FabSwingers.com forum: Find a GF

By *hesolution566 OP Man
2 weeks ago

manchester

Any tips on how to find a long term GF that's into swinging yet still loyal X

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By *allySlinkyWoman
2 weeks ago

Leeds

What is your definition of loyal ?

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By *hesolution566 OP Man
2 weeks ago

manchester

"What is your definition of loyal ?"

One that won't cheat.

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By *hesolution566 OP Man
2 weeks ago

manchester

"What is your definition of loyal ?

One that won't cheat. "

And by cheat I mean sleep with someone without discussing or involving your partner X

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By *allySlinkyWoman
2 weeks ago

Leeds

I met a long term boyfriend on here and other people have got married to people on here so it's definitely possible.

My advice would be to chat to as many women as you can at clubs and socials

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By *hesolution566 OP Man
2 weeks ago

manchester

"I met a long term boyfriend on here and other people have got married to people on here so it's definitely possible.

My advice would be to chat to as many women as you can at clubs and socials"

Thanks Sally.

I've tried introducing my last 2 GFS into the scene but no chance and both of them ended up cheating. So readjusting my search criteria lol

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By *allySlinkyWoman
2 weeks ago

Leeds

That is why I suggest trying to find a girlfriend already on this site

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By *hesolution566 OP Man
2 weeks ago

manchester

"That is why I suggest trying to find a girlfriend already on this site"

Great idea.

Any takers haha

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
2 weeks ago

Coventry

Firstly this is a great place to look/advertise your intent. We're all swingers and there lots of single ladies on the scene who would love to continue on the scene in a relationship with the right guy.

In terms of the vanilla world, be open and upfront but in a adult mater of fact way, not a creepy way. That way you're not wasting anyone's time or your own. It's a art to get this right but if you can women can see your not a creep just a mature adult who is comfortable about expressing their desires (which is a very healthy thing in a relationship). So be open about it but also make it a foot note. So women can see you do want sexual non-monogamy but you're focus and serious on getting the other relationship aspects right, not just some horny fuck boy. And just remember most women are not swingers so your pool size will be limited. However more women are open swinging and sexual non-monogamy than you think with the right man. But many will only articulate and express that with the right man they feel is safe and mature enough to express that with. So it really is a matter of how you handle this delicate subject upfront. Seems to me if your open about it upfront and they still want to date you then no need to bring it up anytime soon. Bar maybe a simple discussion on boundaries as to if you stop while your dating or if they're OK with you continuing the lifestyle as your dating (9 of 10 I think it's a stop and they need to know you will genuinely respect that stop). But now they know and still want to date put the ball in their court. Don't talk about swinging or sex in general unless they ask you questions or want to talk about it. You really need to take this side of things at their speed and show you're genuine about dating them not just finding a play partner. Afterall if they are dating you after knowing about you then chances are they are open to exploring the scene once they're comfortable.

Also some dating sites have options for expressing non conventional relationship formats and non-monogamy. Plus some help by matching attitudes to sex, monogamy and even kink. So those sort of sites may help you find someone like minded.

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By *hesolution566 OP Man
2 weeks ago

manchester

Wow what an awesome reply thanks so much for the advice.

I will take some time to properly digest that info and if I have any questions will definately ask.

Thanks.

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By *irsSubCouple
2 weeks ago

Darlington

Look for a loyal woman first. If you prioritise "wants to be a swinger" you are most likely going to encounter more cheaters, it's just a numbers game. Swinging should never be more than an extra part of a relationship, not the main part.

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By *hesolution566 OP Man
2 weeks ago

manchester

Thanks sir sub. I guess my experience of past relationships is it's been a hard no with the last 3 people I've been in long term relationships with so wanting to try and approach where it's definately on the cards. And 100% as an addition to the relationship not a key factor.

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By *irsSubCouple
2 weeks ago

Darlington

I can't comment on your previous relationships but when i was dating once things moved off the apps and onto texting I would mention that I'd been a swinger with my ex wife. You get a fairly good idea about them by their reaction. The key for me was filtering early on (modern dating is a numbers game) then build a strong monogamous relationship with someone who is likely to feel the same way. You are probably better off looking for monogamous sexual compatibility over non monogamous compatibility. You will be spending 99% of your sex life with just two of you, so if things aren't right there, they really won't be right if you swing

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By *hesolution566 OP Man
2 weeks ago

manchester

Wise words. I hadn't thought of it in that way.

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