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By *uteguy06 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Hi all I'm a single male been on here for over a year and get very little response to my messages that I'm sending, I am polite and always asking if the lady/couple would like to get to each other but 99% of the time no reply & the other 1% reply and say they are not intersted.

I need some help cos I think I might have the record for Being on the site Longest to not have had a meet!

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Sounds like a social may be your way forward to get known and kind of accepted. Easier shining in person than in the tinterweb rat race, good luck. Your profile looks fine and a couple of decent pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes i agree with the above single males get more luck once they have been to a few socials and people get to know them and trust them try a local social hun x

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By *uteguy06 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Thanks for the advice, I'm just a bit shy to go to one of these things on my own because I'm not sure what to expect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try the chatrooms aswel and get acquanted with a few peeps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Profile says lots but doesn't stand out in anyway. And is primarily about what you want, with no mention of what you can offer.

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By *uteguy06 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Cool thanks for the advice guys & girls.

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By *iceguydaveMan
over a year ago

Monmouth


"Thanks for the advice, I'm just a bit shy to go to one of these things on my own because I'm not sure what to expect."

Socials are essentially a bunch of people meeting in a room at a pub/club, some of whom know each other, some of whom don't - it can be a bit intimidating to turn up as a solo bloke, but I imagine it'd be even worse as a single female!

I've been to a few (Cardiff) and been lucky enough to arrange beforehand to meet up with ladies or couples I already knew, so as not to have that awful moment when you walk in, the piano stops playing, and tumble blows across the silent room .. I know it doesn't really happen, but in our heads it does and it's scary!

Once you're in, you're just a person at a bar, so if you're comfortable chatting in a social environment normally, you should be fine at a Fab social. Try to be relaxed about it, and remember all the sexy people around you are only human - they all had their first social once too!

Good luck

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By *uteguy06 OP   Man
over a year ago

Swindon

Cheers Dave

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

If I can go to a social on my own then anyone can!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Question then: how do you get to know about the socials?

Is it advertised in anyway or do we come back to the initial problem : you have to meet some people first?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Question then: how do you get to know about the socials?

Is it advertised in anyway or do we come back to the initial problem : you have to meet some people first?"

Socials are usually advertised on the UK or Meets forums. The Manchester one is pretty regular.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Question then: how do you get to know about the socials?

Is it advertised in anyway or do we come back to the initial problem : you have to meet some people first?"

use the Meets & Events link on the header bar to find out what's going on in your area, socials are listed amongst all the other events!!

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I saw one in the village being pretty big but it sees to be ages ago... I don't know where I'll be in 6 months time!!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I saw one in the village being pretty big but it sees to be ages ago... I don't know where I'll be in 6 months time!! "

4 months, not 8.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I saw one in the village being pretty big but it sees to be ages ago... I don't know where I'll be in 6 months time!!

4 months, not 8."

Or 6

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mmmh, it's a bit closer than I thought....

You seem to know about it: is it good for single guys or are they judged a bit weirdly?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"mmmh, it's a bit closer than I thought....

You seem to know about it: is it good for single guys or are they judged a bit weirdly?"

I've never been to Manchester social although I know people who have. I have been to Leeds and York socials and I can tell you if no single men were there, neither would I be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thinking about it... Ohh well, i'm too young to overthink things: Manchester social, here I come!!!

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