FabSwingers.com forum: Mrs agreed to soft swinging, now I'm nervous...

By (user no longer on site) OP
50 weeks ago

Mrs has actively shown interest and has bought up visiting a swingers club for some soft play.

I'm all for it but feel a little nervous, should I be worried? Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated

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By *ovinglife!40Man
50 weeks ago

Hinckley

"Mrs has actively shown interest and has bought up visiting a swingers club for some soft play.

I'm all for it but feel a little nervous, should I be worried? Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated "

What exactly are you worried about??

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By *otathletic1Man
50 weeks ago

plymouth

You should defiantly try it, or if you like arrange something with me. On a holiday perhaps!

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By *hortieWoman
50 weeks ago

Northampton

You really reeaallly need to have this convo with her rather than us!!!

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By *azzler2Man
50 weeks ago

halifax

Hi if your nervous talk to your wife or maybe’s invite someone for a drink and talk it through with them with your wife

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By *oPantsJustVibesMan
50 weeks ago

Staines

"You really reeaallly need to have this convo with her rather than us!!!

Agree with this. You should be talking to her about what you’re worried about and discuss it more with her

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By *herrybakewellCouple
50 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Make your first club visit just about each other.

Taking small steps is better than having regrets.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

"Mrs has actively shown interest and has bought up visiting a swingers club for some soft play.

I'm all for it but feel a little nervous, should I be worried? Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated "

First explain to her why you have a single guy profile.

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By *ovinglife!40Man
50 weeks ago

Hinckley

"Mrs has actively shown interest and has bought up visiting a swingers club for some soft play.

I'm all for it but feel a little nervous, should I be worried? Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated

First explain to her why you have a single guy profile. "

My thoughts exactly.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

"Mrs has actively shown interest and has bought up visiting a swingers club for some soft play.

I'm all for it but feel a little nervous, should I be worried? Any advice or tips would be greatly appreciated

First explain to her why you have a single guy profile. "

TBF to OP he does mention his partner in his profile.

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By *all me FlikWoman
50 weeks ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

You've had a meeting from here OP so you shouldn't have any issues about your wife being involved in the lifestyle.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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50 weeks ago

East Sussex

Advice is to discuss boundaries beforehand and both agree not to overstep them.

Agree to stop immediately one of you says "stop".

Don't be afraid to ask for a five minute time out to chat to your partner.

Agree with her that if anything upsets either of you that you won't blame the other but will discuss it calmly and decide how to move forward.

At least one of you preferably both, remain 100% sober.

Never, ever take one for the team or assume you know what your partner is thinking.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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50 weeks ago

East Sussex

Oh and if you have doubts just don't do it. Once the cat is out of the bag it's difficult to get it back in.

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

Don't push her. Go to a club just for a social take it slowly

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By *ayd100Man
50 weeks ago

clitheroe

Go for it, she's going to get it somewhere else anyway

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By *allySlinkyWoman
50 weeks ago

Leeds

I'm all for it but feel a little nervous, should I be worried? "

Are you nervous about going to a club or your wife playing with other people ?

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By *ou an usCouple
50 weeks ago

the South West but hiding

"You really reeaallly need to have this convo with her rather than us!!!

Totally agree with you on that one

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By (user no longer on site) OP
50 weeks ago

"You really reeaallly need to have this convo with her rather than us!!!

Totally agree with you on that one

Xx"

Have spoken to her she's absolutely fine with it

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By *unsexual MemelordWoman
50 weeks ago

Midlothian

"You really reeaallly need to have this convo with her rather than us!!!

Totally agree with you on that one

Have spoken to her she's absolutely fine with it"

No, speak to her about your worries, not the idea in general. Tell her how you're feeling, maybe she can reassure you.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I have had many so called soft swing meets ( all agreed beforehand) and all boundaries were adhered to, only on one occasion did the wife ask her husband if she could go further.

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By *anda2Couple
48 weeks ago

Belfast

Why have you got a profile on a swinging site if you are not here to swing. ? This is the problem these days too many profiles set up just to look at pictures !!

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By *Couple99Couple
47 weeks ago

Dublin

We almost visited a club for a similar aim in London, but nerves and a few bad reviews that we found put us off

Would be genuinely interested in how you find the adventure and how the nerves work out if you do?

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