FabSwingers.com forum: Advice for a wife setting up a single F profile

By *eebo OP Couple
14 weeks ago

basingstoke

We are thinking about looking for a longer term arrangement with another guy and Mrs C likes the idea of having her own profile as well as our couples one.

Any advice or considerations for this approach.

She has already said without being big headed that she's a bit concerned about the amount of messages etc and doesn't want/have hours to go through all of them.

One thought was for her to block incoming messages and use it to look herself and contact guys she likes the look of directly, they should then be able to message back?

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By *akeland-ladMan
14 weeks ago

South Lakes

That would probably be the best arrangement, sounds sensible.

From talking to a female associate on here, she gets bombarded daily (she's said its rare her inbox is less than 50 messages) from 99% blokes and about 75% of those absolutely do not read her profile text whatsoever.

At least by blocking males from messaging, she can peruse at her leisure and those she messages will be able to reply.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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14 weeks ago

East Sussex

Yes, if she blocks all single men ( I'd consider blocking couples too) and messages them they will be able to respond.

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By *ack1971Man
14 weeks ago

Cork

We have a couples, single m, single f profile. We block no one as it allows us to see how people are. It's up to us to choose to engage. Putting up walls is fine online, but how do you know how a person behaves in reality?

We make sure the profiles do not let anyone see how they are connected. A lot of the time people will message both the couples and single f profile, and this is a great insight to how a person interacts.

You got to remember people "apply" to a profile, and their message is their CV. We look for glaring differences in approach, and they are there.

It doesn't both us if we get 1 message or 1000, we only human and we'll take it from that point to contact anyone were interested in.

That's how it works for us and it works fine.

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By *issmorganWoman
14 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

She could do that, or employ only certain filters to cut mail down.

I block by age, no newbies, no silhouettes, no couples & life is much more peaceful for it.

Deffo have some filters on whilst she's finding her feet.

When I joined I had 50 messages in no time, with no pics or text.

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By *reyToTheFairiesWoman
14 weeks ago

Carlisle usually

When she's first setting it up just block single males immediately and search for and reach out to ones that appeal.

Once the new flag drops off the profile (so the absolute bombardment newbies get is less horrendous) she can take the filter off if the searching and making first contact approach isn't working out for her 💜

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By *adMerWoman
14 weeks ago

Sandwich

I would definitely recommend using the filters. You can just wink another profile and that’s enough for the filter to be bypassed.

Keep expectations fairly low though. Many of the men are very below par. It’s a sausage fest cesspool lol.

That said, occasionally you do find the odd gem.

The good thing about this site is that you can find your own way to use it. I wish you plenty of luck

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By *iseekingbiCouple
14 weeks ago

N ireland and West Midlands

I have an F only profile. Only other women can see me or contact me. I can look for a man if needs be but I dont want men contacting me.

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By *ickD80Man
14 weeks ago

Wolverhampton

So will she mention on her female profile that she’s married and you’re looking as a couple or will she hide that information from the men she chats with on her female profile?

Does she want to be able to message people on here without you being able to know who she’s messaging and what she’s saying to them or will she show you her messages on her female profile?

If she’s going to say in the female profile that she’s part of a couple and if she’s going to share with you all the messages she sends and receives then I don’t understand what the point is in having a separate account.

So your plan for avoiding having to read loads of messages is to block all messages and just search through profiles and message the men she likes….if you don’t block all messages and receive hundreds of messages what’s stopping you/her from just searching through profiles and messaging the men she likes in exactly the same way she would if all messages were blocked? Just because she receives hundreds of messages doesn’t mean she has to read through them all…if your plan is to just message men you like while looking through profiles you can do that regardless of how many messages you receive.

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By *sumfun2Man
14 weeks ago

Chorley

Keep expectations fairly low though. Many of the men are very below par. It’s a sausage fest cesspool lol.

Haha sausage fest cesspool! That's a new one I've heard the wanking dead in clubs which thankfully I'm not one of those. Because I am a single male and get tarnished with the same brush I have much more of a social time in clubs now meeting people face to face. I gave up ages ago actually trying to " stand out" in a message. It's because I'm just a normal laid back kinda guy and have much for fun in clubs than in this site.

Id definitely recommend blocking all single males and finding one at your own leisure.

Hope this helps x

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By (user no longer on site)
14 weeks ago

I have a couples profile too & opened this to meet other women, I do have men unblocked at the moment and to be honest I just ignore all the ones that haven't bothered reading.

I'd say just go for it and don't feel pressured to reply to everyone, no reply - no thank you.

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By *erry bull1Man
14 weeks ago

doncaster

"We are thinking about looking for a longer term arrangement with another guy and Mrs C likes the idea of having her own profile as well as our couples one.

Any advice or considerations for this approach.

She has already said without being big headed that she's a bit concerned about the amount of messages etc and doesn't want/have hours to go through all of them.

One thought was for her to block incoming messages and use it to look herself and contact guys she likes the look of directly, they should then be able to message back?"
use your filters for age and sec of the person you’re looking to meet

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By *elkieWoman
14 weeks ago

Durham

Create profile, immediately hide it. Wait a week and then complete it and unhide it. That way you won’t show up on “who’s new”

Get a friend to verify you immediately.

Both of these will out the men who are actively seeking inexperienced partners.

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By *midnight-Woman
13 weeks ago

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Filters are great -remember age filters too

I'd also suggest she is very specific on her profile text (in the crazy hope that someone reads it)

And she can also peruse in ninja mode so she's not hounded by men commenting on her looking at their profile.

Just curious -why can't shev do this from your couples account?

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By *eebo OP Couple
13 weeks ago

basingstoke

"Filters are great -remember age filters too

I'd also suggest she is very specific on her profile text (in the crazy hope that someone reads it)

And she can also peruse in ninja mode so she's not hounded by men commenting on her looking at their profile.

Just curious -why can't shev do this from your couples account? "

Thanks for the point of view, good to keep in mind!

In answer to your question I guess she could do from our couples account but had a break for a while and feel like a bit of a new approach to things and also part of the attraction for us both is her taking more of an active role and the lead on who she talks to/ arranging the meets etc which she liked the idea of doing on her own profile and then telling me about x

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By *ichaelsmyMan
13 weeks ago

doiglas

make full use of the filters for the messages or just delete the ones she didnt like.

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By *un couple 2Couple
13 weeks ago

Tynemouth.

i like the idea of my wife opening her own account on here, but she is unsure about it.

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By *eebo OP Couple
13 weeks ago

basingstoke

Appreciate all the comments. It's been helpful to keep in mind as Mrs C sets up her profile

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