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"A cpl of lines adds mystery Lol " Oh the irony ! Lol | |||
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"Or you could just chat to them in the chat rooms or send them a message? I never message anyone " | |||
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"You know us bi women find it hard to find a genuine bi lady on here that isn't attached to a male ..that's why I haven't got any veris off bi ladies ..its not for the want of trying. .mostly I get after chatting to a single bi lady can my partner watch/join in?.. " | |||
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"You know us bi women find it hard to find a genuine bi lady on here that isn't attached to a male ..that's why I haven't got any veris off bi ladies ..its not for the want of trying. .mostly I get after chatting to a single bi lady can my partner watch/join in?.. " Yep ive bn there too | |||
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"Good luck with that, you seek the rarest of all the fab inhabitants, not an easy task....you'll come across the ones that state they're bi, but surprisingly only have a string of veri's from single men, the ones that put bi on their profile so they can squeeze every last drop of attention of every possible gender, the ones that have teamed up as a pair to hunt down and shag as many men as their orifices can cope with, the ones that blatantly ignore you, the bi curios ones that pop round for a chat cos they haven't found a man to fill the hours before hubby comes home, and if ya lucky....a genuine one that is truly up for a meet (although she also could turn out to be the type that puts up with a woman touching her, just to get to your partners cock).....happy swinging " ..I can't think of many women that would put up with a woman touching her just to get to her husband's cock when there are so many single guys on here looking for single women] | |||
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"Good luck with that, you seek the rarest of all the fab inhabitants, not an easy task....you'll come across the ones that state they're bi, but surprisingly only have a string of veri's from single men, the ones that put bi on their profile so they can squeeze every last drop of attention of every possible gender, the ones that have teamed up as a pair to hunt down and shag as many men as their orifices can cope with, the ones that blatantly ignore you, the bi curios ones that pop round for a chat cos they haven't found a man to fill the hours before hubby comes home, and if ya lucky....a genuine one that is truly up for a meet (although she also could turn out to be the type that puts up with a woman touching her, just to get to your partners cock).....happy swinging ..I can't think of many women that would put up with a woman touching her just to get to her husband's cock when there are so many single guys on here looking for single women] " | |||
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"^^^^^^_ I didn't realise there was so many women going to great lengths to get cock I thought it was only the men who had to lie Lola x" Hahahaha oh my lord women can be as bad as men and men as bad as women Personally I don't like meeting couples - too much drama and the ones Ive met in the past ALWAYS do it for the mans enjoyment , and the lady usually is doing to please him. Not my cup of tea Good luck though - there are a few single ' bi' women who team up together on here for shall we say ' tag team ' action | |||
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"Hi guys any ideas how we could better our profile to find a bit fem to play. Any ideas greatly appreciated xx" OP - Let's try and offer some genuinely constructive help rather than just take the p***. You've only been on here 8 weeks and only have two veri's, both of which are by webcam - not meeting. I really don't think you understand the magnitude of the 'task' ahead of you if you really want to meet bi-fems. First, is this the desire of both of you, or is it that the male wants to watch the fem with another woman, do you all want to be fully involved? What exactly is it? Next, bi-fems can be VERY choosy about who they meet. If you think the balance against single guys on here is bad, it is nothing compared to the number of couples looking for a single bi-fem. Also, you have your ages working against you - if you cannot put over to someone reading your profile that you have a sufficient sexual maturity to understand what you're doing involving a bi-fem in play with the two of you (again, assuming it IS with both of you) then you are NOT going to attract anyone. Your current profile is just two sentences long and is littered with grammatical errors. On the basis of that, if you were a single bi-fem, would you honestly be attracted to you? Just being young, horny and possessed of a fantastic body is NOT enough - sorry, but that is a FACT. If you want to get anywhere with this, I think you need to look at going to some clubs with specific bi nights so that people can meet you in person and sum you up that way. Otherwise, I'm sorry to say I think you are in for a lot of disappointment... | |||
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"Yes but do many bi FEMS look for cpls as we are looking for a fem to play with me but my bf would only touch or get touched by me. But you all know aswell as me sometimes you get caught in the moment lol xx" You need to make that clear in your profile, the photos are good (and yes I have looked although I don't appear on your 'looked' list) but there is a thread on here saying most women will be attracted by personality not looks in the first instance. I suspect you both do have personality judging from your replies but it doesn't show up in your profile. There are too many people looking for the same thing for anyone never mind single bi females, to get into pingpong messages. | |||
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"I can sell you a magic elixir, distilled from the tears of mystical oriental water buffalo. Which when rubbed all over your profile is guaranteed to have you dripping in bisexual gash. Seriously, read these genuine testimonials.... "Jodie's magic sex paste worked a treat. Minutes after rubbing my mouse with it I was beating hot lezzers off with a shitty stick" (R.Norway) "Jodie's juice is wonderful, I soaked my index finger in it overnight, swiped it across my ipad screen and was inundated with quim who performed horatio on me" (L.Trinidad and Tobago) So my special love oil is available at only £199.99 for a 10ml bottle. Only one a day available so hurry now! " Mornin Jodie! My day was looking boring until I read that and spat me coffee out! And I nice cup of Columbian it was too.... | |||
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"Yes but do many bi FEMS look for cpls as we are looking for a fem to play with me but my bf would only touch or get touched by me. But you all know aswell as me sometimes you get caught in the moment lol xx" And therein is your problem. You basically want a performing seal to entertain the male. Why would any bi female find the option of a 3sum where she only gets to play with one person an attractive proposition? And your profile is crap, it says nothing of any substance whatsoever. And you can't travel or accommodate... | |||
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"Can't wait to see how this one develops as a few more bi-fems wake up and read it.... and it's far too early in the day for popcorn... " Bacon butties it is then | |||
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"Got hot coffee here. I chat to a few single bi females....I thought I'd put that in.....cheer myself up " I chat to a couple of them too ... flirt a bit ... Suggestions passed ... Oh yes | |||
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"Sausage one for me please Brown or red sauce???" ...I'm not really a saucy sort of girl...lol. | |||
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"Sausage one for me please Brown or red sauce???...I'm not really a saucy sort of girl...lol." ... and I'm the Dali Lama..... | |||
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"Yes but do many bi FEMS look for cpls as we are looking for a fem to play with me but my bf would only touch or get touched by me. But you all know aswell as me sometimes you get caught in the moment lol xx" Most of what I would say has been said already, add to your profile, make it clear that your OH is only to play with you (apart from heat of moment). I've not played with many couples 1:1 because of the performing seal scenario - bi means likes to play with both genders and while I love getting my head buried between a lady's legs, I also adore male attention. Best of luck and welcome to Fab | |||
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"Sausage one for me please " I only serve up my special sausage on request Right ladies, how many orders are there | |||
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"Sausage one for me please Brown or red sauce???...I'm not really a saucy sort of girl...lol. ... and I'm the Dali Lama..... " ..pleased to meet you Mr Lama..I'll refrain from calling you Dali until I get to know you more. .xx | |||
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"Sausage one for me please I only serve up my special sausage on request Right ladies, how many orders are there " holds hand up ..Thank you bring mine up to bed please xxx | |||
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"Sausage one for me please I only serve up my special sausage on request Right ladies, how many orders are there " tart! Lol! | |||
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"Sausage one for me please Brown or red sauce???...I'm not really a saucy sort of girl...lol. ... and I'm the Dali Lama..... ..pleased to meet you Mr Lama..I'll refrain from calling you Dali until I get to know you more. .xx " Oh, call me Dali, please.... or God's right hand man if that's less 'familiar'.... | |||
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"They haven't replied to my special offer! Hoe can I improve my sales technique to sell more of my titty-tastic sapphic enhancement goo? No-one seems to want it " Go on QVC, Jode. They might give you a ten minute spot right after Joan Rivers.. | |||
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"They haven't replied to my special offer! Hoe can I improve my sales technique to sell more of my titty-tastic sapphic enhancement goo? No-one seems to want it " ..lol love it !!!!! | |||
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"I have a suspicious feeling that you may have to improve more than your profile before you find what you seek. If you are serious about what you want, take notice of the help above - and more importantly act on it. Your attitude and outlook are currently lacking." .. and something I forgot to include in my earlier comments: Never make the mistake of treating a single bi-fem as your 'plaything', there only to do your bidding. If you do not treat a bi lady as - at least - one third of the equation, you will have the door shut in your face every time.. | |||
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"I have a suspicious feeling that you may have to improve more than your profile before you find what you seek. If you are serious about what you want, take notice of the help above - and more importantly act on it. Your attitude and outlook are currently lacking. .. and something I forgot to include in my earlier comments: Never make the mistake of treating a single bi-fem as your 'plaything', there only to do your bidding. If you do not treat a bi lady as - at least - one third of the equation, you will have the door shut in your face every time.. " Eggzatley !! | |||
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"The hatred against bi females on here is lately coming a close 2nd to the hatred against single males..." I like single bi females. I have a fantasy involving 3 of them at the moment.... | |||
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"The hatred against bi females on here is lately coming a close 2nd to the hatred against single males..." I thinks its more 'dummys getting thrown out of prams' | |||
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"The hatred against bi females on here is lately coming a close 2nd to the hatred against single males... I like single bi females. I have a fantasy involving 3 of them at the moment.... " | |||
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"The hatred against bi females on here is lately coming a close 2nd to the hatred against single males... I like single bi females. I have a fantasy involving 3 of them at the moment.... " Only 3? Lightweight. Try a minibus full of 18yr old bi gymnasts and a jacuzzi full of lube. | |||
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"Personally I don't like meeting couples - too much drama and the ones Ive met in the past ALWAYS do it for the mans enjoyment, and the lady usually is doing to please him. Not my cup of tea " We (me and HotRuby) must be flippin odd then??? For us it is a three-way thing when we meet a bi-fem. If it's not 'fair-shares' all round then it doesn't happen. As BlondeCaz has said in this thread, 'bi' means you play with BOTH sexes in an MF couple and Ruby certainly does NOT play with women just to please me! If anything, on occasion it's been the other way round!!! Lol!! But then, we're old gits who've been around the block a few times and would like to think we have a bit more of a 'handle' on the dynamic of FFM | |||
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"The hatred against bi females on here is lately coming a close 2nd to the hatred against single males... I like single bi females. I have a fantasy involving 3 of them at the moment.... Only 3? Lightweight. Try a minibus full of 18yr old bi gymnasts and a jacuzzi full of lube. " | |||
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"The hatred against bi females on here is lately coming a close 2nd to the hatred against single males... I like single bi females. I have a fantasy involving 3 of them at the moment.... Only 3? Lightweight. Try a minibus full of 18yr old bi gymnasts and a jacuzzi full of lube. " Oh Fuck, Jodie! That's two cups of coffee gone over the keyboard!!! | |||
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"The hatred against bi females on here is lately coming a close 2nd to the hatred against single males... I like single bi females. I have a fantasy involving 3 of them at the moment.... " Ha ha ha funny you should say that | |||
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"The hatred against bi females on here is lately coming a close 2nd to the hatred against single males... I like single bi females. I have a fantasy involving 3 of them at the moment.... " You and your orgy! | |||
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"The hatred against bi females on here is lately coming a close 2nd to the hatred against single males... I like single bi females. I have a fantasy involving 3 of them at the moment.... Only 3? Lightweight. Try a minibus full of 18yr old bi gymnasts and a jacuzzi full of lube. Oh Fuck, Jodie! That's two cups of coffee gone over the keyboard!!! " If there's one thing I hate, It's coffee wastage. Clearly I need to give you lessons on how to swallow. | |||
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"The hatred against bi females on here is lately coming a close 2nd to the hatred against single males... I like single bi females. I have a fantasy involving 3 of them at the moment.... Only 3? Lightweight. Try a minibus full of 18yr old bi gymnasts and a jacuzzi full of lube. " Thank you for starting my day with a laugh | |||
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"The hatred against bi females on here is lately coming a close 2nd to the hatred against single males... I like single bi females. I have a fantasy involving 3 of them at the moment.... Only 3? Lightweight. Try a minibus full of 18yr old bi gymnasts and a jacuzzi full of lube. Oh Fuck, Jodie! That's two cups of coffee gone over the keyboard!!! If there's one thing I hate, It's coffee wastage. Clearly I need to give you lessons on how to swallow." Er......... | |||
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"Single bi fems DO meet couples. I have a couple that I meet regularly. I think that sometimes the issue is with the couples, and not the fems at all. " | |||
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"Yes but do many bi FEMS look for cpls as we are looking for a fem to play with me but my bf would only touch or get touched by me. But you all know aswell as me sometimes you get caught in the moment lol xx" As a former single bi female on here, that reads to me that the male is out of bounds to the female but he'll be there watching you but if he gets carried away then he might jump on the single lady. My advice would be to sort your boundaries out first. The prospect of being a performing monkey whilst the guy is gurning and watching, risking a hissy fit from the female if the singleton touches him but knowing he could dive on her at any moment is not an attractive one to be honest. Ms | |||
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"Hi guys any ideas how we could better our profile to find a bit fem to play. Any ideas greatly appreciated xx" It would help if your profile actually said something about what you were looking for. 2 lines is not much to tempt anybody.... | |||
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"Also change profile settings!!@ says you cannot travel or cannot accom !!! :/ lol" Thats not a problem. There must be loads of single bi females within walking distance or willing to pick them up and take two complete strangers back to her house! | |||
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"holds hand up ..Thank you bring mine up to bed please xxx " *puts on bow tie and polishes silver platter* Be with you shortly sweetheart | |||
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"Sausage one for me please I only serve up my special sausage on request Right ladies, how many orders are there tart! Lol! " You're out of luck there chap, but I do have a couple of Jammie Dodgers left if that's ok | |||
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"The hatred against bi females on here is lately coming a close 2nd to the hatred against single males... I like single bi females. I have a fantasy involving 3 of them at the moment.... Ha ha ha funny you should say that " Yummmmmm....... might be 4 now steelheels has posted... Who said I was a lightweight!?? ive got a tongue, a cock and two hands. I only do fantasies that could happen, not unbelievable ones. | |||
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"I personally wouldn't meet a couple and just play with the fem. the whole point of a couple for me is for everyone to play together. " Quite. When I play with a couple, the prior agreed groundrules and boundaries mean we each get an equal part in the sex. Is that what sticky thirds means? | |||
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"The hatred against bi females on here is lately coming a close 2nd to the hatred against single males... I like single bi females. I have a fantasy involving 3 of them at the moment.... Ha ha ha funny you should say that Yummmmmm....... might be 4 now steelheels has posted... Who said I was a lightweight!?? ive got a tongue, a cock and two hands. I only do fantasies that could happen, not unbelievable ones. " Count me in...we're all in the Frozen North though Steve - mebbe we'll just have to get us girls together n do you a cam show | |||
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"The hatred against bi females on here is lately coming a close 2nd to the hatred against single males... I like single bi females. I have a fantasy involving 3 of them at the moment.... Ha ha ha funny you should say that Yummmmmm....... might be 4 now steelheels has posted... Who said I was a lightweight!?? ive got a tongue, a cock and two hands. I only do fantasies that could happen, not unbelievable ones. Count me in...we're all in the Frozen North though Steve - mebbe we'll just have to get us girls together n do you a cam show " Now that sounds like a plan | |||
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"Got hot coffee here. I chat to a few single bi females....I thought I'd put that in.....cheer myself up " Morning Steve | |||
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"Got hot coffee here. I chat to a few single bi females....I thought I'd put that in.....cheer myself up Morning Steve " *panting* woof! Woof! | |||
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"The hatred against bi females on here is lately coming a close 2nd to the hatred against single males... I like single bi females. I have a fantasy involving 3 of them at the moment.... Ha ha ha funny you should say that Yummmmmm....... might be 4 now steelheels has posted... Who said I was a lightweight!?? ive got a tongue, a cock and two hands. I only do fantasies that could happen, not unbelievable ones. " I did, Lightweight! What's tbe point of a fantasy that might (even with long odds) happen? Push your boundaries, involve some film stars and an unhealthy amount of drugs and really go to town on the fucker. | |||
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"Sausage one for me please I only serve up my special sausage on request Right ladies, how many orders are there tart! Lol! You're out of luck there chap, but I do have a couple of Jammie Dodgers left if that's ok " Jammie Dodgers!! Corrr!!! nomnomnomnom.... What was this thread about again...????? | |||
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"Sausage one for me please I only serve up my special sausage on request Right ladies, how many orders are there tart! Lol! You're out of luck there chap, but I do have a couple of Jammie Dodgers left if that's ok Jammie Dodgers!! Corrr!!! nomnomnomnom.... What was this thread about again...????? " | |||
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"Sausage one for me please I only serve up my special sausage on request Right ladies, how many orders are there tart! Lol! You're out of luck there chap, but I do have a couple of Jammie Dodgers left if that's ok Jammie Dodgers!! Corrr!!! nomnomnomnom.... What was this thread about again...????? " Custard creams for me please | |||
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"We both have pics for friends to see we were gonna filtering out our inundated mails from big FEMS waiting for us " Oh Christ !! i do hope you meant bi and not big...or youve just opened up another can of worms | |||
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"Cool! Be good to see some hard girl on girl action. Won't it be fun when we get 3D cams? We need a secret code so I don't get told off for directing. 'lovely cushions' means suck and tweak her nipples, 'nice wallpaper' means get ya head between her legs 'brb making coffee' means I am but by the time I get back I need to be seeing fingers in. 'ooooh! That's hot and wet' refers to my coffee but also means do a 69. Ok? " Bloody hell Steve, we'll have to go in a directing room or there'll never be any action cos we're all trying to remember what the secret code is | |||
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"Cool! Be good to see some hard girl on girl action. Won't it be fun when we get 3D cams? We need a secret code so I don't get told off for directing. 'lovely cushions' means suck and tweak her nipples, 'nice wallpaper' means get ya head between her legs 'brb making coffee' means I am but by the time I get back I need to be seeing fingers in. 'ooooh! That's hot and wet' refers to my coffee but also means do a 69. Ok? " ROFPMSL XXX | |||
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"So basically posting in the forums a major waste of time we've been told our pics are not classy we are grammaticaly rubbish. We have no personality's you might as well go all out and call us swinging rejects. Wow we have 2 verifications on can 1000x better then none at all. Swinging snobbery lol makes me giggle .... " You asked for advice, you've been given it - up to you whether you act on it or not - if not then yeah you've not only wasted your time but ours who offered constructive criticism | |||
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"So basically posting in the forums a major waste of time we've been told our pics are not classy we are grammaticaly rubbish. We have no personality's you might as well go all out and call us swinging rejects. Wow we have 2 verifications on can 1000x better then none at all. Swinging snobbery lol makes me giggle ...." From 'They come in threes' two hours ago... "Your attitude and outlook are currently lacking." None of us who have contributed to your thread are, to the best of my knowledge, Swinging 'snobs' - the people who have offered you advice on your thread have been doing this a LOT longer than you and KNOW what they are talking about. All of us offer help and advice to help those who have joined the scene after us have a rewarding time within it, and get the most of it for their benefit. Sometimes things have to be said to people which are unpalatable, but need to be said for that individuals (or couples) own good.. Maybe you want to give that some thought.... | |||
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"And sorry that rants only for the haters not the nice people willing to give GOOD advice xxx" I haven't seen any haters on the thread, all advice is good advice, it seems that you don't want to hear anything negative - that doesn't make it bad or from a hater. | |||
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"Hi guys any ideas how we could better our profile to find a bit fem to play. Any ideas greatly appreciated xx" Yup get to meet others and have meet verifications. Show body pics of your guy and show you together in a photo (tip: use a mirror!) We have had 3 single girls contact us within the last 24 hours. (although none have meet verifications and are photo verified and have friend lists as long as an orangutan's arm - so seems suspicious) Maybe you could also look for couples that are happy to play girl-girl and own partner play too - or just keep it girl-girl and guys watch. | |||
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"So basically posting in the forums a major waste of time we've been told our pics are not classy we are grammaticaly rubbish. We have no personality's you might as well go all out and call us swinging rejects. Wow we have 2 verifications on can 1000x better then none at all. Swinging snobbery lol makes me giggle .... " You opened yourself up to it by asking people to criticize your profile...Id just take it on the chin and use all the advice given it may help you. | |||
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"still waiting on my sausage sandwich!!! " I just ordered a 3d cam | |||
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"still waiting on my sausage sandwich!!! I just ordered a 3d cam " My 3D glasses will steam up while I'm going down on you...or is it just Steve needs the glasses? | |||
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"still waiting on my sausage sandwich!!! I just ordered a 3d cam My 3D glasses will steam up while I'm going down on you...or is it just Steve needs the glasses? " Ha ha ha i think Steve will be over come with excitement before we get there,going back to the other thread...we could sell tickets and go shoe shopping together | |||
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"still waiting on my sausage sandwich!!! I just ordered a 3d cam My 3D glasses will steam up while I'm going down on you...or is it just Steve needs the glasses? Ha ha ha i think Steve will be over come with excitement before we get there,going back to the other thread...we could sell tickets and go shoe shopping together " Count me in | |||
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"I think we may take a step back and have a think of wat we shall do. I'm totally body confident but my bf a bit chubby really funny and I find him very sexy as he has big shoulders arms and still very fit. We talk about clubs but I think until he's 100 per cent confident maybe we should wait ??? Check ourpics " There is nothing wrong with your bodies at all.... very sexy both of you | |||
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"I think we may take a step back and have a think of wat we shall do. I'm totally body confident but my bf a bit chubby really funny and I find him very sexy as he has big shoulders arms and still very fit. We talk about clubs but I think until he's 100 per cent confident maybe we should wait ??? Check ourpics " Your bf looks cute to me, but if he's not confident then no amount of compliments/cajoling will help. Go to a club as if its any other vanilla club (although dont do the getting ratched and spewing in the gutter that many youngsters (and oldsters too) do) - there's no pressure to play in public or with others or at all, just treat it as a social nite and you may enjoy it and it might help boost his confidence | |||
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"still waiting on my sausage sandwich!!! I just ordered a 3d cam My 3D glasses will steam up while I'm going down on you...or is it just Steve needs the glasses? Ha ha ha i think Steve will be over come with excitement before we get there,going back to the other thread...we could sell tickets and go shoe shopping together Count me in " This place is gonna be a full on bi fem orgy soon enough....I love it | |||
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"still waiting on my sausage sandwich!!! I just ordered a 3d cam My 3D glasses will steam up while I'm going down on you...or is it just Steve needs the glasses? Ha ha ha i think Steve will be over come with excitement before we get there,going back to the other thread...we could sell tickets and go shoe shopping together Count me in " It's looking like a girly GB in cam - jeez my wobbly bits in 3D - hmmmm, think ticket sales may only cover shoe shopping in charity shops | |||
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"So basically posting in the forums a major waste of time we've been told our pics are not classy we are grammaticaly rubbish. We have no personality's you might as well go all out and call us swinging rejects. Wow we have 2 verifications on can 1000x better then none at all. Swinging snobbery lol makes me giggle .... " | |||
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"My partner is a bit on the chubby side he thinks he is a lot more then he actually is do you think we would do alright at a party or social were both up for a good laugh. But bf thinks no one would pick him and ill get all the attention. I think he is sexy but he's a bit insecure xx" See my post 2 or 3 up (takes me ages to respond on me phone) - socials are just like a night out, great way to get to know people with no pressure | |||
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"I think we may take a step back and have a think of wat we shall do. I'm totally body confident but my bf a bit chubby really funny and I find him very sexy as he has big shoulders arms and still very fit. We talk about clubs but I think until he's 100 per cent confident maybe we should wait ??? Check ourpics Your bf looks cute to me, but if he's not confident then no amount of compliments/cajoling will help. Go to a club as if its any other vanilla club (although dont do the getting ratched and spewing in the gutter that many youngsters (and oldsters too) do) - there's no pressure to play in public or with others or at all, just treat it as a social nite and you may enjoy it and it might help boost his confidence" Just go to a club with the intention of having a look round, no pressure. You can leave if you don't like it. But if you do like it....... | |||
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"So basically posting in the forums a major waste of time we've been told our pics are not classy we are grammaticaly rubbish. We have no personality's you might as well go all out and call us swinging rejects. Wow we have 2 verifications on can 1000x better then none at all. Swinging snobbery lol makes me giggle .... " Oh dear. Opinions are like arseholes, everyone has got one. If you post on an internet forum, you have to be prepared for the bad, as well as the good comments. Throwing teddy out of the pram will only lead to more negative coments, so ignore those, dust teddy off and give him a cuddle, sit back and soak up the advice offered, you know it makes sense. *From the "Hug a Hero" placatory words department... Go on, hug a local hero today!* | |||
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"My partner is a bit on the chubby side he thinks he is a lot more then he actually is do you think we would do alright at a party or social were both up for a good laugh. But bf thinks no one would pick him and ill get all the attention. I think he is sexy but he's a bit insecure xx" We're all insecure about something. So long as you are secure together - go to a club have fun on your own - relax, and get used to the atmosphere. Dont feel pressured into doing something - let things happen naturally, but be open and less reserved to stop anything from happening. If you go to the right club for you, you'll love going there and you will find others who have similar interests. Newbies are always welcomed at clubs, without newbies the clubs can't survive. | |||
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"To be honest the way some people derailed this thread almost from the start Im not surprised that the OP is a little pissed off. That said in amongst the inane crap that fills most of this thread there is a lot of excellent advice that they would do well to take on board." | |||
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"Where are these socials held any close to us any of you gorgeous people know of xxx" A few around south wales, think there is a south west social too. best use the forum search features for "bristol social" or "south west social". Clubs can be difficult for your age group, as they tend to be under represented. So top recommendation from us would be a "hottie" night at Liberty Elite. There is Xtasias and Chameleons in the west mids too. There are other clubs more local - but finding younger couples will tend to be few and far between. Not all clubs are the same, some are better - just cos you find one thats rubbish, not all of them are. | |||
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"To be honest the way some people derailed this thread almost from the start Im not surprised that the OP is a little pissed off. That said in amongst the inane crap that fills most of this thread there is a lot of excellent advice that they would do well to take on board." As a happy thread derailer and regular bullshit spouter, I always offer some advice or try to answer questions as well as zooming off on a tangent as has everyone else who's posted on the thread and the tangent | |||
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"Yes you're all derailers lol well all being said it hasn't put us off just made us look at maybe we need to sit Down work on our profile and work on what we want. Maybe just a swap with a cpl would be best if all are playing I just need to try to get my other half to see someone else would have him. Lol silly bugger he is he's a little cutesy just doesn't know it but at least he's not arrogant xxxxx Cheers guys x " You could find another couple that are happy for the fems to play together then same room fun with own partners? I think you'll have more luck with that than a single fem x | |||
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"Yeah I think that would be the way forward to be honest with you. Now thinking about it it would probably add to the sexiness seeing another cpl at it while we are. I think me and my partner know as soon as we're at it and all warmed up I think there's a strong possibility of us full swapping as we talk about it when fucking now. " I see lots of profiles that say 'soft swap etc but full swap will be considered if the chemistry is right' or sometimes even on a second meet if you build up a rapport. Just outline everything in your profile then as long as everyone knows what suits everyone it won't be a problem x | |||
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"Where are these socials held any close to us any of you gorgeous people know of xxx" There are regular socials in Newport, Cardiff, and a little further afield in Bridgend and Swansea. Just watch the Welsh forums, they are advertised there, along with one-off events like camping weekends, and masked balls (Soz for the shameless plug lol) . Just mail the organiser, pack a bag, grab a cheap hotel deal on one of the many websites that do that sort of thing, and head over the bridge. Us taffs ain't as bad they make out, most of the time visitors make it back in one peice LOL | |||
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"Hi guys any ideas how we could better our profile to find a bit fem to play. Any ideas greatly appreciated xx" I would remove the boxing glove picture for a start as it hints at aggregation and no single female wants to be in a situation where someone may be aggressive. A longer profile but as you think it ads mystery its a bit pointless saying it lacks any hook to draw a woman in. | |||
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"Ok - just trawled through the whole thread so just summarizing my thoughts here! (and yes - i'm a single guy - but I know plenty of single bi females and couples - a fair few in your area - so understand what they will look for in a profile!) Yes your profile needs work! If you're really looking for girl on girl fun you need to state that clearly, with ground rules, what you can offer them and what you are specifically looking for - detail is important! Pics! Yes - the main focus will be on the female half of you - as that is who you are looking to attract someone to play with - however as a couple you do need at least one or two tasteful pics of the male, and ideally some of you both together. The can/can't accom situation. You don't state a reason why not - this will help - as will an explanation of where any fun is going to take place if you can't travel either. if hotels or others locally - make this clear as your intention - else people will be confused. Clubs. There's plenty around you. You've mentioned the lack of confidence issue - a club is a 'safe haven' for all involved - there's no obligation to play - and it can be a great way to get 'meet verified' and have social interaction with other locals to get to know eachother. Some kind of 'icebreaker' is often important for lone females to feel comfortable. As a couple you may want to consider meeting couples - just so the females can play - so consider advertising for 'soft swap' fun only, with any male interaction happening with own partners only. There's way more couples looking for this kind of fun than you may think and it may be an easier entry point to this kind of fun than seeking a lone female. And the top tip - ensure the female half makes all the first moves - messages, chat, whatever - else it will look like a guy trying to set this up for his own benefit. And early phone chat between females is essential to dispel any concerns! Well thats my two cents worth! Good luck - and remember - you've had a lot of good advice on here and a lot from some very experienced members - may be worth taking on board! " If that was a summary, I'd have hated to read the full version | |||
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"Ok - just trawled through the whole thread so just summarizing my thoughts here! (and yes - i'm a single guy - but I know plenty of single bi females and couples - a fair few in your area - so understand what they will look for in a profile!) Yes your profile needs work! If you're really looking for girl on girl fun you need to state that clearly, with ground rules, what you can offer them and what you are specifically looking for - detail is important! Pics! Yes - the main focus will be on the female half of you - as that is who you are looking to attract someone to play with - however as a couple you do need at least one or two tasteful pics of the male, and ideally some of you both together. The can/can't accom situation. You don't state a reason why not - this will help - as will an explanation of where any fun is going to take place if you can't travel either. if hotels or others locally - make this clear as your intention - else people will be confused. Clubs. There's plenty around you. You've mentioned the lack of confidence issue - a club is a 'safe haven' for all involved - there's no obligation to play - and it can be a great way to get 'meet verified' and have social interaction with other locals to get to know eachother. Some kind of 'icebreaker' is often important for lone females to feel comfortable. As a couple you may want to consider meeting couples - just so the females can play - so consider advertising for 'soft swap' fun only, with any male interaction happening with own partners only. There's way more couples looking for this kind of fun than you may think and it may be an easier entry point to this kind of fun than seeking a lone female. And the top tip - ensure the female half makes all the first moves - messages, chat, whatever - else it will look like a guy trying to set this up for his own benefit. And early phone chat between females is essential to dispel any concerns! Well thats my two cents worth! Good luck - and remember - you've had a lot of good advice on here and a lot from some very experienced members - may be worth taking on board! If that was a summary, I'd have hated to read the full version " Behave you! I'm in your neck of the woods tonight - otherwise I might just shove a banana in your exhaust and stick some pampas grass in a pot outside your front door!! | |||
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"Good luck with that, you seek the rarest of all the fab inhabitants, not an easy task....you'll come across the ones that state they're bi, but surprisingly only have a string of veri's from single men, the ones that put bi on their profile so they can squeeze every last drop of attention of every possible gender, the ones that have teamed up as a pair to hunt down and shag as many men as their orifices can cope with, the ones that blatantly ignore you, the bi curios ones that pop round for a chat cos they haven't found a man to fill the hours before hubby comes home, and if ya lucky....a genuine one that is truly up for a meet (although she also could turn out to be the type that puts up with a woman touching her, just to get to your partners cock).....happy swinging " You forgot "the ones who are men pretending to be bi women" lol | |||
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"Yeah I think that would be the way forward to be honest with you. Now thinking about it it would probably add to the sexiness seeing another cpl at it while we are. I think me and my partner know as soon as we're at it and all warmed up I think there's a strong possibility of us full swapping as we talk about it when fucking now. " OP - I would like to make one last comment, as you've endured enough today on here! Swinging is all about HONESTY - In your opening post, the real reason for your thread wasn't apparent and that's why it has taken over 150 comments (some a little 'off topic'..) to uncover the real reason behind your first question. NEVER be shy of being honest and open in the forums if you are seeking help with a problem or issue which is affecting your enjoyment of Swinging. In short, be HONEST with yourselves and with all of us who contribute regularly to the forums and you will get all the help - and MORE - than you may ever need. The more you read - and contribute to - the forums (as your view point is as valid as anyone else's) the more you will get out of it. As for the issue your guy has with his size, as a big guy myself I would urge you (and him!) to go to a club on a 'normal' night and just treat it as a social. He will be surprised to find that he is highly UN-likely to be the biggest guy there - far from it, in fact! Seeing is believing, so they say. We can all tell you that 000's of times, but him seeing it with his own eye's will be the way to convince him. Personally, I would stay away from private meets with other couples. The reason I say that is IF.. you happen to meet a couple where the fem doesn't want to play with him, that could create a situation which is acutely embarrassing for him, and knock his confidence big time. Good luck with it, and come back to the forums and let us know how you're getting on.. | |||
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"it has taken over 150 comments (some a little 'off topic'..) Point taken and slap on the hand accepted! Sorry, I apologise for the rant! " Why? Perfectly good rant to me! | |||
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" You forgot "the ones who are men pretending to be bi women" lol" also forgot the ones that drop into the conversation "do you meet couples, cos i've got a fb (that i didn't mention on my single bi fem profile, that has miraculously appeared, much like the shopkeeper from mr ben)" | |||
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"So basically posting in the forums a major waste of time we've been told our pics are not classy we are grammaticaly rubbish. We have no personality's you might as well go all out and call us swinging rejects. Wow we have 2 verifications on can 1000x better then none at all. Swinging snobbery lol makes me giggle .... " You came on here and asked our opinion and you clearly didn't like the response It's not snobbery in swinging it good old fashioned manners and your attempt of a look at me post sadly went tits up | |||
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"A cpl of lines adds mystery Lol " defensive when seeking advice - that clearly you wouldn't be seeking if you were successful!! | |||
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"Ok - just trawled through the whole thread so just summarizing my thoughts here! (and yes - i'm a single guy - but I know plenty of single bi females and couples - a fair few in your area - so understand what they will look for in a profile!) Yes your profile needs work! If you're really looking for girl on girl fun you need to state that clearly, with ground rules, what you can offer them and what you are specifically looking for - detail is important! Pics! Yes - the main focus will be on the female half of you - as that is who you are looking to attract someone to play with - however as a couple you do need at least one or two tasteful pics of the male, and ideally some of you both together. The can/can't accom situation. You don't state a reason why not - this will help - as will an explanation of where any fun is going to take place if you can't travel either. if hotels or others locally - make this clear as your intention - else people will be confused. Clubs. There's plenty around you. You've mentioned the lack of confidence issue - a club is a 'safe haven' for all involved - there's no obligation to play - and it can be a great way to get 'meet verified' and have social interaction with other locals to get to know eachother. Some kind of 'icebreaker' is often important for lone females to feel comfortable. As a couple you may want to consider meeting couples - just so the females can play - so consider advertising for 'soft swap' fun only, with any male interaction happening with own partners only. There's way more couples looking for this kind of fun than you may think and it may be an easier entry point to this kind of fun than seeking a lone female. And the top tip - ensure the female half makes all the first moves - messages, chat, whatever - else it will look like a guy trying to set this up for his own benefit. And early phone chat between females is essential to dispel any concerns! Well thats my two cents worth! Good luck - and remember - you've had a lot of good advice on here and a lot from some very experienced members - may be worth taking on board! " Good post! | |||
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"Good luck with that, you seek the rarest of all the fab inhabitants, not an easy task....you'll come across the ones that state they're bi, but surprisingly only have a string of veri's from single men, the ones that put bi on their profile so they can squeeze every last drop of attention of every possible gender, the ones that have teamed up as a pair to hunt down and shag as many men as their orifices can cope with, the ones that blatantly ignore you, the bi curios ones that pop round for a chat cos they haven't found a man to fill the hours before hubby comes home, and if ya lucky....a genuine one that is truly up for a meet (although she also could turn out to be the type that puts up with a woman touching her, just to get to your partners cock).....happy swinging " See, this has my goat ip!! So many men make women come on here, and us sungle fems are very good at spotting fems being used! I'm bi, but i find it hard finding 1 on 1 fem fun, and the make from a couple always says he wants his piece! I don't mince my words when my profile is looking for meets... but still struggle. I'm very genuine, and well known in chat, but yet i struggle to find my bi fun!! So not everyone fits your little rant. | |||
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"Well, I have only just looked at this post, and even as a single straight female, you really do need to take the advice given on board! In some of your post's, you come across as petulant (might be due to age) expectant as if they should fall in your lap, arrogant! And yes ignorant, Before you can complain, you REALLY need to look at your short comings before posting a 'look at me' thread!" | |||
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"We both have pics for friends to see we were gonna filtering out our inundated mails from big FEMS waiting for us Oh Christ !! i do hope you meant bi and not big...or youve just opened up another can of worms " I tick both boxes but still wouldn't be interested! Op - what do you want from the women you are trying to attract? If I hadn't seen the thread I wouldn't have a clue. I personally wouldn't be interested in being a side act to provide the foreplay for you too to then have sex, I'd want to play with both mr & mrs if I were to play with a couple...others who only want to play with the mrs would probably not want the mr wanking in a corner watching! What can they expect from you...aside from a bit of an attitude towards people offering advice? And why is there a warning about how sexy the mrs is...surely that is subjective but still why a warning? To me that just sounds like a pretty arrogant statement and would make any woman you message feel a bit like they'd never be deemed to be as sexy...which for the mr they may not be but just don't understand the reasoning behind that statement/warning? Without some idea of expectations and limits though I doubt you will have much success with all the bi women you claim have messaged you as there are far better profile out there - even if you don't deem those that have written then to be as sexy they'll probably have more luck as they're willing to put the effort in | |||
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"OK point taken bloody hell never knew wed get everyone's goat up sorry to all we have offended. As for our profile we chucked it together when joining and never got round to making it better... Once again sorry all xxx" Hey! Whatever you post, on whatever subject you will always rub (haha) somebody the wrong way...not your fault thats why we are all humans and individuals! Now the important thing is that you do not ignore the good advice the 'old gits' gave you. You will be OK! Get a thick skin and take everything with a pinch of salt! People on here hide behind their screens, keyboards, iphones and android phones to lash out...I did and I apologised. Now get your little young, fit, wrinkleless butts by the hand and have fun! Signed: another old 'git' that thinks she is still 30 xx Lovely week end to all! | |||
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"OK point taken bloody hell never knew wed get everyone's goat up sorry to all we have offended. As for our profile we chucked it together when joining and never got round to making it better... Once again sorry all xxx" You haven't offended and you do not need to apologise. Without this sounding patronising (but it will do anyway, so what the heck!) - us 'old gits' were all at the stage you are at once. We made some howling mistakes (God knows I did!) and we learned the hard way - there was NO internet (shock! horror!) when I started in the early-mid 80's. If you wanted help you had to meekly ask people in person, by opening your gob!!! Not easy and, at times, VERY embarrassing, but it had to be done. NEVER be afraid of asking questions about this lifestyle - no matter how silly or naive you may think they are, BUT... be prepared to get a range of answers as varied as the people you ask. That's the way it is. No one can change that. Anytime you want help and feel you can't turn anywhere else, always come to the forums. You may actually find us a weirdly inviting bunch...... well.. some of us!! | |||
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