FabSwingers.com forum: Cold meets

Stockport

I like to be sociable and friendly on meets. Why are some people into fuck and go scenarios? Is it a shame or guilt feeling perhaps.

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By *all me FlikWoman
4 weeks ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

Maybe it's just a preference... neither is wrong.

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By *MandMMCouple
4 weeks ago

Welwyn

Maybe the anonymity gives them more of a thrill? I think suggesting shame or guilt is a bit negative

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By *ove erotic times OP Man
4 weeks ago

Stockport

Not suggesting that at all, guess we all have our preferences.

Wish I'd never posted anything judging from the hateful messages I'm receiving

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By *icecouple561Couple
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4 weeks ago

East Sussex

"I like to be sociable and friendly on meets. Why are some people into fuck and go scenarios? Is it a shame or guilt feeling perhaps.

Nice replies only please."

I don't think it's shame or guilt. I'd say people who enjoy 'fuck and go' scenarios are probably quite relaxed in their attitude to sex and are able to enjoy it without negative feelings.

I've always thought that people who insist on 'intimacy' are sometimes trying to make casual sex out to be more meaningful than it actually is in order to subdue feelings of shame.

We like to socialise with our casual partners on a superficial basis but let's not pretend that it makes what we do any better than 'fuck and go'.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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4 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Not suggesting that at all, guess we all have our preferences.

Wish I'd never posted anything judging from the hateful messages I'm receiving"

Report abusive messages and block the profiles.

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By *ove erotic times OP Man
4 weeks ago

Stockport

I see it from your point of view, thanks for that as that is all I was after

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
4 weeks ago

wonderland.

"I like to be sociable and friendly on meets. Why are some people into fuck and go scenarios? Is it a shame or guilt feeling perhaps.

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Preference... I'd say 95% of my meets on fab have been fuck and go.. its fun and works for me. Even as a couple I do prefer club meets where there is no awkward bits after... to be honest it's one reason I prefer club random meets in general. As everyone tends to just wander off.

Ive also never found it cold... just fun and exciting...

Probably works as I don't do 121...

although once had an amazing sexual time with a guy whom I shall never know who he was... and have never met at a club again.

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By *ucka39Man
4 weeks ago

Newcastle

A moment of madness can be thrilling

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By *ongAndThick123Man
4 weeks ago

Leeds

"I like to be sociable and friendly on meets. Why are some people into fuck and go scenarios? Is it a shame or guilt feeling perhaps.

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For me it’s a protective mechanism. If i don’t get to know the person then there’s no risk of attachment from either side. I had a weird experience a few years back, where a lot of flings started developing feelings for me - I had to “break up” with 4 people in one summer, and I found the whole experience very stressful.

I’d like to say I’m a nice guy, but that also leads to me giving off the wrong signals to people.

So for me no strings now includes no meaningful friendship, unfortunately. (Though of course still polite and chat and open to being friends at a distance).

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By *rsKOTCTWoman
4 weeks ago

Leeds

People like what they like, some like a cum & go, some are a any holes a goal type and some like more of a connection, none are wrong but some may not be compatible, choose meets wisely.

Personally I'm a friend/connection/attraction is needed to meet kinda person.

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By *irsSubCouple
4 weeks ago

Darlington

For us it's dependent on the scenario and who we are meeting.

With couples we would tend to have a bit more craic. And with all people in clubs we would tend to be talkative

With single guys you always run the risk that they become too familiar, and hound you after you've met. Plus when we meet single guys it's often to fulfil a specific fantasy, and having a 2 hour chat beforehand isn't the fantasy.

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By *lasgowMinxWoman
4 weeks ago

glasgow

I used to have fuck and go meets it worked for me, now after one of my last meets last year went to a guys house we had spoken for weeks about likes and dislikes etc got on great, spoke about what we would like to happen on our meet.. i got there we fucked he came got up got dressed and went to the living room my que to leave all in a was there about 20 mins left feeling used there was nothing about what wed spoke about it was all about him getting his dick wet, i wasnt looking for intamacy or caring or that but a wee bit more than what i got. Ive not met since its made me look at myself in a different light about what i want and how i just felt like a hole for him to use.

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By *lan157Man
4 weeks ago

a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex

"Fuck and go" is what happens in clubs and is acceptable to me. However if I have invited a woman to my home then it's much more than that . Yes it is about exploring connection and sharing ideas and socialising as well as intimacy . When I have been to someone else's house then I take my lead from the other person . Their house their rules etc .

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By *uckurcumMan
4 weeks ago

Bishop Auckland

No guilt or shame for me ...on random meets I just like to get things done,both or more people get what they want...no lingering around etc ...

If I see someone on a more regular basis and you build up a connection that changes the demographic and the desire to experience more ...

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By *issmorganWoman
4 weeks ago

Calderdale innit

Each to their own. Those type of meets would never be for me, but I've seen a few couples who like them, because they get the other stuff from their partner.

Also many just use fab as a sex site/hook up now and that's what they like.

Even when I meet with my other half, we always do a social first meet, then arrange another time if there's a mutual interest.

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By *allnHandsome12Man
4 weeks ago

Teesside

"I like to be sociable and friendly on meets. Why are some people into fuck and go scenarios? Is it a shame or guilt feeling perhaps.

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Why did you think shame or guilt would be a factor? Genuine question, as I like to understand a perspective.

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By *viatrixWoman
4 weeks ago

Redhill

I’m being pestered so much for Fuck&Go, it never used to be like this. Like why the hell would I want to?

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By *oorman 2025Man
4 weeks ago

manchester

"I’m being pestered so much for Fuck&Go, it never used to be like this. Like why the hell would I want to? "
can't beat a cuddle afterwards and a conversation I've never understood this fuck and go scenario

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
4 weeks ago

little house on the praire

Different people like different things, it's just a preference some have

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By *lice AgainTV/TS
4 weeks ago

Bristol

I don't fancy men but I like to be fucked by them.

I've had good interactions and even made friends.

And... TBF, it's always ended up with some kind of social interaction.

I don't think it's ever been 'fuck and go'

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By *osh blokeMan
4 weeks ago

hereford

It all depends what you both want from the situation. I've had meets in the past that have happened after only a couple of messages where I know it'll be a quick encounter. And it was fine. Usually, these are the fiesta, rip each others clothes off and have raw passionate horn filled sex ones.

On the other hand, I've had longer build ups which have been more intimate because I've got to know them better.

Both are fine and are dictated by what both people want.

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By *ilva69Man
4 weeks ago

stockport

The spontaneous meetings tend to be like that I’ve had a two in the past which I’ve been great for me and obviously the couple,

It’s a quick fix thrill, some people crave, an adrenaline rush

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By *herrybakewellCouple
4 weeks ago

Staffordshire

Its definitely an each to their own situation.

Its not for us.

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By *umagain58Man
4 weeks ago

London

Agree it’s just what some people like and their choice. You should be able to mostly avoid if chat before meet on what you all like or not. That’s what I do as much prefer longer meets. On occasion a quicky is also fun when in mood for one. Those types of meets usually not from here though

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By *iss KinkWoman
4 weeks ago

North West

No idea but it’s not for me

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By *ertcoupleCouple
4 weeks ago

Hatfield

For us it's a time issue. We look after someone with dementia and getting someone to look after them is hard alot of times, sometimes we only get told that day that someone will look after them for a few hours that night!!!

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By *ustus696969Couple
4 weeks ago

Southampton

We prefer a social first as it reduces pressure to play

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By *illiam 70Man
4 weeks ago

Wellington

Hello fabbers, having problems can't seam to find fun on here is it my profile or am I saying the wrong things when I leave messages, for I am not be nasty, just nice ?

Can anyone help me please

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By *ogandher1962Couple
4 weeks ago

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"Hello fabbers, having problems can't seam to find fun on here is it my profile or am I saying the wrong things when I leave messages, for I am not be nasty, just nice ?

Can anyone help me please "

Perhaps start your own thread.

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By *ogandher1962Couple
4 weeks ago

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"Hello fabbers, having problems can't seam to find fun on here is it my profile or am I saying the wrong things when I leave messages, for I am not be nasty, just nice ?

Can anyone help me please "

You’re verified this week, so you’re doing something right.

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By *oastal1968Man
4 weeks ago

London

I like Parma ham, chorizo, pancetta and pastrami.

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By *ogandher1962Couple
4 weeks ago

Reading

"I like Parma ham, chorizo, pancetta and pastrami. "

Took us a second

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By *illiam 70Man
4 weeks ago

Wellington

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By *illiam 70Man
4 weeks ago

Wellington

"Hello fabbers, having problems can't seam to find fun on here is it my profile or am I saying the wrong things when I leave messages, for I am not be nasty, just nice ?

Can anyone help me please

You’re verified this week, so you’re doing something right. "

Its a person I met last time I was here but she was the only person that I met

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By *ogandher1962Couple
4 weeks ago

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"Hello fabbers, having problems can't seam to find fun on here is it my profile or am I saying the wrong things when I leave messages, for I am not be nasty, just nice ?

Can anyone help me please

You’re verified this week, so you’re doing something right.

Its a person I met last time I was here but she was the only person that I met "

Keep your replies here, there no need to DM us.

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By *illiam 70Man
4 weeks ago

Wellington

"Hello fabbers, having problems can't seam to find fun on here is it my profile or am I saying the wrong things when I leave messages, for I am not be nasty, just nice ?

Can anyone help me please

You’re verified this week, so you’re doing something right.

Its a person I met last time I was here but she was the only person that I met

Keep your replies here, there no need to DM us. "

new to all this i will keep to forum thankyou

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By *uthLessKnickersCouple
4 weeks ago

Cornwall/Devon

Your question is rather loaded and judgmental op. We very much enjoy our cum and go meets. We find them exciting, raw, and fun. Once our guest has departed the love making between ourselves is very reaffirming and satisfying.

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By *stwoCouple
4 weeks ago

anywhere

Surely we are allowed to make our own choice.

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By *ereforfun200Man
4 weeks ago

North West

I love cold meets.Turn up, get frisky,cum and leave. What's not to like about it

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By *ove erotic times OP Man
4 weeks ago

Stockport

Shame because you are doing something you are not really comfortable with, I have experienced this with new bi guys.

Guilt, perhaps you are cheating on a partner but you want to do it anyway.

Only thoughts folks, please don't crucify me !

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By *icecouple561Couple
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4 weeks ago

East Sussex

"Shame because you are doing something you are not really comfortable with, I have experienced this with new bi guys.

Guilt, perhaps you are cheating on a partner but you want to do it anyway.

Only thoughts folks, please don't crucify me !"

You're entitled to your thoughts, there's no need to apologise for them.

People do feel shame and guilt around sex for loads of reasons. It's not something they have control over but I think that people who enjoy one off 'fuck and go' probably feel less shame and guilt than those who need to make it more meaningful.

It's just sex after all and reading too much into casual interactions isn't wise

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By *allnHandsome12Man
4 weeks ago

Teesside

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By *_hot_hornyCouple
4 weeks ago

Sutton Coldfield

"I don't think it's shame or guilt. I'd say people who enjoy 'fuck and go' scenarios are probably quite relaxed in their attitude to sex and are able to enjoy it without negative feelings.

I've always thought that people who insist on 'intimacy' are sometimes trying to make casual sex out to be more meaningful than it actually is in order to subdue feelings of shame.

We like to socialise with our casual partners on a superficial basis but let's not pretend that it makes what we do any better than 'fuck and go'. "

Best response on the thread as far as we're concerned. We don't need (want) intimacy with our playmates, that's why we have each other - fab is about adding extra FUN not feelings.

We've found that there does seem to be a lot of intimacy starved guys on here lately, and personally I don't think this is a healthy place or way of trying to fulfil those needs.

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By *herryEatersCouple
3 weeks ago

East Cheshire

"I like to be sociable and friendly on meets. Why are some people into fuck and go scenarios? Is it a shame or guilt feeling perhaps.

Nice replies only please."

Yes many here and in clubs like that. We're looking for something regular/frequent and much prefer a 'connection' before getting intimate, seemingly a very rare thing these days

. Maybe some find you're not exactly what they're looking for, a hard pill to swallow...

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
3 weeks ago

wonderland.

"Shame because you are doing something you are not really comfortable with, I have experienced this with new bi guys.

Guilt, perhaps you are cheating on a partner but you want to do it anyway.

Only thoughts folks, please don't crucify me !"
what are we not comfortable with.... we feel no guilt... most of our liaisons are cum and go... don't even know names half the time but it's fun..

Then on the flip side is our long standing friends

. Some we were intimate with but no longer are.. some we still have fun with from time to time.. some we never have and never will get jiggy with xx

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By *dz69247Man
3 weeks ago

Manchester

Stranger sex is the best sex. And the cum and go situations are the best.

Sex doesn’t have to be an intimate thing, it can just be primal, just raw sucking, licking and fucking.

Everyone has there preference, but I always search for the cum and go type meets, outdoor is even better, but that’s a different story lol

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By *eekySweetheartWoman
3 weeks ago

Hampshire

"I don't think it's shame or guilt. I'd say people who enjoy 'fuck and go' scenarios are probably quite relaxed in their attitude to sex and are able to enjoy it without negative feelings.

I've always thought that people who insist on 'intimacy' are sometimes trying to make casual sex out to be more meaningful than it actually is in order to subdue feelings of shame.

We like to socialise with our casual partners on a superficial basis but let's not pretend that it makes what we do any better than 'fuck and go'.

Best response on the thread as far as we're concerned. We don't need (want) intimacy with our playmates, that's why we have each other - fab is about adding extra FUN not feelings.

We've found that there does seem to be a lot of intimacy starved guys on here lately, and personally I don't think this is a healthy place or way of trying to fulfil those needs. "

I'd agree with this! I like fuck and go meets- I have my partner and friends for intimacy. I don't need nor want to be friends with those I fuck and I have no shame around causal sex. I have noticed lately though a lot of men- despite saying they are ok with this- do seem to want a little more intimacy and something regular / meaningful.

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By *ikesEmBigMan
3 weeks ago

Herts

"I like to be sociable and friendly on meets. Why are some people into fuck and go scenarios? Is it a shame or guilt feeling perhaps.

Nice replies only please."
They can be awesomely fun

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By *end1Man
3 weeks ago

southend on sea

I prefer my meat warm 😂😂

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By *iss KinkWoman
3 weeks ago

North West

"I prefer my meat warm 😂😂"

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