FabSwingers.com forum: First time MFM advice

By *estmeathKinkyCouple OP Couple
10 weeks ago

Westmeath

Hi.

So here it goes.

Looking for advice.

Kinky married couple here. Both considered good looking, both fit and slim.

Before my wife met me she had a mfm experience in her early 20s.

I found out about it when we where discussing a meet with another couple so the girl could play together. Sift swing so to speak.

We did meet up with another couple and I found it a major turn on.

My wife not so much as the girl wasn't really her type. Think we rushed in picking a couple. This happened about ten years ago.

Since then life got busy and we never met anybody since.

Back to the mfm.

When I found out about her mfm experience pre meeting me I dug for details and she was very open.

The details of it turned me on SO MUCH I CANT EXPLAIN.

Since then we have role played another guy joining us and are finally ready to take the plunge and arrange a MFM meet.

My questions are - Any advice welcomed and am I a Sick husband for wanting to see my wife with another man?

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By *orny PTMan
10 weeks ago

Peterborough

You both need to be in agreement. both men need to get on with each other, meet in a relaxing place, not an open club play area, as you need to focus on each other.

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By *aomilatteCouple
10 weeks ago

Midlands

Go to a club on a night that allows "single guys", you're likely to get a MFM easy. If you think you may be sick, then there must be thousands of sick people on here!

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By *omRachCouple
10 weeks ago

Wirral

"You both need to be in agreement. both men need to get on with each other, meet in a relaxing place, not an open club play area, as you need to focus on each other."

Great advice,

We've met 4 guys from FAB plus one elsewhere and I have got on brilliant with the men each time. One wasn't as warm as the others but we got on well enough to make it work.

It's such a buzz (for me anyway) watching another man fucking my beautiful wife as well as being a total headfuck at times. I think you need to have strong mental strength to do this because if not it can lead to massive insecurities moving forward.

Good luck, hope it all works out for you both.

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By *wo-Of-a-KindCouple
10 weeks ago

Middle Earth

even though there's loads of guys on here its harder than some think to find the right one. we are very new ourselves too and this was our main fantasy, mfm. after afew socials that didn't pan out we did eventually meet a suitable guy. Both of you need to get on with the guy, I needed to click too (male here) , bit of banter and able to feel at ease around him. good luck with your adventure, its awesome when you get the right chemistry.

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By *im_and_Her87Couple
10 weeks ago

reigate

We moved on from playing with couples. It is hard finding someone real and the right meet. Finding our perfect MMF is so exciting and worth the wait for the right meet x

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By *otathletic1Man
10 weeks ago

Newquay

Its worth trying, I’m sure of that!

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By *ittlebits69Couple
10 weeks ago

Spilsby

We had our fist mmf last weekend. Unbelievable. Met a great guy for quick social, about 10mins. And then straight to the bedroom. We had a fantastic time with him, both of us completely overwhelmed and very nervous. It was a huge turn on for the both of us and we are still buzzing for it nearly a week later. Don't over think it and just go for it. As long as you make your assessment of the third party well and get verifications etc there's nothing to fear. First steps always the hardest. Happy fabbing.

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By *uncouple153Couple
10 weeks ago

Abergavenny

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By *uncouple153Couple
10 weeks ago

Abergavenny

"We had our fist mmf last weekend. Unbelievable. Met a great guy for quick social, about 10mins. And then straight to the bedroom. We had a fantastic time with him, both of us completely overwhelmed and very nervous. It was a huge turn on for the both of us and we are still buzzing for it nearly a week later. Don't over think it and just go for it. As long as you make your assessment of the third party well and get verifications etc there's nothing to fear. First steps always the hardest. Happy fabbing."

Had our first mmf last night. Exactly this!

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By *appilymarriedukCouple
10 weeks ago

NEWPORT

We had our first experience a few years ago. As per our profile, our preference is primarily that my wife plays with another man whilst I sit back, watch and enjoy. It's more than just a massive turn on. My wife still doesn't quite get why I like watching her with another man, but thankfully she's happy to oblige.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

My advice would be.

Make sure you build some trust with the guy who you want to join you, and you have boundaries that he agrees with.

Meet fit division first to see if the chemistry is there and he is as is says he is.

Relax into it and go with the flow!

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By *reudian_slipsMan
10 weeks ago

Bristol

Firstly, getting turned on by your wife being fucked is very common… it’s probably a throw back to pre industrialised times where humans lived in small non monagamous groups…

My advice (and I’ve had lots of MMF with my ex) is to take your time, always meet the guy socially in a public setting to say hi (a coffee in daytime works well and isn’t huge time commitment) before you meet on a second occasion for sex….

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By *orgetmeKnotCouple
10 weeks ago

Gillingham

It's actually not as hard as you think...we do it fairly regularly, have plenty of experience now and we only started in January. Here are some things we've learnt so far.

Chosing a guy is easy enough, filtering through the shit messages is time consuming.

Pick a guy that is verified by meets, preferably a few.

Make sure they always speak to you as a couple and vulgarity is a good indication that they're probably wanking while talking and not very serious.

Super hot, jacked guys dont always translate to good in bed.

Guys will be just as nervous as you, if not more...they are joining someone's dynamic and it's a daunting thing, so be understanding fr them as you expect them to be for you.

Don't overthink it so much, a lot of people here want to build up a connection with endless messages and social meets, they are way more likely to fizzle out....we just treat it as one night stands, if they're decent enough let's play and then part ways.

Don't get d*unk!

Communicate during, if you don't like something then say so, it doesn't have to ruin the meet.

Oh and the most important bit....you'll be sitting there awkwardly knowing someone needs to make the first move, some men are good at getting the ball rolling, others are waiting for you. Don't sit there waiting forever building tension....the nerves wont go until it begins...the way I start it is to begin kissing and touching my wife then guide her to him or him to her.

Hope this helps

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By *inky PerkyCouple
10 weeks ago

Kingston

In our limited experience, finding the right guy is practically a full time job.

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By (user no longer on site)
10 weeks ago

Good luck on your hunt OP.

From the ‘other guy’ point of view, as you’d expect it’s a bit nervy rocking up to play with another couple after arranging something on here - something I’ve done probably five times across a couple of profiles. I’ve found if you acknowledge the nerves, and what is a quite odd situation really, by saying something, after the initial hellos, like ‘Thanks for inviting me round, I’m really excited but I’m also a little bit nervous’ delivered with a big smile it really helps to break the tension and ease the nerves. Once you down to getting sweaty they go instantly!

It can be worse in a club trying to strike up a conversation with a couple - you’ve really to get to read the body language and the vibe quickly to see if you click or if you’re unwelcome and make a hasty retreat!

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By *oe n JayCouple
10 weeks ago

Surrey

When you find the right person it can be amazing

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By *ornagainchristianMan
10 weeks ago

Preston

So I’ve done mfm before only the once but here it is from my perspective - everyone is nervous to a degree, especially being the extra guy, as you have to be conscious you are technically intruding on a relationship here and a breach of boundaries could be an issue of any unknown extent. The act itself is extremely erotic and I absolutely loved it, but just best to make sure everyone is on the same page first.

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By *adamm7406Man
10 weeks ago

leeds

We are in the same position, wanting to try our first mmf or mfmf but super nervous.

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By *bwlover372Man
10 weeks ago

high wycombe

You need to watch Oliver and gage from swinghub set the boundaries and they say reclaim sex it amazing after

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By *wo-Of-a-KindCouple
10 weeks ago

Middle Earth

"Good luck on your hunt OP.

that's very interesting hearing it from the "other guys" point of view..

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By *andb69Couple
10 weeks ago

leeds

"Hi.

So here it goes.

Looking for advice.

Kinky married couple here. Both considered good looking, both fit and slim.

Before my wife met me she had a mfm experience in her early 20s.

I found out about it when we where discussing a meet with another couple so the girl could play together. Sift swing so to speak.

We did meet up with another couple and I found it a major turn on.

My wife not so much as the girl wasn't really her type. Think we rushed in picking a couple. This happened about ten years ago.

Since then life got busy and we never met anybody since.

Back to the mfm.

When I found out about her mfm experience pre meeting me I dug for details and she was very open.

The details of it turned me on SO MUCH I CANT EXPLAIN.

Since then we have role played another guy joining us and are finally ready to take the plunge and arrange a MFM meet.

My questions are - Any advice welcomed and am I a Sick husband for wanting to see my wife with another man?

If you are both happy with the idea my advice would be to start in a club (like we did). It's safe and you can choose a guy from those present without worrying about time-wasters. If, like me, she might enjoy the attention of more than one extra guy you can find that too.

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By (user no longer on site)
9 weeks ago

We had mff a couple of times which was amazing but the thought of her with another man was too much! We had a mffm which was brilliant and such a turn on watching her. We would love an mfm but finding a suitable single man is much harder than you might think! We still haven't managed it. Our advice would be to get to know couples instead - and if you do find a decent single man send him our way lol!

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By *uzanne and RickyCouple
9 weeks ago

Midlothian

We would be really strict on your profile search, saves time. Age, location (not too close by), Looks, cock size (yes really),etc.

We ask for photos, again to save time and to see if she finds him attractive or not.

Eventually some chat on here to gauge the guy then if everyone is happy we almost always have a social meet. A coffee or a beer. Here is where 50% will be told thanks but no thanks.

BUT!! When it all clicks, and it does happen it’s amazing!! Absolutely love watching the woman you adore enjoy another man. Don’t know why, always have and have shared quite a few ex’s. Maybe we’ll get into it again. Good luck.

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By *eecha87Man
9 weeks ago

portadown

"Hi.

So here it goes.

Looking for advice.

Kinky married couple here. Both considered good looking, both fit and slim.

Before my wife met me she had a mfm experience in her early 20s.

I found out about it when we where discussing a meet with another couple so the girl could play together. Sift swing so to speak.

We did meet up with another couple and I found it a major turn on.

My wife not so much as the girl wasn't really her type. Think we rushed in picking a couple. This happened about ten years ago.

Since then life got busy and we never met anybody since.

Back to the mfm.

When I found out about her mfm experience pre meeting me I dug for details and she was very open.

The details of it turned me on SO MUCH I CANT EXPLAIN.

Since then we have role played another guy joining us and are finally ready to take the plunge and arrange a MFM meet.

My questions are - Any advice welcomed and am I a Sick husband for wanting to see my wife with another man?

"
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By *teinsGateDuoCouple
9 weeks ago

Newcastle under Lyme

Meh, we first swung we went for a full swap couple first. That way you've both been with a new person.

When we did eventually look for a single male we looked for one with verifications, and then looked at the folk who left those verifications.

A drink and chat beforehand goes along way and you'll find it easier to get on with folk when you ca. See the whites of their eyes.

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By *oleraine-coupleCouple
9 weeks ago

Coleraine

We have had quite a few MFM and here are our tips from positive and negative experiences

1. Ensure you both discuss it openly and in deal what you want and why

2. Take your time finding the right guy (don’t be in a rush). It might take a hundred messages to find someone who really clicks with you both.

3. Meet for a social first and check you are a good match and he’s trustworthy

4. Talk openly with your chosen friend what you want and don’t want

5. When you meet for the threesome give yourselves time and take your time. Time allows nerves to be settled and things to be better enjoyed.

Talk to each other during the meeting, it’s easy with be silent with nerves. Make sure she is happy and setting the agenda not too horny men!

Summary

Loads of communication, honesty and time choosing and setting up. A good first meet is essential to a positive swinging future

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By *orny PTMan
9 weeks ago

Peterborough

"You both need to be in agreement. both men need to get on with each other, meet in a relaxing place, not an open club play area, as you need to focus on each other.

Great advice,

We've met 4 guys from FAB plus one elsewhere and I have got on brilliant with the men each time. One wasn't as warm as the others but we got on well enough to make it work.

Good luck, hope it all works out for you both."

My mental strength, isn't my strong point, but teasing and tag-teaming my partner is. Just had this experience and I am still smiling thinking about it. We got on straight away, She got her MMF fantasy and is still purring.

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By *estmeathKinkyCouple OP Couple
9 weeks ago

Westmeath

Hi All.

Thanks for the great responses.

We have taken the leap and booked tickets to our first social event.

Hotel arranged.

Now with any luck we get chatting to a hot guy that Wife likes.

And we can invite him back to our hotel.

The advice here was right.

Some amount of time wasters. Married men etc.

And some very intimidating profiles.

Not to mention the amount of d#ck pictures. And not even nice dicks.

Any advice for our first social event?

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By *m3232Man
8 weeks ago

maidenhead

Great fun but hard to find.

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By *i versMan
8 weeks ago

Kirkcaldy

Definitely hard to find or they are far away.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
8 weeks ago

bedford

Have had several mfm .very enjoyable and helps in making our relationship exciting after all years we have been together , so your not mad , we prefer these meets at club , tho we have had a few outside of club , we have a regular friend too now for mfm , for last 15 years , we do look through fab and if I find the type of guy she fancy’s , I allways arrange a meet to chat and socialise with them first , so make sure you are sure the guys are not absolute nut jobs or are hygenically clean , not 40 years older than there photos show , we have met some really nice genuine guys , but there were a few bad ones too

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By *martie611Couple
7 weeks ago

staffs

We’ve met a few single guys and not had a bad experience yet.

We think this is down to preparation and finding the right person. We are picky and expect the same from someone we meet.

We firstly ensure there is a mutual physical attraction, then there has to be communication to ensure compatibility to all our desires. It’s good then to meet socially for a drink and go from there. We’ve met in hotel bars and pubs not far from ours we which gives us the opportunity for bedroom fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
7 weeks ago

"Hi.

So here it goes.

Looking for advice.

Kinky married couple here. Both considered good looking, both fit and slim.

Before my wife met me she had a mfm experience in her early 20s.

I found out about it when we where discussing a meet with another couple so the girl could play together. Sift swing so to speak.

We did meet up with another couple and I found it a major turn on.

My wife not so much as the girl wasn't really her type. Think we rushed in picking a couple. This happened about ten years ago.

Since then life got busy and we never met anybody since.

Back to the mfm.

When I found out about her mfm experience pre meeting me I dug for details and she was very open.

The details of it turned me on SO MUCH I CANT EXPLAIN.

Since then we have role played another guy joining us and are finally ready to take the plunge and arrange a MFM meet.

My questions are - Any advice welcomed and am I a Sick husband for wanting to see my wife with another man?

I don’t think you should feel guilty for having fantasies fella, as long as your both into it have fun. Just take your time picking the right fella and he needs to appreciate your a couple and he’s only there for fun

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By *omRachCouple
7 weeks ago

Wirral

"We had our first experience a few years ago. As per our profile, our preference is primarily that my wife plays with another man whilst I sit back, watch and enjoy. It's more than just a massive turn on. My wife still doesn't quite get why I like watching her with another man, but thankfully she's happy to oblige."

I could've written this to describe me, totally sums up our dynamic.

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By *hrizm12Man
6 weeks ago

Mansfield

Some great advice here

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By *enelope2UWoman
6 weeks ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

"You both need to be in agreement. both men need to get on with each other, meet in a relaxing place, not an open club play area, as you need to focus on each other.

Great advice,

We've met 4 guys from FAB plus one elsewhere and I have got on brilliant with the men each time. One wasn't as warm as the others but we got on well enough to make it work.

Good luck, hope it all works out for you both."

Id ditch the one that you didn't get along with even if it was minor..you have an ick for a reason unless further interactions non sexually improved it that one guy instinct can be what spoils the moment.

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By *estmeathKinkyCouple OP Couple
6 weeks ago

Westmeath

Two weeks till our first social event.

Super excited

We took your advice.

Way to hard to find a guy here that suits us.

Any advice for attendingbour first social event?

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By *yesbeenopened2Couple
6 weeks ago

Rugby

Sent you a PM.

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By *azien48Man
5 weeks ago

WC2A

I'm new here very like play with amazing couples

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By *azien48Man
5 weeks ago

WC2A

I'm looking my first time also with amazing couples

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By *inkerbell_and_dadbodCouple
5 weeks ago

London

Connection helps - a guy you both trust and get on with - you're sharing together, so all three of you need to click.

With the right people it's an amazing experience - sex with friends is so so hot, and you can explore all the MFM combinations toegther

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By *andydan69Man
5 weeks ago

south west nr you mmm

Happy to help any couples in sw

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By *uitedandbuffedMan
5 weeks ago

England

I'm here to support couples in need of a mfm... It's my super power lol 🤣🤣

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By (user no longer on site)
5 weeks ago

I got offered to be a third on feeld but I got too much in my head about the mechanics of how it would work ultimately.

Maybe I should go and have a wander at Alchemy. My wife (not playing presently but is happy for me to pursue this bucket list) and I went a few times but the club seemed particularly quiet tho we had to leave before midnight.

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By *atador...Man
4 weeks ago

Aylesbury

Mfm are amazing I've had a few, play safe and enjoy yourselves, I think threesomes are the best as you can try things that you will never really be able to do as a couple, spit roast, double penetration, etc

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By *estmeathKinkyCouple OP Couple
3 weeks ago

Westmeath

We have set a date for our first MFM.

Guy pucked out.

Texting back and fort between herself and the guy to build a bit of chemistry.

Excited to experience a MFM with her.

Any further advice welcomed.

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By *uitedandbuffedMan
3 weeks ago

England

Just enjoy it and keep communicating x

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By *oxycouple28Couple
3 weeks ago

bexley

Not sure if you have met in the flesh yet. But We have had a few good mfm's. It can be amazing....we have found that we always want to find someone who is clean, respectful and acknowledges Mr as well as Mrs. Also some guys find it hard to share so it doesnt make it a true mfm.

When they go well though...they are fantastic!

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By *uitedandbuffedMan
3 weeks ago

England

"Not sure if you have met in the flesh yet. But We have had a few good mfm's. It can be amazing....we have found that we always want to find someone who is clean, respectful and acknowledges Mr as well as Mrs. Also some guys find it hard to share so it doesnt make it a true mfm.

When they go well though...they are fantastic!"

Whoever had the privilege to meet you both is very lucky

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By *atador...Man
2 weeks ago

Aylesbury

"We have set a date for our first MFM.

Guy pucked out.

Texting back and fort between herself and the guy to build a bit of chemistry.

Excited to experience a MFM with her.

Any further advice welcomed. "

Enjoy it guys, everything you want to try just go for it

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