FabSwingers.com forum: What's your cover story?

By *eeshells OP Couple
11 weeks ago

Reading

Assuming most of you are like us and living a lie about this lifestyle to your family and vanilla friends. Our teenage kids are wondering why we're suddenly out so much more.

So we need to come up with a reason why we're always out. What reason do you use to cover your tracks?

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By *ust want fun 888Man
11 weeks ago

nearby

If they’re teenagers, why not be straight with them, just say it’s an extra activity to spark up your love life, we know they’ll be doing the UGGH thing and stuff but I’m sure they would understand, my son knows I’m on here, not the exact name of the website but he understands that I’m looking for something extra

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By *cottish guy 555Man
11 weeks ago

London

I'm out with friends.

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By *ogandher1962Couple
11 weeks ago

Reading

When our kids were still at home we just used to say we were out with friends

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By *WANDTGCouple
11 weeks ago

Borough of Greenwich

Same as others, we are popping out to see friends.

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By *ortney FoxxxWoman
11 weeks ago

honeysuckle lane

Maybe say you’ve made new friends on FB if you’re on it & they live quite close & you enjoy there company at the pub 🤷🏻‍♀️

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By *r.EdibleMan
11 weeks ago

Fraserburgh

Slightly different, but when I installed sex swing I had to put a hook in the roof of my bedroom. My children were very curious obviously, so when they inevitably asked "what's the hook for dad" I had to tell them "I'm getting a punch bag of course", so I had no more to do than go out and buy a decoy punchbag. So while I was at it I bought a pull up bar and now they think it's the best thing I've ever bought and love using them. So buoyed by my success with the hook I decided to make a St Andrews cross out of wall hooks across the corner of my room between with hooked rings top middle and bottom. Once again they asked what the wall hooks were for, so I told them I was buying resistance bands with wires going through detachable pulleys. Yes, I had to go out and buy the pulley system, but thankfully I've never had to actually use it, just show them it's there and that was enough. They haven't asked any questions for over a year now, so I think I've got away with it

They only stay with me one night a week so I don't have to explain the going out for meets, thankfully.

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
11 weeks ago

Glasgow

"Assuming most of you are like us and living a lie about this lifestyle to your family and vanilla friends. Our teenage kids are wondering why we're suddenly out so much more.

So we need to come up with a reason why we're always out. What reason do you use to cover your tracks? "

We have told ours that now they’re old enough to not need babysitting we’re just making up for all the times we couldn’t get out due to being at home with them 😊

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By *arierWoman
11 weeks ago

birmingham

We do “salsa” classes. Really hope we’re never asked to show what we’ve learned… 😅

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By *ariaxxxxWoman
11 weeks ago

London/Kent

Just tell the kids that now that they're grown up ye are rekindling & enjoying your new found freedom & that's it's your time now 👍👍

Me......I have an alibi in a close friend, she covers for me when I'm away at night for fun, we just let on we are away together & that works

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
11 weeks ago

East Sussex

Tell them you're going out with friends. If they get too nosey I don't think there's any harm in telling them your private life is none of their business.

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By *eeshells OP Couple
11 weeks ago

Reading

"We have told ours that now they’re old enough to not need babysitting we’re just making up for all the times we couldn’t get out due to being at home with them 😊"

This is what we've also done

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

I have a new role at work which means I travel more often, and is super fucking handy as I get hotels

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
11 weeks ago

Coventry

We're naturist in vanilla life. So we used to tell the kids we were off to the naturist spa.

Bar the two youngest they know we're swingers now (not by choice). So no more need for a cover story with the older ones. Which did spark some interesting and funny conversation/interrogation in the household.

As for other freinds and family it's not a secret, neither is it something we openly share (it is our private sex life after all). Some know, some don't. We simply say we're off out or away for the weekend without giving futher explanation.

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By *cunthorpe123Couple
11 weeks ago

scunthorpe

My eldest son knows, he’s 23 now. He’s known for about 6 years.

I’m very open as a parent and we are a happily married couple that choose to swing, that’s nothing at all to be ashamed of.

Our other son and daughter are only 13 and 14 so they are a bit young at the moment, but when they are older we won’t hide it from them either.

Donna x

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By *ryton 123TV/TS
11 weeks ago

Chatham

I'm devoiced but own my house. I have my son that lives with me his 20 and mainly with his girlfriend. So I can get out when I like.

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By (user no longer on site)
11 weeks ago

Just tell them your having a date night, what more needs to be said?

I wouldn't class not discussing your sex life with everyone as living a lie.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
11 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Just tell them your having a date night, what more needs to be said?

I wouldn't class not discussing your sex life with everyone as living a lie."

Neither would I.

We've never discussed our sex life with our kids and wouldn't expect them to discuss theirs with us (they're both in their thirties in LTRs ).

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By *ecret-64Couple
11 weeks ago

Wrexham

Just meeting friends but the funny bit was my wife would take a spare set of cloths to get changed into in the car as we drove.

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By *arnelianWoman
11 weeks ago

Ely, Cambridgeshire (moved here April '25)

My sex life is my business. If they do ask why I'm not free, they get told I'm meeting friends from a support forum I'm on.

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By *istressSubCuckMan
11 weeks ago

Winchester

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By *istressSubCuckMan
11 weeks ago

Winchester

"We do “salsa” classes. Really hope we’re never asked to show what we’ve learned… 😅"

Chop some tomato, onion, chilli, coriander, squeeze of lime juice etc...

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
11 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

Oh I'm just off to a sex party / swingers club / dungeon event.

Zero shame 💜

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
11 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Oh I'm just off to a sex party / swingers club / dungeon event.

Zero shame 💜"

I did say similar to a friend once. She laughed and didn't believe me

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By *andalustCouple
11 weeks ago

Guildford

"We do “salsa” classes. Really hope we’re never asked to show what we’ve learned… 😅"
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Love this

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By *-and-JCouple
10 weeks ago

Southampton

We go to a lot of “birthday” parties.

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By *he Decadent DuoCouple
10 weeks ago

Sheffield

Everytime, "We're going to a spa"

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By *andm18Couple
10 weeks ago

Bolton

We love comedy shows so that's the excuse we give our babysitters (grandparents) and kids too young to know any better. Still wouldn't tell them as just think would you have wanted to know what your parents were upto?

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By *adbod2015Man
10 weeks ago

Nantwich

I don't live a lie, I just don't tell people things about me that don't concern them.

A bit of a boring answer I know but it's all I've got haha

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