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"This week a women from fab was given my real name without permission by a guy I had met. She then found my business page on Instagram and sent my business a threatening message. The guy didn't see that as an issue. It's becoming so difficult to enjoy this site without the risk of abuse/stalking/harassment. How do people stay safe? I try to only meet guys with verifications, but in this example, he had positive verifications ( one of which was from the lady in question. ) Yet when I put a status up about their actions, other people came forward saying similar has happened to them too. So obviously I've blocked and reported but essentially anyone can just make a new account and verify each other. How do we avoid stuff like this? " Unfortunately nothing.. there's zero accountability on here to prevent that or even stop it...so being on here is that risk | |||
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"It might be that they've attended an event, which if they put the Guestlist in the forum, then they can go back and find the person. But yes, the verification process is pointless and also there's not much in the sign up process to out spare accounts/fake accounts. Right now I'm clutching on to the thought that this might be a fun way for me to explore but actually it's becoming exhausting. " You’re not doing anything wrong by meeting men for sex, you can’t loose your job over it. Admittedly I don’t know what your situation is so i apologise if you do have a particular job that means it’s a problem. What threats did this woman make in her messages? | |||
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"This week a women from fab was given my real name without permission by a guy I had met. She then found my business page on Instagram and sent my business a threatening message. The guy didn't see that as an issue. It's becoming so difficult to enjoy this site without the risk of abuse/stalking/harassment. How do people stay safe? I try to only meet guys with verifications, but in this example, he had positive verifications ( one of which was from the lady in question. ) Yet when I put a status up about their actions, other people came forward saying similar has happened to them too. So obviously I've blocked and reported but essentially anyone can just make a new account and verify each other. How do we avoid stuff like this? " It’s fucking dumb that this is even an issue. It’s a shame that any degree of honesty is met with deception and dishonest intent. Unfortunately, the only way around it is to use a different name completely and avoid anybody who knows you in real life like the plague. I agree it ruins some fun because it’s automatically putting up a defence and staying away from risk. It’s the same sentiment that’s behind women’s self defence classes etc, we shouldn’t need them, but we do because unfortunately that’s the world we live in. Anyone else wanna move to an island of genuine people who are open and honest and just respect the words “community” and “privacy”? | |||
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"This week a women from fab was given my real name without permission by a guy I had met. She then found my business page on Instagram and sent my business a threatening message. The guy didn't see that as an issue. It's becoming so difficult to enjoy this site without the risk of abuse/stalking/harassment. How do people stay safe? I try to only meet guys with verifications, but in this example, he had positive verifications ( one of which was from the lady in question. ) Yet when I put a status up about their actions, other people came forward saying similar has happened to them too. So obviously I've blocked and reported but essentially anyone can just make a new account and verify each other. How do we avoid stuff like this? " Don't give your real name. Don't meet at your house. Put a false postcode so you show up living 30+ miles away. | |||
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"This week a women from fab was given my real name without permission by a guy I had met. She then found my business page on Instagram and sent my business a threatening message. The guy didn't see that as an issue. It's becoming so difficult to enjoy this site without the risk of abuse/stalking/harassment. How do people stay safe? I try to only meet guys with verifications, but in this example, he had positive verifications ( one of which was from the lady in question. ) Yet when I put a status up about their actions, other people came forward saying similar has happened to them too. So obviously I've blocked and reported but essentially anyone can just make a new account and verify each other. How do we avoid stuff like this? " What a nasty woman. Shame you can’t find out who she is and pay her a friendly visit for a chat to illuminate her on the error of her ways . | |||
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"I’ve been saying for a long time now that verifications on here are pointless and meaningless. They aren’t proof that someone is who they say they are because someone can verify someone else and say that they’ve met in person without ever actually meeting that person. Also, lots of verifications say that they met the person at a club and had fun with them….I’m assuming mobile phones aren’t allowed in clubs and I’m assuming people don’t walk around with a pen and paper to write down the profile name of everyone they meet, so how do they actually remember who they’ve met to be able to find their profile and verify them afterwards? Have they just got really good memories? I forget someone’s name almost straight away when i first meet them so i’d have zero chance of remembering random profile names. " We find verifications far from pointless and meaningless. They are only part of a process though. Just like with Amazon, one veri, especially from a cam or a club/social organiser saying they attended, tells you little, but a critical mass of veris from similarly well verified people tells you a lot. We have found remembering people’s usernames from club pretty straightforward. You only need to remember part of it and the Fab username search does the rest. We have been lucky in that all our fab experiences have been positive but appreciate not everyone’s will be so, and single women run more risk. One piece of advice: if you share your mobile number, amend your Facebook settings so it doesn’t make friend suggestions based on phone numbers in contacts or your Facebook profile will appear in their feed as someone they may know. | |||
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"I’ve been saying for a long time now that verifications on here are pointless and meaningless. They aren’t proof that someone is who they say they are because someone can verify someone else and say that they’ve met in person without ever actually meeting that person. Also, lots of verifications say that they met the person at a club and had fun with them….I’m assuming mobile phones aren’t allowed in clubs and I’m assuming people don’t walk around with a pen and paper to write down the profile name of everyone they meet, so how do they actually remember who they’ve met to be able to find their profile and verify them afterwards? Have they just got really good memories? I forget someone’s name almost straight away when i first meet them so i’d have zero chance of remembering random profile names. " I’m quite new to this but did meet a guy who actually does have a little see-through pencil case he takes into clubs with him that had condoms, wipes/tissues and a small pencil and paper for remembering the names of genuine people he met for veris. I’ve also noted that a lot of meets/events have group chats and guest lists beforehand so you can maybe message and get to know each other briefly in advance then if you do get along at the party verify them that way or find them through the recent veris/reviews from the event afterwards if that makes sense? I have seen catfish and fake profiles with fake veris though so people are getting through somehow. Unfortunately you’re gonna get stuff like that on a platform like this no matter what it’s impossible to completely police it, more popular apps like POF and Tinder are almost unusable now because of all of the scammers (deffo from a single guys point of view). Just have to be extra vigilant when getting to know people on here, judging by what the OP said though that sounds more like a case of a genuine member just being a prick and breaking the golden rules, hopefully they’ve been removed ⛔️ | |||
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"This week a women from fab was given my real name without permission by a guy I had met. She then found my business page on Instagram and sent my business a threatening message. The guy didn't see that as an issue. It's becoming so difficult to enjoy this site without the risk of abuse/stalking/harassment. How do people stay safe? I try to only meet guys with verifications, but in this example, he had positive verifications ( one of which was from the lady in question. ) Yet when I put a status up about their actions, other people came forward saying similar has happened to them too. So obviously I've blocked and reported but essentially anyone can just make a new account and verify each other. How do we avoid stuff like this? Don't give your real name. Don't meet at your house. Put a false postcode so you show up living 30+ miles away." I already do all of those things, but after 10 weeks of him dating me, needing my name to check into a hotel that requires ID. He found out my name on socials. I thought he was a genuine guy who had caught feelings. She is apparently " just a friend" who is absolutely nuts. An error of judgement on my part. | |||
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"This week a women from fab was given my real name without permission by a guy I had met. She then found my business page on Instagram and sent my business a threatening message. The guy didn't see that as an issue. It's becoming so difficult to enjoy this site without the risk of abuse/stalking/harassment. How do people stay safe? I try to only meet guys with verifications, but in this example, he had positive verifications ( one of which was from the lady in question. ) Yet when I put a status up about their actions, other people came forward saying similar has happened to them too. So obviously I've blocked and reported but essentially anyone can just make a new account and verify each other. How do we avoid stuff like this? What a nasty woman. Shame you can’t find out who she is and pay her a friendly visit for a chat to illuminate her on the error of her ways . " I know who she is, as she messaged my business page with her personal Instagram. However, I issued them both with a " do not contact me again or I'll report you to the police for harassment " so really I can't fight fire with fire. | |||
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"This week a women from fab was given my real name without permission by a guy I had met. She then found my business page on Instagram and sent my business a threatening message. The guy didn't see that as an issue. It's becoming so difficult to enjoy this site without the risk of abuse/stalking/harassment. How do people stay safe? I try to only meet guys with verifications, but in this example, he had positive verifications ( one of which was from the lady in question. ) Yet when I put a status up about their actions, other people came forward saying similar has happened to them too. So obviously I've blocked and reported but essentially anyone can just make a new account and verify each other. How do we avoid stuff like this? " Can be an issue, but then some people won't even accept that you can't have a public face pic on here for professional reasons. I guess it's just different life experiences. It's not ok though, sorry someone did that to you | |||
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