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By *ootsfetish777 OP   Man
2 days ago

Hampton

Hi, I've been on the site a while and struggle to get any replies, any tips would be appreciated, thanks.

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By *riel13Woman
2 days ago

Northampton

Lower your expectations

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By *ootsfetish777 OP   Man
2 days ago

Hampton

ok thanks for the advice

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By *wendolineFoxWoman
2 days ago

Chester

You’ve not been here very long, and you’re looking for a very particular niche. It’s going to be difficult on here. You may have more success in clubs / events that cater to your interests.

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By *ootsfetish777 OP   Man
2 days ago

Hampton

Ok, thank you!

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By *iss KinkWoman
1 day ago

North West

I’d suggest going to a club

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By *ENGUYMan
1 day ago

Hull

To put matters into perspective, when it relates to Single Males trying to get responses, in general terms, it takes ages for guys to achieve a reply.

That's because as there are likely to be 1000's all seeking ladies but the fact you have a specific request or "like" built in, you are narrowing the field down!

Your profile needs to be just like a CV you'd present for a Job. State what you can bring to a meet and what you would expect in turn.

You'd best try, as suggested already, attending a club and in particular, look for Fetish Nights being held as some clubs will hold periodic meets for both newcomers and established followers, but crucially, a club is a safe environment from which to start.

Look out too for Socials as they can be a route within which to meet others and build from there.

I've been on FAB for 15 years, so know the score for single guys. It takes time, you'll need patience in abundance, with added perseverance and a thick skin dealing with the zero answers.

Your several weeks on here, makes you a mere beginner but any success won't happen quickly. Start small and build up from there.

It can work, but only if you put in the effort as the Ladies get swamped with 100's of messages, so hold the cards and can be picky!

Good luck.

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By *randon xoxoMan
1 day ago

Dublin

Westcorts ire , cheaper in the end game and cuts out the power tripping bullshit on here, your welcome

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By *allnHandsome12Man
1 day ago

Teesside


"To put matters into perspective, when it relates to Single Males trying to get responses, in general terms, it takes ages for guys to achieve a reply.

That's because as there are likely to be 1000's all seeking ladies but the fact you have a specific request or "like" built in, you are narrowing the field down!

Your profile needs to be just like a CV you'd present for a Job. State what you can bring to a meet and what you would expect in turn.

You'd best try, as suggested already, attending a club and in particular, look for Fetish Nights being held as some clubs will hold periodic meets for both newcomers and established followers, but crucially, a club is a safe environment from which to start.

Look out too for Socials as they can be a route within which to meet others and build from there.

I've been on FAB for 15 years, so know the score for single guys. It takes time, you'll need patience in abundance, with added perseverance and a thick skin dealing with the zero answers.

Your several weeks on here, makes you a mere beginner but any success won't happen quickly. Start small and build up from there.

It can work, but only if you put in the effort as the Ladies get swamped with 100's of messages, so hold the cards and can be picky!

Good luck.

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Pretty much this, the site isn’t full of women waiting for ‘you’ in particular but send a decent and genuine message and you will eventually find some women who are interested. The fact your bio is very particular is going to really reduce your chances so it will take longer but engage in the community forums, become part of the site and go to socials etc and you will find what you’re looking for.

Maybe consider widening the bio scope, talk about what else you like and pics of other things than boots but mention it as part of your overall profile.

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By *unBIus6Couple
1 day ago

essex


"Hi, I've been on the site a while and struggle to get any replies, any tips would be appreciated, thanks."

We understand ur postion

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By *oiluvfunMan
1 day ago

Penrith


"Westcorts ire , cheaper in the end game and cuts out the power tripping bullshit on here, your welcome "

I’d agree on the “power tripping bullshit” part, and those ladies are certainly easier to meet lol, but not cheaper…..

Someone above mentioned about lowering expectations OP. I would agree with this. Fab can be fun, depending on who/what you are looking for. But it isn’t instant ‘success’, especially when you are looking for something quite niche! Look for fetish events at swinger clubs for this, or there’s a particular website caters for a life of fetish…..

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
1 day ago

Didsbury

Why not start a kinky boots post on the forum?

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By *esYesOMGYes!Man
1 day ago

Didsbury

Don’t let people put you off your niche marketing profile. Having a more general blurb will just get you lost amongst all the other single mens profiles.

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By *mmacdheelsTV/TS
1 day ago

France, And sometimes in


"Why not start a kinky boots post on the forum?"

This is the best advice OP. For now stick with what you want and a forum post like that will get people with a similar interested. It may take a while and several posts my be needed but does seem the best way forward for now. And, by the way, great boots in your pictures.

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By *assy LassieWoman
17 hours ago

Lanarkshire

All the 'great' advice and the OP changes his profile.... to bland and uninteresting🤣

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By *allnHandsome12Man
17 hours ago

Teesside


"All the 'great' advice and the OP changes his profile.... to bland and uninteresting🤣"

😂🤷🏻‍♂️ we tried..who knows, OP might be The guy!

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By *rucky99Man
17 hours ago

Hull

Lol pal you walk on eggshells on here women have the power they block at the slightest thing most have zero sense of humour can't say right for wrong on here

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By *enelope2UWoman
17 hours ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

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By *enelope2UWoman
17 hours ago

Doesn't matter cant block distances

Minus the boots I think the profile is good can't tell if you Cross dress, are fab straight, or, you're into TVs with the boots.

Otherwise I like the profile.

The whole knows you might surprise yourself bit, I'd ditch

As well as the hotel bit unless you want the Scorts and Dug users on here to rob you in a hotel room.

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By *obdukesMan
12 hours ago

small village


"Hi, I've been on the site a while and struggle to get any replies, any tips would be appreciated, thanks."

Yep try the catfish approach! I’ve gone that route but doesn’t end well ! But works for a reply

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By *WBiOnlyCoupleCouple
11 hours ago

St Helens

Youve checked looking for couples, so if you're messaging couples I'm just going to respectfully point out that what you actually say in your profile seems that you are more geared towards meeting single women, which is something that puts us off single men when they message us.

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By *ark n kimCouple
1 hour ago

Durham

Personally we quite like your profile.

Your pictures are good,but you don't need 2 pics of your cock.

Try putting one on in nice boxers.

You have narrowed your demographic with your user name.

Personally we would have mentioned the boot fetish in your bio.

But mentioning that it is something that really interests you,but it's not the only thing too.

But saying that there is a huge difference in what people are looking for and want out of this site.

So what works for some doesn't work for others.just got to find what works for you.

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By *ark n kimCouple
1 hour ago

Durham


"Youve checked looking for couples, so if you're messaging couples I'm just going to respectfully point out that what you actually say in your profile seems that you are more geared towards meeting single women, which is something that puts us off single men when they message us. "

Agree with this too.

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