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"Hey! So, I’ve messaged quite a few bi couples on here & had mixed feedback; some non-replies, some “not for us” and quite a few that start with a good chat but then fizzle. Totally respect the “not for us” and non-replies, we should look at it as a selection of partners not a collection ! Hehe, The fizzlers make sense too. I know couples often have commitments etc but it feels like a lot of it is down to the time wasting Bi guys on here that give us a bad name. So, if you’re a bi couple & want to chat/explore if we’ve an attraction and click then jump on in and send a message. Plenty of pics available (I’m unapologetically discrete on the internet) and happy to verify by any means you like etc. Have fun and stay safe!!! " The fizzle out ones I suspect is that your message gets lost in the dozens of replies they get. They are the most infuriating as they've said they'd be up for a meet, like your pics etc and then suddenly your replies are not even opened. Someone better may have come along or it's like I said. They can't keep up with their inbox. | |||
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"Hey! So, I’ve messaged quite a few bi couples on here & had mixed feedback; some non-replies, some “not for us” and quite a few that start with a good chat but then fizzle. Totally respect the “not for us” and non-replies, we should look at it as a selection of partners not a collection ! Hehe, The fizzlers make sense too. I know couples often have commitments etc but it feels like a lot of it is down to the time wasting Bi guys on here that give us a bad name. So, if you’re a bi couple & want to chat/explore if we’ve an attraction and click then jump on in and send a message. Plenty of pics available (I’m unapologetically discrete on the internet) and happy to verify by any means you like etc. Have fun and stay safe!!! " not surprised reading your profile | |||
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"Hey! So, I’ve messaged quite a few bi couples on here & had mixed feedback; some non-replies, some “not for us” and quite a few that start with a good chat but then fizzle. Totally respect the “not for us” and non-replies, we should look at it as a selection of partners not a collection ! Hehe, The fizzlers make sense too. I know couples often have commitments etc but it feels like a lot of it is down to the time wasting Bi guys on here that give us a bad name. So, if you’re a bi couple & want to chat/explore if we’ve an attraction and click then jump on in and send a message. Plenty of pics available (I’m unapologetically discrete on the internet) and happy to verify by any means you like etc. Have fun and stay safe!!! not surprised reading your profile" Well that’s informative and helpful, thank you so much for taking the time to reply with that. I know where to go if I need anything else. | |||
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"In the past when we used to meet single guys away from clubs the "fizzle" was usually down to either a) the bi guy clearly not being as bi as they claim and figuring this out from their craic b) the guys being too keen and taking a step too far with their banter. In short there's a good chance they would give us the ick for one reason or another. The overwhelmed by volume is misleading. Once we are talking you have our attention. The volume only affects people who don't have our attention yet." Thanks! Really good points. The first part is unlikely; I am open in what I’d like from a meet etc. Second, I think (not know) I’m ok at matching the others in their approach? May be guilty of not being pushy though, not sure that’s a bad thing. 100% the chat/idea of a meet has to be stimulating doesn’t it. Let’s give it a shot! Haha | |||
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"We've had it with a lot of guys where they take it too far or they start to want to call the shots / pressure you into doing what they want. There are so many factors that go into it, and I think some singles forget that they are being invited into a relationship (albeit temporarily) and that comes with risk from the couples perspective. Trust is key, to give an example we won't meet guys with straight on their profile who then claim to be bi. If someone can't be honest on their profile, can they be trusted to be invited in? Whilst we get there are lots of reasons why guys do this, it's not our problem and we have a seemingly endless flow of bi guys contacting us so we can afford to be picky " That's the key, an endless flow of bi guys. You couples have so much choice. | |||
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"We've had it with a lot of guys where they take it too far or they start to want to call the shots / pressure you into doing what they want. There are so many factors that go into it, and I think some singles forget that they are being invited into a relationship (albeit temporarily) and that comes with risk from the couples perspective. Trust is key, to give an example we won't meet guys with straight on their profile who then claim to be bi. If someone can't be honest on their profile, can they be trusted to be invited in? Whilst we get there are lots of reasons why guys do this, it's not our problem and we have a seemingly endless flow of bi guys contacting us so we can afford to be picky " This is a crucial point & you’ve made it really well. I’m very open that for me this is about having fun, living my fantasies and helping others to fulfil theirs. But ultimately I’m involved in a couples most intimate times (if I meet them of course) its important that us single guys acknowledge that & treat a couple with the respect that deserves. I’d of hoped that was the bare basic a guy can offer tbh. You guys go to a meet & go home together (assumedly) so it’s key you’re comfortable in every regard with your meets. I totally get your sentiment here. | |||
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"There is a reason that certain single guys clear up while others fail, and it's not about having a six pack or huge cock. It's usually about approach and attitude. I've been called every name under the sun by single guys on here for saying I don't think Fab is a hookup site and that it's a swinging site. In my experience (since 2017, with 2 separate partners) the guys that understand what the difference is are the ones who do well." I’m (thinking) I know the difference & see it as the latter. My understanding is that a hook-up is just that; a one off type thing, minimal other than a pair/group meeting, getting their rocks off & on their way. Suppose like minimal connection required… Swinging is more about going into/welcoming someone into your lives (for a temp period of course & within boundaries, not expecting dinner at the family table!) of similar views albeit with a shared end motive/outcome. Shared interests & a genuine two way dialogue and understanding. Don’t want to sound all deep and harmonising, but it’s different to a hook up. Not necessarily “better” or “more” just different. | |||
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"In the past when we used to meet single guys away from clubs the "fizzle" was usually down to either a) the bi guy clearly not being as bi as they claim and figuring this out from their craic b) the guys being too keen and taking a step too far with their banter. In short there's a good chance they would give us the ick for one reason or another. The overwhelmed by volume is misleading. Once we are talking you have our attention. The volume only affects people who don't have our attention yet." Absolutely agree with this, had guys lined up that seemed perfect, only for them to ask if they can play mostly straight right before meeting or seem very disinterested in flirting with husband. And it's very common for a guy to give us the ick in the chats, for example just last night perfect guy enters our inbox, looks nice, great profile, great back and forth in the messages and then he obviously got carried away chatting while seeing to himself and then called wife "his lil slut"....straight to blocked and deleted. Single guys have to remember when approaching couples (especially bi couples) that there are two people you need to impress or flirting with... and respect and courtesy goes a long way. Don't be too keen, respect they have lives outside of fab and be patient. We've had people that we liked wait over a month before we had a chance to put a last minute meet in place. | |||
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"In the past when we used to meet single guys away from clubs the "fizzle" was usually down to either a) the bi guy clearly not being as bi as they claim and figuring this out from their craic b) the guys being too keen and taking a step too far with their banter. In short there's a good chance they would give us the ick for one reason or another. The overwhelmed by volume is misleading. Once we are talking you have our attention. The volume only affects people who don't have our attention yet." This is sooo true | |||
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"Sounds like we've got quite lucky, only had 1 guy round, he was nice, bi(as advertised), totally not pushy, most importantly not a show off( i guess we knew that from his profile), and we all had a great time. If anyone describes themselves as bb anything, or any type of animal, then we wouldn't have started messaging I guess!" Great to hear the 3 of you have struck lucky! That’s what the site should be about. | |||
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"You're 50% of the way there. It's understanding that yes you're being invited in, but also you are a person too. So many guys we encounter are running on horn and it's really obvious and hides who they are. Desperation isn't sexy." Oh 100% about all parties being considered & happy with things. If it’s a rush or is an impulse then the chances are it’s going to be short lived, if it takes off at all! | |||
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"In the past when we used to meet single guys away from clubs the "fizzle" was usually down to either a) the bi guy clearly not being as bi as they claim and figuring this out from their craic b) the guys being too keen and taking a step too far with their banter. In short there's a good chance they would give us the ick for one reason or another. The overwhelmed by volume is misleading. Once we are talking you have our attention. The volume only affects people who don't have our attention yet. Absolutely agree with this, had guys lined up that seemed perfect, only for them to ask if they can play mostly straight right before meeting or seem very disinterested in flirting with husband. And it's very common for a guy to give us the ick in the chats, for example just last night perfect guy enters our inbox, looks nice, great profile, great back and forth in the messages and then he obviously got carried away chatting while seeing to himself and then called wife "his lil slut"....straight to blocked and deleted. Single guys have to remember when approaching couples (especially bi couples) that there are two people you need to impress or flirting with... and respect and courtesy goes a long way. Don't be too keen, respect they have lives outside of fab and be patient. We've had people that we liked wait over a month before we had a chance to put a last minute meet in place." Absolutely! I’d be frustrated if I was putting my time & effort into something and it turned out to be something not as advertised. Honesty & transparency have to be key to anything in my view! Course, folk have commitments and that is always priority, to expect people to fall at the feet and be free at the drop of a hat is unrealistic, isn’t it. I’d also find those type of comments highly disrespectful too, no need at all. Very off-putting. | |||
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