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"Here are my top tips for going to clubs. * Find a newbie night that the club is doing. Plenty on the forum to have a look at under the clubs events section * Treat the club as if it was a normal pub. Just that people are in your underwear. That's basically how a club feels. * Chat to people and BE NORMAL * Don't follow couples or single females round the club hoping they go into a room and then ask to be invited. * Try and not to be one of those guys who walks to find an open room and start wanking. You will be classed as the wanking dead * However if you must insist on doing it. Take your fucking key off your wanking hand as the last thing people need to hear is a key jangler walking round like a prison warden lol. Just be normal, expect nothing and everything else is a bonus. Always go with a social in mind and then see what happens. Hope this helps "Very good advice! I'll add talk with your mouth, not your hands- meaning DO NOT touch people uninvited. I get that some cultures are very "touchy-feely", they like to touch the person they are talking to. However, in a club, that can be seen very negatively, as invading personal space, even if it's an "innocent" touch on a shoulder. So keep your hands (and feet, in the hot tub) to yourself. If there are people playing in the open, it means they are happy to be watched. However, that does not mean the person watching being millimetres away the people playing, and with cock in hand. "Happy to be watched" normally means from a respectable distance and, preferably, without wanking. But if you do have to wank, do take the key off that hand, as poster above said. Most importantly, DO TALK to people, in the social area rather than while they are in the middle of playing. If it's a couple, it's important to TALK TO BOTH. Don't wait for the guy to go to the bar/bathroom etc to talk to the lady. In most couples that swing, they both have equal say about who they play with. And ignoring one of them will get you nowhere. Last but not least, please don't treat the club as the place to put your steps in. Stay in one area longer than 30 seconds, especially if you're watching. I have seen guys speed walking through the club so they don't miss any opportunity for action - that was not a good look. | |||
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"Here are my top tips for going to clubs. * Find a newbie night that the club is doing. Plenty on the forum to have a look at under the clubs events section * Treat the club as if it was a normal pub. Just that people are in your underwear. That's basically how a club feels. * Chat to people and BE NORMAL * Don't follow couples or single females round the club hoping they go into a room and then ask to be invited. * Try and not to be one of those guys who walks to find an open room and start wanking. You will be classed as the wanking dead * However if you must insist on doing it. Take your fucking key off your wanking hand as the last thing people need to hear is a key jangler walking round like a prison warden lol. Just be normal, expect nothing and everything else is a bonus. Always go with a social in mind and then see what happens. Hope this helps
Very good advice!
I'll add talk with your mouth, not your hands- meaning DO NOT touch people uninvited. I get that some cultures are very "touchy-feely", they like to touch the person they are talking to. However, in a club, that can be seen very negatively, as invading personal space, even if it's an "innocent" touch on a shoulder. So keep your hands (and feet, in the hot tub) to yourself.
If there are people playing in the open, it means they are happy to be watched. However, that does not mean the person watching being millimetres away the people playing, and with cock in hand. "Happy to be watched" normally means from a respectable distance and, preferably, without wanking. But if you do have to wank, do take the key off that hand, as poster above said.
Most importantly, DO TALK to people, in the social area rather than while they are in the middle of playing. If it's a couple, it's important to TALK TO BOTH. Don't wait for the guy to go to the bar/bathroom etc to talk to the lady. In most couples that swing, they both have equal say about who they play with. And ignoring one of them will get you nowhere.
Last but not least, please don't treat the club as the place to put your steps in. Stay in one area longer than 30 seconds, especially if you're watching. I have seen guys speed walking through the club so they don't miss any opportunity for action - that was not a good look. "🤣 speed walking | |||
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"🤣 speed walking " Yep, one guy actually looked like he was doing zoomies around the club, he must have walked the loop at least 20 times in an hour, fast, not even breaking into sweat! | |||
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"Here are my top tips for going to clubs. * Find a newbie night that the club is doing. Plenty on the forum to have a look at under the clubs events section * Treat the club as if it was a normal pub. Just that people are in your underwear. That's basically how a club feels. * Chat to people and BE NORMAL * Don't follow couples or single females round the club hoping they go into a room and then ask to be invited. * Try and not to be one of those guys who walks to find an open room and start wanking. You will be classed as the wanking dead * However if you must insist on doing it. Take your fucking key off your wanking hand as the last thing people need to hear is a key jangler walking round like a prison warden lol. Just be normal, expect nothing and everything else is a bonus. Always go with a social in mind and then see what happens. Hope this helps "Thanks a lot for the advice | |||
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"Here are my top tips for going to clubs. * Find a newbie night that the club is doing. Plenty on the forum to have a look at under the clubs events section * Treat the club as if it was a normal pub. Just that people are in your underwear. That's basically how a club feels. * Chat to people and BE NORMAL * Don't follow couples or single females round the club hoping they go into a room and then ask to be invited. * Try and not to be one of those guys who walks to find an open room and start wanking. You will be classed as the wanking dead * However if you must insist on doing it. Take your fucking key off your wanking hand as the last thing people need to hear is a key jangler walking round like a prison warden lol. Just be normal, expect nothing and everything else is a bonus. Always go with a social in mind and then see what happens. Hope this helps
Very good advice!
I'll add talk with your mouth, not your hands- meaning DO NOT touch people uninvited. I get that some cultures are very "touchy-feely", they like to touch the person they are talking to. However, in a club, that can be seen very negatively, as invading personal space, even if it's an "innocent" touch on a shoulder. So keep your hands (and feet, in the hot tub) to yourself.
If there are people playing in the open, it means they are happy to be watched. However, that does not mean the person watching being millimetres away the people playing, and with cock in hand. "Happy to be watched" normally means from a respectable distance and, preferably, without wanking. But if you do have to wank, do take the key off that hand, as poster above said.
Most importantly, DO TALK to people, in the social area rather than while they are in the middle of playing. If it's a couple, it's important to TALK TO BOTH. Don't wait for the guy to go to the bar/bathroom etc to talk to the lady. In most couples that swing, they both have equal say about who they play with. And ignoring one of them will get you nowhere.
Last but not least, please don't treat the club as the place to put your steps in. Stay in one area longer than 30 seconds, especially if you're watching. I have seen guys speed walking through the club so they don't miss any opportunity for action - that was not a good look. "Thank youu! | |||
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"🤣 speed walking Yep, one guy actually looked like he was doing zoomies around the club, he must have walked the loop at least 20 times in an hour, fast, not even breaking into sweat! " 🤣 🤣 yes I have seen it myself and if you want to get rid of a man that is talking to you you not interested in say couple playing in open room gone in a flash 🤣🤣🤣 | |||
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"Great advice in this chat, been thinking of going va a while now but chicken out as going as a lone male lol" I went alone 🤣 | |||
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"I think clubs and Definitely on fab is much easy for a female, it's becoming very hard for us Single males" I don't agree with you. Yes, women do get more attention, both on here and in clubs, but most of the time it's unwanted attention from people we're not attracted to. | |||
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"Try Purple Mamba...they are very good at meeting and greeting newbies and talking them through all the dos and don'ts...they used to do workshops for newbies as well..." I would throw in a second vote for Purple Mamba OP. They are right on your doorstep, and THE ONLY club I’ve ever seen in the 13 years I’ve been using Fab, who publicised a positive attitude towards, and to encourage, single guys in to the club scene. If I’m ever in that area, I would be visiting them myself. Just go for it, you’re more likely to be underwhelmed and come out wondering what all the fuss is about, hoping you can catch last orders somewhere on the way home  | |||
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"Try Purple Mamba...they are very good at meeting and greeting newbies and talking them through all the dos and don'ts...they used to do workshops for newbies as well... I would throw in a second vote for Purple Mamba OP. They are right on your doorstep, and THE ONLY club I’ve ever seen in the 13 years I’ve been using Fab, who publicised a positive attitude towards, and to encourage, single guys in to the club scene. If I’m ever in that area, I would be visiting them myself. Just go for it, you’re more likely to be underwhelmed and come out wondering what all the fuss is about, hoping you can catch last orders somewhere on the way home "Thank you, yes I was thinking of purple mamba as well. I’ll keep an open mind and see how it goes. Thank you again  | |||
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