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" A friend of mine is now pregnant, she's not that thrilled but keeping the baby. " Imagine knowing your mother is "not that thrilled" about having you. Will the dad be involved with the child ? | |||
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" A friend of mine is now pregnant, she's not that thrilled but keeping the baby. We had a discussion about it and she's said, the guy although at the time they were in a relationship ( split up now) they had consensual sex. The issue is he came inside of her, knowing she wasn't on any form of protection and without consent. Apparently it was always the norm for them to use condoms or him to pull out. This time he stayed in. She said she felt violated, I think it's very strange sort of sexual assault. What are your thoughts?" I think you should tell your friend to speak to lawyers, to find out if by law it is classed as consensual or not! Then just support her best you can. | |||
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"Id maybe sit that friend down at some point and explain how stupid the pull out method is. A man doesn't even need to ejaculate, to reproduce. " Yup - can’t call a failure of the ‘pull-out’ non-consensual or that the guy came in her - they literally fucked about and found out. There is the morning after pill but requires the guy to admit immediately that he didn’t pull out in time. | |||
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"Id maybe sit that friend down at some point and explain how stupid the pull out method is. A man doesn't even need to ejaculate, to reproduce. Yup - can’t call a failure of the ‘pull-out’ non-consensual or that the guy came in her - they literally fucked about and found out. There is the morning after pill but requires the guy to admit immediately that he didn’t pull out in time. " Sounds like a can of worms to me. If he knowingly did it without consent (not sure how this would be proved given they were having unprotected sex in the first place which apparently was consented to) then he's a dick and an idiot. But she's not the smartest either. They ran the risk of her getting pregnant the second they had sex without contraception. And it's usually pretty obvious when a guy comes inside you, either through their reactions or the mess. The morning after pill was always an option. I have no advice. Just the above thoughts. 🤷♂️ | |||
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"If it was without consent then it's assault. " So she takes part in physical stimulation of him that ultimately leads to his involuntary action as a result of that stimulation… and he’s assaulted her?? What was she expecting to happen? As another reply said unprotected sex is just that… unprotected and could produce the same result regardless of whether he pulled out or not. Cumming is involuntary and can happen without a great deal of warning… her part in this was naive at best but to suggest assault? | |||
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"If it was without consent then it's assault. So she takes part in physical stimulation of him that ultimately leads to his involuntary action as a result of that stimulation… and he’s assaulted her?? What was she expecting to happen? As another reply said unprotected sex is just that… unprotected and could produce the same result regardless of whether he pulled out or not. Cumming is involuntary and can happen without a great deal of warning… her part in this was naive at best but to suggest assault? " That's my thinking. Too many people claiming sexual assault these days. It takes away from real sexual assault issues. Would have been different if he'd worn a condom but removed it before cumming. | |||
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" A friend of mine is now pregnant, she's not that thrilled but keeping the baby. Imagine knowing your mother is "not that thrilled" about having you. Will the dad be involved with the child ?" I’m sure plenty of married couples live this same thing every day. The alternative would be repressing her feelings and not telling anyone. How would that help the child? A child who doesn’t need to know in either case. | |||
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"Sounds like two immature adults fucked up and are now dealing with the consequences " This is spot on | |||
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"My thoughts exactly, there's no way in high heaven she can prove assault si don't thinks she's gonna try. She's blocked him out of her life and is gonna raise and love the baby. They were both incredibly silly" Made-up story for forum clout... zzzzzzzz | |||
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"Sounds like two immature adults fucked up and are now dealing with the consequences " This, she was always taking a risk using this method. As others said she could have got the morning after pill, or used some other contraception if they didn't wanna use condoms. It's never been easier to not get pregnant, if you don't want to, in this day and age. | |||
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"You can get pregnant with precum. Very unsafe method of contraception. " Yes | |||
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"If she consented to unprotected sex then that's how babies are made... If she did not consent to unprotected sex then that's possible sexual assault or the r word I cant post. If she is trying to claim, as I think she is, that she consented to unprotected sex but didn't consented to him cumming inside her and she made that lack of consent clear then it's sexual assault, but proving it will be something else entirely and she was as irresponsible as him in the first place! If she didn't make the lack of consent clear during that occasion of intercourse I don't understand what she is moaning about. It strikes me that she was as irresponsible as him to be honest and if she wants to report it she needs to know that the accusation alone could very well ruin the life of her babies father. Not really an ideal start to co-parenting when they both seemed to agree to unprotected sex in the first place. Unless of course she intends to cut the father out of the babies life. " | |||
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"If it was without consent then it's assault. " This is true. It is classed as SA. | |||
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"They didn't have consensual sex. He knew in advance that she didn't want him to ejaculate inside her during unprotected sex. She didn't want what he was doing and he knew that. Don't bother arguing how this shouldn't or should be regarded. Lay opinions aren't relevant. Penetrative sex without consent is r*pe. Not sexual assault, r*pe. Under our failing legal system, he'll probably get away with it. He should serve several years of hard time." I really appreciate this stance. Regardless, he knew he was doing something she didn't want him to do. That is wrong. | |||
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"My thoughts exactly, there's no way in high heaven she can prove assault si don't thinks she's gonna try. She's blocked him out of her life and is gonna raise and love the baby. They were both incredibly silly Made-up story for forum clout... zzzzzzzz" This stuff does happen. | |||
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"This is not sexual assault. It's not the same as when a guy is told to wear a condom and discretely removes it. That's an offence. It's not a sexual assault because he 'normally pulls out' so she thought he would on this occasion. This is simply a reckless man and woman who are now facing the consequences of their reckless behavior but she's trying to absolve herself herself of any blame or responsibility by taking the victim route." This is incorrect. Trust me. Regardless of the thoughts about responsibilities regarding contraception and judgement about guilt ect. If a man ejaculates inside a woman without consent, it is SA. You just have to ask the police. They will confirm this. I understand the comments about pre cum, however the ejaculation inside, is a deliberate act. | |||
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"Sounds like two immature adults fucked up and are now dealing with the consequences " This | |||
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"They didn't have consensual sex. He knew in advance that she didn't want him to ejaculate inside her during unprotected sex. She didn't want what he was doing and he knew that. Don't bother arguing how this shouldn't or should be regarded. Lay opinions aren't relevant. Penetrative sex without consent is r*pe. Not sexual assault, r*pe. Under our failing legal system, he'll probably get away with it. He should serve several years of hard time." "Penetrative sex without consent is r*pe. Not sexual assault, r*pe." Not sure why you included this, as it was consensual penetrative sex. | |||
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""Penetrative sex without consent is r*pe. Not sexual assault, r*pe." Not sure why you included this, as it was consensual penetrative sex." Their arrangement (contract if you will) was that he would not ejaculate inside her. If they had sex every week and he always withdrew, no issue. Not even if she got pregnant. The issue is he broke their agreement; irrespective of whether she got pregnant or not. So yes he had consent to have sex but no consent to ejaculate inside her. | |||
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"This is an article based on a similar situation: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-22281457 That said I think there are a few differences. But even so it's very difficult to prove. The worrying aspect is the point "this time he stayed in". On a personal level it's a minefield and would never want to be in that situation. " You're right, it's difficult to prove but it doesn't take away from the fact that the police take it seriously. | |||
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""Penetrative sex without consent is r*pe. Not sexual assault, r*pe." Not sure why you included this, as it was consensual penetrative sex. Their arrangement (contract if you will) was that he would not ejaculate inside her. If they had sex every week and he always withdrew, no issue. Not even if she got pregnant. The issue is he broke their agreement; irrespective of whether she got pregnant or not. So yes he had consent to have sex but no consent to ejaculate inside her. " Exactly and that is why it's considered SA. | |||
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"They didn't have consensual sex. He knew in advance that she didn't want him to ejaculate inside her during unprotected sex. She didn't want what he was doing and he knew that. Don't bother arguing how this shouldn't or should be regarded. Lay opinions aren't relevant. Penetrative sex without consent is r*pe. Not sexual assault, r*pe. Under our failing legal system, he'll probably get away with it. He should serve several years of hard time. "Penetrative sex without consent is r*pe. Not sexual assault, r*pe." Not sure why you included this, as it was consensual penetrative sex." Because it is. Like I said ask the police. I just hope that men take this sort of example seriously. This takes two but ultimately it's a man who impregnates the woman. So there are the lessons, make sure you have explicit permission/consent and don't cum inside a woman if you have no interest in becoming a parent. It's really quite simple. | |||
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"I am aware of a very similar investigation in Ireland . A file was sent to the DPP , the equivalent of the CPS. It came back no prosecution . The sex was consensual . Ejaculating is part of the act of sex . If she knew he wasn’t wearing a condom and she consented to the sex then she should was also aware of the risks involved as ejaculation forms part of sex. " That's the whole point; it is a 'part' of it and she said she didn't want/consent to that part! | |||
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"I am aware of a very similar investigation in Ireland . A file was sent to the DPP , the equivalent of the CPS. It came back no prosecution . The sex was consensual . Ejaculating is part of the act of sex . If she knew he wasn’t wearing a condom and she consented to the sex then she should was also aware of the risks involved as ejaculation forms part of sex. That's the whole point; it is a 'part' of it and she said she didn't want/consent to that part!" Ejaculating is a fundamental part of sex . If you agree to Sex , you are therefore agreeing to the man ejaculating. Now I’m not saying he was right for doing it if they are agreed that he was to pull out but I agree why there was no prosecution in the circumstances of the case I said | |||
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"Sounds like two immature adults fucked up and are now dealing with the consequences " Tend to agree.After all,there is the morning after pill,and she knew he had cum in her. | |||
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"Sounds like two immature adults fucked up and are now dealing with the consequences Tend to agree.After all,there is the morning after pill,and she knew he had cum in her." This I can only assume they'd both agreed to unprotected consensual sex with the caveat that he'd pull put and not cum in her? | |||
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