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By *estmeathKinkyCouple OP   Couple
4 days ago

Mullingar

Hi.

So here it goes.

Looking for advice.

Kinky married couple here. Both considered good looking, both fit and slim.

Before my wife met me she had a mfm experience in her early 20s.

I found out about it when we where discussing a meet with another couple so the girl could play together. Sift swing so to speak.

We did meet up with another couple and I found it a major turn on.

My wife not so much as the girl wasn't really her type. Think we rushed in picking a couple. This happened about ten years ago.

Since then life got busy and we never met anybody since.

Back to the mfm.

When I found out about her mfm experience pre meeting me I dug for details and she was very open.

The details of it turned me on SO MUCH I CANT EXPLAIN.

Since then we have role played another guy joining us and are finally ready to take the plunge and arrange a MFM meet.

My questions are - Any advice welcomed and am I a Sick husband for wanting to see my wife with another man?

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By *orny PTMan
4 days ago

Peterborough

You both need to be in agreement. both men need to get on with each other, meet in a relaxing place, not an open club play area, as you need to focus on each other.

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By *aomilatteCouple
4 days ago

Midlands

Go to a club on a night that allows "single guys", you're likely to get a MFM easy. If you think you may be sick, then there must be thousands of sick people on here!

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By *omRachCouple
4 days ago

Wirral


"You both need to be in agreement. both men need to get on with each other, meet in a relaxing place, not an open club play area, as you need to focus on each other."

Great advice,

We've met 4 guys from FAB plus one elsewhere and I have got on brilliant with the men each time. One wasn't as warm as the others but we got on well enough to make it work.

It's such a buzz (for me anyway) watching another man fucking my beautiful wife as well as being a total headfuck at times. I think you need to have strong mental strength to do this because if not it can lead to massive insecurities moving forward.

Good luck, hope it all works out for you both.

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By *wo-Of-a-KindCouple
4 days ago

Middle Earth

even though there's loads of guys on here its harder than some think to find the right one. we are very new ourselves too and this was our main fantasy, mfm. after afew socials that didn't pan out we did eventually meet a suitable guy. Both of you need to get on with the guy, I needed to click too (male here) , bit of banter and able to feel at ease around him. good luck with your adventure, its awesome when you get the right chemistry.

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By *im_and_Her87Couple
4 days ago

reigate

We moved on from playing with couples. It is hard finding someone real and the right meet. Finding our perfect MMF is so exciting and worth the wait for the right meet x

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By *otathletic1Man
4 days ago

Newquay

Its worth trying, I’m sure of that!

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By *ittlebits69Couple
3 days ago

Spilsby

We had our fist mmf last weekend. Unbelievable. Met a great guy for quick social, about 10mins. And then straight to the bedroom. We had a fantastic time with him, both of us completely overwhelmed and very nervous. It was a huge turn on for the both of us and we are still buzzing for it nearly a week later. Don't over think it and just go for it. As long as you make your assessment of the third party well and get verifications etc there's nothing to fear. First steps always the hardest. Happy fabbing.

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By *uncouple153Couple
3 days ago

Abergavenny

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By *uncouple153Couple
3 days ago

Abergavenny


"We had our fist mmf last weekend. Unbelievable. Met a great guy for quick social, about 10mins. And then straight to the bedroom. We had a fantastic time with him, both of us completely overwhelmed and very nervous. It was a huge turn on for the both of us and we are still buzzing for it nearly a week later. Don't over think it and just go for it. As long as you make your assessment of the third party well and get verifications etc there's nothing to fear. First steps always the hardest. Happy fabbing."

Had our first mmf last night. Exactly this!

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By *appilymarriedukCouple
3 days ago

NEWPORT

We had our first experience a few years ago. As per our profile, our preference is primarily that my wife plays with another man whilst I sit back, watch and enjoy. It's more than just a massive turn on. My wife still doesn't quite get why I like watching her with another man, but thankfully she's happy to oblige.

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By *pforfun56Man
3 days ago

sheffield

My advice would be.

Make sure you build some trust with the guy who you want to join you, and you have boundaries that he agrees with.

Meet fit division first to see if the chemistry is there and he is as is says he is.

Relax into it and go with the flow!

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By *reudian_slipsMan
3 days ago

Bristol

Firstly, getting turned on by your wife being fucked is very common… it’s probably a throw back to pre industrialised times where humans lived in small non monagamous groups…

My advice (and I’ve had lots of MMF with my ex) is to take your time, always meet the guy socially in a public setting to say hi (a coffee in daytime works well and isn’t huge time commitment) before you meet on a second occasion for sex….

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By *orgetmeKnotCouple
3 days ago

Gillingham

It's actually not as hard as you think...we do it fairly regularly, have plenty of experience now and we only started in January. Here are some things we've learnt so far.

Chosing a guy is easy enough, filtering through the shit messages is time consuming.

Pick a guy that is verified by meets, preferably a few.

Make sure they always speak to you as a couple and vulgarity is a good indication that they're probably wanking while talking and not very serious.

Super hot, jacked guys dont always translate to good in bed.

Guys will be just as nervous as you, if not more...they are joining someone's dynamic and it's a daunting thing, so be understanding fr them as you expect them to be for you.

Don't overthink it so much, a lot of people here want to build up a connection with endless messages and social meets, they are way more likely to fizzle out....we just treat it as one night stands, if they're decent enough let's play and then part ways.

Don't get d*unk!

Communicate during, if you don't like something then say so, it doesn't have to ruin the meet.

Oh and the most important bit....you'll be sitting there awkwardly knowing someone needs to make the first move, some men are good at getting the ball rolling, others are waiting for you. Don't sit there waiting forever building tension....the nerves wont go until it begins...the way I start it is to begin kissing and touching my wife then guide her to him or him to her.

Hope this helps

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By *inky PerkyCouple
3 days ago

Molesey

In our limited experience, finding the right guy is practically a full time job.

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By *utbiguy100Man
3 days ago

Pontefract

Good luck on your hunt OP.

From the ‘other guy’ point of view, as you’d expect it’s a bit nervy rocking up to play with another couple after arranging something on here - something I’ve done probably five times across a couple of profiles. I’ve found if you acknowledge the nerves, and what is a quite odd situation really, by saying something, after the initial hellos, like ‘Thanks for inviting me round, I’m really excited but I’m also a little bit nervous’ delivered with a big smile it really helps to break the tension and ease the nerves. Once you down to getting sweaty they go instantly!

It can be worse in a club trying to strike up a conversation with a couple - you’ve really to get to read the body language and the vibe quickly to see if you click or if you’re unwelcome and make a hasty retreat!

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By *oe n JayCouple
3 days ago

Surrey

When you find the right person it can be amazing

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By *ornagainchristianMan
3 days ago

Preston, Glasgow, Cheltenham, Leeds, Birmingham and Leicester (but travel all over the UK

So I’ve done mfm before only the once but here it is from my perspective - everyone is nervous to a degree, especially being the extra guy, as you have to be conscious you are technically intruding on a relationship here and a breach of boundaries could be an issue of any unknown extent. The act itself is extremely erotic and I absolutely loved it, but just best to make sure everyone is on the same page first.

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By *adamm7406Man
3 days ago

leeds

We are in the same position, wanting to try our first mmf or mfmf but super nervous.

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By *bwlover372Man
3 days ago

high wycombe

You need to watch Oliver and gage from swinghub set the boundaries and they say reclaim sex it amazing after

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By *wo-Of-a-KindCouple
3 days ago

Middle Earth


"Good luck on your hunt OP.

From the ‘other guy’ point of view, as you’d expect it’s a bit nervy rocking up to play with another couple after arranging something on here - something I’ve done probably five times across a couple of profiles. I’ve found if you acknowledge the nerves, and what is a quite odd situation really, by saying something, after the initial hellos, like ‘Thanks for inviting me round, I’m really excited but I’m also a little bit nervous’ delivered with a big smile it really helps to break the tension and ease the nerves. Once you down to getting sweaty they go instantly!

It can be worse in a club trying to strike up a conversation with a couple - you’ve really to get to read the body language and the vibe quickly to see if you click or if you’re unwelcome and make a hasty retreat!"

that's very interesting hearing it from the "other guys" point of view..

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By *andb69Couple
2 days ago

leeds


"Hi.

So here it goes.

Looking for advice.

Kinky married couple here. Both considered good looking, both fit and slim.

Before my wife met me she had a mfm experience in her early 20s.

I found out about it when we where discussing a meet with another couple so the girl could play together. Sift swing so to speak.

We did meet up with another couple and I found it a major turn on.

My wife not so much as the girl wasn't really her type. Think we rushed in picking a couple. This happened about ten years ago.

Since then life got busy and we never met anybody since.

Back to the mfm.

When I found out about her mfm experience pre meeting me I dug for details and she was very open.

The details of it turned me on SO MUCH I CANT EXPLAIN.

Since then we have role played another guy joining us and are finally ready to take the plunge and arrange a MFM meet.

My questions are - Any advice welcomed and am I a Sick husband for wanting to see my wife with another man?

"

If you are both happy with the idea my advice would be to start in a club (like we did). It's safe and you can choose a guy from those present without worrying about time-wasters. If, like me, she might enjoy the attention of more than one extra guy you can find that too.

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By *ancs married coupleCouple
22 hours ago

Silverdale

We had mff a couple of times which was amazing but the thought of her with another man was too much! We had a mffm which was brilliant and such a turn on watching her. We would love an mfm but finding a suitable single man is much harder than you might think! We still haven't managed it. Our advice would be to get to know couples instead - and if you do find a decent single man send him our way lol!

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