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Don’t want to embarrass myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
8 weeks ago

Hi fabbers

I’m looking for a bit of guidance, support, or just a place to talk things through. Lately, I’ve had some thoughts and feelings around my sex life with my wife that I find difficult or even a little embarrassing to bring up with people close to me. I’m hoping to share here because I feel like I need some clarity or just someone to talk to who won’t judge.

I’m not looking to vent or overshare—just to have an honest conversation in a space where others might relate or offer some advice. Thanks in advance for the understanding.

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Bristol

Ok... go on then...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
8 weeks ago

Don’t want to embarrass my self

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By *egvisir71Man
8 weeks ago

Derbyshire

Difficult for anyone to offer guidance, support or advice if you don’t say what it is op 🤷‍♂️

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By *cottish guy 555Man
8 weeks ago

London


"Difficult for anyone to offer guidance, support or advice if you don’t say what it is op 🤷‍♂️"

Pretty much this.

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
8 weeks ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge

If you won't share OP we can all just guess if you like.

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By *ndisMan
8 weeks ago

Liverpool

Want help? Ask for help! Then don't want the help? Err! Confusing.

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By *ries AngelWoman
8 weeks ago

Bournemouth

Is it anything to do with what you say in your bio?

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By (user no longer on site)
8 weeks ago

Well congratulations…you’ve achieved not embarrassing yourself by completely failing to ask or state anything.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
8 weeks ago

Leeds

What is your unspoken craving in your user name ? How can people help if we don't know what it is ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
7 weeks ago

I’ve been slowly opening up to my Mrs about my desires and fantasies, and while she’s been amazing so far, there are still parts of me I’m scared to share. Mainly because I don’t know how she’ll take it — and I don’t want to damage the trust we’ve built.

One of the biggest things I’m struggling with is this:

I still get strong sexual urges and kinks when I’ve used, even though she thinks I’ve stopped. Truth is, I haven’t fully — and I don’t feel like I can stop on my own. I’ve tried. I want to, but I keep slipping.

It’s hard because some of the best sex we’ve had was when we were both on something. There was a connection, a rawness, an openness. I miss that, but I don’t want to keep going down this road. I want to figure out how to get that same level of intensity and honesty without needing anything extra.

I’m not proud of hiding it. I feel guilty. But I also know I need help — both with the substance side and understanding what’s really going on with my kinks and desires.

Has anyone else been through this? How do you talk to your partner about this without wrecking everything?

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