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"Hey everyone, just curious has anyone ever had much luck arranging an outdoors night time Bukkake? We’ve tried a couple of times but struggle with no shows etc Do you put posts up well in advance and keep in regular contact or is it better doing it all last minute so it’s fresh in peoples minds? We don’t have anything planned anytime soon but just wondering what others have experienced and if they have any advice. Hopefully if we arrange one again in the future maybe we will have some better success. Feel free to tribute the Mrs if you would be interested in the future and wouldn’t let us down "Tell you what if you were closer I’d definitely turn up | |||
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"Hey everyone, just curious has anyone ever had much luck arranging an outdoors night time Bukkake? We’ve tried a couple of times but struggle with no shows etc Do you put posts up well in advance and keep in regular contact or is it better doing it all last minute so it’s fresh in peoples minds? We don’t have anything planned anytime soon but just wondering what others have experienced and if they have any advice. Hopefully if we arrange one again in the future maybe we will have some better success. Feel free to tribute the Mrs if you would be interested in the future and wouldn’t let us down "Keeping an eye on this | |||
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"We wouldn’t make the location public for obvious reasons as you’ve stated and we’ve also done the same in the past. Your right we’ve had a lot of people interested, a lot that have said they will come and again as you’ve said atleast 50% drop out or you never hear from again, we’ve also had some that have turned up but sadly been too afraid to do anything, and obviously some that are too nervous to perform which is totally understandable. I guess we need to start making a list of reliable, likeable people that the Mrs is interested in. "DM me as I’m open to chat and see if we can arrange something that suits you x | |||
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"I wish someone would turn up in our local spots to do this, I keep checking but alas, no luck yet" Doesn’t seem like you’re too far away! | |||
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"Perhaps start smaller like one or two guys at a time and them arrange a sort of collaboration?" We’ve done smaller groups, good idea speaking to past meet ups, might be the best idea to stop no shows and so there is a bit of trust  | |||
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"I wish someone would turn up in our local spots to do this, I keep checking but alas, no luck yet Doesn’t seem like you’re too far away! " I’m not, I’d let you know where I visit but can’t DM you | |||
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"I wish someone would turn up in our local spots to do this, I keep checking but alas, no luck yet Doesn’t seem like you’re too far away! I’m not, I’d let you know where I visit but can’t DM you" Sorry buddy, sorted that out, please try again  | |||
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"Yeah updating status a few hours before and a combination of regulars and newbies can work especially outdoors as the weather gets warmer. What3words is great for precise location in the woods though would send by private message rather than public forum for that actual location. Then you can screen as you go. Though a simple locator don’t forget some peeps still won’t get it so you out the unintelligent. Ha ha. A lot of fun to be had that way as the weather warms up!" Happy fabbing hot girl summer to you  x | |||
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"Sorry, I read this before and had intended to give it some thought and come back to it, and I just reread it! I went through a phase of only being able to plan for meets late at night. I found it quite a challenge. Plenty of offers, most of which came to nothing. Fantasists were a big problem - the ones who like to have a wee fiddle exchanging a few messages about it then don't give it a second thought because next time they log on they fancy something /someone different. Ironically, many of the men who did want to participate were very apprehensive thinking they were walking into a mugging, being somewhere quiet in the dead of night. The sensible ones would believe it to be too good to be true and, after chatting, talk themselves out of it. It's not for everyone, but I found displaying a verification confirming I had done it in the past (and the guy survived!) helped A LOT. Trying to emphasise how much it helped! Don't think I can. Lol. Again, not for everyone, but there are experienced, well-connected swingers on here who are able to turn a good MMF into me doing my best impression of a painter's radio. I did find that truckers were also very good at helping out, too. If it is something spontaneous, they know where is busy and them being there also helps keep a place safe and discreet. They know the good laybys where, with some strategic parking by them, nothing can be seen. I think i may have made that sound simple - just get a trucker! The ones who live locally rarely truck locally, and the ones who are parked up locally are usually only there to sleep, poop, eat and move on. Catching them can be a challenge. There's always men who have a mate who will be into it. Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesnt. They can get a bit too 'laddish' when together. Particularly the younger ones. Messaging on Fab is slow and laborious. I did not want to do it, but I set up a WhatsApp to keep the communication open and flowing up till the point of meeting. This is probably common knowledge to everyone else but me, but my phone is dual sim with a private folder, so I was able to set up a seperate private WhatsApp and when I wasnt looking, I switched off its data so people who would want a follow up chat/bypass Fab would see their messages weren't getting delivered. I just made it clear to the men I used it solely when meeting and, to be fair to them they never badgered me afterwards. Maybe I wasnt good? I found that those who were genuinely interested and remained in contact and were always polite and friendly, anticipating another invite. Guys found it to be more credible if I was willing to communicate off site. Spontaneous v. Planned. Spontaneous always worked best for me. Catching people horny 'in the moment'. Planning it in advance rarely worked because men would believe it too good to be true and talk themselves out of it or, their priorities would change and and the outdoor bukkake that was a great idea when it was planned a few days ago now, after a shit day at work and facing another very early rise, isn't so appealing... It can sometimes be easy to spot the genuine ones from the questions they ask and the way they approach it. Someone already mentioned "what 3 words". Its so precise. The number of men who would come back with the excuse of "i drove along the nearest road a couple of times. Couldn't see a woman getting jizzed on so thought you were a timewaster". On location, I'm sure you've already considered it but i had to learn the hard way....change it up. I found a brilliant safe, discreet spot right in the heart of Glasgow's southside. You could actually see people moving around in their houses and it was so dark they couldn't see me. But people would always return. If there was the vaguest hint I was heading out, they would head there. Not all I was happy to see again. Always the voyeurs. The ones who would loiter at the back, hand in the trackies...furiously trying to get it to it's biggest before they whip it out, but can't..because in the face of a number of other hard cocks all jostling to gift a pearl necklace, they suddenly don't feel as adequate. Or, Bless Them, faced with their biggest fantasy,they panic and they freeze. Some did return. Creepy. Like just about everything else on Fab it was a challenge. It is a challenge finding one genuine man for a meet never mind trying to find several. But it can work...and when it does I hope it is even better than you had both hoped it could be. It certainly was for me!! Lol. All the best x " Wow thank you for sharing your experiences. We know it’s a risky thing to do, but we just find it so exhilarating! | |||
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"Hello! A couple more things I think i should have mentioned.I'm sure it is something you've already considered. But pics and vids. The number of people who think it is appropriate to whip their phone out to capture the moment. It is helpful to make the rules clear from the start. I found that many of the men who were looking for a random outdoor encounter did not want the moment captured either. Lol. So they were good at policing the crowd. Also, setting a time. I found it very frustrating, but despite making the time clear, men would intentionally delay their arrival wanting to walk into something happening to help them feel at ease and get in the mood...Experienced men who kn ow how to get the ball rolling are good at getting in first. Men don't want to be the first to get it out..they want to wait and make sure Stacey Dooley doesn't emerge from behind a hedge with a BBC camera crew doing an exposé on dogging and they will end up on a BBC Three documentary with their face, and arse, pixilated. I learned it was helpful to make it clear what happens after the event. I found many would loiter without joining in but with the hope of a little private time when everyone else is finished. I will say I never went along alone. I always had a male friend from here, sometimes two, who would accompany me. It was like a David Attenborough documentary watching a pack of wild animals. The younger, inexperienced guys always relied upon the guy I was with to either start things off, or wait about for him to back off and let them know I was fair game. I have to add that it found married men to be most reliable, and discreet. After them, the unverified. It is a fantasy for many on here and many will be chomping at the bit to get that green tick, particularly at such a meet. But on the other side of the coin I had been very wary of inviting someone unverified given the time/location...even though i was not alone. But I really had nothing to worry about. As I said above, the men were very good at policing themselves. They didn't want grief anymore than I did. I was at first unsure how to deal with leaving a verification for someone. I just felt uncomfortable leaving a verification for someone who did nothing more than turn up on the night and leave a load on me. But i just kept it simple. Did they respond to messages? Was it easy to arrange something? Did they turn up as arranged and, most important, was it the person portrayed on the profile? I would always videocall/cam first but I had read on the forums that single men cannot be verified by cam. But I did mention i had seen them on cam first when verifying by meet. There wasnt much time for getting to know you chit chat at a meet. It wasnt what i was after. I found that anything other than a bit of dirty banter was a bit of a passionkiller. Particularly the ones who would start off with the awkward, "You okay?...all very polite, but when on my knees in heels and stockings, surrounded by a number of willies, it's clear I'm not having a bad day! It is talked about a lot on the forums, but clear and effective communication is key. If it something you are planning in advance keeping in touch is vital. Guys who are genuinely interested appreciate a wee 'hello' just to let them know all is well and nothing has changed. I don't think that is unreasonable. On communication, I did set out rules - well, really just outlining what i was looking for and what was expected of the men. and I just wrote something and copied and pasted it to everyone. And on rules - men are simple creatures. They like consistency. Anyone i had go along with me was there with the same rules as everyone else. I wasnt having men think some things were okay because they seen someone else do it. It causes confusion. Lastly, and this is just a personal thing, but I always carried dog poo bags. The number of people who would bring tissue and wet wipes and then just toss on the ground when done!!! My conscience bothered me. Bag it and bin it. I've been out with the dog and seen bushes and discreet spots littered with crumpled used tissues. Just no need for it. It attracts unnecessary attention to any discreet spot. " Fabulous advice! I wish there were more like you local to me  | |||
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"We wouldn’t make the location public for obvious reasons as you’ve stated and we’ve also done the same in the past. Your right we’ve had a lot of people interested, a lot that have said they will come and again as you’ve said atleast 50% drop out or you never hear from again, we’ve also had some that have turned up but sadly been too afraid to do anything, and obviously some that are too nervous to perform which is totally understandable. I guess we need to start making a list of reliable, likeable people that the Mrs is interested in. "Hi I would love to be part of this and certainly wouldn’t let you down Dave | |||
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"Hey everyone, just curious has anyone ever had much luck arranging an outdoors night time Bukkake? We’ve tried a couple of times but struggle with no shows etc Do you put posts up well in advance and keep in regular contact or is it better doing it all last minute so it’s fresh in peoples minds? We don’t have anything planned anytime soon but just wondering what others have experienced and if they have any advice. Hopefully if we arrange one again in the future maybe we will have some better success. Feel free to tribute the Mrs if you would be interested in the future and wouldn’t let us down "Post a meet on here but keep location vague for obvious reasons. Chat either potential ‘donors’ knowing at least 50% will drop out. We have tended to do our bukkake sessions in clubs as more ‘donors’ but outdoor is fun, just so many drop outs. | |||
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"Hello! A couple more things I think i should have mentioned.I'm sure it is something you've already considered. But pics and vids. The number of people who think it is appropriate to whip their phone out to capture the moment. It is helpful to make the rules clear from the start. I found that many of the men who were looking for a random outdoor encounter did not want the moment captured either. Lol. So they were good at policing the crowd. Also, setting a time. I found it very frustrating, but despite making the time clear, men would intentionally delay their arrival wanting to walk into something happening to help them feel at ease and get in the mood...Experienced men who kn ow how to get the ball rolling are good at getting in first. Men don't want to be the first to get it out..they want to wait and make sure Stacey Dooley doesn't emerge from behind a hedge with a BBC camera crew doing an exposé on dogging and they will end up on a BBC Three documentary with their face, and arse, pixilated. I learned it was helpful to make it clear what happens after the event. I found many would loiter without joining in but with the hope of a little private time when everyone else is finished. I will say I never went along alone. I always had a male friend from here, sometimes two, who would accompany me. It was like a David Attenborough documentary watching a pack of wild animals. The younger, inexperienced guys always relied upon the guy I was with to either start things off, or wait about for him to back off and let them know I was fair game. I have to add that it found married men to be most reliable, and discreet. After them, the unverified. It is a fantasy for many on here and many will be chomping at the bit to get that green tick, particularly at such a meet. But on the other side of the coin I had been very wary of inviting someone unverified given the time/location...even though i was not alone. But I really had nothing to worry about. As I said above, the men were very good at policing themselves. They didn't want grief anymore than I did. I was at first unsure how to deal with leaving a verification for someone. I just felt uncomfortable leaving a verification for someone who did nothing more than turn up on the night and leave a load on me. But i just kept it simple. Did they respond to messages? Was it easy to arrange something? Did they turn up as arranged and, most important, was it the person portrayed on the profile? I would always videocall/cam first but I had read on the forums that single men cannot be verified by cam. But I did mention i had seen them on cam first when verifying by meet. There wasnt much time for getting to know you chit chat at a meet. It wasnt what i was after. I found that anything other than a bit of dirty banter was a bit of a passionkiller. Particularly the ones who would start off with the awkward, "You okay?...all very polite, but when on my knees in heels and stockings, surrounded by a number of willies, it's clear I'm not having a bad day! It is talked about a lot on the forums, but clear and effective communication is key. If it something you are planning in advance keeping in touch is vital. Guys who are genuinely interested appreciate a wee 'hello' just to let them know all is well and nothing has changed. I don't think that is unreasonable. On communication, I did set out rules - well, really just outlining what i was looking for and what was expected of the men. and I just wrote something and copied and pasted it to everyone. And on rules - men are simple creatures. They like consistency. Anyone i had go along with me was there with the same rules as everyone else. I wasnt having men think some things were okay because they seen someone else do it. It causes confusion. Lastly, and this is just a personal thing, but I always carried dog poo bags. The number of people who would bring tissue and wet wipes and then just toss on the ground when done!!! My conscience bothered me. Bag it and bin it. I've been out with the dog and seen bushes and discreet spots littered with crumpled used tissues. Just no need for it. It attracts unnecessary attention to any discreet spot. Fabulous advice! I wish there were more like you local to me "What? Sleazy ladies with a bus pass? Lol. | |||
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"Better done in clubs or more pertinently sex cinema type venue, plenty guys up for it and easier to keep eye on people trying to film. Can only speak from our experience on this though but good luck OP" Thank you, we are planning a trip to the Empire in July x | |||
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"Better done in clubs or more pertinently sex cinema type venue, plenty guys up for it and easier to keep eye on people trying to film. Can only speak from our experience on this though but good luck OP Thank you, we are planning a trip to the Empire in July x" Pleasure ,never been Empire but hear good things but have done at Angels and Sinners successfully x | |||
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