attractive and want to have sex with her but now that she has found this to be true she seems to be embracing this lifestyle in a way I never thought possible.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
43 weeks ago

Coventry

A relationship where you can truly be yourselves without judgment and have completely open communication is a solid relationship. Too many people enter into relationships where they have to hide aspects of their lives and this ultimately becomes problematic. I would say theirs far more risk not being open about your fantasies from the start than there is you both being completely open from the start. Mature couples also understand that a couple is made of two individuals and their fantasies may not always align but that's ok too. So I say always be yourself in a relationship and express openly your desires as you let them openly express theirs.

Mr

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By *arty_new00Man
43 weeks ago

London

We recently invited a 3rd person in, another woman. Was very hot but clear no touching between me and the woman.

It was extremely hot, we were on a high for a good couple of days.

My advice is make sure you've got plenty of time and space after it as it opens up a lot of emotions for both people in the relationship, which if you're there for each other helps make you stronger.

It's a very different experience fantasising about it to seeing it happen...

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By *edseethruMan
43 weeks ago

douglas

Think you are going about it the right way.

Exploring fantasies. While not putting each other is a great first step

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By *teveanddebsCouple
43 weeks ago

Norwich

We've always been really good at trying new things, if you don't like it put it down to experience and don't do it again!

Don't let things simmer and resentment build up.

It's worked for us for over 20 years

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