FabSwingers.com forum: struggle with getting any reposes

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi, I've been on the site a while and struggle to get any replies, any tips would be appreciated, thanks.

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By *riel13Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Lower your expectations

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

ok thanks for the advice

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
over a year ago

Chester

You’ve not been here very long, and you’re looking for a very particular niche. It’s going to be difficult on here. You may have more success in clubs / events that cater to your interests.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok, thank you!

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By *iss KinkWoman
over a year ago

Up North

I’d suggest going to a club

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

To put matters into perspective, when it relates to Single Males trying to get responses, in general terms, it takes ages for guys to achieve a reply.

That's because as there are likely to be 1000's all seeking ladies but the fact you have a specific request or "like" built in, you are narrowing the field down!

Your profile needs to be just like a CV you'd present for a Job. State what you can bring to a meet and what you would expect in turn.

You'd best try, as suggested already, attending a club and in particular, look for Fetish Nights being held as some clubs will hold periodic meets for both newcomers and established followers, but crucially, a club is a safe environment from which to start.

Look out too for Socials as they can be a route within which to meet others and build from there.

I've been on FAB for 15 years, so know the score for single guys. It takes time, you'll need patience in abundance, with added perseverance and a thick skin dealing with the zero answers.

Your several weeks on here, makes you a mere beginner but any success won't happen quickly. Start small and build up from there.

It can work, but only if you put in the effort as the Ladies get swamped with 100's of messages, so hold the cards and can be picky!

Good luck.

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By *allnHandsome12Man
over a year ago

Teesside

"To put matters into perspective, when it relates to Single Males trying to get responses, in general terms, it takes ages for guys to achieve a reply.

That's because as there are likely to be 1000's all seeking ladies but the fact you have a specific request or "like" built in, you are narrowing the field down!

Your profile needs to be just like a CV you'd present for a Job. State what you can bring to a meet and what you would expect in turn.

Look out too for Socials as they can be a route within which to meet others and build from there.

I've been on FAB for 15 years, so know the score for single guys. It takes time, you'll need patience in abundance, with added perseverance and a thick skin dealing with the zero answers.

Your several weeks on here, makes you a mere beginner but any success won't happen quickly. Start small and build up from there.

It can work, but only if you put in the effort as the Ladies get swamped with 100's of messages, so hold the cards and can be picky!

Good luck.

Pretty much this, the site isn’t full of women waiting for ‘you’ in particular but send a decent and genuine message and you will eventually find some women who are interested. The fact your bio is very particular is going to really reduce your chances so it will take longer but engage in the community forums, become part of the site and go to socials etc and you will find what you’re looking for.

Maybe consider widening the bio scope, talk about what else you like and pics of other things than boots but mention it as part of your overall profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, I've been on the site a while and struggle to get any replies, any tips would be appreciated, thanks."

We understand ur postion

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
over a year ago

Didsbury

Why not start a kinky boots post on the forum?

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
over a year ago

Didsbury

Don’t let people put you off your niche marketing profile. Having a more general blurb will just get you lost amongst all the other single mens profiles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why not start a kinky boots post on the forum?"

This is the best advice OP. For now stick with what you want and a forum post like that will get people with a similar interested. It may take a while and several posts my be needed but does seem the best way forward for now. And, by the way, great boots in your pictures.

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By *assy LassieWoman
over a year ago

Near Glasgow

All the 'great' advice and the OP changes his profile.... to bland and uninteresting🤣

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By *allnHandsome12Man
over a year ago

Teesside

"All the 'great' advice and the OP changes his profile.... to bland and uninteresting🤣"

😂🤷🏻‍♂️ we tried..who knows, OP might be The guy!

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By *rucky99Man
over a year ago

Hull

Lol pal you walk on eggshells on here women have the power they block at the slightest thing most have zero sense of humour can't say right for wrong on here

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

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By *enelope2UWoman
over a year ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

Minus the boots I think the profile is good can't tell if you Cross dress, are fab straight, or, you're into TVs with the boots.

Otherwise I like the profile.

The whole knows you might surprise yourself bit, I'd ditch

As well as the hotel bit unless you want the Scorts and Dug users on here to rob you in a hotel room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi, I've been on the site a while and struggle to get any replies, any tips would be appreciated, thanks."

Yep try the catfish approach! I’ve gone that route but doesn’t end well ! But works for a reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Youve checked looking for couples, so if you're messaging couples I'm just going to respectfully point out that what you actually say in your profile seems that you are more geared towards meeting single women, which is something that puts us off single men when they message us.

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By *ark n kimCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Personally we quite like your profile.

Your pictures are good,but you don't need 2 pics of your cock.

Try putting one on in nice boxers.

You have narrowed your demographic with your user name.

Personally we would have mentioned the boot fetish in your bio.

But mentioning that it is something that really interests you,but it's not the only thing too.

But saying that there is a huge difference in what people are looking for and want out of this site.

So what works for some doesn't work for others.just got to find what works for you.

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By *ark n kimCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"Youve checked looking for couples, so if you're messaging couples I'm just going to respectfully point out that what you actually say in your profile seems that you are more geared towards meeting single women, which is something that puts us off single men when they message us. "

Agree with this too.

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By *estinysswingersCouple
over a year ago

Worsley

"Lower your expectations "

or get a sex change. both will work

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By *ornych87Man
over a year ago

cannock

Same here

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Central

Probably 99% of people are not mutually compatible.

They won't respond if not, it's not about being unattractive, it's just wrong matches

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By *art50tMan
over a year ago

West Lothian

On the same boat here too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On the same boat here too. "

Etiquette is to start your own post but with 6 meetings this year I’d say you’re a legend here

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By *art50tMan
over a year ago

West Lothian

With TVs is not a problem. I meant with Women. I know that they get thousands of messages but really destroy my self confidence. I meet one woman so far. I would love to have some more meet with girls but really hard even to get a reply.

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
over a year ago

Chester

In my opinion, you’ve made it worse now by removing the boot fetish stuff from the profile. It’s so bland now that it’ll not interest that many people anyway, and definitely not the people you’re interested in.

I would accept that it’ll be difficult here, but you just might attract someone compatible by giving out that information upfront. And remember that other fetish lifestyle websites are available.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Downham Market

"On the same boat here too. "

We'd not reply to a message, simply because of your profile pic.

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By *lley-CatMan
over a year ago

Folkestone

Your username rules out people who might prefer other beauty retailers like Superdrug or Savers.

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By *forfuntimesCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Your username rules out people who might prefer other beauty retailers like Superdrug or Savers."

funny

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By *art50tMan
over a year ago

West Lothian

Thanks for the advice. About my bio, what do you think? I give to much information?

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I’ve just looked at a profile I messaged 13 years ago (as it says at the top of their profile), but I’m still waiting for a response! They’ll get round to me eventually I guess….

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely brilliant advice! 🙌🏼 And obviously not one taken by the op because he bolted 😂😂😂

"To put matters into perspective, when it relates to Single Males trying to get responses, in general terms, it takes ages for guys to achieve a reply.

That's because as there are likely to be 1000's all seeking ladies but the fact you have a specific request or "like" built in, you are narrowing the field down!

Your profile needs to be just like a CV you'd present for a Job. State what you can bring to a meet and what you would expect in turn.

Look out too for Socials as they can be a route within which to meet others and build from there.

I've been on FAB for 15 years, so know the score for single guys. It takes time, you'll need patience in abundance, with added perseverance and a thick skin dealing with the zero answers.

Your several weeks on here, makes you a mere beginner but any success won't happen quickly. Start small and build up from there.

It can work, but only if you put in the effort as the Ladies get swamped with 100's of messages, so hold the cards and can be picky!

Good luck.

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By *lue and missbooCouple
over a year ago

Derby

Biggest tip would be read the profile before messaging them,it's there to help, it tells everyone what they are looking for, no point messaging them if not compatible.

Also as stated 1000s of guys all looking to meet singles or couples so stand out from the crowd. Far to many single guys think it's a sex site and think it's all about them.

Be respectful remember you need them more then they need you.

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By *incolnshire gentlemanMan
over a year ago

louth

Find it comes in waves...I'm struggling at the minute to get replies too...not doing anything different to normal.. not many new people within a 30 mile radius so tough but sure it will change

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By *art50tMan
over a year ago

West Lothian

Ok. Thanks for the advice. I just changed it. See how it goes. About my bio. Any advice?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I came on with no expectations and unfortunately it just comes down to ratio can't be helped

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our the Fab circle of life.

Can I have profile advice please

Why is one replying to my messages

User no longer on this site

RIP my fallen brother.

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By *estinysswingersCouple
over a year ago

Worsley

You won’t get responses now OP.

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By *harAndBryCouple
over a year ago

Downham Market

"You won’t get responses now OP. "

Probably made himself a new profile by now.

(Bry)

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