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By *ucy loo43 OP   Woman
over a year ago

kettering

As a single lady account on here I’m after everyone’s opinion!

If a hotel meeting is arranged with a man or a couple, who should be paying for it ?

I’m curious to see people’s opinions about this subject. Thanks 💋

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

SW1A1AA

If it's a man and woman then equal split.

If it's a couple and single then the couple pay 2/3rds

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By *GoodGirlGemxCouple
over a year ago

Scotland


"If it's a man and woman then equal split.

If it's a couple and single then the couple pay 2/3rds"

We always pay the full amount when we meet a single man at a hotel. It doesn’t seem fair to ask for a contribution when we are staying the whole night and he’s leaving.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

If the man is charging the room to business expenses I wouldn't expect to pay anything. If I was just popping in for a few hours I wouldn't expect to pay if the couple or single were staying overnight. Otherwise I would pay 50/50 with a solo and hopefully 1/3 with a couple.

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By *ebaucherous_duoCouple
over a year ago

Bristol/ Daventry

The people staying or arranging pay, IMO. The third who is joining shouldn’t. If it’s a jointly arranged and agreed or if a higher category hotel is required the person needing the extra pays the difference.

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By *randmrs 1st timeCouple
over a year ago

bolton


"If it's a man and woman then equal split.

If it's a couple and single then the couple pay 2/3rds

We always pay the full amount when we meet a single man at a hotel. It doesn’t seem fair to ask for a contribution when we are staying the whole night and he’s leaving. "

Totally agree with this exactly what we do the reason we get a room Is so wife can have some fun in a hotel

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

If we arrange , then we pay

Then they usually offer to pay for drinks at the bar

Things change of it's a more regular meet , with someone you know

We think of it as a night out / away for us

So it's down to is to pay

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By *r SproutMan
over a year ago

M54

I have paid for every hotel meet I’ve had as I’m the one staying overnight.

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By *mooth tongue 4uMan
over a year ago

edinburgh

If you book the hotel specifically for a meet between two party’s it’s fair to say a 50/50 split

I’ve been staying in certain hotels before and posted a meet but I wouldn’t ask for a donation as I was already booked

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By *iddle ManMan
over a year ago

Walsall

If the hotel is for the meet specificly, I would say a 50/50 split or there abouts.

If one of you are staying regardless and the meet is secondary then, it might be different.

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By *lossomTreeWoman
over a year ago

Ipswich

I always pay as I'm the one staying overnight. Happy to do so as well.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

We say whoever is staying pays.

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By *heonixrising500Man
over a year ago

Barnsley

I usually pay

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By *maginitivemindMan
over a year ago

notts

Split it if I visit and leave it’s usually with a smile on my face and the other participant has taken the trouble to organise so fairs fair

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By *urves and MischiefWoman
over a year ago

Northwest

Depends on the meet. If they are already made arrangements to be staying in the area they have covered the cost, or they have insisted they are covering the cost. I like to contribute by buying drinks or similar in those scenarios. I have also paid or gone 50/50.

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By *ocketman20Man
over a year ago

Douglas

I always pay.

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By *ichaelsmyMan
over a year ago

douglas

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By *ittleMissCali_MrDJCouple
over a year ago

wonderland.

Whoever is staying over we would say. Although we don't do hotel meets. Mr used to often pay when he was on as a singlw guy though. X

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By *exymilf2203Couple
over a year ago

Farnborough

We always arrange the room, don’t want any unexpected surprises in the room.

This may be considered a little OTT by some but just our way

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By *ewbfbcplCouple
over a year ago

Reading

We always pay mainly as we’re using the room anyway if a meet happens or not. But also no pressure or expectation on us to play if the other turns out not to be what we’re looking for if they’ve made a contribution

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By *arket Town CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Keighley


"We always pay mainly as we’re using the room anyway if a meet happens or not. But also no pressure or expectation on us to play if the other turns out not to be what we’re looking for if they’ve made a contribution "
exactly that. We do the same.

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By *luboyoMan
over a year ago

North West / Birmingham

I don't think there should be any rule, but I always book and pay for a room.

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By *Silver-Man
over a year ago

Mold

I have always paid if I'm staying the night, if I'm visiting I will offer to pay towards the bill.

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By *herrybakewellCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

We always pay for ourselves, even on solo meets when we aren't staying the night.

I hate splitting bills.

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By *ucy loo43 OP   Woman
over a year ago

kettering

Thank you for all your responses, it’s interesting to see people’s views. Happy Fabbing you sexy lot 😈😈😈

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single lady also

If im meeting a man he usually pays

If its a couple they pay

If im staying at the hotel inviting others i pay

Me and my fuck buddy sometimes go halves depends really

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By *itygamesMan
over a year ago

UK

ive had hotel meets , ive always paid as in general after the said meet and the guests have gone i usually stay the night.

if its just a casual afternoon or evening meet ive booked paid had fun and just driven home

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By *onkeyandBonesCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

So if we arrange a hotel meet, we pay for a room, where we are happy to host the fun.

But whoever is joining us wants to stay over, then they need their own room.

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By *asher11Man
over a year ago

mkt harboro

if i'm staying i pay but if its a gangbang or group meet i expect to chip in towards the cost

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Sometimes they pay - sometimes I pay. It evens out.

I think if someone always expects the other party to pay then that is not a good look.

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By *estructionDollyWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

If the hotel is being specifically arranged for the meeting then I will offer to pay half and have done several times when I couldn't accommodate.

If they are here for work and getting the hotel on expenses anyway then I wouldn't offer as they won't be out of pocket.

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By *isfits behaving badlyCouple
over a year ago

Coventry

Personally I think it has to do with who is taking the lead on the arrangements and if its overnight or day use.

If you're booking a day use room I think totally split the bill.

If you're staying overnight and there is no arrangement or intention for the other person/people to stay the night with you then you pay the bill. However I'd probably be a little miffed if there was no offer to contribute even though I intended to pay. If you've arranged to stay the night together that's more of a justification to split the bill.

From my experience back as a single if I was arranging I'd pay regardless of if they were staying the night or not (although they always did stay the night to be fair). Likewise when they were arranging (as also happened) I'd have no problems with them paying the bill. It just always seemed a bit uncouth to get hung up over who is paying for the room and where more than a one off it became a reciprocal thing anyways like doing rounds at the bar.

Mr

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By *ineapple_turnoverCouple
over a year ago

London


"If it's a man and woman then equal split.

If it's a couple and single then the couple pay 2/3rds

We always pay the full amount when we meet a single man at a hotel. It doesn’t seem fair to ask for a contribution when we are staying the whole night and he’s leaving. "

Yeh we do this, it's our hotel room and we invite people.

Otherwise things get messy

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By *haved and SmoothCouple
over a year ago

North East

I would expect the person staying overnight to pay, the other person is just a visitor

Plus you can then get the breakfast!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Central

If 2 parties want to use a service equally, then it's reasonable to split the cost 50/50. It's not about gender but fairness.

If it's not going to be shared equally, then negotiate.

I stay in hotels and invite guests but they don't get half use, so pay nothing. I'd be happy with someone already known to get more use but I'd not entertain it with a man I didn't know.

The greater the proportion of use, the higher proportion of payment.

Some of us need to protect our security and having unknown people with full access to our bedroom 24/7 isn't a good idea always.

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By *haved and SmoothCouple
over a year ago

North East

If they come to your house, do they pay some rent?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Central

The other benefit is that one party can get frequent guest perks, such as upgrades, free breakfasts and rooms. That statue is valuable.

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