FabSwingers.com forum: Respect

By *lackCherry OP Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

As the male half of a couple that will meet the "odd" single male, I have found that there is little respect for YOU.

Often single guys go right to "do you meet 1 on 1 to Mrs Cherry".

Its almost as if you become irrelevant to the entire process.

Do other couples suffer from this ? how do you combat it ?

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

weve been meeting single guys for many years and have only come across it a handful of times. most are very respectful in my experience

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By *lackCherry OP Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

We must be doing something wrong because it almost always goes right to "does she meet 1 on 1" and you (the guy) becomes this sort of irrelevant figure to the proceedings.

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By *oxycouple28Couple
over a year ago

bexley

We have had it a few times... to which they simply get told to £$%% off...

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

The reason we are very selective and view their profiles and veri's carefully. If it were just about appeasing a greedy girl it wouldn,t be an issue but it isn,t. I like the option of playing both ways was an active participant and she loves to see it too, of course she gets plenty of involvement during and to finalise !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes at least 95% of the messages we get from males are always aimed at mrs h. If at least the first message isn't aimed at both of us we tell them we aren't interested.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"As the male half of a couple that will meet the "odd" single male, I have found that there is little respect for YOU.

Often single guys go right to "do you meet 1 on 1 to Mrs Cherry".

Its almost as if you become irrelevant to the entire process.

Do other couples suffer from this ? how do you combat it ?"

its quite a simple solution... move past them...

if they only look at one and not the other... then they aren't for you....

those who do "get it" will understand that you come as a couple.. and they means talking and getting to know you both... and any decisions come from both of you....

actually it is one of the things that when i see it in clubs it makes me laugh... and actually looks really creepy....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met someone and me and ex dh played as 3 sum In a club .Very respectful ,yes sir, no sir type then a few months later we agreed to meet at club and play just the two of us ... He was horrible , refused to wear condom and was verbally abusive . I said to him how come he was acting like that and he just said that cos my partner wasn't there .

Showed him the door and been blocked permanently .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is straight to the point however to reduce folk asking the question stipulate at beginning the nrs does not do one on one.

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

I've found most people respectful (but then we've not been here that long)

Your profile is clear but you'll always get men who try, your missus is stunning! So I guess just ignore and feel even prouder that you get to have her and others don't if they don't meet the criteria of what works for you both.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

We do get the odd message like that but we just delete, block and move on.

Most of our messages are polite and directed at both of us but we do get the odd one or two who completely bypass our profile and almost DEMAND that they fuck me and if Vince is lucky they'll let him watch.

(Yeah fucking right!).

All part of the joys of Fab, I'm afraid.

- Amy. x

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By *it of fun cplCouple
over a year ago

village between York and Hull

We have had fairly similar but it is when we look on meet today and approach a single that is looking to meet a couple. When we start talking about the meet they suddenly feel uncomfortable with MrH being there! Why say looking for couples if they only really want fems? in a similar vein if we put we are looking for a bi Bi guy we get straight guys asking to meet, they say they are bi but profile says straight so we say fine, give MrH a BJ then we can have fun after... soon puts an end to the messages..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

in the past few messages we have had from the last few days its always namely

"hi hun" and very few was "hi both"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I am feeling bored then 'Mr south notts' sometimes replies to the -hi hun wana fuk me-type messages with a -yes I wana fuk u- and a graphic description of what he'd like to do to their tight little ass. That usually gets rid of them!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As the male half of a couple that will meet the "odd" single male, I have found that there is little respect for YOU.

Often single guys go right to "do you meet 1 on 1 to Mrs Cherry".

Its almost as if you become irrelevant to the entire process.

Do other couples suffer from this ? how do you combat it ?"

Yes, we find this.. Actually we get a lot of this type of behaviour from the guys in couples too, and mr cant play with their female, so it's not just single guys - it's guys in general.

It's very rare we meet any single guys through Fab. Those we do invite to play with Miss are from parties.

We meet and play as a couple with others (mr is and plays straight). If we get the slightest hint others are looking for 1-on-1 with Miss (unless it bi girls only) - it's bye bye..

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Mind you, some couples are just as bad. It clearly states on our profile that we DO NOT play seperately and yet you'll get messages from couples purely directed at Amy asking her to join them for an MFF. - And I can also guarantee that they'll usually state on THEIR profile that they "don't meet seperately so don't even ask!".

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By *aughtyswindon1Man
over a year ago

Swindon

When meeting or accepting messages from any 'Single Guys' on here, I'm afraid it seems to be the nature of the game.

Perhaps you should consider blocking messages from single guys and take the lead yourself by messaging only the guys whose profiles (that you choose) have more details within them. They tend to be more trustworthy and respectful.

Also, you'll find yourself getting more respect from guys who also play as part of a 'Couple' on here. They've probably experienced what you've been experiencing and are usually more respectful in that sense.

To block messages from 'Single Guys', if you're unsure how to do this:

Go to 'My Account' at the top of the page and then from the list of links on the left-hand side, choose 'Message Filters'.

Hope that helps...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we also have emails directed at the Mrs only - What they don't know is Mr looks first and they get a no thanks.

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By *lackCherry OP Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

"Mind you, some couples are just as bad. It clearly states on our profile that we DO NOT play seperately and yet you'll get messages from couples purely directed at Amy asking her to join them for an MFF. - And I can also guarantee that they'll usually state on THEIR profile that they "don't meet seperately so don't even ask!".

We had this in a club once, a couple were talking to us both (they approached us), we were chatting about what they were after and he was like "oh ive always wanted a 3some with two women".

We pointed out the rarity of the single female within the swinging scene and good luck with it, the male looks at us then asks if I would let Mrs Cherry play alone with them...

siiiiigh didn't sum it up enough.

thanks for the responses so far and we know how to block single guys but as I said to start with we meet single guys (occasionally) so we like to leave the option open, it just strikes me as odd you would join a swinging site seek out couples just so you can try to book 1 on 1's with the female half....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I am feeling bored then 'Mr south notts' sometimes replies to the -hi hun wana fuk me-type messages with a -yes I wana fuk u- and a graphic description of what he'd like to do to their tight little ass. That usually gets rid of them!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We got a bit of this for a while until i put "ASKING ONE OF US TO MEET ALONE WILL GET YOU BLOCKED !!! " on our profile....seems to have worked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As the male half of a couple that will meet the "odd" single male, I have found that there is little respect for YOU.

Often single guys go right to "do you meet 1 on 1 to Mrs Cherry".

Its almost as if you become irrelevant to the entire process.

Do other couples suffer from this ? how do you combat it ?"

Sounds like the often, is.,

there is a load of arseholes out there but a load of gents as well and if your asking to play with a single male with yourselves then it come's as playing with a couple!!.......truth be told there not a full box if they come out with any sort of statement like that and second they probably wouldn't even turn up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

pmsl, defo would work. lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had this in a club once, a couple were talking to us both (they approached us), we were chatting about what they were after and he was like "oh ive always wanted a 3some with two women".

We pointed out the rarity of the single female within the swinging scene and good luck with it, the male looks at us then asks if I would let Mrs Cherry play alone with them...

siiiiigh didn't sum it up enough.

should have just said "sure - but we get a 3 some with your lady first!"

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