FabSwingers.com forum: Newbies to swinging

By *BBelfast OP Couple
3 weeks ago

Belfast

Hi guys,we are new to the swinging scene and are looking for some advice from the ladies as what to look for in a profile, the etiquette in the bedroom, anything that can set my mind at ease,female here

We had our 1st meet about 5 weeks ago,it was fun but quick,we arranged a meet with a lovely guy when away for a few days,great meet but again abit too quick, we have a meet this Saturday night and really looking forward to it...but is there any advice you ladies can give me we would be forever grateful, thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

Hi there x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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3 weeks ago

East Sussex

Look for things in a profile that you like, I can't really say more than that because what appeals to one might not appeal to another.

In the bedroom be clear on what your boundaries are also those of the person you are meeting. Nobody should be afraid to stop proceedings at any point and all participants are of equal importance.

Hope you enjoy your meet

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By *issmorganWoman
3 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

I'd always say have a social first op, make sure there's mutual attraction & discuss what you're both looking for & what's off the table so to speak.

Keep talking to each other and don't go against anything you've both previously agreed not to do on meets.

Have fun

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By *he Happy ManMan
3 weeks ago

Merseyside

"Hi guys,we are new to the swinging scene and are looking for some advice from the ladies as what to look for in a profile, the etiquette in the bedroom, anything that can set my mind at ease,female here

I am not female lol but

Make sure the guy knows you will not tolerate sexual selfishness and you and your partners wants, desires, and needs matter.

Trust your gut instincts. If something feels off about a guy trust your gut.

Make sure they guy knows he will be meeting a couple. Make sure he doesn't ignore your other half.

Ignore guys who only want to ever talk to you online and ignore your partner if it is just him online.

Remember you and your partner are inviting somebody into your sex life not the other away around.

Make sure they guy knows you and your partners sexual turns ons and offs. Make sure he understands if he tries to do something sexually you don't like he will be asked to leave.

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By *oleraine-coupleCouple
3 weeks ago

Coleraine

Lessons we learnt over the years

1. Vet the profiles well

2. Lots of chat on here first to get the measure of the person.

3. Pictures a must for us.

4. Be clear about your expectations and boundaries

5. Meet socially first even if it’s an hour before you head to your bedroom

6. Take your time, it’s very easy to rush things

7. Stick to what was agreed

8. Communicate during your meeting. Chat, be friendly, have a giggle, say what you want, say yes, say no.

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By *eekingFun84Man
3 weeks ago

Dorking

I’m know I’m not a female, nor is my profile filled with great photos or fabulous reviews but being a single normal man on this site is like trying to catch a goldfish in the ocean.

Back to the point in question, if I get on with people on here then I give them my Kik WhatsApp or something or just organise to meet, but normally somewhere mutual for all people involved and take it from there, and as for time I like to be a pleaser, if we’re going to do this I what it to be memorable and last as long as possible so I use helpers as I’m in my 40s now LoL.

It’s all about communication I guess but some people just want quickies.

I don’t know if any of that might be helpful, but it’s my opinion, Happy Fabbing All

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