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Single male - am I doing something wrong?

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By *ummingbackagain OP   Man
5 weeks ago

Lincoln

I have tried to build my profile out to give an accurate account for why I’m here and what I’m looking for, I’m often passing through areas during the week so understand this isn’t ideal for a lot of people but I do struggle to get any type of conversation going with couples or single females

Any advice welcomed and if you’re not an arse and will give honest feedback drop me a message and I’ll send a face picture - I’m aware I could just not be most people’s type

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By *enelope2UWoman
5 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

[Removed by poster at 13/06/25 23:31:41]

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By *enelope2UWoman
5 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

Nothing wrong with the profile wording but last verification over 5 years ago zero public pictures.. minimum effort.. I'd avoid chatting.

Pictures don't need to be only face or only dick pictures.. you have other bodily features to express your personality or attributes.

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By *ummingbackagain OP   Man
5 weeks ago

Lincoln

Thanks for the feedback, it’s nice to know people will help advise others. I did send you a message too

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By *unga2525Man
5 weeks ago

Drifting

Hard one to crack, no mater how much you match their profiles there's not much interest. Too many single guys I suppose. I've found posting 1 or 2 new pictures a day gets more views as some follow new uploads. More visitors presumably increases your chances. As the lady says more pics, nice mix and and they don't have to be cock and ass. We like erotica that teases. I have limited interests so never going to attract much but it's fun looking. Good luck

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By *azler17Man
5 weeks ago

Castleford

Nothing wrong with your profile, now you know fab is a numbers game for single males, but remember have fun Nothing wrong with having a laugh,that's what it's all about

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By *elsh_naturist_coupleCouple
5 weeks ago

Newport

The not being able to accommodate would be the blocker for us as well as no recent verifications.

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By *all me FlikWoman
5 weeks ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

Having an unknowing partner would be a no from me and probably many on here so you have a very narrow pool of people who would potentially be interested.

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By *ickD80Man
5 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

I reckon there are 2 things that are making it difficult for you….the first thing is that your one and only picture is 7 years old….the other is that you have a partner who doesn’t know you’re on here. I’m not judging you, I don’t know your story so it would be wrong to judge, and I actually think it’s commendable that you’re so open and honest about it….but going by the comments i read in this forum, very few people will meet a man behind his partner’s back.

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By *harAndBryCouple
5 weeks ago

Downham Market


"I actually think it’s commendable that you’re so open and honest about it…."

But now it's been mentioned that a lot of swingers don't want to meet cheating guys, it's been removed from the profile ......

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By *ickD80Man
5 weeks ago

Wolverhampton


"I actually think it’s commendable that you’re so open and honest about it….

But now it's been mentioned that a lot of swingers don't want to meet cheating guys, it's been removed from the profile ......"

Oh, that’s disappointing….turns out he’s not so open and honest then.

He ignored my advice about having a picture on his profile that’s less than 7 years old though….

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By *laxxxMan
5 weeks ago

nottingham

It will be helpful if anyone can go through my profile and advice me what changes I can make to get better results?

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By *ickD80Man
4 weeks ago

Wolverhampton


"It will be helpful if anyone can go through my profile and advice me what changes I can make to get better results?"

Your bio reads like it’s been through an online translator 10 times with 10 different languages until finally being translated into English. It’s perfect English but way too wishy-washy, it’s not written how a normal person talks and i’m sure it’s not how you normally talk. Try writing something that’s a more realistic representation of your true personality.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
4 weeks ago

Bristol/ Daventry


"It will be helpful if anyone can go through my profile and advice me what changes I can make to get better results?"

It looks fine to me albeit it is likely more suited to a dating profile or Feeld than here. One-on-ones are not all that easy to find from a male perspective (or a woman’s if you count those that actually turn up).

I disagree with the poster above. It’s written like someone with a grasp of language and intensity, which aligns with the profile needs. It’s not representative of others on here, but that’s not necessarily a bad thing, differentiation and distinctiveness is key to success here.

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By *ISSchievous CoupleCouple
4 weeks ago

Bedford


"It will be helpful if anyone can go through my profile and advice me what changes I can make to get better results?

Your bio reads like it’s been through an online translator 10 times with 10 different languages until finally being translated into English. It’s perfect English but way too wishy-washy, it’s not written how a normal person talks and i’m sure it’s not how you normally talk. Try writing something that’s a more realistic representation of your true personality. "

Agree with all of this feedback and will add the only thing missing are bullet points it’s that badly written. 🤣

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By *r Mrs FuckableCouple
4 weeks ago

Stoke

Why do people get so hung up about profile text. If they don't fancy you or like your initial photos they won't even get as far starting to read your text. Put a lot more effort into your pictures.

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By *emo1984Man
4 weeks ago

London

Hi all!

On this matter, I am a little bit confused: is ability to accommodate only referred to your own place? Or does it have a more general meaning?

I don't feel safe in hosting people I don't know at my place. I would be more comfortable in a hotel room, tbh.

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By *hortieWoman
4 weeks ago

Northampton

Your profile looks good enough for me to consider bouncing around on you.. only thing stopping me is distance

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By (user no longer on site)
4 weeks ago

Yes, you're a single male - that is what wrong you're one of thousands and fab is one of the only places on earth 1/10s can be picky and knock back hundreds of requests.

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
4 weeks ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge

Nothing wrong with the profile from what we can see now you have taken the good advice.

Fab is very much a numbers game though and it can come down to luck, location, time of day or god knows how many other things.

Really you just need to be persistant and keep it respecful and playful.

Like someone said us 1/10s get to know back hundreds of requests 😂

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By *igladAndLulahCouple
4 weeks ago

Reading & Ignite & Kent


"I have tried to build my profile out to give an accurate account for why I’m here and what I’m looking for, I’m often passing through areas during the week so understand this isn’t ideal for a lot of people but I do struggle to get any type of conversation going with couples or single females

Any advice welcomed and if you’re not an arse and will give honest feedback drop me a message and I’ll send a face picture - I’m aware I could just not be most people’s type"

Good words but you have one verification that’s 5 years old and the profile that gave it is hidden, and you have one public picture, you don’t stand out enough. If you messaged us it would just get lost in the dozens of daily messages and over looked

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By *orkshireDrifterMan
4 weeks ago

Nafferton, nr Driffield.

Remember for every couple of solo female there are scores of optimistic and pushy solo guys. The former get no.barded by messages, often poorly penned by guys and are usually ignored.

Post on here, have good photos, and wait for people to contact you.

Be patient.....

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By *ndymac888Man
4 weeks ago

Dumbarton

I see a lot of woman’s profiles that won’t meet guys “just passing through for work”

I don’t think I’ve ever had a meet that didn’t involve at least a week of chatting and possible early social meet first.

Maybe change your location settings a week or two before you get to the location.

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