FabSwingers.com forum: First club visit

By *cl1912 OP Man
3 weeks ago

Swinton

Hey people I'm wanting to attend my first club any advice would be appreciated or any offers to attend with too

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By *allySlinkyWoman
3 weeks ago

Leeds

Your closest club is Cupids. Immediately on arrival there you have to change into boxers or a towel. In other clubs you can stay fully clothed in the bar. It depends on you which you prefer.

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
3 weeks ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge

Ask for a tour. Whike on the tour ask if there are any newbie friendly people there.

If you approach then just be approachable and respect that they might not want to chat. If they don't make apologies and move along.

The phrase "this is my first ever club visit and I'm a bit nervous" is a great icebreaker.

Don't go expecting fun or to be invited ti have fun, go with the intention of meeting new people and connecting.

Most of all have fun!

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By *TWboyMan
3 weeks ago

kings Lynn

I have been asked to a club but don’t have a clue what to wear. It’s not a theme night so I was thinking smart trousers, shoes and a shirt (no tie).

Does that make sense ?

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By *izandpaulCouple
3 weeks ago

merseyside

You will never, ever forget a first club visit.

Ours was Cupids about 20 odd years ago.

Drove up and down outside to pluck up the courage.

Went in, towel on, sat at the bar, drank tea, were quivvering wrecks all night.

Blurted out, it's our first ever, ever visit to anything like this, to anyone who came within arms length of us.

Everyone was so kind, lay in the sauna, was so turned on strangers looking at me naked.

Went home, had sex for what seemed to be for days, recounted how sexually exciting the visit.

Was back again next week and then to just about every other club around.

From chatting to people along came the private party invites, then weekends away, then swingers holidays in Gran Canaria and Cap D'Agde

From there confidence to arrange social meets, gang bangs, blindfolded sessions with groups of men.

That first visit will, with patience, hopefully open a door to an exciting new world.

Good luck.

Be yourself, be open and honest, don't be a limpet and remember a couple is just that, 2 people, chat to both.

If you get anyone who isn't friendly or chatty, move on, plenty of folks who will respond.

Don't just think it's single guys who meet not so nice people, couples do, but you will become very adapt to moving on.

In years to come you will look back at your first ever club visit.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
3 weeks ago

Leeds

"I have been asked to a club but don’t have a clue what to wear. It’s not a theme night so I was thinking smart trousers, shoes and a shirt (no tie).

Does that make sense ?"

Yes that sounds perfect

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By *TWboyMan
3 weeks ago

kings Lynn

Thanks for the reply.

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By *hyguyindevonMan
3 weeks ago

dartmouth

My first visit to a club...Chameleons ..Darlaston (as I used to live in the Midlands)...drove there..sat in car on the car park for 30 mins...then drove home !!

The same happened the next visit !!!..Then it was 3rd time lucky....had MANY MANY great times there!

Good luck

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By *times2Couple
3 weeks ago

middle of east sussex

Also considering a first club visit (Pleasures in Kent is our closest). Just concerned whether we'll find any similar people that we get along with; need to be able to hold a conversation really. So very nervous about what we might find; any reassurance gratefully received!

It's not really the end of the world if we turn up, don't find anyone we can connect with, watch some fun and then head home.. but still a bit nervous. He doesn't like being in the midst of alpha males; he's not interested in competing and can't be bothered with them. Are these parties full of alpha males?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
3 weeks ago

Leeds

The man in a couple doesn't need to be worried about competing with "alpha males". He already has a partner.

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By *times2Couple
3 weeks ago

middle of east sussex

Oh he just gets the impression that there are bound to be guys there trying to show that they are better in some way: fitter, bigger, more skillful etc. I tell him not to worry but I know he'll find such a dynamic uncomfortable, even if he does already have the top prize (me!)..

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
3 weeks ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge

There is absolutely guys like that and they don't really get much attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

Is it worth it for a single male to go I got told the ratio gets a bit much couple's start getting annoyed

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
3 weeks ago

Central

Read the club services, facilities, single men pricing and visiting times and compare them. Plus check membership rules etc

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By *ervent X KissMan
3 weeks ago

Chi Harbour

"Oh he just gets the impression that there are bound to be guys there trying to show that they are better in some way: fitter, bigger, more skillful etc. I tell him not to worry but I know he'll find such a dynamic uncomfortable, even if he does already have the top prize (me!).."

No but there are always several single men looking for their prey. As a couple you’ll have a very different experience than as a single. Try to at least chat here with couples that going and you’ll have a head start on arrival. I believe it’s a better chance of a good night than if you were to go to a hotel with a couple or two. As you’re not forced into anything and you are much more free to do things as you wish and you can talk away from others as there will be rooms available rather than just one room. Be prepared to say no or move on when either of you wish. Every club is different. Everyone has their preferences. Good luck.

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By *times2Couple
3 weeks ago

middle of east sussex

Thanks. Going to travel and try VA as it looks very good

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By *izandpaulCouple
3 weeks ago

merseyside

"Also considering a first club visit (Pleasures in Kent is our closest). Just concerned whether we'll find any similar people that we get along with; need to be able to hold a conversation really. So very nervous about what we might find; any reassurance gratefully received!

If he's your partner, he isn't in any competition with any men.

Alpha men don't really exist apart from in their immature minds.

Confident men don't need labels, it just shines through.

Have fun.

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By *ixenandhoundCouple
3 weeks ago

Plymouth, South west

In any club there will be a mixture of people, there are the odd ones that can be pushy, but 99% are friendly, chatty and welcoming. You'll find people from all walks of life, with different reasons for being there.... try it, if you decide its not for you then it's an experience

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By *allySlinkyWoman
3 weeks ago

Leeds

"Is it worth it for a single male to go I got told the ratio gets a bit much couple's start getting annoyed "

Maybe go and see for yourself rather than relying on someone's opinion

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3 weeks ago

"Is it worth it for a single male to go I got told the ratio gets a bit much couple's start getting annoyed

Maybe go and see for yourself rather than relying on someone's opinion "

Yeah true might find someone to go with

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By *irsSubCouple
3 weeks ago

Darlington

Go with zero expectations to play, remember that the successful single guys aren't pushy, and do all their business in the non sexual areas.

Talk like you were at party to people, the conversation in rarely anywhere as dirty as you probably imagine. We play with single guys, but bar one impromptu GB have only ever played with one single who've we've met for the first time in the play areas, and that guy knew what he was doing in terms of his approach.

Avoid hanging around the play areas like a predator (nothing says sexy like making eye contact whilst wanking and grunting at a complete stranger).

If you have the right attitude you have a great time, meet new people, get more veris and hopefully have some naughty fun

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By (user no longer on site)
3 weeks ago

"Go with zero expectations to play, remember that the successful single guys aren't pushy, and do all their business in the non sexual areas.

Avoid hanging around the play areas like a predator (nothing says sexy like making eye contact whilst wanking and grunting at a complete stranger).

If you have the right attitude you have a great time, meet new people, get more veris and hopefully have some naughty fun

Yeah definitely wouldn't go with any expectations and I don't like pushy people anyway funs got to be fun for everyone just don't want to be on my own looking awkward lol first time would be to see what it's like and like you say meet people and have fun possibly

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By *atador...Man
2 weeks ago

Aylesbury

Last club I attended was the Annex near King's Lynn, got shown around by Claire, next time I'm free will attend again, was a nice club almost like a pub really with a hot tub, red room was fun too

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