FabSwingers.com forum: My Manager

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My manager at work has found out from my browsing history I have been visiting Fabs site regularly. Ever since she has become a little curious and often asks me about the site. Now she is asking me to set up a profile for her so that she could experience it herself. I did tell her she could signup herself but why me.

Now she tells me I should share all my activities on Fabs with her else I will be in trouble. This is purely bizzare and unusual but I am having to deal with it. Any suggestions as to how to deal with this saga please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like blackmail to me and that is so out of line for a manager to do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the moral here is why on earth browse this site at work?

It sounds like blackmail to me, problem is that by reporting it you are setting yourself up to be disciplined, and potentially viewing this site is gross misconduct.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is shallow that im wondering if she is hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is shallow that im wondering if she is hot

Typical

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is shallow that im wondering if she is hot

Typical

Well surely the only way out of teh situation is to get her in a compromising position so to speak

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is shallow that im wondering if she is hot

Typical

Well surely the only way out of teh situation is to get her in a compromising position so to speak

You just want a meet don't you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is shallow that im wondering if she is hot

Typical

Well surely the only way out of teh situation is to get her in a compromising position so to speak

You just want a meet don't you

On a Sunday is that not a sin?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Send her email wording carefully you do not feel comfortable with it. Ensure it requires a read receipt so you have proof its been read. And or record next conversation on your phone then turn tables on him or her.

Must say bloody stupid of you to browse at work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is shallow that im wondering if she is hot

Typical

Well surely the only way out of teh situation is to get her in a compromising position so to speak

You just want a meet don't you

On a Sunday is that not a sin?

Noooooo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe consider closing your profile and starting a new one in case shes a stalker type

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is shallow that im wondering if she is hot

Typical

Well surely the only way out of teh situation is to get her in a compromising position so to speak

You just want a meet don't you

On a Sunday is that not a sin?

Noooooo

Oh really? what do you suggest I do then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is shallow that im wondering if she is hot

Typical

Well surely the only way out of teh situation is to get her in a compromising position so to speak

You just want a meet don't you

On a Sunday is that not a sin?

Noooooo

Oh really? what do you suggest I do then?

What would you like to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bet it is all under you're account as well so you are going to be the one who gets it in the neck if an admin starts looking into web activities.

I would get her into it a much as possible and get all the info you can to protect yourself if and when the time comes.

she is using you as a shield to do what she does not have the guts to do herself.

Bloody stupid to browse any adult site at work though as the system records everything

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why oh why were you browsing FAB at work?

She is blackmailing you, but you've kinda set yourself up by being stupid & accessing this site at work.

The way I see it you've got 3 options.

1. Find another job and leave.

2. Set up her profile and basically become her FAB bitch.

3. Report get for inappropriate behaviour, however you will also be outing yourself for accessing the this,

You've got yourself in a right pickle and if it was me, I'd be on monster looking for a new job!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the moral here is why on earth browse this site at work?

It sounds like blackmail to me, problem is that by reporting it you are setting yourself up to be disciplined, and potentially viewing this site is gross misconduct.

You fool, fancy browsing at work well you have well and truly set yourself up here mate

The moral to this story don't browse at work your there to work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is shallow that im wondering if she is hot

Typical

Well surely the only way out of teh situation is to get her in a compromising position so to speak

You just want a meet don't you

On a Sunday is that not a sin?

Noooooo

Oh really? what do you suggest I do then?

What would you like to do

Something sweet and innocent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Send her email wording carefully you do not feel comfortable with it. Ensure it requires a read receipt so you have proof its been read. And or record next conversation on your phone then turn tables on him or her.

Must say bloody stupid of you to browse at work."

I am with you on this one.

Also delete your profile, and stop using company software to browse. Use your phone!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is shallow that im wondering if she is hot

Typical

Well surely the only way out of teh situation is to get her in a compromising position so to speak

You just want a meet don't you

On a Sunday is that not a sin?

Noooooo

Oh really? what do you suggest I do then?

What would you like to do

Something sweet and innocent"

Counts me out on both of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must say bloody stupid of you to browse at work.

I am with you on this one.

Also delete your profile, and stop using company software to browse. Use your phone!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She might just want some fun with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like blackmail to me too.

If I were in this situation, I would write a grovelling letter to apologise, promising never to use company property and work time inappropriately, and copy in Human Resources on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is shallow that im wondering if she is hot

Typical

Well surely the only way out of teh situation is to get her in a compromising position so to speak

You just want a meet don't you

On a Sunday is that not a sin?

Noooooo

Oh really? what do you suggest I do then?

What would you like to do

Something sweet and innocent

Counts me out on both of them

How about fabolously filthy, hard and very messy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dnt have time to look at fab at work and when or if I do I use my phone and most of the time I cant get wifi signal so I waittill I get home xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My manager at work has found out from my browsing history I have been visiting Fabs site regularly. Ever since she has become a little curious and often asks me about the site. Now she is asking me to set up a profile for her so that she could experience it herself. I did tell her she could signup herself but why me.

wake up and stop dreamimg

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It is shallow that im wondering if she is hot

Typical

Well surely the only way out of teh situation is to get her in a compromising position so to speak

You just want a meet don't you

On a Sunday is that not a sin?

Noooooo

Oh really? what do you suggest I do then?

What would you like to do

Something sweet and innocent

Counts me out on both of them

How about fabolously filthy, hard and very messy?"

Now you're talking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't access Fab at work anymore. That way, if it does come out in the future you can say that you weren't aware it wasn't allowed but as soon as your manager made you aware of it you stopped. Don't play along with her and don't give her any details. Tell her she is making you feel uncomfortable and you want her to stop making comments. You could use the word harassment to frighten her off. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all - some of your feedbacks are very encouraging and I will certainly keep all in mind. Yes it was rather unfortunate on my part to have accessed the site whilst at work. What I have gathered recently that she has been divorced about a month ago. I feel sorry for her but beginning to wonder if that has got to do anything with the present saga.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

all sounds a bit jackanory to me to be fair!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds like blackmail to me too.

If I were in this situation, I would write a grovelling letter to apologise, promising never to use company property and work time inappropriately, and copy in Human Resources on it.

I forgot to add, after writing to the manager and copying HR, I would delete my profile, start a new one, and only browse/post via my phone during work hours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to come clean about your unusual fetishes. Think

Of something that you know she won't go along with...

Or tell her you only play like this as a Dom so if she wants to play too she has to be sub. Then you can redress the balance and also be in total charge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"all sounds a bit jackanory to me to be fair!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"all sounds a bit jackanory to me to be fair!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"all sounds a bit jackanory to me to be fair!!

Have to say that crossed my mind should have bern posted in story and fantasy section

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sounds like blackmail to me too.

If I were in this situation, I would write a grovelling letter to apologise, promising never to use company property and work time inappropriately, and copy in Human Resources on it.

I forgot to add, after writing to the manager and copying HR, I would delete my profile, start a new one, and only browse/post via my phone during work hours.

Tactfully put. I'd have started with... Dear Schmuck, YOU'RE SO FIRED!

Close your account unless she looks like Jennifer Aniston in the movie "Bad Bosses".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree too but I like fun threads like this lol

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By *risbsMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

"Don't access Fab at work anymore. That way, if it does come out in the future you can say that you weren't aware it wasn't allowed but as soon as your manager made you aware of it you stopped. Don't play along with her and don't give her any details. Tell her she is making you feel uncomfortable and you want her to stop making comments. You could use the word harassment to frighten her off. Good luck."

IMO, probably the best advice on this. Depending on the size of your company they may have an IT usage policy and if they do then browsing FAB would be more than likely be gross misconduct, and instant dismissal.

However, it seems like your boss wants to call the shots in a different way. Any mention of harrassment will send a manager into a mass panic. (I'm a manager and having to deal with a sexual harassment problem amongst two of my staff at the moment). Not fun, I can assure you.

That might neutralise it but as has been said, don't get involved with her, get another profile asap and never, ever log on to FAB using your work PC again. Not even during breaks. On most medium/large business IT systems sites like this are blocked, so I'm guessing you probably work for a smaller outfit. If that's the case, a letter to HR might not be appropriate, and FFS do not try to record a conversation without her consent (which she would be incredibly unlikely to give). It's illegal and would only make matters worse.

Good luck though, and if it starts going Pete Tong, which I hope it does not, consider contacting ACAS who will have some good advice and will have seen it all before!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks. There's no such thing as instant dismissal and if it was a first offence with only Fab being accessed then it's unlikely to result in dismissal. More likely to be a written warning of some level. Covert recordings can be admissible as evidence based on recent case law. Hopefully a warning shot across her bows should do the trick. Good luck with the sexual harassment case!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

give her one then you can blackmail her to extra holidays payrise lol

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Thanks. There's no such thing as instant dismissal and if it was a first offence with only Fab being accessed then it's unlikely to result in dismissal. More likely to be a written warning of some level. Covert recordings can be admissible as evidence based on recent case law. Hopefully a warning shot across her bows should do the trick. Good luck with the sexual harassment case!"

using work computers for non business related reasons can result in dismissal for gross misconduct in many companies. Especially as Fab is classed as an adult site.

Personally i cant believe anyone would be so stupid as to access fab on work computers..completely idiotic and a case of someones little head ruling all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"all sounds a bit jackanory to me to be fair!!

I am not buying it all.

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

All a bit strange to me. I've been at work for the last 15 hrs. I won't use company pc I'm using my phone. If it is true set up an account for her then delete yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Solution don't use the works Internet to browse fab. Use your phone. As for the boss set up a profile for them then he/she won't have that power over you of using your lifestyle as a threat. If you know what's mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The OP hasn't been suspended so dismissal for gross misconduct is highly unlikely and open to legal challenge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Back when I was a wee'un working in a call centre, there was a lovely ex-army guy who was quite into body art (or tattoos to you and me) he got canned for looking at a website that speciaised in, shall we say, female body art.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"The OP hasn't been suspended so dismissal for gross misconduct is highly unlikely and open to legal challenge."

only because his 'boss' apparently wants in on this highly secretive, couldnt find it on google, invite only, secret society website

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id just wldnt say anything about it and if she mentons this place again just say u hv closed yr account now and dont cum on here.

I wldnt cum on here during work anyway. A i havent got the time and B i wldnt use my works computer. Id use my fone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The OP hasn't been suspended so dismissal for gross misconduct is highly unlikely and open to legal challenge."

As above, he would have had to have been suspended immediately pending an investigation, this hasn't happened so its either a wind up or his boss is leaving the company wide open for technical legalities if they do sack him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks guys for all your suggestions. Will it be sensible to change my profile user name and contents as opposed to closing down for a new one. Reason being, over the years I have met and have a long list of friends coupled with a few verifications which I may be losing out should I close. Any thoughts please?

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By *taffsfella1Man
over a year ago

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My instinct is that asking you to set up an account for her could be a trap (ie she could deny that she asked you to do it). Changing your profile name sounds like a good idea and you may want to consider hiding your profile until it blows over too.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"all sounds a bit jackanory to me to be fair!!

I am not buying it all."

likewise..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

she has you by the balls

sounds like she wants you to be her bitch in time

so let her use you or do a runner

just delete your browsing history

then set it to delete your browsing history every time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

few things... if she has u on her hotlist then even a name change wont affect anything - chances are she already has a profile on here now.

Also if u have violated the company IT policy you can be dismissed instantly, and im guessing she clever enough to have not put anything in writing so if you do mention it to HR your on a hiding to nothing.

You sure she just doesnt want to have a shag - seriously??? She might be using fab as a way to mention it to you that she fancies you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's her profile name?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a laff when she sees all this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks guys for all your suggestions. Will it be sensible to change my profile user name and contents as opposed to closing down for a new one. Reason being, over the years I have met and have a long list of friends coupled with a few verifications which I may be losing out should I close. Any thoughts please?"

Is it fab you work for lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You should have been working! Serves you right! :P

It's a bluff. You'll both be outed and in trouble as she should have taken disciplinary action against you when she found out. By asking for more info and a profile herself means if it gets out, you both might lose your jobs! Set up the profile and you both have to keep your mouth shut.

And use your phone to browse fabs, you nutter!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My thoughts...

Stop being so precious about a profile. Those verifications can be repeated. The 'friends' you have made will not back you up if this goes public. Your friends will also not support you financially should you lose your job.

Delete delete delete.

Another thought....

If you set up a profile for her, do it on her software using pics she has mailed from her email ( personal) account to the site.

Last thought.... Tell her you have left the site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all - I have now decided to delete my profile immediately.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

.... Something i said?

Lol

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

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"The OP hasn't been suspended so dismissal for gross misconduct is highly unlikely and open to legal challenge."

not if the company has an internet policy which most companies do..

firstly there would be a conversation followed by suspension followed by a investigation where all his internet traffic would be investigated, then all evidence would be presented at a disciplinary hearing where all the facts will be discussed and any mitigating circumstances considered before being dismissed..conduct relating to anything of a sexual nature very rarely have a happy ending in the work place.

because this is an adult sex site he wouldn't have a leg to stand on and pleading ignorance of any internet policy would not stand up.

using your own phone to access whilst on company property and during company time could also land him in hot water.

use of mobiles during company time is frowned up on by many companies..

it only takes one person to see over your shoulder etc to take offense to again find yourself in trouble..

if you must access during your shift make sure you're away from others and preferably off site.

if you're an employer where staff have access to the internet and you don't have a policy, get one!

it protects you, your company and the staff.

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