FabSwingers.com forum: Super unlucky

By *rblue44 OP Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

But of advice. It am going to sound like a broken records

I have been a member for a long time on this site. I attend socials and clubs but I never seem to get very far with anyone. Reality is I have not had sex in nearly 6 yer. It’s not by choice either. I know I am up against it with the ratio of men to women. All I really would like is a friend with benefits. I am clean, polite and always make the effort. I just can’t understand why no one wants me sexually. I get a lot of rejections on here and I am polite I do not bombard people. I just do not know where I am going wrong. I come across positive and friendly too.

Mrblue x

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Your profile says you are looking to chat and enjoy wearing fancy dress outfits.

How does anyone know you are looking for sex or a FWB ?

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

Well with 57 verifications from clubs and events you're doing something right so just need to take that a bit further than you currently do. I can't tell you how but just need to change things up a bit. Face to face will always be easier than online.

Good luck

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By *arleycplWoman
over a year ago

Frodsham

A male Fab friend of ours says its easier to find sex on match dating sites than fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was on match for a while and I'd have to disagree with that.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Here in lays the problem, this is a supposed to be a swinging lifestyle site not a hook up people looking for a quick fuck site.

Unfortunately people treat it like the latter rather than embracing the former.

But I do understand what you mean by luck op.

Right place right time.

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By *rblue44 OP Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

For mentioning the fancy dress outfits I wore them to themed swinger parties. And yes I did sexual encounters at those parties in my themed outfits. I never go to parties expecting sex. To me it’s about the lifestyle. I was simply saying that I would like a fwb as I not getting the sexual attention any more. I have tried the dating apps but failing to find anyone that wants me more than a friend. No I have not got photos of me dressed up in fancy dress. I can get dates but it does not lead to anywhere.

Now I know I am not the typical super hot gym fit guy or bbc or bad boy etc. I also see men a lot bigger than me and unfitter than me going to parties and getting sexual attraction. Hence why I said I feel like I am being unlucky. It not just the apps of course I meet people for real outside but again it’s not sexual appeal they want. I didn’t post to feel sorry or omg 6 years is a long time I just felt that I needed some advice. I will certainly take on board and change my image .take down the fancy dress photos if that’s a reason. But it takes away the cheeky light hearted person I am. I want to be different not normal. Something that looks different on the apps

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By *rblue44 OP Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

I have to note taken on board what has been said and changed and removed photos from my public place. I have had a message calling me a clown or jester which I thought was a bit rude but then might be how they see people at themed parties

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I have to note taken on board what has been said and changed and removed photos from my public place. "

I can't see any changes in your public pics

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think the text is better now. I suggest displaying only one photo of each outfit.

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

OP; I’ve done well with Fab over the years, and have also been to clubs (but with much less success). I can honestly say, there are far more women out there in vanillaland, than here in Fab, or the swinger clubs scene. I have to say also, I find it far easier to approach ladies outside of this Fab scene, they seem far more ‘normal’, and I don’t feel the pressure to ‘impress’, like you do in here, as one of a thousand guys chasing one of three ladies locally, or one of twenty guys flitting around the one solo female who turned up in the swinger clubs……

Never take Fab seriously! It’s an extra to Life

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By *arleycplWoman
over a year ago

Frodsham

The wording is a lot better, but for me far too many photos, I have just fabbed the one I think suits your profile, my suggestion is to bin or hide the rest

Good luck Marie

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By *rblue44 OP Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

Thank you everyone I have noted all advice. Thank you for pointing out the photo change. I didn’t press save. At the bottom but all done now

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I suggest also removing September 2018 as you have a better one in a dinner suit and also July 2018 as it is very dark and the background is messy.

Your profile is a big improvement now

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By *arleycplWoman
over a year ago

Frodsham

"I suggest also removing September 2018 as you have a better one in a dinner suit and also July 2018 as it is very dark and the background is messy.

Your profile is a big improvement now

It sure is

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By *rblue44 OP Man
over a year ago

Maidstone

I didn’t see those photos as fab only shows first 50 bit sorted it now

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