FabSwingers.com forum: Club visit as Newbie

By *dam39 OP Man
2 weeks ago

London

I’m planning to visit a club but I’m nervous as I’ve never visited before. Can anyone help me to get ease or suggest me something. I don’t mind any ethnicity but more interested to explore Desi Couples. I’ll be happy to hear.

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By *kittexMan
2 weeks ago

Liverpool

"I’m planning to visit a club but I’m nervous as I’ve never visited before. Can anyone help me to get ease or suggest me something. I don’t mind any ethnicity but more interested to explore Desi Couples. I’ll be happy to hear."

- Your more likely not to find any De{¬yJk=¬}i Couples due to their religion and life culture, at least i never seen one in my own local swing club, Yes u gonna have to be completely fine with diversity and all nominations as u more then likely will see strange things at the first place is only up to you if you gonna gett use to it, And another advice is never pretend , no means no understand of it. Also be aware that mostly and likely first couple of visits u ain't gonna gett to play as people don't usually play with new single lads in there build a relationship with the members of the club and u going to gett a chance .

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By *lik and PaulCouple
2 weeks ago

cahoots

Easy to say but don't be nervous...just treat it as a first time to a new venue which has the potential for added interest.

You can't guarantee who will be at your chosen club when you attend but we've seen quite a few Desi couples over the years.

Some people will socialise, some will socialise and play others will dive straight in (this tends to be how we play).

Simple rules, be yourself, be respectful and don't be a c*not.

Have a great time.

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By *BA8891Man
2 weeks ago

Glasgow

I feel the same about visiting a club.

I wonder if there is an easy way to feel less nervous

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By *JohnMan
2 weeks ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"I wonder if there is an easy way to feel less nervous "

Just go. The nerves will disappear pretty much as soon as you're there, and the second time will be so much easier.

That doesn't help you getting there in the first place, of course, and a lot of people never reach the front door. See it as a social night out. You're just going to a pub with a relaxed dress code, you're going to meet some new people, and you're going to have a good night chatting with them.

I've always found people at clubs very friendly and welcoming towards newcomers. At least, to the newcomers who make an effort and don't act like creeps. If someone makes that approach, don't assume that they want sex, and don't turn away just because they're not your particular kind of attractive. You want to be sociable, and you want to be sociable with everyone.

You might not meet lifelong friends on your first night (I had to wait for my second visit for that

. You might not have sex (it took me six weeks to round up enough courage to ask). But if you go with the right attitude, you should have a good night.

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By *oughmanMan
2 weeks ago

Sunderland

Do it. I was in the same position until yesterday. With the right club I was relaxed and comfortable right away, which is extremely rare for me.

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