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What's a normal message response number?

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By *ensual_Sam OP   Man
7 weeks ago

Bracknell

How many message responses is the norm for average guys on here? Given the sheer number of males to females.

Is it like 2-3 reply backs a month? I know it also depends on how many messages you send and the quality of them too.

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By *randMrsLPCouple
7 weeks ago

london

its all relative as some may gt many and some none.

i was chatting to another bloke and he told me if he sent over hundreds of messages he may get one replay - often the reply/s are linked to forum chat and people can build on that

many men contact us re forum chat in the hope i guess for more chats and some will give or ask for phone number

i guess if you are well hung, very fit and good looking, you may have a chance - that is for others to decide and not you or me

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

Entirely depends if you are reading profiles and tailoring messages .... or just throwing out the equivalent of spam

And it doesn't matter how fit or hung you are if you don't match what the reader is looking for they won't reply.

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By *iss DevilWoman
7 weeks ago

Bedford

I don't get loads of messages due to tight filters, so I can reply to all messages, unless the message is so vile it goes straight to bin and the person gets added to my block list. However, OP, I don't think you'd feel much better if most of your messages (or all even) came as "no, thank you", would you? As no replies are just that, "no, thank you"s, according to FAQs. Also, for people who do get loads of messages, answering every single one of them is a full time job, making it physically impossible.

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By *tticus Finch 76Man
7 weeks ago

Northampton

I virtually always get a response mainly because I message people who I've bumped into at clubs, parties or socials so they aren't cold messages and I don't send many. Moral of the story is don't rely solely on Fab

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
7 weeks ago

Chester


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i guess if you are well hung, very fit and good looking, you may have a chance - that is for others to decide and not you or me"

It always makes me laugh when people say this - everything’s subjective and everyone has their own preferences. And sometimes it feels like a very useful excuse for poor results.

If someone writes me a sparky message that references something in my profile, I’ll usually reply. Doesn’t have to be a long message - but copied and pasted nonsense will not do the trick.

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By *ogandher1962Couple
7 weeks ago

Reading

Depends on the content of the message as to whether we reply. A “Hi” will get an automatic delete. Effort in equals results out.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
7 weeks ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

I probably get a reply to 90% ish.

But then I send next to none and I'm never asking to meet. 🤷‍♂️

I guess the response rate will depend on the message content, whether it's tailored or appears generic, and most importantly if your profile matches any clues as to who they may (note may, not probably) will be interested in.

But I don't think I've ever sent a message expecting a reply yet. When one comes it's nice. When it doesn't? Equally fine.

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By *WANDTGCouple
7 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

We'll message back but it would be " no thanks, good luck " as we aren't interested in single men at this moment in time.

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By *inky PerkyCouple
7 weeks ago

Kingston


"Entirely depends if you are reading profiles and tailoring messages .... or just throwing out the equivalent of spam

And it doesn't matter how fit or hung you are if you don't match what the reader is looking for they won't reply. "

Exactly this. However the response rate is still very low for single guys even if you're doing everything right.

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By *harAndBryCouple
7 weeks ago

Downham Market

Fab's own FAQ says that "no reply = no thanks" so not getting a reply is a form of reply, if that makes sense.

Some numbers....we might be lucky to meet twice a month. Let's be optimistic and say three times. One of those will be someone we've met before and know, so we *need* two new guys each month.

We average 20 offers per day, so maybe 600 over the course of a month. And we need two. That's just 0.3% so genuinely 99% of the messages are a "no thanks" (of there's some effort in the message) or just a delete if not.

(Bry)

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By *inky PerkyCouple
7 weeks ago

Kingston


"Fab's own FAQ says that "no reply = no thanks" so not getting a reply is a form of reply, if that makes sense.

Some numbers....we might be lucky to meet twice a month. Let's be optimistic and say three times. One of those will be someone we've met before and know, so we *need* two new guys each month.

We average 20 offers per day, so maybe 600 over the course of a month. And we need two. That's just 0.3% so genuinely 99% of the messages are a "no thanks" (of there's some effort in the message) or just a delete if not.

(Bry)"

Absolutely. If you're getting a decent number of responses then you're doing OK, even if the responses are "no thanks". Success is just a matter of time and effort. However if all your messages are ignored then you probably need to do some work on presentation. In our experience, the vast majority of men put five minutes of effort into their profiles and five seconds of effort into their opening message. Unsurprisingly they get nowhere.

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