FabSwingers.com forum: Swinging after having children

By *rogal OP Couple
12 weeks ago

Falkirk

Hey, we had our first child 6 months ago, and have no idea how to get back into the swinging world. We don't have family nearby to watch her and tbh, probably don't feel comfortable leaving her overnight with anyone yet.

We are also unsure about inviting strangers into the house while she is asleep in her room.

Any advice/experience anyone could share would be brilliant thanks

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By *ev_1Couple
12 weeks ago

Bickliegh

Wait it out the years will pass very fast

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

Inviting anyone over while the child is there shouldn't even be a thought

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

I absolutely wouldn't have strangers in my house around my children. Please put their safety 1st.

The only thing to do is find a child minder you are happy with, have hotel or club meets or at theirs, it's doable just takes more planning.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
12 weeks ago

Leeds

It must be difficult you have had no babysitter for these first six months so you can have a bit of time together even for non swinging time out.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

If I knew that someone had children of any age in the house I wouldn’t meet them there

If I turned up and it was clear they had children in the house then I would leave

As you say you don’t have people around you who can offer support so maybe take a sabbatical.

You can always come back into the lifestyle

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By *allySlinkyWoman
12 weeks ago

Leeds

Apart from the safety aspect, I could never relax and enjoy sex with a stranger, wondering if my baby was going to wake up at any moment.

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By *oyager77Man
12 weeks ago

Colchester

"It must be difficult you have had no babysitter for these first six months so you can have a bit of time together even for non swinging time out.

From an everyday life view, it's hard when you've no family around but doable. It takes patience, understanding and love for each other (inc. kids), but most of all its the sacrifice of what you may want and putting off till another day. It gets easier but as they grow the parent worries change, modelling the behaviour and teaching kids clear right and wrongs, their part in the family and we're all there for each other gives an amazing family. It's great to see and hear how their friends look up to your kids for help, or support when times are hard because they are strong understanding individuals who can look after themselves, a very proud dad! As for Mrs and I... we're starting to reconnect on the sex side of things, and it's slowly getting hotter

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By *hechonkyduoCouple
12 weeks ago

Café Leblanc, Stourbridge

Hold out until they go to Nursery, then meets in the daytime. That is how we would approach it.

We would never and I mean never have a guy over for an encounter with one of the kids in the house.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
12 weeks ago

Coventry

Unfortunately I can't think of no great gold plate solution, it's a difficult situation made worse by your location (I suspect). The only thing I can suggest is wait it out (and it does go fast unless you intend to have more). Keep your eye in on here, maybe some webcam interaction if your naturally inclined to that. As others have said as they get older maybe arrange the occasional school time day time thing? I'm going to guess your location isn't practical for any daytime club events unfortunately. Hope that maybe as time goes on and they grow up more opportunities for childcare/sleep overs develop to give you guys chance to get away. I think that's important to from a vanilla veiw point as well as swinging.

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By *oBoCoupleCouple
12 weeks ago

Bournemouth

When I first joined someone invited me round to his house when his son was asleep…needless to say I declined

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By *teinsGateDuoCouple
12 weeks ago

Newcastle under Lyme

Nevermind swinging, you won't be doing much at all until your kids old enough for a babysitter. Best you can hope for is to make the most of it if you take you kid for an overnight visit to the grandparents or other relative.

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By *issmorganWoman
12 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Please don't invite random people to your home, when your baby is there op

The only other option I can see is you 2 meeting separately, so the other can provide childcare.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
12 weeks ago

Staffordshire

It depends how you like your meets I guess.

We prefer separate room play. We tend to always meet couples for socials to know everyone is safe and where possible do solo meets.

Under no circumstances would we allow anyone we meet to come to the family home, it just feels wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
12 weeks ago

"When I first joined someone invited me round to his house when his son was asleep…needless to say I declined "

When i declined guys offer for them to come over as my son would be in bed they always said we can be quiet.. sorry if you think that way then your an idiot

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