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"There's also a lot of people saying "No dick pics on profile/message" but every other verification I see is just flashing. " I should have clarified this better but it feels like some people want immediate sex talk/nudes/meets while others want months of socials before anything and so much as a nip slip is an immediate no. I don't know if it would help me to have more sexually charged pictures or if it would be worse. | |||
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"There's also a lot of people saying "No dick pics on profile/message" but every other verification I see is just flashing. I should have clarified this better but it feels like some people want immediate sex talk/nudes/meets while others want months of socials before anything and so much as a nip slip is an immediate no. I don't know if it would help me to have more sexually charged pictures or if it would be worse." You don't need explicit pictures but from the first glance at your profile, three pics of your face with a massive black mark taking up 25% of the picture is enough to turn anyone off. Just take some nice, artsy pictures of yourself showing some interests etc. Your profile is the window to your success...if your blinds are closed people will just move on mate. Good luck. | |||
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"There's also a lot of people saying "No dick pics on profile/message" but every other verification I see is just flashing. I should have clarified this better but it feels like some people want immediate sex talk/nudes/meets while others want months of socials before anything and so much as a nip slip is an immediate no. I don't know if it would help me to have more sexually charged pictures or if it would be worse. You don't need explicit pictures but from the first glance at your profile, three pics of your face with a massive black mark taking up 25% of the picture is enough to turn anyone off. Just take some nice, artsy pictures of yourself showing some interests etc. Your profile is the window to your success...if your blinds are closed people will just move on mate. Good luck." Fair comments, I'll try to be artsier with it 
The only issue I have is that I don't want my face on blast publicly so it does make it trickier but Ill give it a go | |||
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"Tbh, your profile is a bit...........dull. pics are unimaginative and largely blocked out. You can't travel or host, you don't really have anything that is a 'hook' so I'm not sure what your expectations are. As a single bloke amongst millions of single blokes you need to really stand out, and you simply don't." Fair point, I guess in an effort to be as non-offense as possible I've dulled the edges. I'll try and give my profile a little more spark  | |||
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"Unfortunately, the opening paragraph in your bio is going to reduce your chances to almost zero. For anyone reading, it says "I want to meet but can't travel or host"....that basically leaves 2 options, you're either hoping someone is going to pick you up or you're hoping a neighbour is on the site. I think in reality, unless you can make plans to visit clubs or events, you would be best off waiting until you can drive or have your own accommodation to be able to pursue this lifestyle. " You're definitely right, I think I'm shooting myself in the foot. My area isn't a bustling city so without travel my options are already linited as it is so I need to try and go the extra mile (Literally) if I want to pursue this. I try to be open as to be honest but sometimes I think I'm too open to the point it can be off-putting. Definitely something I will need to work on, thank you for the advice | |||
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"Try and work with what they're after in their profile and respond accordingly. They hate it when you've clearly not read it or sent a generic message. They rarely want to jump on your knob so accept rejection well. You'll get a lot of it. But sometimes things all fit into place. Pardon the pun" That's what I've been doing funnily enough, I look at their profile and see what they're looking for and try to open the conversation based on that. But I think a lot of people might be right that my profile is a bit bland. I'm fine with rejection at least and the pun has been duly pardoned | |||
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"Hi OP I can see your bio has changed so well done for taking on advice, people ask....and weeks later it's still the same I do have one thing, it's my opinion only, but the cheesy 'bite unless asked' is ....generic" Noted | |||
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"The problem with threads like this is that guys end up trying to please everyone and want to come up with a message/profile which won't turn anyone off. The problem is they end up with something so generic it doesn't turn anyone ON. You can't win 'em all. Every woman/couple has their own red flags, the ones you are looking for are the ones that would be into You. Be honest, say what you want. Own it. " That's actually the most solid advice I've heard, I'm definitely taking it on board. | |||
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"For what it's worth...you don't need to say you're straight three times! A lot of your profile text (about being athletic and drinking) is already covered at the top..." On this site - yes he does! | |||
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"For what it's worth...you don't need to say you're straight three times! A lot of your profile text (about being athletic and drinking) is already covered at the top... On this site - yes he does!" Legitimately you really DO have to say it multiple times haha. | |||
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"Why not just block single males from messaging? " I do but I've had people messaging me on couples accounts or fabbing pics over and over. I was honestly surprised how often it was happening but I dunno if it's just my area. | |||
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"I think your profile is great better than most single males... But it still reads like most single males...you just want any hole that says yes... I would eliminate the looking for fun it's just as bad as a dick pic... Otherwise what you are looking for is to the point...it contradicts in several places...there's a hint of you really aren't sure of what you want. one line is fwb other line is you'll smash and go, then the next is you want couples but state that you aren't experienced to even know if you'll be a limp fuck in the room if you were with a couple.... Just my analysis" I see what you're saying and I've made some minor changes, taken the fun but out and clarified that I don't want a ONS with just ANYONE, has the be the right person. When it comes to couples I just generally prefer the attention be on the woman and because I have 0 interest in other men it doesn't do much for me to have them involved physically, so it's more of a preference than anything. | |||
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"Caved and posted a dick pic....so now the first pic we see is an unoriginal, totally not classy, lazy pic of your dick. A step backwards." Yeah unfortunately I caved but I will probably private it after a few days. Not my usual style, but I was curious to see how people would react (As expected, mostly dudes fabbing  )
It got me thinking though... I see so many profiles with nudes and porn on the first image that I'm starting to question if there's a double standard when it comes to men flashing their dicks vs women flashing boobs/vag, unimaginative or otherwise. Like don't get me wrong, this isn't targeted or anything, but most of the profiles from women I see on here have pics on the same level as a dick pic. Maybe that's just in my area but idk. | |||
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"Caved and posted a dick pic....so now the first pic we see is an unoriginal, totally not classy, lazy pic of your dick. A step backwards. Yeah unfortunately I caved but I will probably private it after a few days. Not my usual style, but I was curious to see how people would react (As expected, mostly dudes fabbing )
It got me thinking though... I see so many profiles with nudes and porn on the first image that I'm starting to question if there's a double standard when it comes to men flashing their dicks vs women flashing boobs/vag, unimaginative or otherwise. Like don't get me wrong, this isn't targeted or anything, but most of the profiles from women I see on here have pics on the same level as a dick pic. Maybe that's just in my area but idk."My view (and this is the female speaking), if I post a nude style photo, it gets a good few fabs etc and seems to be appreciated. If he posts a dick pic- we’ll get a little bit of notice (maybe 1 or 2 fabs), and that’s with an artistic dick pic that’s been posted by me. Personally- I don’t want to see dick pics- and judging by my many female friends in the lifestyle- neither do others. | |||
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"I'm starting to question if there's a double standard when it comes to men flashing their dicks vs women flashing boobs/vag, unimaginative or otherwise." Absolutely not double standards, just different things appeal to different people. You have to know your audience and in general, close up pics of privates are always going to be liked by single guys, whereas the same thing is generally disliked by women and couples. Also men don't seem to care how little effort has gone into a pic, whereas women and couples like to see a bit of class and effort. It reflects on how the guy posting the pic might be in real life. There's going to be plenty of exceptions, but that's just a fact. | |||
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"I'm starting to question if there's a double standard when it comes to men flashing their dicks vs women flashing boobs/vag, unimaginative or otherwise. Absolutely not double standards, just different things appeal to different people. You have to know your audience and in general, close up pics of privates are always going to be liked by single guys, whereas the same thing is generally disliked by women and couples. Also men don't seem to care how little effort has gone into a pic, whereas women and couples like to see a bit of class and effort. It reflects on how the guy posting the pic might be in real life. There's going to be plenty of exceptions, but that's just a fact." This is very accurate. When my profile is visible it’s a silhouette with no pictures. The number of men who message wanting to have sex with me without knowing what I look like is astounding. It really does feel like ‘any hole is a goal’ from single guys sometimes whereas many women and couples want to at least know what someone looks like before deciding to meet. I could be generalising but there will be more men wa*king over genital or boob pics than women. | |||
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"I'm starting to question if there's a double standard when it comes to men flashing their dicks vs women flashing boobs/vag, unimaginative or otherwise. Absolutely not double standards, just different things appeal to different people. You have to know your audience and in general, close up pics of privates are always going to be liked by single guys, whereas the same thing is generally disliked by women and couples. Also men don't seem to care how little effort has gone into a pic, whereas women and couples like to see a bit of class and effort. It reflects on how the guy posting the pic might be in real life. There's going to be plenty of exceptions, but that's just a fact." Fair, that's given me more food for thought. Ty for your input | |||
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