FabSwingers.com forum: What's your cover story?

By *eeshells OP Couple
over a year ago

Reading

Assuming most of you are like us and living a lie about this lifestyle to your family and vanilla friends. Our teenage kids are wondering why we're suddenly out so much more.

So we need to come up with a reason why we're always out. What reason do you use to cover your tracks?

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By *ust want fun 888Man
over a year ago

nearby

If they’re teenagers, why not be straight with them, just say it’s an extra activity to spark up your love life, we know they’ll be doing the UGGH thing and stuff but I’m sure they would understand, my son knows I’m on here, not the exact name of the website but he understands that I’m looking for something extra

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By *cottish guy 555Man
over a year ago

London

I'm out with friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When our kids were still at home we just used to say we were out with friends

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By *WANDTGCouple
over a year ago

Borough of Greenwich

Same as others, we are popping out to see friends.

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By *he milf next doorWoman
over a year ago

bluebell woods

Maybe say you’ve made new friends on FB if you’re on it & they live quite close & you enjoy there company at the pub 🤷🏻‍♀️

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By *r.EdibleMan
over a year ago

Fraserburgh

Slightly different, but when I installed sex swing I had to put a hook in the roof of my bedroom. My children were very curious obviously, so when they inevitably asked "what's the hook for dad" I had to tell them "I'm getting a punch bag of course", so I had no more to do than go out and buy a decoy punchbag. So while I was at it I bought a pull up bar and now they think it's the best thing I've ever bought and love using them. So buoyed by my success with the hook I decided to make a St Andrews cross out of wall hooks across the corner of my room between with hooked rings top middle and bottom. Once again they asked what the wall hooks were for, so I told them I was buying resistance bands with wires going through detachable pulleys. Yes, I had to go out and buy the pulley system, but thankfully I've never had to actually use it, just show them it's there and that was enough. They haven't asked any questions for over a year now, so I think I've got away with it

They only stay with me one night a week so I don't have to explain the going out for meets, thankfully.

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
over a year ago

Scotland

"Assuming most of you are like us and living a lie about this lifestyle to your family and vanilla friends. Our teenage kids are wondering why we're suddenly out so much more.

So we need to come up with a reason why we're always out. What reason do you use to cover your tracks? "

We have told ours that now they’re old enough to not need babysitting we’re just making up for all the times we couldn’t get out due to being at home with them 😊

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By *arierWoman
over a year ago

birmingham

We do “salsa” classes. Really hope we’re never asked to show what we’ve learned… 😅

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell the kids that now that they're grown up ye are rekindling & enjoying your new found freedom & that's it's your time now 👍👍

Me......I have an alibi in a close friend, she covers for me when I'm away at night for fun, we just let on we are away together & that works

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Tell them you're going out with friends. If they get too nosey I don't think there's any harm in telling them your private life is none of their business.

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By *eeshells OP Couple
over a year ago

Reading

"We have told ours that now they’re old enough to not need babysitting we’re just making up for all the times we couldn’t get out due to being at home with them 😊"

This is what we've also done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a new role at work which means I travel more often, and is super fucking handy as I get hotels

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

We're naturist in vanilla life. So we used to tell the kids we were off to the naturist spa.

Bar the two youngest they know we're swingers now (not by choice). So no more need for a cover story with the older ones. Which did spark some interesting and funny conversation/interrogation in the household.

As for other freinds and family it's not a secret, neither is it something we openly share (it is our private sex life after all). Some know, some don't. We simply say we're off out or away for the weekend without giving futher explanation.

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By *cunthorpe123Couple
over a year ago

scunthorpe

My eldest son knows, he’s 23 now. He’s known for about 6 years.

I’m very open as a parent and we are a happily married couple that choose to swing, that’s nothing at all to be ashamed of.

Our other son and daughter are only 13 and 14 so they are a bit young at the moment, but when they are older we won’t hide it from them either.

Donna x

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By *ryton 123TV/TS
over a year ago

Chatham

I'm devoiced but own my house. I have my son that lives with me his 20 and mainly with his girlfriend. So I can get out when I like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell them your having a date night, what more needs to be said?

I wouldn't class not discussing your sex life with everyone as living a lie.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Just tell them your having a date night, what more needs to be said?

I wouldn't class not discussing your sex life with everyone as living a lie."

Neither would I.

We've never discussed our sex life with our kids and wouldn't expect them to discuss theirs with us (they're both in their thirties in LTRs ).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just meeting friends but the funny bit was my wife would take a spare set of cloths to get changed into in the car as we drove.

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By *arnelianWoman
over a year ago

Ely, Cambridgeshire (moved here April '25)

My sex life is my business. If they do ask why I'm not free, they get told I'm meeting friends from a support forum I'm on.

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By *istressSubCuckMan
over a year ago

Winchester

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By *istressSubCuckMan
over a year ago

Winchester

"We do “salsa” classes. Really hope we’re never asked to show what we’ve learned… 😅"

Chop some tomato, onion, chilli, coriander, squeeze of lime juice etc...

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
over a year ago

Carlisle usually

Oh I'm just off to a sex party / swingers club / dungeon event.

Zero shame 💜

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Oh I'm just off to a sex party / swingers club / dungeon event.

Zero shame 💜"

I did say similar to a friend once. She laughed and didn't believe me

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By *andalustCouple
over a year ago

Guildford

"We do “salsa” classes. Really hope we’re never asked to show what we’ve learned… 😅"
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Love this

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By *-and-JCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

We go to a lot of “birthday” parties.

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By *he Decadent DuoCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

Everytime, "We're going to a spa"

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By *andm18Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

We love comedy shows so that's the excuse we give our babysitters (grandparents) and kids too young to know any better. Still wouldn't tell them as just think would you have wanted to know what your parents were upto?

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By *adbod2015Man
over a year ago

Nantwich

I don't live a lie, I just don't tell people things about me that don't concern them.

A bit of a boring answer I know but it's all I've got haha

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By *iv JonesMan
23 weeks ago

cardiff

Whenever I go to a meet I tell my wife (who no longer is interested in sex) that I'm going to play golf. 4 or 5 glorious hours.

Only works in the day though

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By *ogether202569Couple
23 weeks ago

Midlands

"Everytime, "We're going to a spa"

David Llyod…but one of the kids turns into Hercule Prior and says it closes at 9…

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By *fffunCouple
23 weeks ago

Somewhere just outside London

We say we just making lots of new friends beucause work and home life is too busy to make friends... So we go a social club events.. To make friends and see the ones we made already. So clearly we arnt lying...

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By *layfullsamMan
23 weeks ago

Solihull

"Assuming most of you are like us and living a lie about this lifestyle to your family and vanilla friends. Our teenage kids are wondering why we're suddenly out so much more.

So we need to come up with a reason why we're always out. What reason do you use to cover your tracks? "

Tell them you’re swingers and fuck other people you like

They’ll go yeah right of course you are

#jobdone

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By *udandBryanCouple
23 weeks ago

Boston

We just tell ours we're going to a club or party and don't ask anymore - probably because they both know that we're swingers.

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By *elaxed CoupleCouple
23 weeks ago

Cheshire

We don't nt have kids, but we tell our friends that we're seeing friends we met on holiday. It's almost not a lie. Everytime we play, it feels like something we'd do on holiday.

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By *arierWoman
23 weeks ago

birmingham

We go to “salsa” class

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By *lossomTreeWoman
23 weeks ago

Ipswich

I'll usually say I'm going to see friends.

No kids, I ran out of plausible excuses really but most people close to me figured out not the exact details but the general idea

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By *ilva69Man
23 weeks ago

stockport

My wife has a boyfriend she sees at weekends our cover story as she’s staying at her friend who is not in the best of health if any of the family come round

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By *veragecouple2000Couple
23 weeks ago

South Wales

We’ve been so many weddings over the last couple of years it’s crazy!! Xx 😄😄

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By *artorialMan
23 weeks ago

weymouth

Kids aren't a problem (grown up very little contact), friends (don't care), the only sensitive issue being my dad as he predominantly lives with me now. Day time easy as he goes to a elderly day care club thing, evenings/weekends more complex as I have to arrange care (and it's expensive which is partly why I can't afford to retire yet)

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By *teveanddebsCouple
23 weeks ago

Norwich

A vanilla fiend asked what we were doing tonight:

Me: Going to see a friend

Her: What will you be doing?

Me: Debs mostly

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By *izandpaulCouple
23 weeks ago

merseyside

"Assuming most of you are like us and living a lie about this lifestyle to your family and vanilla friends. Our teenage kids are wondering why we're suddenly out so much more.

So we need to come up with a reason why we're always out. What reason do you use to cover your tracks? "

We just said we were meeting Paul's work friends for a drink. We primed the pump a few weeks before by mentioning these so called work mates.

We always gave a rough idea where we headed just incase an accident on the drive occurred.

You would have questions if going to a Manchester club and telling them you are off localish for a drink.

If you have a decent story they become disinterested.

If there's intrigue they sense it.

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By *ustincamebridgeCouple
23 weeks ago

Manchester

Our kids are now 17 and 21 they both know as do our family and some of our friends. We discovered we were the topic of conversation at a funeral yesterday so more now know what we do

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By *b03Man
23 weeks ago

Exeter

As I have no children it's mainly just finding an answer from coworkers for what I got upto at the weekend...

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
23 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire

"We're naturist in vanilla life. So we used to tell the kids we were off to the naturist spa."

This works well even if you're not naturists. It's embarrassing enough that your children are unlikely to ask many questions!

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By *redMissBCouple
22 weeks ago

York

We chose the sex club we are going to because it is within 10 miles of a motorway journey we do routinely and within 10 miles of a motorway service station. And as everyone knows, with the traffic in the UK, you can be unexpectedly delayed for hours.....

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By *uenevereWoman
22 weeks ago

Scunthorpe

We just say we're having a night out or weekend away.

When we were swinging regularly, my husband once told his (adult) son that we were going to a party to have sex with strangers.

He clearly didn't believe this but didn't ask again

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By (user no longer on site)
22 weeks ago

We have a monthly work catch up we have to attend. It's obligatory and can never be missed

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By *tockingsstephTV/TS
22 weeks ago

northampton

Meeting friends x

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By *orth and NotnorthCouple
21 weeks ago

reading

Golf club awards dinner and speeches. Nobody will EVER ask if they can come along to that...And it always finishes so late!

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By *oonwitch_and_RainbowCouple (FF)
21 weeks ago

Bradford and Stockport

"Polly's friend in Leeds is having a get together".

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By *untime40Man
21 weeks ago

I’m in a meeting

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By *G LanaTV/TS
21 weeks ago

Gosport

I don't really need one, nobody cares that much about what I'm up to. Friends know I'm pansexual and dating so that covers being seen with different people during socials. A couple know I am here as well as part of my own safety arrangements, thankfully I have some none judgemental friends with their own interesting sexual histories.

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By *annyT1966Man
21 weeks ago

Derwentside

Just say that you have taken up Morris Dancing and are out at training. If the kids ever find out you ARE swingers, they'll be so relieved that you are NOT actually doing Morris Dancing, they won't give a fuck!

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By *a1970Man
21 weeks ago

East cork

Yep dancing lessons... And go to the odd lessons

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By *arierWoman
21 weeks ago

birmingham

"Just say that you have taken up Morris Dancing and are out at training. If the kids ever find out you ARE swingers, they'll be so relieved that you are NOT actually doing Morris Dancing, they won't give a fuck!"

Love this 🤣

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By *antricSeeker60Man
21 weeks ago

Durham

As a child my parents were swingers and often held parties where the kids were banished to grandmas. Yes, we did have pampas grass in the front garden and OMO on the kitchen windowsill. By time my teenage years set in kind of knew just never said a thing as wasn’t really bothered.

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By *rs GGWoman
21 weeks ago

Up North

My teenagers know my life, as do my friends and family.

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By *elaninMaverickWoman
21 weeks ago

near Putney Heath

Everyone knows what I do. I don't have kids. My parents don't really care. I'm too ill to work so my company fired me. But those who care to ask, know I am a nudist and I do Japanese rope art bondage as a kink and fetish. I started on this journey because of my mental and physical health. Occasionally, there's swinging but most of the time I'm naked in the jacuzzi or pool alone or tied myself up at a rope workshop.

Most of it is to do with connecting with my body and somatics.

the sex if any is secondary/peripheral.

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By *ust_us999Couple
21 weeks ago

Somewhere

We just like to go out for a dirty weekend every now and again. Nobody knows to what extent... 😂

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By *xposedInTheMaleMan
21 weeks ago

Cambridgeshire

"But those who care to ask, know I am a nudist and I do Japanese rope art bondage as a kink and fetish.."

So if others invite you out on a club night, do you say "sorry, I'm a little tied up that night"?

"the sex if any is secondary/peripheral."

In good sex, the sex is always peripheral. It's the communication that matters most.

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