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By *umpleteazer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Flintshire

I recently went to my local GUM clinic for routine tests. I took a gay male friend with me to be checked as well.

He was in there for forty five minutes. I was in there for ten.

He was advised of all possible STIs and symptoms. I was not.

He was asked if he used condoms and was offered some. I was not.

He was given a very thorough exam. I was not even looked at 'down there'. I even had to do my own swab!

All tests came back clear for us both, but I was left feeling that I had received a substandard service and now feel the need to go somewhere else to be checked again, just in case.

What have other people experienced in their local clinics? Am I alone or is this the kind of thing I should expect?

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Gay promiscuous men are in the highest STI risk group.

Did you inform them you are a swinger ?

Mrs went recently, told them she was a swinger and was given the full works!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i have aways had full tests and given free condoms whenever i went.

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By *umpleteazer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"Gay promiscuous men are in the highest STI risk group.

Did you inform them you are a swinger ?

Mrs went recently, told them she was a swinger and was given the full works!

"

I did tell them, and they just tutted and sighed...

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Gay promiscuous men are in the highest STI risk group.

Did you inform them you are a swinger ?

Mrs went recently, told them she was a swinger and was given the full works!

I did tell them, and they just tutted and sighed...

"

Slightly rude of them i would of complained about that. I opted to tell them so they could give me all the protection/advice they could. I did have to do the swap myself but i opted for that as im not particularly keen on the tests.

Did they offer a Hep b jab or a blood test? i got offered it but you can request it yourself, its not a common jab they give out (usually just for nurses/health profession people).

All the same if every things ok i wouldnt worry about it too much but definetly next time express for the jab and blood test . Mrs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have been going for a few years now.

i have all the tests done, they always ask me lots of questions, i tell them everything, they give me condoms and lube.i like going there because they are nice to talk too.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Mine ask me what tests I want, I tell them. Then they do it. I don't always get condoms though as they can get busy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes whenever I have been Ive had a full inspection, but I am always honest about who when and what when they ask why I'm there. It's fun looking the doc straight in the eye as im sat there in my work business suit telling him what a slut I've been

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By *cottishrichMan
over a year ago

Here and there

If you aren't presenting any symptoms they do not examine or swab you, they just take a urine sample. If its your first time, or first time for a while they will take a blood sample too for HIV and syphillis, other wise try will skip that too.

Not to get too personal but if you use condoms and don't have unprotected anal sex with gay men then you are pretty low risk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes and they advise me HepB I don't have to ask. It costs a lot of money they reckon and I'm happy to stay as safe as I can.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The clinic I go always hands me condoms after tests. But never been offered lube

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get condoms so I get John to go and fetch them

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By *edonism44Man
over a year ago

oldham

Never been offered condoms and, too be honest, it's always been, as you say, a rather brief ten minute wee and blood test .

I did go once when an exes mum was there, I didn't know. That the night the whole pub seemed to be aware I had been there.... Yes I did report her and yes she wasn't there the next time I went. I wasn't bothered that oriole knew I had been for a check, proud of myself to be honest. More to the point if I had something major, I really wouldn't want the world and his wife knowing ..... Think it's called patient confidentiality x

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By *edonism44Man
over a year ago

oldham

Sorry she was a nurse x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry she was a nurse x"

well hope she had the sack that is gross misconduct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"....It's fun looking the doc straight in the eye as im sat there in my work business suit telling him what a slut I've been "

Possibly the horniest thing I've read for a while!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry she was a nurse x

well hope she had the sack that is gross misconduct "

And struck off the NMC register! Thats bad.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"If you aren't presenting any symptoms they do not examine or swab you, they just take a urine sample. If its your first time, or first time for a while they will take a blood sample too for HIV and syphillis, other wise try will skip that too.

Not to get too personal but if you use condoms and don't have unprotected anal sex with gay men then you are pretty low risk.

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every single time i go i get the works, vaginal, urethral, anal swabs, bloods for syphilis and HIV etc. never had to ask for anything its standard practice.

seems odd that there are such differences in the treatments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always get the full works, as I want a proper screening, I don't really fancy waiting for 'something to grow' before having it checked out.

I'm honest about swinging and with partners but when asked if any of the men I've slept with have slept with any men I tell them it's swinging not a relationship so as far as I know possibly.

I hate having the swabs done, but I do go, I had my text yesterday

The peace of mind they provide is priceless but I never get their condoms, I like my own brand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get swabs and blood tests every time and to be honest not sure how you managed to do your own swabs! Were you both treated by the same person as it does seem that there was a big difference in how you were treated

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By *umpleteazer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Flintshire

They did do a blood test but not a urine test. My friend was given the Hep B jab, even though he has only slept with one person in his life, but it was not even mentioned to me. When asked how many people I had slept with I was honest as I didn't think it was an absurd number but again got the tut and sigh....

Think I will go elsewhere next time!

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By *umpleteazer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"I get swabs and blood tests every time and to be honest not sure how you managed to do your own swabs! Were you both treated by the same person as it does seem that there was a big difference in how you were treated "

Same person treated us. Maybe it was because we both went for different reasons. He had found his partner was cheating so wanted to get checked and I was going and pretty much admitting to sleeping around I suppose. But I would have thought they see people like me all the time so would not bat an eyelid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you should go elsewhere, I think you should say something to them about judgemental attitudes and having a fair and complete screening.

I know I would but then I learn long ago when I had my first baby that dignity is best left outside and collected (or scooped up) on leaving

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get swabs and blood tests every time and to be honest not sure how you managed to do your own swabs! Were you both treated by the same person as it does seem that there was a big difference in how you were treated

Same person treated us. Maybe it was because we both went for different reasons. He had found his partner was cheating so wanted to get checked and I was going and pretty much admitting to sleeping around I suppose. But I would have thought they see people like me all the time so would not bat an eyelid. "

In that case I'd definitely report them as your sex life has nothing to do with the person treating you beyond medical treatment and they should have remained professional whatever their personal opinion. You're saying you'll go somewhere else whereas the next person may decide they just won't got for testing again because of the judgement of someone who should be encouraging regular testing

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By *umpleteazer OP   Woman
over a year ago

Flintshire


"I get swabs and blood tests every time and to be honest not sure how you managed to do your own swabs! Were you both treated by the same person as it does seem that there was a big difference in how you were treated

Same person treated us. Maybe it was because we both went for different reasons. He had found his partner was cheating so wanted to get checked and I was going and pretty much admitting to sleeping around I suppose. But I would have thought they see people like me all the time so would not bat an eyelid.

In that case I'd definitely report them as your sex life has nothing to do with the person treating you beyond medical treatment and they should have remained professional whatever their personal opinion. You're saying you'll go somewhere else whereas the next person may decide they just won't got for testing again because of the judgement of someone who should be encouraging regular testing"

Good point. That had not occured to me. I hate complaining in person, so think I will send a letter.

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By *leasurexxWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

They ask me if i want all the tests and i just say yes please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'd have thought it would be a standard service across all GUM clinics with them being an nhs service! I've been to 3 in my area and they were all very different.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you aren't presenting any symptoms they do not examine or swab you, they just take a urine sample. If its your first time, or first time for a while they will take a blood sample too for HIV and syphillis, other wise try will skip that too.

Not to get too personal but if you use condoms and don't have unprotected anal sex with gay men then you are pretty low risk.

"

I'm always given the full works every time I go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Gay promiscuous men are in the highest STI risk group.

Did you inform them you are a swinger ?

Mrs went recently, told them she was a swinger and was given the full works!

I did tell them, and they just tutted and sighed...

"

For them to tutt and sigh is ot of order

Ive never been treated that way and go regular,i tend to use the health hub of my drs rather than an open clinic tho as its a bit nicer have to book more in advance tho.

Always get a full check and given condoms,talk to your drs see what services they offer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First time I went got the full works interrogated on my sexual conquests, blood and swabs and handed condoms. This time more honest and admired to being a swinger. Took own swap had bloods and no condoms. But peace of mind of clear results isn't that why we go not the service.

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By *adyA01Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

My clinic always offer the full works too! It is then my decision what I want done! I have always been offered condoms too and if I think they are going to forget I will ask! As u know us ladies can get urine infections and other infections that are not necessarily sexually related! So free antibiotics are a bonus too! My clinic also do a coil clinic, I chose to go there to get it done rather than my gp's. They did my smear test too! The staff are always friendly too. Personally I think swingers look after their sexual health far better than anyone else which is very reassuring.

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