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By *T4fun2013 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Elkhart

When we message people we would like to have a responce. If not interested just tell us. We wont bother you again. We think its very rude not to respond.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"When we message people we would like to have a responce. If not interested just tell us. We wont bother you again. We think its very rude not to respond."

It's not - they aren't interested, take a no reply as a message that they don't want to meet you. Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Check the site rules...

Personally i find you telling me how to use the site rude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whilst frustrating do not worry about just make note who you messaged so you can avoid repeating again.

I just carry on if i get no response as i respect others choices whether to reply or not the same applies as to my choice whether to reply.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

surely if they don't reply to your message then you can work out that they aren't interested anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Response*

Each individual have their own way of responding. Some provide a response whilst others provide no response. No point wasting our time thinking about what could have been done...what's done is done.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

It's not rude. Some people don't take no for an answer which puts people off replying. Just take a deleted message as a no thanks as it states in the site FAQ if you read them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's not rude. Some people don't take no for an answer which puts people off replying. Just take a deleted message as a no thanks as it states in the site FAQ if you read them "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We find it discourteous and we respect the feelings of others by always replying. But that is just us, if others don't think the same that is up to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've seen a lot of profiles saying it's rude not to reply BUT it's also rude not to read. Why mail if you're not what that profile is looking for? I reply to most messages but sometimes this will result in the 'is it because...' mails!

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"When we message people we would like to have a responce. If not interested just tell us. We wont bother you again. We think its very rude not to respond."

9 times out of 10 we will reply to messages but only if they have actually read our profile.

If we get a one liner (which is around 90% of our messages) then we tend to hit delete.

If they have made the effort, so will we.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

When visible, my profile is not ambiguous: it sets out clearly what I'm looking for and what I offer.

I make it crystal clear I will not respond to anyone outwith what I'm looking for. If people choose to message me anyway they can wish all they like, their message is deleted and I don't give them another thought.

The sense of entitlement displayed on these forums is staggering!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No response = Not interested, it is really that simple.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"When we message people we would like to have a responce. If not interested just tell us. We wont bother you again. We think its very rude not to respond."

I work from a different mindset.. I dont think I am "owed" anything...

for me... everything is a no unless they reply otherwise.... think of it as being pragmatic!

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Would you really like to be told no you arent our type or what were looking for ? or just think hmm no response they probably arent interested.

Its much of a muchness to us, if someone takes the time to actually read our profile they will get a response otherwise no, as has been said you are not owed anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does the fact that they haven't responded not tell you something ???

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By *ev and TrevCouple
over a year ago

cardiff

Our profile is quite long, there is a reason for this, it states what we are looking for and the type of people we wish to meet.

If we receive a message from someone who clearly hasn't taken the time to read it why on earth should I take my time to respond?

Swinging is a very small part of our very busy lives, our aim is to enjoy our time here, whether that be virtual (forums, chat etc) or by meeting not answering mail from those we do not wish to get to know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reply to most messages. If however someone chooses to message me and they don't meet my preferences then I don't respond. I think it's rude to message people and not respect their preferences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We reply to all messages that have read our profile and delete all without reading that havent.

Personally dont take any offence at a lack of response to our sent messages.

Id rather be blanked than put down...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I started out responding to all messages, just to be polite. I have found that some of the men here are unwilling to accept a simple "no, thank you" and seem to think that a friendly message is always going to lead somewhere. Not going to be quite so polite now. I don't like being asked why I am here if I'm not going to fuck them :o]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When we message people we would like to have a responce. If not interested just tell us. We wont bother you again. We think its very rude not to respond."

Its a nice idea but in reality time is precious and to expect some to answer 50 plus messages a day is a little unreasonable. Take it as no reply means they are not interested I do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We used to reply to all messages and winks even if they clearly hadn't read our profile until yesterday that is when we said thanks but no thanks to a couple who are smokers and are into bdsm...only to be told that a couple who had verified us as being fun loving had clearly got the wrong couple!

Still laughing about that one now but not sure we'll waste our time being polite any more...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To the poster above-that is one of the funniest things I have heard for ages!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol I just shrug and move on.. We all kno what we are after x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When we message people we would like to have a responce. If not interested just tell us. We wont bother you again. We think its very rude not to respond."
are the people you msg in the UK or in the USA

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I started out responding to all messages, just to be polite. I have found that some of the men here are unwilling to accept a simple "no, thank you" and seem to think that a friendly message is always going to lead somewhere. Not going to be quite so polite now. I don't like being asked why I am here if I'm not going to

fuck them :o] "

same here...why should I get a load of abuse because I don't want to fuck everyone that messages me? Also, by deleting the message it then means if you try to message again then you will get a screen that states you have tried before and got no reply saving future confusion and repeated messages (ideally!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people like a no thanks, some aren't bothered, some take the rejection badly.

Oh if only there was a way to please everyone! Such is life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To the poster above-that is one of the funniest things I have heard for ages! "

It certainly gave us a giggle...

Oh no! We're not fun after all? Gutted...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When we message people we would like to have a responce. If not interested just tell us. We wont bother you again. We think its very rude not to respond."

I think it is rude too but hey ho, that's the way of the world these days. Not worth worrying about really. No response = no interest in my book now. Just move on, someone is bound to respond at some point. Nil desperandum.

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