FabSwingers.com forum: Help, how does the wank buddy thing work??

By *lirtymr_mrs OP Couple
11 weeks ago

Stockton-on-Tees

I am contemplating taking up an offer of having a male wank buddy, this would have a bi- element to it so not strictly just hanging out and watching porn, but also not fully male-male sex session.

I don't need advice on finding a suitable partner, offers have already been made, I just want to understand what to expect and how to have a good first time. I already have experience playing with men, just not in a wank buddy scenario.

Can anyone with experience of this explain how a meet would happen? Things like, what room of the house to use? Is there chit chat beforehand? Etiquette on where the jiz normally goes and how to keep it off the carpet? How to make things not be awkward? Do you answer the door and get straight down to it or spend 10 minutes talking about football, cars or other manly banter?

Thanks !!

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By *ust little old me 13Man
11 weeks ago

Preston

If you've played with men, that's already a head start,me personally, like to chat a while before meeting,and by then it sort of feels like you know them,if you get me,

I'm straight ,I fancy women,but I've been in certain situations, shall we say, where things happen,if you get me lol, mostly all pre arranged,so I knew who was involved,and if they were compatible,ie.. large and hairy ain't happening lol,, you've just got to say "fuck it, let's go for it"in your head,and dive in, unless the other party already has, being able to laugh and talk is what makes me comfy

Hope this helps

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By *ellyonthecarpet1Couple
11 weeks ago

Birmingham

I like to have the porn on as he comes round.

In the living room.. with the hard pipe lol.

Just see what happens. There maybe chit chat.. there might not. All depends on the mood.

I like to chat on here/telegram to ensure we are on the same page and like the same things when arranging.

Where to cum depends on your feelings at the time but I wouldn't worry about getting it anywhere.

Just have fun. I always have no expectations except I'm going to watch some porn and another guy is going to join me.

If his cock ends up in my mouth then... Added bonus!

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By *andy IanMan
11 weeks ago

cheshire/Preston

I’m straight had a few meets over many years with couples for mmf cuckold and role play. There has always been on line chat before a meet had been arranged so all knew what to expect. Usually the lady dressed as required starting with chat flirt tease before more sensual kissing and touching. Some husbands just watch and wank make suggestive comments take pics or video. Even after full safe sex if allowed it can end with wanking over her. Have been in situations where wife has wanked us both, husband had wanked me to cum over her or we have wanked each other. A few husbands have been encouraged by wife to perform oral with her or alone to make me cum. I think if you go with the flow it can be very satisfying for all.

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By *evelhazeMan
11 weeks ago

north staffs

Can’t wait to try this. Always looking to make new friends.

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By *ndysahornyboyMan
11 weeks ago

Cardiff central with work

So wank buddies is mostly what I'm looking for on here and I've had a fair few buds over the years, one offs and regulars. Happy to offer views and chat about it. It does depend a bit on the pairing as to how it goes and what people are into. Like others I definitely like to chat a bit first, get to know each other a bit, get comfortable. Then when meeting tbh to help kill off any nerves, especially for a first time meet, I like to get naked pretty quickly and get into it. Chatting during and after is great, and chatting beforehand is easier if we've met already and shot a load together!

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By *andydan69Man
11 weeks ago

south west nr you mmm

Love to do this have turned up n watched a guy naked jack off to porn stray a huge load everywhere n leave

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By *eecha87Man
11 weeks ago

portadown

"I am contemplating taking up an offer of having a male wank buddy, this would have a bi- element to it so not strictly just hanging out and watching porn, but also not fully male-male sex session.

Thanks !!"
hi

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By *lirtymr_mrs OP Couple
11 weeks ago

Stockton-on-Tees

"Love to do this have turned up n watched a guy naked jack off to porn stray a huge load everywhere n leave "

Ahhh so you're that guy I don't want spunking all over the living room rug

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By *lirtymr_mrs OP Couple
11 weeks ago

Stockton-on-Tees

Thanks everyone for the thoughtful replies. Has really reminded me it's a two way thing and also building a relationship with a human. I think I got a bit distracted down a very transactional path that guys only want pre-arranged wank and go with barely any conversation... When really it seems just like any other relationship... I suppose the clue was in the title "buddy"

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By *tockingsstephTV/TS
11 weeks ago

northampton

I would be well up for this

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By *rMrsBiCardiffCouple
11 weeks ago

Roath

There's no set way.

Just like any other scenario, it's completepy dependant on whatever you both decide it should be.

Some people might enjoy cum and go.

Others might want to have a good conversation and get more intimate.

The only wrong way is to do it in a way that either of you don't enjoy.

And the only way to avoid that is to communicate well enough before, during and after.

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By *ythenMan
11 weeks ago

I am so looking for this … another guy (prefabally 2) to meet , chat and wank with ..

like a previous poster touched on above …, some may enjoy blow and go . Others May enjoy a long edging session… personally both sound delightful and I’d be comfortable with either .. trick is like a lot of other things in life … keep it simple 😈😈

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By *ythenMan
11 weeks ago

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By *andy IanMan
11 weeks ago

cheshire/Preston

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By *ussex_ladMan
11 weeks ago

hastings

I be interested in this wank together or even call each over and cum together shoot ur load 💦

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By *ill12369Man
11 weeks ago

knutsford chesh

Definitely a scenario i would like to try

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By *DiscreetBlokeMan
10 weeks ago

Leicestershire

There are no rules.

For some people, a wank meet is a gentle play session, touching each other, maybe even kissing, cuddling etc.

For others is it purely the act of masturbating in the same room or even just enjoying being naked in a shared space.

If you’re planning a wank meet, I think it’s important to set the boundaries of what you want and what you expect before you meet…. So neither of you has the wrong idea.

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By *asterofmaidsMan
10 weeks ago

Telford

Would be interesting to try

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By *eve500Man
10 weeks ago

Leeds

Same.... Been becoming very curious lately

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By *KK.Man
8 weeks ago

Leeds

This is a scenario I’d like to explore too

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By *reeAdventureTimeCouple
8 weeks ago

Western MA

I always suggest that they meet me at the door naked. It's less awkward and saves time! lol

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By *inkyones200Couple
8 weeks ago

leeds

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By *heonixrising500Man
8 weeks ago

Barnsley

I would do it

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By *sxboy69Man
8 weeks ago

Rayleigh

Usually it doesn't work as most guys on here don't accom and then organising a time is a hassle as everyone is busy, and thats before you out the wierdos and deeply unattractive blokes lol. Ideally it's a lazy wank with some porn in a comfortable place with a like minded guy, and sometimes a little mutual masturbation and oral might occur if both parties are up for it. The buddy part suggests it should happen more than once

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By *lowupdollTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Herts/Beds/Leeds/London

I find this idea really interesting. Is it only really for straight guys?

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By *m3232Man
8 weeks ago

maidenhead

Great fun but hard to find. I would love to find another fwb. Luckily I have a t girl I meet for regular fun.

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By *otathletic1Man
8 weeks ago

Newquay

I’m chatting to some guys on here about doing it. Just need to find someone you’re comfortable with and go for it I suppose!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
8 weeks ago

Central

Probably the best thing is to workout what would make it ideal for you, then see what ideas the other guys have. Then, when you get to meeting you've got things outlined and you know what to expect.

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By *ungDylanMan
8 weeks ago

Watford

The wank buds I've had were guys I got on with and had similar porn interests with. We'd have a drink and a chat, maybe play some games then have a long edging session together. It's great to bond and release together and have an open space with no judgement. Just 2 lads being completely open with each other.

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By *KK.Man
6 weeks ago

Leeds

"I find this idea really interesting. Is it only really for straight guys? "

For me, I’d say no.

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By *ryorkshirepleaserMan
6 weeks ago

Yorkshire

I want a female wank buddy ha if only

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By *hencanyoutryMan
6 weeks ago

gateshead

Anyone northeast

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By (user no longer on site)
6 weeks ago

The most important thing for me is the porn as we both have to find it stimulating and not off-putting.

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By *andy IanMan
6 weeks ago

cheshire/Preston

My experience was with a husband of a couple I’d already sex with his wife. She was at work he invited me round to watch videos of her have sex with other guys. We stripped naked and played with ourselves edging for as long as we could cumming onto a towel on the floor.

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By *oung40Man
6 weeks ago

thirsk

done this a few times now, have a chat, put some porn on and wank away! wanked each other off and sucked each other a couple times! last time we swapped girlfriends thongs.

the last guy ended up joining me and gf for a mmf

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By *rightonsteveMan
6 weeks ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Having read all the replies, I want a wank buddy too!

I guess there could be spank buddies or keep fit blokes for plank buddies or tank buddies if you’re in the army or like tropical fish or very polite thank buddies or american yank buddies…

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By *oleraine-coupleCouple
6 weeks ago

Coleraine

Something I have done a few times.

I approach it like any meeting. Plenty of chat in here first to check a level of compatibility between us, the guy is not an idiot (loads of them sadly) and an outline understanding what what a wanking meeting might shape out as. Trust me people’s understanding of a wank meet is massively different from one guy to another!

For me it is normally, host once all this has happened. Chat for a while maybe a drink then decide where to do it living room or bedroom. Decisions around porn and toys agreed before hand. Take it steady, no mad rush. Suitable thanks and goodbyes afterwards without being awkward or them running out.

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By *arienteMan
6 weeks ago

Baldock

It's what Coleraine Couple said... communication is key, and that's not always a given on Fab. (Nor even on Fabguys, where all my meets have come from).

Most have mine have been something like this... there has to be a good amount of chat beforehand, we work out if we've got some common turn ons, (a shared set of porn likes or at least fantasies to discuss is pretty critical). We work out whether mutual touching is good for both or whether it's self pleasure only (though it's almost always mutual), and whether any oral attention would be unwelcome at any point. You also just want a fair bit of general chat to see if you get on, hence "buddy", because having some grunting, unpleasant aggressive knobhead in your house isn't very buddy-like, nor at all sexy.

Most often I host, I tend to offer a drink and a seat in the lounge and we'll chill out for a bit. The bed is normally made up upstairs, with a towel down for any mess, tissues nearby too, and a TV or laptop to watch some porn on, we'll head upstairs, get naked and lounge around and chat and stroke a bit, and it develops from there.

I've been to others houses where it may be different, one friend liked to meet me at the door naked, some like to sit in the lounge and wank, one mate likes to sit in his hit tub naked and we grope each other.

Communication is THE most important thing, know what to expect and you'll both feel far more comfortable.

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