FabSwingers.com forum: Dom/sub dynamic?

By *onlywishi OP Man
10 weeks ago

Newcastle

After some help ? I have an amazing sub who will do every task I ask her to complete which is great but I’m getting worried I’ll run out of ideas that will both push her but then give her a treat for completing a difficult one ?

Any help or suggestions would obviously be greatly appreciated

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By *C_BristolCouple
10 weeks ago

Bristol

What tasks has she completed.

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By *onlywishi OP Man
5 weeks ago

Newcastle

"What tasks has she completed."

Pictures outside near to people? ( naked parts)

Playing with herself both edging and fully

Dressing up and what she’s wearing ?

The easy things

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By *anchesterTaurusMan
5 weeks ago

Prestwich

Is it full time sub, or during play?

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By *onlywishi OP Man
4 weeks ago

Newcastle

During play but I task when she is not with me

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By *anchesterTaurusMan
4 weeks ago

Prestwich

Have you tried temp tattoos or anything like that.

I used to task a long distance sub with putting one on her thigh (easily hidden) in the morning before work, something like "cumslut" or "whore", then send photo every 4 hours.

Then send a video playing with her self when she gets home.

Then make the tattoo harder to hide each time etc.

Worked well.

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By *onlywishi OP Man
4 weeks ago

Newcastle

Now that’s a fun suggestion as she has tattoos but not there !

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By *anchesterTaurusMan
4 weeks ago

Prestwich

"Now that’s a fun suggestion as she has tattoos but not there ! "

Nice! Let me know how it goes

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By *aramel.desiresMan
4 weeks ago

Laleham

Have you learnt the Gorean poses. How about setting greating protocols?

It doesn't all have to be sex related either.

Can be health related, exercise, steps or drinking less alcohol or more water.

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By *anchesterTaurusMan
4 weeks ago

Prestwich

It doesn't all have to be sex related either.

Can be health related, exercise, steps or drinking less alcohol or more water.

Yeah, choosing outfits etc

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By *onlywishi OP Man
4 weeks ago

Newcastle

Not yet but taking all these ideas on board

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By *onderWomanWlvWoman
4 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

Why not ask her if there's any self improvement she'd like help working on? See it as a collaboration between the two of you.

Perhaps she has a strength goal, or wishes to use her phone less, have consistent bedtimes, read more, can literally be anything. The gamification of making it a task to complete for someone else can be motivating.

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By *ndymac888Man
4 weeks ago

Dumbarton

What kind of stuff is she into ?

Or what makes her a sub ?

If you find what triggers the sub in her that should help.

Control, exhibition, humiliation ?

You have done the hard bit in finding your sub the rest is all just talking and seeing what works.

I love this sort of dynamic but once you trust each other just get her feed back and work with that.

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By *aramel.desiresMan
4 weeks ago

Laleham

"Why not ask her if there's any self improvement she'd like help working on? See it as a collaboration between the two of you.

As Wonder says.

Communication is key in D/s. Working together so you both get want you need.

"Completing a challengefor someone else can be a big motivator" think about the

Punishment of failing. I use to set a challenge and if she failed I might be punished!

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