FabSwingers.com forum: What am I doing wrong as a guy?

By *damsugo23 OP Man
10 weeks ago

leicester

I’m not having any success trying to meet people on here, I’m relatively new to swinging and have only visited one club in Leicester. I have not met anyone on here yet, hence why I currently have no verifications yet. I think I’m a decent looking guy and I don’t have a micro wiener lol.

I think I’m relatively respectful with trying to approach people on here. I’m not sure if I need to upload better pics or actually write up a good bio, does anyone have any tips for a newbie swinger like me. I am considering going to a more popular swingers club during an “event night” just to meet other people in the scene.

Does anyone have any tips to improve my profile or approach in general. I don’t mind anyone being brutally honest lol, would prefer it.

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By *ichaelsmyMan
10 weeks ago

doiglas

you have people who accepted you as a friend on the site, start there

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By *ouple_For_BuddyCouple
10 weeks ago

Newport

Everyone is different I guess.

We believe that you should approach this site just the same as if you met someone in Tesco's.

Show politeness, show respect, show patience and assume absolutely nothing at all.

Just because people are on this site doesn't make them easy, they are normal people!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
10 weeks ago

Central

You might be doing everything perfectly but people only meet the very tiny minority of people who are mutually compatible.

Your pics don't give the best impression of you, is my guess. Try to avoid anything with a yuck factor including taken in toilets.

And give people what you best assume that they'll need in order to know whether they might want your body physically close to them. Be upbeat and less cold and severe

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By *ndymac888Man
10 weeks ago

Dumbarton

Your profile is pretty good mate.

I’ve had some success on here so happy to share but it might just be blind luck.

I would lose the dick pic, it’s not a bad one by any means but I would keep it for private messages as woman only want to see them by request.

Also the public toilet one as well guys toilets are shit holes.

Other than than you come across as a nice guy so your bio is fine and your willing to show your face straight up so that’s always a bonus. The forums are a good place to meet and chat as well.

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
10 weeks ago

Alphabet Mafia HQ, Dudleyish.

First up, kudos for exploring the club scene. For the event night you are going to maybe see if they have a group chat for it so you can pre break the ice.

Your pics arent the best, toilet pics are off putting for alot of folk. If you want to have a dick pic up thay bad, put some effort on it 😂

Either way just be patient you are doing fine.

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By *ivilised matureMan
10 weeks ago

East Sheen/ Barnes

Expecting too much?

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By *arryandhedgehogCouple
10 weeks ago

Essex

This topic is covered daily in the forums have a look through previous threads. You’re one guy in a sea of thousands it’s not you it’s the odds. Clubs and organised socials are the best route to go down.

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By *abioMan
10 weeks ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Your profile is pretty good mate.

I’ve had some success on here so happy to share but it might just be blind luck.

I would lose the dick pic, it’s not a bad one by any means but I would keep it for private messages as woman only want to see them by request.

Also the public toilet one as well guys toilets are shit holes.

Other than than you come across as a nice guy so your bio is fine and your willing to show your face straight up so that’s always a bonus. The forums are a good place to meet and chat as well."

You think the profile is good….

See this is one of those things where is you ask if a lot of different people, you are going to get a lot of different answers!

So first of all…. You do you! You sell you! Who knows you better than you!!

If you think the profile reflects the best you …. Don’t change a single thing!

If it doesn’t, then sit down, pen and pad, and think

Let me use an example…….

If I was someone actually reading your profile, how would someone know they are for you? …

The answer is they wouldn’t….

It’s just a whole bunch of generic lines… it doesn’t actually “say” anything

Remember we are all in this for fun! What are your unique selling points? Why should someone choose you over a.n.other?

Nothing wrong with jumping in with both feet… but sometimes you have to temper expectations, and do some research and toe dip!

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By *alahadLadMan
10 weeks ago

Pembs

I mean you clearly dress well and have a nice face. So definitely more of that. You may find that some women aren't into a boyishly handsome face like yours (I know how you feel, I've also got a babyface). But on the flip side, some women will really like that. It's all about preference!

As others have mentioned, maybe lose the toilet selfie. I feel you could maybe get away with a bathroom mirror, but those urinals in the background aren't doing you any favours.

Sadly you could have the best profile in the world, but fab is very much a numbers game. There is a sea of guys out there, meaning a woman's inbox is likely to get flooded no matter what you do. Don't lose hope though, just keep being your authentic self and you'll find the meets you're looking for!

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By *eroLondonMan
10 weeks ago

Mayfair

"Expecting too much? "

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He's not expecting brevity or curt responses. 🩶

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By *damsugo23 OP Man
10 weeks ago

leicester

True

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By *damsugo23 OP Man
10 weeks ago

leicester

You’re right, it’s just a new thing for me tbh even through I’ve had a look around on here for a little while now.

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By *ndymac888Man
10 weeks ago

Dumbarton

"Your profile is pretty good mate.

I’ve had some success on here so happy to share but it might just be blind luck.

I would lose the dick pic, it’s not a bad one by any means but I would keep it for private messages as woman only want to see them by request.

Also the public toilet one as well guys toilets are shit holes.

Other than than you come across as a nice guy so your bio is fine and your willing to show your face straight up so that’s always a bonus. The forums are a good place to meet and chat as well.

You think the profile is good….

See this is one of those things where is you ask if a lot of different people, you are going to get a lot of different answers!

So first of all…. You do you! You sell you! Who knows you better than you!!

If you think the profile reflects the best you …. Don’t change a single thing!

If it doesn’t, then sit down, pen and pad, and think

Let me use an example…….

If I was someone actually reading your profile, how would someone know they are for you? …

The answer is they wouldn’t….

It’s just a whole bunch of generic lines… it doesn’t actually “say” anything

Remember we are all in this for fun! What are your unique selling points? Why should someone choose you over a.n.other?

Nothing wrong with jumping in with both feet… but sometimes you have to temper expectations, and do some research and toe dip!

Fabio here is probably spot on to be fair, but you’re on the right track mate.

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By *partharmonyCouple
10 weeks ago

Ruislip

One mistake you are making us thinking that the only relevant factor is what you look like. There's a lot more to attraction than that for many women.

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By *damsugo23 OP Man
10 weeks ago

leicester

Thank you, definitely agree and have removed those pics.

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By *damsugo23 OP Man
10 weeks ago

leicester

Thank you, noted and got rid of those pics.

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By *damsugo23 OP Man
10 weeks ago

leicester

I don't mind lol, prefer brutal honesty to be honest

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By *ngelina042025Woman
10 weeks ago

London

You need a couple of jokes as well in your profile.

Sense of humour in this scene is vital xx

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By *elkieWoman
10 weeks ago

Durham

There’s nothing in your profile i can ask you about to get a conversation started

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