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By *smith87 OP Man
50 weeks ago

totton

Hi anyone else have this issue. No matter how much or how long the BJ is I can't cum, but from wank or sex it happens. Think it maybe side effect of antidepressants but wondering if anyone else has same issue

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
50 weeks ago

East Sussex

It's been posted about quite often Do not seems quite a few men experience this.

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By *oiluvfunMan
50 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Hi anyone else have this issue. No matter how much or how long the BJ is I can't cum, but from wank or sex it happens. Think it maybe side effect of antidepressants but wondering if anyone else has same issue "

If you orgasm by wanking or actual sex, then the antidepressants are not the issue.

Many men can’t reach that point through oral stimulation (I’m one myself), it’s very common, so try not to stress about it, just enjoy the sensation as foreplay, then move on to the main event.

Most women think it’s a ‘line’ men spin to just get their cock sucked, so dont expect any sympathy from the females of Fab

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By *unmatt888Man
50 weeks ago

Duns

I am similar, I wouldn’t consider it an “issue” though. I enjoy it and the sensations are very nice, it’s just not the right type of stimulation to actually get me to orgasm.

Just like some women can orgasm from penetrative sex and some can’t, we all work in different ways.

Unless you’re saying you used to be able to, and since starting the meds you can’t?

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

I have exactly the same problem!

I have never cum from a BJ!

I want it to happen so much that I think I doesn't help

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

We have had two guys we hosted who claimed to have never cum from a BJ but Mr made them both cum very quickly.

So it's probably technique or they just needed the beard tickle 😂

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By *all me FlikWoman
50 weeks ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

"We have had two guys we hosted who claimed to have never cum from a BJ but Mr made them both cum very quickly.

So it's probably technique or they just needed the beard tickle 😂"

I think the key word there is claimed

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

"We have had two guys we hosted who claimed to have never cum from a BJ but Mr made them both cum very quickly.

So it's probably technique or they just needed the beard tickle 😂

I think the key word there is claimed

The wives did confirm it but hubby got a mouthful either way so he's happy 👍

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By (user no longer on site)
50 weeks ago

It’s happened a few times but I put that down to a camera pointed at their cock and the mental strain put on themselves to performing.

The more they get into that black hole of not being able to cum the more they sink into that quagmire of doubt.

There’s no blame, it happens at least tgey gave it a go.

Trixie

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
50 weeks ago

Bristol

I've just over 50 and up until a year ago I'd never been able to cum from a BJ.

But... a while ago I finally managed it.

Seriously good cock sucker with his hand wanking the base with 8" of dildo inside me.

Insane effort but I finally did it!

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By *OTSOSUBTLEMan
50 weeks ago

DUBLIN

About 50% of the time-especially if she slips a nice lubed finger( with short nails)or two into my ass and massages my P spot. Devine!

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

"About 50% of the time-especially if she slips a nice lubed finger( with short nails)or two into my ass and massages my P spot. Devine!"

I believe there is some mental barrier here as well... not happened to me ... ever! I wish I could cum from a BJ to know what it feels like

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By *ndyman 201Man
49 weeks ago

hereford

I usually cum from a bj

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

Pretty common i think. We're about 1 in 10 BJs that she catches the silly string, even then she's put in a good half hour of hard graft with her mouth lol.

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By *erayxxMan
49 weeks ago

Wrexham

Happens to me, sometimes I can but a lot of the time I cannot.

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By *WANDTGCouple
49 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

I think I've cum about 8 times in total through oral sex, not sure why I find it so difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

`lucky you!

I have cum ZERO times from a BJ...

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By *he milf next doorWoman
49 weeks ago

bluebell woods

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

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By (user no longer on site)
49 weeks ago

If you struggle to cum from a BJ, its more than likely because youre trying to cum from a BJ.

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By *igad999Man
49 weeks ago

wolverhampton

I find it takes me longer than other things to cum

I’ve got a sensitive bit under the helmet and if wife licks that it puts me over the edge

But she prefers cum inside her as opposed to oral so it’s not a massive thing that don’t always cum through it

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By *leafordGuy82Man
49 weeks ago

Sleaford

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By *leafordGuy82Man
49 weeks ago

Sleaford

Can only speak for myself but I think that is the case in most situations. I don’t usually cum quick and never expect it from oral now. But there has been a few surprises over the years where nothing was preventing the person from finishing me off, and quickly too.

Over thinking it can add pressure, medication, edging too often I found makes me want to keep the edging ongoing even if I think I want to end it.

Also age and becoming desensitised.

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By *heekyweesmileWoman
49 weeks ago

North Lanarkshire

Im a girl and i cant cum from oral.

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

"Im a girl and i cant cum from oral. "

I feel your pain!

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

I'll rather my cum end up elsewhere so hold back

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By *oobaaMan
48 weeks ago

Sth Tyne

Its not something I really enjoy TBH.

Been with women and men who have tried but just dont like it.

However I have enjoyed someone sucking me through a G/H...one lady said I was weird when I stopped her lol

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By *rosted9Man
48 weeks ago

stafford

I stopped taking antidepressants as they stopped me cumming and would go soft then hard soft then hard constantly. A few weeks off them and everything is mostly normal again for me. But everyone's different

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Any lady up for a challenge?

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By *igad999Man
48 weeks ago

wolverhampton

Had a bj off wife earlier today and that was after 2 days of no sex

Still took a while but when I felt it getting to the point I wasn’t stopping pulled her in and it went down

Quicker than normal but had been teasing the last day so very turned on

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
48 weeks ago

Bristol

"I’ve got a sensitive bit under the helmet and if wife licks that it puts me over the edge"

It's part of my preferred technique.

The base edge of the helmet is a good place to lick. I like to insert my tongue under the foreskin to access it if the guy is un-cut.

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By *igad999Man
48 weeks ago

wolverhampton

"I’ve got a sensitive bit under the helmet and if wife licks that it puts me over the edge

It's part of my preferred technique.

The base edge of the helmet is a good place to lick. I like to insert my tongue under the foreskin to access it if the guy is un-cut.

I’m cut but yeah she knows that’s my spot and it sends me over the edge

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By *eviant TogMan
48 weeks ago

lots of hotels

A lot of people just aren't very good at it, and/or expect it to be quite a brief thing.

Teeth out the way, sloppy, wet, deep and using hands and tongue all over should do it

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By (user no longer on site)
48 weeks ago

Hopefully getting a BJ if the wife soon

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By *eenALongTime.....Man
48 weeks ago

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I have never cummed from a bj, just doesn't do it for me!

Even tried 69 & it just puts me off my job

Love slamming it down her throat for a bit of deep throat with a bit of gag if she's up for it though

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Stil no luck for me here...

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By *litlicker77Man
47 weeks ago

wiganish

Never cum if ex gf was sucking she needed too wank me at same time her sucking skill were dire

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By (user no longer on site)
47 weeks ago

Any ladies like a challenge ? 😇

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By *hisismeXXXMan
46 weeks ago

Welsh Wales

Sometimes I can/do, sometimes I can’t/don’t.

What I learned quite early, in a relationship with my very own Mrs Robinson, she showed me the way.

If it’s just mouth on penis then I’m unlikely to get there, but the traditional ‘bj’ is just part of it. Get physical, masturbate, suck, lick, stroke, play with the balls, stimulate other areas, just enjoy and play, forget about wanting to cum until /unless you are ready, finish off by hand if you want (theirs or yours, no worries) and just enjoy the ride!

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By *neforutoMan
46 weeks ago

Fantasy land in the SW

Ive got the opposite. I find it really difficult to cum through penetration and have always found oral/wanking more satisfying.

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By *erseykevMan
46 weeks ago

St Helier

I tend to cum before I get a full erection when wanking these days! Not sure if it's an age thing?

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By *urious_male1982Man
46 weeks ago

aylesbury

I’ve always thought it’s down to technique and like sex generally you have to click. Some like it gentle, some like it rough. I like lots of gentle stimulation and helmet play. Others love sloppy gagging BJ’s.

I couldn’t cum through oral with an ex but my next partner could drain me in minutes!

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

Lucky you mate!

I still haven't found what I am looking for.... as the song goes lol

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By *uffolkcouple-bi onlyCouple
46 weeks ago

West Suffolk

"Lucky you mate!

I still haven't found what I am looking for.... as the song goes lol"

You can always do the drive to us and Mr will make you cum lol

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
46 weeks ago

Get off the anti depression

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By (user no longer on site)
45 weeks ago

Who can break this curse!?

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By *sxboy69Man
45 weeks ago

Braintree

I've only ever cum once from a BJ, and that was with a guy in a gay sauna dark room who seem to know what he was doing and I also happened to be in a very horny mood.

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By *huck5772Man
45 weeks ago

dukinfield

I'd just like a BJ🙁

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

Still in search to cum from a BJ!

I think only someone genuine who loves to do it may make it happen

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

Don't seem to have trouble cumming when getting a bj, in fact i generally need to take it out for a short while to calm it down a bit... I'm quite sensitive to the feel of a bj.

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By *oiluvfunMan
44 weeks ago

Birmingham

"Any ladies like a challenge ? 😇"

Pmsl 😂 No……😂😂

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

My wife swallowed for the first time ever on holiday a few weeks ago. Not seen her that horny since the last time we went on a naturist beach about 3 years ago.

I thought I was never going to cum. I’m usually the opposite but with blow jobs I can’t cum. Maybe because she would never allow it.

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By *xoticFrolicMan
44 weeks ago

Gosport

I'm on those and find it near impossible via bj, sex or myself.

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By *i-subhubby.Man
44 weeks ago

Slightly round the bend.

I have given two bjs and have made both cum from doing it. Luck i surpose.

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By *igad999Man
44 weeks ago

wolverhampton

Had one yesterday but was combined with an edging type wank. Literally so built up needed to cum so bad but it was right at the point but not happening

30 seconds inside her and shot for what seemed a lot longer than usual

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By *effdelightMan
44 weeks ago

Grimsby

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By *igad999Man
44 weeks ago

wolverhampton

When it happened with us think she kind of was getting on the point of saying let’s try another way haha

But she prefers cum inside and fucking anyway so wasn’t a show stopper for us

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By *urreyphotographerMan
44 weeks ago

kt16

You're not alone !!!

I've shot a lot of porn and see it most times.

Also when I've had MMF .

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

"You're not alone !!!

I've shot a lot of porn and see it most times.

Also when I've had MMF . "

Really?

Even in porn guys do not cum?

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By *teve3663Man
44 weeks ago

ashington

Sensitive reduces with age. I’m almost 56 and can only cum with vigorous stimulation of my cock. In my 20s you only needed to look at my cock to make it cum.

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By *olly_AmberTV/TS
44 weeks ago

East Sussex

I’ve had two guys who have ‘finished’ but not cum from BJs they both said they had orgasmed and didn’t or couldn’t do anything more but no cum

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By *econdtimelucky101Man
44 weeks ago

Near Birmingham.

I've never had an issue with Cummings from a blow job. Lucky me lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
44 weeks ago

I am like that as well!

Never cum from a BJ

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By *ay6eeMan
44 weeks ago

South Wales

Same here, never from BJ alone.

Don't get me wrong, I enjoy it greatly and I don't think it's the technique, and I get soo close but still not happened.

For me, pleasuring her and feedback really turns me on, and I will get very close if she makes happy noises, or we're 69, or I've got something to play with.

Yet still no 🤷🏻‍♂️

So I treat it as foreplay, it's never been a problem.

That said, any ladies reading this who want the "challenge" feel free to message haha!

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By *obbi_sutherlandTV/TS
44 weeks ago

Ardgay

Have given many, many blow jobs over the years and don't recall ever not swallowing a load.

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

I’m one of them as well…. Don’t cum from BJ and I love long BJ as well….

I would agree with everyone else, it’s not an issue and I would say it’s advantage…..

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By *una_RaineCouple
43 weeks ago

worcester

My friends with benefits has this issue too, he’s never came from a bj in his life but once I had him extremely close by wanking him in a rotating motion while sucking too, but I lost the rhythm when he said he was close so it didn’t happen but I’m still on the mission XD

On the other hand my partner doesn’t have that issue but sometimes he looses sensitivity and struggles, in those cases a finger up the bum works brilliantly

just saying!

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By *una_RaineCouple
43 weeks ago

worcester

"My friends with benefits has this issue too, he’s never came from a bj in his life but once I had him extremely close by wanking him in a rotating motion while sucking too, but I lost the rhythm when he said he was close so it didn’t happen but I’m still on the mission XD

On the other hand my partner doesn’t have that issue but sometimes he looses sensitivity and struggles, in those cases a finger up the bum works brilliantly

just saying! "

Oh also, my partner struggles to cum with bjs off other women to the point of cumming, because they do it too sloppy, lots of spit i mean which makes him loose sensation, where as myself and one other woman can make him cum because we both suck while giving bj which makes it tight around the cock, doing that while going deep really works for him, he says it feels like he’s fucking a pussy, so maybe it’s technique. I do my way of bjs on a few men but they prefer lots of saliva, so everyone is different

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By *rivervaderMan
43 weeks ago

bolton

What about not cuming at all from sex. Hand job or blow job what would cause that?

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By *nutsdeepCouple
43 weeks ago

Manchester

I only ever came once from a bj before my current gf. I cum every single time now. I think it’s all to do with the technique and the person you’re with, she puts in a lot of effort and actually wants to suck me off which adds a LOT to the equation.

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By *levobeavoMan
43 weeks ago

crawley

I don't think I've ever not cummed from a BJ. It's a great feeling Ioading sow. Someone's throat.

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By (user no longer on site)
43 weeks ago

"I only ever came once from a bj before my current gf. I cum every single time now. I think it’s all to do with the technique and the person you’re with, she puts in a lot of effort and actually wants to suck me off which adds a LOT to the equation."

She sounds like a keeper!

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By *allSlimJohnMan
43 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

I have only cum once from a BJ and that was from a lady who didn't want penetration: she was an expert.

I have a mental block against it. I only want to come in a pussy. I have never tried anal and don't want to.

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By *ussylicker1969Man
43 weeks ago

Colchester

I very rarely come from blowjobs, she has to be a professional then it’s possible but hard to achieve

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

Try a finger up your arse while being sucked? You’ll come like a steam train!

1st time a woman did it to me, I could barely walk for 10 mins. Such an amazing orgasm

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By *illingToHelpMan
42 weeks ago

Oldham or South Shore

"What about not cuming at all from sex. Hand job or blow job what would cause that?"

Anti-depressants really mess with ejaculation. If you’re on them, speak with your GP.

Also, possibly an over reliance on porn, or wanking can change the way that the brain works. Something to do with the direct connection and intimacy of person-to-person contact versus the impersonality of solo stimulation.

Always try to have a healthy mix of both solo and person-to-person contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
42 weeks ago

"What about not cuming at all from sex. Hand job or blow job what would cause that?

Anti-depressants really mess with ejaculation. If you’re on them, speak with your GP.

Always try to have a healthy mix of both solo and person-to-person contact. "

This makes sense!

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