FabSwingers.com forum: My personal issues with anal

By *idssissy OP TV/TS
3 weeks ago

Nr cricket ground birm

This won't be of much interest to most but thought if I laid out my thoughts on anal I could let people who want to do it with me read it, rather than repeat myself.

I grew a shy catholic boy who due to this and lack of confidence and some medical issues came quite late to exploring sex and sexual activities especially with men.

Like some I have had many fantasies about anal play but for many reasons I never turned fantasy into reality.

There is a possibility the aforementioned medical issues effected and maybe even damaged my anal muscles. When I used to experiment with butt plugs my muscles wouldn't always be able to clench to keep them in. When I experimented with strap ons, sometimes they went in too easily.

This coupled with ibs issues makes me scared to try anal. I worry I may have issues cleaning myself out with enemas and douche and of course everyone wants to use a clean ass.

There is the concern about stis and if I was every to do anal it would never be bareback.

There is the Catholic guilt to get over.

There is not knowing what turns me on sexually though for me it's usually about the other person's pleasure.

There is the weird concern I may like it too much.

I am not saying it will never happen but it's not going to be an easy journey and all the jokes about r**ping my ass isn't going to make me trust you easier even if that's part of my fantasy.

I appreciate most don't want to put this time and effort in which is fine, so maybe I will stick to oral.

By *unboyhuddsMan
3 weeks ago

Huddersfield

At the end of the day it’s down to you on what you do. It’s your body and anybody playing will respect your wishes and boundaries.

Anal fun will always come with what your mind perceives. I always look at the fact, the person may have douched earlier, but sometimes things move, and a little bit of mess may occur. Stop clean up and carry on with oral or touching. The person will be protected anyway, and removing the condom gets rid of the issue.

Only you can try what you want with a partner who’s easy going and not pushy.

Have fun and take care. X